My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: I have to say I agree with Cindy.
2 years is PLENTY of time to get fit IF that was the only reason to not having met up. And it would ALSO be plenty of time to SAVE up money for traveling.
The thing with an LDR, they don't work if you both don'... (read in full...)
My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: 2 years and never met? I'm thinking catfish.
And I agree with FA, have you done ANY kind of background check on him? If not, do it. It's worth the $20-30 and the time it takes to look him up on as many social websites as you can. Not sure if Spoke... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's grandmother died, should I go to the funeral?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years grandma recently passed away. He's asking me to go to a funeral with him to comefort him. I told him I would feel out of place and not comefortable because I never really knew his grandma or other relatives besides his ...
A. 14 February 2017: I would go and support your BF. Even if you didn't know her. Funerals are for the living remembering and honoring the dead.
I am not a fan of funerals, but I do enjoy a good wake. Might sound morbid but this is the time you get to see and hear abo... (read in full...)
Is there any future for this marriage? Since he cheated I have turned to cheating too.
Q. My problem is I am not sexually attracted to my husband ,at all. The only way for me to be at ease is if I get really drunk to have sex with him .But he don't like that . I can't have sex sober with him.Since he cheated on me I lost all lost I had ...
A. 13 February 2017: Why stay in this marriage?
You obviously have lost your attraction to him, your trust in him, your respect FOR him (and yourself), probably your love and faith in him as well.
So why stay?
And how do YOU cheating on him solve anything? It's... (read in full...)
Relationship going no where. Am I just too accommodating, and maybe I should just not be like this?
Q. Hi. Been in a relationship for a few months now, he comes here ever other weekend as we are about an hour and half away from each other. I have kids and it's all pretty cool with them too. We also try other bits of time, face time a lot and text...
A. 13 February 2017: I think you can LIKE someone and not want to BE with them or not be a good match.
In your case? I think it's not what you really wanted, but you gave it a go. I think people know after a few months if there are chemistry and compatibility or not. ... (read in full...)
I like him, it's been 5 months but there seems to be no initiative from his side
Q. I met a guy a few months ago who started flirting with me. I did not like him to begin but then we got talking and I saw a really handsome interesting person. The flirting continued and I cold feel some chemistry between us, A few weeks later ...
A. 13 February 2017: He isn't interested. I know that statement seems weird after he flirted and chatted a lot with you, BUT if he REALLY wanted to start ANYTHING with you, he would have asked you out already.
If I were you I'd tell him that you sense he isn't sur... (read in full...)
How can I get my crush to notice me?
Q. There's a guy I'm interested in but I just can't seem to get him to notice me. I try to talking to him, flirting, touching, writing him some steamy notes, but he just won't respond. I asked him to our school Valentine's day dance and he turned me ...
A. 12 February 2017: OK OP, you need a little reality check here.
THE guy is just not interested in YOU. Just because YOU have a crush on him doesn't mean he HAS to feel the same way, this guy obviously doesn't.
I know that isn't what you wanted to hear, but MAYBE ... (read in full...)
A year after breaking it off with me he wants my phone number, should I give it to him?
Q. So I have a question I'd like some help with. I'm really confused as to whether I should get back with my ex. I was with my ex for 9 years 15-24. There were no issues everything was great almost perfect but nothing is perfect I guess. I loved h...
A. 12 February 2017: Good for you OP!
I think you made the right choice is not only staying CLASSY with the message you sent him, but with the choice of NOT getting back with him.
He is the PAST - you have moved on, on SO many levels, matured in SO many ways that w... (read in full...)
Our arguments often lead to physical altercations!
Q. ive been in this relationship for about five months now and things are definitely not the way i thought they would be. I care deeply about this man but the communication is limited. We get into arguments which some end in physical altercations. Both ...
A. 12 February 2017: Doesn't matter how he views his ex. What matters is that you TWO together is a TOXIC combination that brings out the WORST in each other.
Since when is it OK for him to physically restrain you? And since when it is ANY of the new GF's business... (read in full...)
Shall I forfeit the money and not go on this holiday abroad next month?
Q. About a month ago my friend and another couple and their friend (who I know but not really friendly with) agreed to go on holiday abroad next month. My friend and I had gone on a holiday together the previous year with another group and in that ...
A. 12 February 2017: I would go. If I had spent money and CAN'T get them refunded I would go. I wouldn't give a flying fart about the women who have issues with me. So what? It's THEIR problem, and since it is a larger group there will be others to hang with and talk ... (read in full...)
His parents caught us in the shower together!
Q. I've been dating my bf for 10 months, his parents really seem to like me. Yesterday his parents came horn earlier then we excepted and caught us in the shower together. I feel so embarrassed. My bf said that they were disappointed that we let ...
A. 12 February 2017: Eh, I think parents sometimes forget what is was like at that age.
However, IF they aren't happy about you two having sex IN their house then RESPECT that and have it at your place...... (read in full...)
Is it just looks men care about?
Q. Do men ever think highly of women for anything other than how the look. My partner never seems to give credit to any woman based on anything other than her appearance and I've been thinking that this actually seems to be such a common thing when I ...
A. 12 February 2017: If looks were the only thing MEN cared about all the not "hot" women would never date, marry or have kids. So no, it's NOT the norm to think that looks are all there is to a woman.
Your BF sounds like a twat with little respect for women.... (read in full...)
He doesn't have the same feelings as I have for him from the beginning until the end
Q. My aunt introduced me to her husband's nephew 9mos.ago,he is a 4yr divorced man with 2kids,I also have a 13yr old son that's why get along so well. We were talking,messaging online for 8 mos until we decided to meet in Barcelona last week,he flew ...
A. 12 February 2017: I think he doesn't believe whatever story you tried to tell him about WHY you didn't show. What kind of documentation do you need to travel from Italy to Spain? If you are an "EU national" all you need is either passport or National Id card and I ... (read in full...)
He sent me a happy birthday text then unblocked me. Is this a good sign?
Q. Just wanted a few opinions I had a huge falling out with a guy I was close friends with We didn't talk for a long time bar the sporadic text So he messaged me happy birthday a few weeks ago and I noticed this week has unblocked me from a mes...
A. 12 February 2017: Is it a good sign?
Well, he probably forgot to put you back on "block" after wishing you Happy Birthday.
But I don't see it as anything more than him trying to be polite and I wouldn't read anything more into it.
I'd just say:" thank you" ba... (read in full...)
Friend uploaded video of me saying things when drunk. She won't take it down but I'm worried
Q. My friend uploaded a video of us playing drinking games when we were at hers. In it, I am slightly tipsy (as we all are) and I can be heard saying rather inappropriate things which I feel could implicate my future. I've told her I'm worried abo...
A. 12 February 2017: I agree.
If it's on Facebook - CONTACT them and ask them to remove it. Or like Auntie BimBim mentions GET your parents involved.
And THIS is NOT a good friend. A good friend would take it down if asked.
And OP, we have ALL done something ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him?
Q. How do I deal with a guy who is insecure that I had sexual experiences before him? Is that even normal for a guy to feel? Early in our relationship, he was disappointed that I wasn't a virgin. Then he was weirded out when he found out that he wasn't ...
A. 12 February 2017: I'd be VERY frank with him. Sit him down, tell him:" I HAVE had sexual experiences before you, and if you can't handle it LET me know and we will end this relationship because you DO not have the right to be upset or try and make me feel like I need ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should start dating again right after a break up!
Q. I have posted before about my long distance relationship. I believe it has come to an end as the guy told me he wasn't ready, wanted to be single and told me not to wait for him. For the last week I have been completely devastated and tried ...
A. 11 February 2017: I agree with Andie, I think you are rushing it. And that is never a good idea.
You NEED to take some time for yourself, to figure out WHY you stayed in that LDR, WHY you didn't accept the breakup and who you kept chasing the guy who obviousl... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend who I've seen on the dating site?
Q. I have just joined a dating site and all is going well . My best friend met a guy on a night out and started seeing each other , even tho there is no official 'label' between them (boy/girlfriend) He did say to her and she agreed they would see how ...
A. 11 February 2017: How long have they been dating?
Personally, I think it's OK to have a profile up until there IS an actual relationship going on, and BOTH have agreed to be exclusive.
If it's been more than 3 months and they are ONLY seeing each other, then... (read in full...)
Is It Time To Ditch My Toxic Friend?
Q. I've only known her for a few months, at the start she was OK but she has become nasty. She is always oneupping me in conversation. For example if I make a casual remark about how I like a dress or something, she'll be like "Oh that dress isn't for ...
A. 11 February 2017: UNLESS you have the "ladyballs" to tell her:" I feel you are a negative person and I need positive people around me, not negative ones" I'd just slowly drop her.
Slowly stop being available for social things with her, the same for talking/... (read in full...)
Should I keep contact with my aggressive, hardline parents?
Q. For the past 33 years, I have had a very rocky relationship with my parents, especially with my Mum. I do believe my Mum is narcissist who is unforgiving and selfish and I've only realised this in the past 3 years, since I've been with my boyfriend. ...
A. 10 February 2017: I'd stick to birthday, Happy Easter and Christmas cards for now. You mom believes YOU owe her an apology and even if you gave her one, she would still not WANT to hear your side. She is quite fine with the "truth" as she sees it.
Sounds to me li... (read in full...)
My ex' could be ready to start again
Q. Hi I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years we split up 4 years ago but for that 4 year he is constantly around near where I live and each time I see him it brings all the pain back that he caused me he is always staring at me. A mutual friend told me ...
A. 10 February 2017: It IS hard to move on when you have a constant reminding running around and always in sight, but the thing is you can either MOVE ON or LET him dictate your live and level of happiness.
Does he work or live near you? Or he is basically stalking... (read in full...)
I literally melt when the man I like touches me or stares at me
Q. Hello. I'm in my mid 25s, in love with a man at work. I very much enjoy my job so wouldn't risk it unless it's really worth it. The man is still playing the field and after inviting him over for coffee and a frank discussion it's clear we want ...
A. 10 February 2017: I agree with N91
You know what kind of a man he is, you know it's a WASTE of time trying to pursue him for anything other than casual sex and... HE is a co-worker which means it's even LESS of a good idea.
Don't eat where you crap - aka - don... (read in full...)
He makes no effort except when it's the weekend and time to meet! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 8mths now. We see each other saturdays and sunday nights for a night out due to family commitments and we have great fun together. What started out as Saturday fun has ended in a 'relationship' of sorts which he pushe...
A. 10 February 2017: OP, he isn't going to change.
He is quite happy with status quo - him only seeing you when it SUITS him (on weekends) and not having to REALLy put in an effort with you.
He "says" he wants to change - because YOU bring up that you aren't happy... (read in full...)
Did we get together too soon after his break up?
Q. Hi, I started dating my boyfriend in Feb 16. He had just come out of a long term relationship. He says that although he loved his previous GF ( she was the longest he had ever dated anyone) it was a very rocky relationship. Only thing is we got...
A. 9 February 2017: Should you be worried?
That really depends. How is he with YOU? How is the relationship you two have?
I will say that while some people check out of a relationship mentally and emotionally WAY before they break up - taking a GOOD amount of t... (read in full...)
Did we get together too soon after his break up?
Q. Hi, I started dating my boyfriend in Feb 16. He had just come out of a long term relationship. He says that although he loved his previous GF ( she was the longest he had ever dated anyone) it was a very rocky relationship. Only thing is we got...
A. 9 February 2017: Should you be worried?
That really depends. How is he with YOU? How is the relationship you two have?
I will say that while some people check out of a relationship mentally and emotionally WAY before they break up - taking a GOOD amount of t... (read in full...)
Would ladies be interested in a night of hot foreplay but no sex?
Q. Question for for females who could possibly be open to casual sex or males with experience. I think similar has been touched on before here. You see a guy in a bar or wherever and are really attracted to him. Both agree to get together or go s...
A. 9 February 2017: Oh, I also forgot to mention... What YOU think is "hot foreplay" might NOT be so hot for a random woman. Not EVERY woman likes oral or whatever you have on the menu. I think VERY hit foreplay is really BEST with a person who KNOWS you and your ... (read in full...)
Would ladies be interested in a night of hot foreplay but no sex?
Q. Question for for females who could possibly be open to casual sex or males with experience. I think similar has been touched on before here. You see a guy in a bar or wherever and are really attracted to him. Both agree to get together or go s...
A. 9 February 2017: I would feel like an object of someone's kink. And while I didn't DO casual sex or ONS's - IF I were to have one, it would NOT be for "hot foreplay".
I have had a guy ask me once if I was interested in him "pampering' my feet. (his fetish) ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with new found info about wife's past. What should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and have two kids. I have never asked anything about her past all I knew is she wasn't a virgin when we met. This past summer we were at a pool party and one of my best friend's from school was ther...
A. 9 February 2017: I'm with Denizen.
What kind of friend bring that up? I could understand if you were still dating but after 5 years of marriage and 2 kids? I call bullshit.
And he saw a birthmark OH SO DISTINCTIVE that he recalls it 5+ years later? Bullshit ... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret dumping a nice guy for a jerk?
Q. my question is do women, ever look back an wonder? they have been in a relationship for a while and the guy isn't very nice to them, not a gentleman or romantic, before him they were seeing a guy who was, but he wasn't a challenge,they thought he ...
A. 9 February 2017: I agree that women don't go around and categorize guys and they certainly don't say:" A good and nice guy? EWW!".
What most women look for is someone with whom they have chemistry and can form a long term bond with.
And while SOME women PREFE... (read in full...)
He says he loves me so why is he going to escort sites?
Q. One day I used my boyfriend's computer to look something up only to find a website called backpage and he had been looking at escorts. I confronted him about it and he said it was from before we were ever dating and I believed him. Well I was using ...
A. 9 February 2017: He isn't going to tell you WHY he does it or IF he actually meets up with an escort. That much is certain.
Telling you that he did it BEFORE dating you doesn't explain WHY and it certainly isn't an excuse for him to be doing it now.
YOU hav... (read in full...)
How can I encourage him to consider discussing with me, and choosing a baby boy's name with me, where we both agree together on the name?
Q. My husband and I don't live together because we don't have jobs. I live with my mother and she is supporting me financially for the moment. She will also be getting a house for my bf and us to live in as well. I see my bf once a month, we live a...
A. 8 February 2017: Without first born we BOTH wrote down 10 names each and swapped lists.
I nixed all the names on his I didn't like, he nixed the ones on mine He didn't like. First time I nixed ALL 10 of his and he nixed 8 of mine. In the end, we came up with 2 n... (read in full...)
Is this male theory correct? Do woman wear matching black bra and panties when having sex is intended?
Q. Is there any truth to the theory that women wear black when they are planning to have sex with someone and also if you're going to have sex you wear matching bra and panties?...
A. 8 February 2017: Nope. No truth to it as far as I know.
Now SOME women have "date lingerie" in case the dates ends up in a bed, but wearing a matching set doesn't mean (no matter the color) that they are looking for sex.
I like black underwear because it doesn... (read in full...)
How can I get away from him this time, without getting attached to him again?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for over a 1 1/2 on an off. There have been times where things were good. Then there were times where he did not want me and I wanted him and vice a versa. Long story short this guy i am dating ...
A. 8 February 2017: Block him? From your phone (do consider getting a new phone number) and from you social websites. Before you block LET him know you are 100% done and that you want nothing further to do with his, wish him well and then you block delete, unfriend, ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? Whenever I invite a friend over she invariably does not show up
Q. I have a friend I've known for several years. She has a very frustrating habit in which she will set a day with me to meet up, and then not show up. I really don't understand how you can simply disregard to tell a person you are not coming and let ...
A. 8 February 2017: Yep, I'm with Tisha.
I'd stop putting in an effort just like SHE doesn't put in an effort.
I'd then focus on friend you can rely on.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me going out with male friends for drinks
Q. Am I in the wrong ? After recently starting uni I made a small group of three male friends whom I worked on an assessment with and we automatically became friends. We are all older than the normal uni starting age so its nice to have someone on ...
A. 8 February 2017: For me, that would be a no-no too. (his behavior that is).
YOU should be able to have lunch or a drink in the daytime with a male friend or 3.
Would it be nice if you all went out WITH partners so they can all meet each other, sure? Expect... ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two guys. I'm wondering, what should I do?
Q. Hello anyone out there willing to give me advice. I seem to have gotten myself into a significant amount of a problem. I'm torn between two guys. One my High school sweetheart Man1 whom I went out with for around 4 and a half years. We'd always a...
A. 8 February 2017: I agree with Garbo and I'd "pick" neither of these guys.
You had a 4 1/2 year relationship with #1 and you then broke up - there IS a reason you two broke up and the reason you were still hurt from this breakup. Which also leads to #2 who IS your ... (read in full...)
He says his On line friend is just fun and escapism. It sounds like emotional cheating to me. What should I do?
Q. Would love advice as to if " emotional cheating " on line is as bad as the physical cheating . I have dated my guy for two years and walked in on him skyping a woman who he knows through " business " when he was saying " love talking to you ,...
A. 8 February 2017: Escapism is not the same as cheating (emotional or otherwise). And what he is doing is NOT escapism. I mean what does he have to "escape" from? YOU? Your relationship? If that is so, he should have ended YOUR relationship the minute he NEEDS to ... (read in full...)
How can I accept the fact that the man who loves me does not want to marry me?
Q. I am looking for some advice on how to deal with a situation. My partner and I are in our 50s and have been together for an incredibly happy 18 months. He is kind, considerate, generous, loving, and everything I could wish for. We are bo...
A. 7 February 2017: 1. Accept his decision not to marry me, even though it is the total opposite of what I would love.
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TO answer the first question all I can say is, if you WANT TO BE WITH him, you have no choice but to accept it. Doesn't ... (read in full...)
Does this married man fancy me?
Q. Does this matried man just like me or do you think he wants more? Reasons I think he does: Caught him staring at me and he smiled and shook his head a little. Saw him looking out of the corner of my eye and when I turned my head he averted his ...
A. 7 February 2017: No wonder the wife isn't going out of her way to be nice to you, she has a flirt for a husband who does this RIGHT in front of her face at FAMILY gatherings - how disrespectful!
Now if you don't engage in the flirting back there is no reason f... (read in full...)
Should I say something? Or cut ties with them? My friend uninvited me to their wedding
Q. I have been good friends with the groom for over 4 years. He and the bride said I was invited to the wedding ceremony. I was surprised as a registry office is usually small so was please to be asked. The bride asked if I had my invitation w...
A. 7 February 2017: I'd slowly just let the "friendship" run its course and "downgrade them to acquaintances... I think it's pretty obvious that your friend's new wife is insecure and feels you were /are a threat. MAYBE someone has suggested that YOU don't like her or ... (read in full...)
I am 61 and living with a man who's sought my approval to go out with other women. Is this acceptable?
Q. I am 61 years and /i nnnnnnnnnhave this man I met on a dating site last year it is coming up on a year we became friends on Facebook and chat and text almost daily. We have not met in person yet but he had asked about the possibility of moving i...
A. 7 February 2017: He sounds really selfish and dishonest.
And there is NO way in Hades I'd move in with someone who wants to call himself my "boyfriend" I hadn't met in person, who has ALREADY let me know that he is NOT going to be faithful.
He is asking permis... (read in full...)
Does this married man fancy me?
Q. Does this matried man just like me or do you think he wants more? Reasons I think he does: Caught him staring at me and he smiled and shook his head a little. Saw him looking out of the corner of my eye and when I turned my head he averted his ...
A. 6 February 2017: Does it really matter?
What matter is ARE you taking a fancy to him? And if you are, maybe you need to think twice (or 8 times) before going down that road that WILL tear the family (as you know it) apart.
If you don't, ignore it and don't enc... (read in full...)
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