Does this married man fancy me?
Q. Does this matried man just like me or do you think he wants more? Reasons I think he does: Caught him staring at me and he smiled and shook his head a little. Saw him looking out of the corner of my eye and when I turned my head he averted his ...
A. 7 February 2017: No wonder the wife isn't going out of her way to be nice to you, she has a flirt for a husband who does this RIGHT in front of her face at FAMILY gatherings - how disrespectful!
Now if you don't engage in the flirting back there is no reason f... (read in full...)
Does this married man fancy me?
Q. Does this matried man just like me or do you think he wants more? Reasons I think he does: Caught him staring at me and he smiled and shook his head a little. Saw him looking out of the corner of my eye and when I turned my head he averted his ...
A. 6 February 2017: Does it really matter?
What matter is ARE you taking a fancy to him? And if you are, maybe you need to think twice (or 8 times) before going down that road that WILL tear the family (as you know it) apart.
If you don't, ignore it and don't enc... (read in full...)
If I was happy, I wouldn't have had cybersex with the guy online. Anyone got advice? Should I tell my bf about what I did?
Q. I became friends with this guy online. The conversations started off as topics about forums (met on a forum so) memes, YouTube, just general Internet stuff really. However, it slowly got a little flirtatious, and last night, I was drinking and we ...
A. 6 February 2017: I think you are actually giving an explanation as to why you did it in the last paragraph.
You tried to sabotage your relationship because you want out, for whatever reason you haven't left and IF you tell him it gives you a way out because ... (read in full...)
What's happening to me? Despite his disrespectful approach, why would I start to enjoy being disrespected?
Q. I know reading my post, my age is going to be the first thing you would all look at. Can't she be wise? At her age?? I have reached a point in my life where I am so tired of being disrespected that I have started seeing it as a normal occurrenc...
A. 6 February 2017: OP, I fully agree that it is MINDBOGGLING that (some) men (mostly men) think that ANYONE wants to open a message with a picture of a dick. I don't get it at all.
Thankfully, I have only been sent ONE dick pic (actually it was a video, yeah JUS... (read in full...)
Advice please on raising girls
Q. Hi all, i just wanted to share my thoughts with you.. have you noticed people around us lately - the social media? People are all posing nude and doing sexy poses etc. Girls want to pose half naked. The butt (sorry) has become the women's most ...
A. 6 February 2017: I have 3 daughters (16,14 and 12) NONE of them have ANY social websites that I do NOT check out. It's NOT an invasion of privacy that I look them over. I don't do it behind their backs, I ask them to show me and they have been VERY good themselves ... (read in full...)
What's happening to me? Despite his disrespectful approach, why would I start to enjoy being disrespected?
Q. I know reading my post, my age is going to be the first thing you would all look at. Can't she be wise? At her age?? I have reached a point in my life where I am so tired of being disrespected that I have started seeing it as a normal occurrenc...
A. 6 February 2017: Why do guys send dick pics?
Honestly? I don't know. I think most guys who DO this FAIL to understand that MOSt women do not find it an attractive body part to look at. it's rarely impressive add even LESS wanted.
Personally (and this would ... (read in full...)
Is it still bad if someone cheats but has no feelings for that person?
Q. What are some of the downsides to a man cheating on his GF with someone he doesn't have any emotional attachment to? If he doesn't care for the girl he's having sex with, like her as a person, or anything, then shouldn't it be okay to cheat ph...
A. 5 February 2017: I don't get your logic.
Either a person is faithful or he/she is not.
If he/she wants to have casual sex with people they don't give a fly's fart about - fine - but WHY not then be either IN an open relationship OR single? Why have a GF/BF? T... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend cheated and he doesn't know it yet. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. I've never posted a question online before but I really don't know what to do in this situation so I'd very much appreciate your honest opinion and input! Quick background story. I've been with my partner for 5 years this comin...
A. 5 February 2017: Q: "should I make an attempt to contact the woman's partner in order to get more information on the affair?"
A: NO
Getting more details is NOT going to change the fact or give your BF an excuse for his behavior.
What exactly kind of "informa... (read in full...)
Has this man gone cold on me?
Q. Hi, I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He asked me to be his girlfriend on our third date. We get on really well and can actually have great conversations on our dates and through texts (he only likes to text as feels anxious ca...
A. 5 February 2017: I think I would ask him straight up if he is no longer interested because THAT is how it feels to you.
If he DOESN'T answer then take that as a YES it's over, BLOCK him and move on.
You have EVERY right to know where you stand. It's been 3 mont... (read in full...)
How do I handle this attention?
Q. There is somebody at school who keeps staring at me. It's become a daily thing now, and even my frieends have noticed it happening. Furthermore, I have realised that whenever somebody mentions my name to her she often blushes. This has been ...
A. 5 February 2017: Sounds like the girl has a crush on you and there really isn't much you can do about that. IF you aren't interested in HER, I'd just ignore it. Don't be mean about it just ignore it. Think about it, HOW would you feel if you had a crush on a girl ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's excuse didn't cut it with me
Q. So my boyfriend of 9 months didn't come to my sister's wedding yesterday. I was annoyed to start when he said he couldn't come a month before the wedding but when I heard his excuse I was more annoyed. I don't get on well with my family and ...
A. 5 February 2017: I get that you wanted him there for you, BUT... he told you a month ago he couldn't go so I don't see the problem.
He used an excuse you weren't happy with, but again.. you wanted him to have his family rearrange his family birthday meal so YOU c... (read in full...)
Signals I'm getting make me question my next move
Q. Dearcupid. Help me to solve this problem before it is too late. Don't get it twisted. My cousin sister introduce me to her friend for a relationship that could lead to marriage. Me and her met at the restaurant to relax and to explain more about us. ...
A. 5 February 2017: So according to your cousin, HE is dating her and has been for the last 5 years? If he is then obviously you can't date her too nor marry her as she is not available. And I don't think this girl is seriously looking for a husband, or maybe she ... (read in full...)
Isn't this cheating? I'm distraught and stunned that he visited at least three mens' homes to masturbate
Q. I just found out my husband of 23 years, who has not had relations with me by his own accord for 12 years, more than half of my marriage, has been registered on gay and swinger websites. I found out all this on my own and have filed for divorce....
A. 5 February 2017: I'm so sorry OP, this can't be a nice thing to find out.
Can you live on your own? Can you financially take care of yourself without him? DO you want to live on your own?
I would still "classify" this as cheating. If he had ASKED you before... (read in full...)
He decided to take up on my offer on not using condoms. Why was he so willing to do this?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a while and whenever we have sex, we always use protection. But there was this one time that we didn't because we both didn't want to. After that time we used a condom every time. We were talking about our sex li...
A. 5 February 2017: You ask why HE was OK having sex without a condom, but the REAL question is WHY are you?
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What if the tables were turned? Am I being a numpty for agreeing to her terms?
Q. Hey just like to ask if i've been a bit of a numpty. I'm not allowed a facebook nor messenger not sure why but to make her happy i said ill not make a facebook. She has both and lots of people added like people she works with and even people she s...
A. 5 February 2017: Why are you not allowed? Have you done something shady in the past? OR are you her child?
I'd say UNLESS you did something detrimental to the relationship in the past over FB or Messenger, she has ABSOLUTELY no right to dictate whether you can ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about his actions? Should I be questioning his commitment to me, based on his actions?
Q. I'm concerned my fiance is travelling every other weekend for a few days without me. I want to go and he tells me to pay my way. If i try to go ahead with that plan, he just takes off without me. I bought him something for over 700 bucks the o...
A. 5 February 2017: Why spend $700 on him if he doesn't do that for you? And don't say because I love him and want to spoil him because you can spend a LOT less and still spoil him.
And never EVER buy a present with strings attached, such as if I give you this I e... (read in full...)
Off/on relationship has me wanting something more definite
Q. So this is bothering me. I was seeing a girl for 2 months, we fell in love quick but due to family issues and differences we took a break. She started seeing someone else. We still hung around and got even closer, she told me mulitple times she ...
A. 4 February 2017: Honestly? She sounds like she is playing games. And I don't mean Monopoly.
She has MADE the choice to stick with the CURRENT BF, which means HE is the one she has picked. Now she might occasionally regret it, but.. she hasn't dumped him so to me... (read in full...)
Am I responsible for the baby or did she cheat on me? We had sex on October 8 2015 and she gave birth on June 15 2016
Q. Morning dear friends. My case is like this: I was in a relationship with my girlfriend(24 years old) for a year. we rarely met; at least once in three months. She visited me on the 8th of October 2015. We played the indoor game; but with pr...
A. 4 February 2017: Do a DNA test that way you know for sure.
A woman CAN have what seems and looks like periods while pregnant, so that isn't a clear indication. Also, you didn't mention the size of the baby - but it seems like she only went 8 months - 32 weeks an... (read in full...)
What happened to my dream girl? Do I just go along with her? Or call off the wedding and be done with her?
Q. Sorry if this is long just bare with me because I need help. My girlfriend has ruined our relationship and I feel like she just wanted me for money. I need to know what other people think. I can't talk to my family or friends because they all...
A. 4 February 2017: I agree with N91
Why not COMPROMISE and add the clause SHE wants into the prenup? If you are certain you won't cheat it shouldn't BE a big deal to add it.
I have to say a person's death and inheritance brings the WORST out in some people. I h... (read in full...)
What can I do about my OCD and paranoia?
Q. I wanted to ask for some advice as I have been in counseling and been offered medications which both don't work. I was diagnosed with OCD when I was young and have sought medication/ therapy for it but lately I feel like I am going crazy- I'm always ...
A. 4 February 2017: Have you done CBT? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or regular therapy? As a fellow OCD sufferer, I can tell you that WHO you get as a therapist is vital and HOW they work with you.
I was not using meds with CBT. ( they didn't give that to teens... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with someone who keeps you blocked from Skype?
Q. Hi All, Could really use a little input here. I met a woman online on an international dating site. I'm American, she's from Europe. We emailed, talked and Skyped for about 10 months and then got into a fight. Without going into the details, ...
A. 4 February 2017: Why try and be friends? You didn't work out as a couple and she REALLY fast replaced you with someone else, so why bother? I know you like her as a person and all, but... You two weren't friends you were courting/dating. Friends don't have that ... (read in full...)
Its awkward at work and I am considering quitting!
Q. Months ago I made mistake of expressing interest in a work colleague by giving him my number but he never called/texted then exaggerated/lied as to why he didn't call.I felt little embarrassed but no big deal.I tried to be still friendly and ...
A. 4 February 2017: OP don't be embarrassed.
Nothing ventured - nothing gained.
Sometimes we read people wrong, it happens. I have seen SO many posts on here where people ask IS this guy/girl interested or are they JUST being friendly? Most of the time it seems li... (read in full...)
My crush is moving to another country. Do I tell him I like him?
Q. Back in 2015, I had met a boy at my school who had just moved from Colombia. We became really close friends, and within a few months, I had developed feelings for him. Now, in February 2017, he's moving back to Colombia in a couple of weeks,...
A. 4 February 2017: What the point of telling him?
(What do you hope to accomplish by tell him? )
Is it for PURE selfish reasons to get it off your chest I say, don't. Especially if you have a sort of friendship.
Since he doesn't think he will be back to the U... (read in full...)
How can I stop letting this one man's opinion of me beat at my confidence?
Q. I have always thought of myself as girlfriend material and that I have a lot to offer a man. I dated a guy recently and he doesn't have any interest in me as a person whatsoever. I know it sounds vain or conceited, but I believe in mysel...
A. 4 February 2017: Not every guy you will meet and be attracted to will be a good match for you, NEITHER will YOU be a good match for every guy.
This guy? Just wasn't into you. Doesn't mean you have nothing to offer - he is just not curious about what you DO have ... (read in full...)
How do I start the conversation without looking desperate?
Q. Hi, About 7 weeks, my boyfriend ended our 2-3 month relationship due to the fact I was abroad when we got together and there would still be another year and half of us being apart. He felt like he was waiting for us to truly be together because ...
A. 4 February 2017: I agree with your friend.
He didn't ask you to transfer back or make any promises that IF you moved he would want to date you again.
He made the choice that an LDR was NOT what he wanted. OR rather an LDR with YOU (someone he BARELY knew).
... (read in full...)
How to get them back together?
Q. Hello. I have 2 friends who were previously in a relationship but broke off due to a misunderstanding between each other. The guy complained that the girl was not giving him enough attention. She had not told me while they were in a relationshi...
A. 3 February 2017: I agree the BEST thing you can do is stay out of it. IF they really like each other, they will find a way.
As of now, they don't like each other enough to start talking.
Being a "cute couple" is nice if we are talking dolls or kittens.
Let... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or is it just banter?
Q. Okay so there was a point I really fancied this guy but then he gave the impression he was straight He recently snap shot two pics I took and drew a penis on them to make it look like I was sucking dick.... then text" bravo you don't like (the ...
A. 3 February 2017: Gross.
If you call that flirting.... then I don't even know what to say. I agree with Auntie BimBim - seems more like a Bully using "joking" as a way to be rude and crude.
Personally? I'd drop him like a ton of bricks.... (read in full...)
Its awkward at work and I am considering quitting!
Q. Months ago I made mistake of expressing interest in a work colleague by giving him my number but he never called/texted then exaggerated/lied as to why he didn't call.I felt little embarrassed but no big deal.I tried to be still friendly and ...
A. 3 February 2017: I wouldn't leave either, I would, however, ignore him 100%. No more being nice and/or cordial. No point.
If he has an issue with you showing interest a LONG time ago still, that is HIS issues and there is nothing you can do to change that.
... (read in full...)
Ladies what would you suggest? She's caught my eye. But I'm not sure what my next move should be.
Q. This will seem funny for a 34 year old man to be seeking advice on. Basically, I go to the same shop a few times a week. There is a lady works there who has really caught my eye, whenever she is there when I go in, I get butterflies and feel...
A. 3 February 2017: Good for seeing the opportunity and to "read" her information right.
Good luck, I hope it works out well for the two of you!... (read in full...)
How can I make her realize that her psychotic friend will always ditch her and make her feel worse
Q. Hey people... So, I'm gonna get straight to the point and try to make it short. I literally can't stand my girlfriend's best friend. Apparently before we got together they bonded on this amazing-like relationship and could speak abo...
A. 3 February 2017: I agree with WiseOwlE
She has to figure this out for herself and she WILL. My guess is your GF is holding on to the friendship from "before" the friend changed and THAT is what she hopes she can get back.
You have already told her that keeping... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over this insecurity?
Q. I have never written here before but I feel like I am lost in life - I feel very unfufilled and I'm not sure if that is because my insecurities or because of my upbringing. I felt like I was always compared when I was young and I felt like I was ...
A. 3 February 2017: As nice as it is to have money and a job - money doesn't make people happy. Not having money... doesn't make people happy either. But what I'm saying is, you think your friends are "doing" better than you due to making more money - it IS NOT the ... (read in full...)
Three times she has said she will change, I am sick of it!
Q. Hello, I'm in the midst of a troubled relationship. I've been with my partner a year and a half on and off. I moved 2 hours away to live with her and now things are rough as we fight a lot, I'm in the middle of nowhere away from my friends and fami...
A. 3 February 2017: Stick to your "ultimatum".
She probably hasn't changed, but she is either TRYING to or TRYING to convince you (at least for a little while) that she is.
The thing is with OCD there are no fixes, and certainly NO quick fixes either. A person... (read in full...)
I don't want my sick and twisted mother around when I have children.
Q. Myself and my sister have started talking after 10 years no contact. I'm 29 now and she is 34. We're both very happy in our lives and we have been getting on great. When I was 16 my mum had left me homeless and moved to a different country. I've ...
A. 3 February 2017: Why have her at your wedding if you decide to cut her off? I mean that is a day where you want the LEAST kind of negativity and drama after all.
And honestly? cutting her off is UP to you. You can't change her, you can't run around and try and ... (read in full...)
Should I end things with this man?
Q. hi, so I have been seeing this guy for 5 months now. we where friends first and I confided in him and then one day we had this connection and since then we been together. at one stage he was staying and spending nights with me and I have kid...
A. 2 February 2017: He is married so yes, I would cut the contact.
He can't MAKE a family with you BECAUSE he is still married and STILL has obligations as a husband. Do they live apart because he works away from his family?
Don't lend him your car if you need ... (read in full...)
My friend's Bf wanted to have sex with me!! Should I be feeling so hurt about my friend cutting me off for doing nothing wrong!!!?
Q. My friend is mad at me because her boyfriend wanted to in her words " ^^^k ME" I have never met the guy nor has he seen what i look like. My friend does not have social media, I do. And shes mad at me. It was the strangest text i have ever received...
A. 2 February 2017: I'd be pretty pissed too!
But here is the thing. SHE is mad at you because it's EASIER than being mad at him. She wants to date him so she makes you the "bad" guy in this scenario rather than see the guy for what he is, a total douche.
They ha... (read in full...)
Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?
Q. Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...
A. 2 February 2017: Thanks for the update!
Well, that should give you a nudge to finish your degree and work on saving up for the psychology courses.
The whole notion of "casting couch" and women in movies and tv being objects is nothing new, it's just a shame it ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to brush me off?
Q. I 've been friendly with this girl that I work with.We have few things in common and we've had few good conversations. Her and I like to go to shows at art galleries so one day during conconversations,I asked her to come along to this show that w...
A. 2 February 2017: I think she is a flake, and also she is NOT interested in friendship.
She said yes initially because she felt she HAD to and then canceled and after that, she just didn't put in an effort. The whole I left my phone and school... Yeah, I don't kn... (read in full...)
His mother threatened to kick him out if he didn't break up with me.
Q. Recently, I broke up with my ex. This was because his mother had threatened to kick him out if he didn't. We're both under eighteen and it was going really well, but then that happened and now, although we still want to talk to each other like we ...
A. 2 February 2017: What is his mother's problem with you?
If it's something you can change or fix, my best advice would be to WISH him well and move on.
And seek help for the depression and FOCUS on yourself and your mental health for now.... (read in full...)
I wasn't ready for sex so he hasn't talked to me for two weeks!
Q. my boyfriend hasn't spoken to me for two weeks..he suddenly went silent after we argued over the fact that I wasn't ready for sex .we have only gone out for almost a month.I like him but I don't want to base my relationship on sex....do I call him ...
A. 2 February 2017: I wouldn't call him.
I know that you like him but it seems like his silence is supposed to either make you GIVE IN and drop your panties (because HE wants sex) and make you feel bad for not being ready or the silence is because he is "ghostin... (read in full...)
My husband has Erectile Dysfunction issues and yet is not interested in seeing the Doctor about this. I get no satisfaction. What can I do?
Q. Hey, my husband couldn't have sex with me. It's been a year since our wedding and I'm still being a virgin , I want to experience it. He says that he has early ejaculation and erection issues too. He never really tried to have with me but he a...
A. 1 February 2017: Are you sure he even WANTS sex?
A guy in his 20's with erectile dysfunction, but who CAN get off by YOU manually jerk him off (I f understand your post right) can have sex if he wants to.
Besides, there is more to sex than penis in vagina,... (read in full...)
Will I ever move on, get over everything and meet someone?
Q. Hello everyone, I hope you're all well. So basically I feel and think that I will seriously never meet anyone who I feel a close connection and chemistry with. A few years ago was the worst time of my life. I had no confidence and was very u...
A. 1 February 2017: You will. In time but you HAVE to let go of the past.
And sending naked pics to a guy because you "feel" you owe him or "feel" sorry for your past actions is NOT smart at all. You have no idea what he CAN do with those if he feels HE needs "r... (read in full...)
My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...
Q. My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...
A. 1 February 2017: OP, for now, FOCUS on the PPD and the new baby but DO ASK your husband HOW he would feel if YOU were busy getting reacquainted with an ex-BF who had been a cheat and dumped you and who are tried to create much drama in the beginning of your ... (read in full...)
Ladies what would you suggest? She's caught my eye. But I'm not sure what my next move should be.
Q. This will seem funny for a 34 year old man to be seeking advice on. Basically, I go to the same shop a few times a week. There is a lady works there who has really caught my eye, whenever she is there when I go in, I get butterflies and feel...
A. 30 January 2017: I would NOT ask her out right off the bat. I would start with some small talk so you can learn her name and maybe if she is single.
If she is married or have a BF a Valentine and offer of a date might not be a great move, especially if you want... (read in full...)
Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?
Q. Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...
A. 30 January 2017: Yes, if you finish your degree (even if you don't work in the field) IS useful.
And having 2 degrees might even be better (again even if one of them is something you will never use).
So I would finish it no matter what, whether it's right away ... (read in full...)
Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?
Q. Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...
A. 30 January 2017: If you only have a few more months left to study and the shooting doesn't start til June I'd try and do both. Or like Auntie YouWish mentioned, finishing the last semester online.
If you can't do both (RIGHT NOW) go for the dream. How many opp... (read in full...)
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