Does he like me or just want sex?
Q. Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...
A. 15 March 2017: So basically HE is still the same guy you turned down 5 years ago.
He is STILL looking to "bang" you.
And honestly, he probably "hit on" all the pretty customers who's accounts he handled.
If I were you I'd pass up this guy and WORK on the... (read in full...)
Do I quit my job? I feel my coworker doesn't like me, and some of the behaviour at work feels like bullying to me.
Q. I work for a warehouse factory that distrubutes sporting things such as football tops and trophies etc. I'm being bullied at work from my boss and the assistant of the boss and they can't seem to leave me alone for five minutes. everytime I go into ...
A. 15 March 2017: If you have a new job lined up, GOOD that means you can hopefully get out of the ASAP.
Talk to the new place and see how SOON you can start. And then plan it out so you give (however many weeks notice you need to give).
... (read in full...)
Why can't she see he is not a good person? Do I just leave her to get on with things? Since she is not listening
Q. Hello. My good close friend who is 27 has had a rough few years. Her Mother passed away, the Father of her 2 kids left her (he still regularly sees the children) She has begun having a relationship (now 10 months and I have met him once) with someo...
A. 14 March 2017: Let her be then if she is ALLOWING him to isolate her and keep her from her friend that IS her choice - not a great choice but her's none the less.
Would I cut her off completely? No. She might NEED someone in her corner at some point when she... (read in full...)
Wedding plans. What can I say to my sister and yet not upset her?
Q. I am getting married in September and have chosen my bridal party. My sister is supposed to be a bridesmaid in my bridal party. We had a falling out after I had asked her and she had said she no longer wanted to be a part of the wedding. The re...
A. 14 March 2017: Accept her compromise of her coming to the ceremony alone and not attending the party afterward.
While you might want her there, she feels if her BF can't come she won't attend and THAT you have to respect.
You can't MAKE her come solo to the... (read in full...)
Does he like me or just want sex?
Q. Just when I'd totally shut my self off from dating then the world gave me this guy. I have known him since 2012 but I always ignored him and blocked his calls. Recently I haven't been going out much and he suddenly contacted me. I decided to hang ...
A. 14 March 2017: OP, I have to ask... WHY did you ignore him and have him blocked since 2012?
It makes no sense to me that ALL of a sudden you no longer feel a need to ignore and block THIS one guy.
IF you spend 5 years IGNORING HIM how come he loves you?
... (read in full...)
Do I quit my job? I feel my coworker doesn't like me, and some of the behaviour at work feels like bullying to me.
Q. I work for a warehouse factory that distrubutes sporting things such as football tops and trophies etc. I'm being bullied at work from my boss and the assistant of the boss and they can't seem to leave me alone for five minutes. everytime I go into ...
A. 14 March 2017: Have you looked for a new job to replace this one with?
Can your family do OK without your income?
Does this company have an HR department?
I can understand that no one wants to work in a hostile work environment, but personally, I'd prob... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is trying to be me. I cannot handle her behaviour any more. What can I do?
Q. I'm on a very difficult situation lately. I've known my best friend for 7 years and we've been through ups and downs but this time, I had enough. A few days ago, I was thinking about my friendship with my (best friend) and I've realized that I'v...
A. 13 March 2017: I don't know if I would cut her off completely, but I do think I'd take a break from being around her for a while - start being busy doing other things. Now I wouldn't LIE to her and SAY you are busy (if you are not) but I would start to BECOME ... (read in full...)
Were they trying to get my attention by revving their car?
Q. The other day I was in a world of my own stop outside of a shop and a guy I know and his mate were parked nearby me. I knew they would be near by as the guy I know normally says hi etc. This time I didn't see them coming even though I was facing ...
A. 13 March 2017: I agree with Denizen.
While it might have BEEN to catch your attention, it's a pretty PATHETIC way for a GROWN man to get a woman's attention - considering gunning the engine COULD feel intimidating to some.
If he was 18 and it was his first ca... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is trying to be me. I cannot handle her behaviour any more. What can I do?
Q. I'm on a very difficult situation lately. I've known my best friend for 7 years and we've been through ups and downs but this time, I had enough. A few days ago, I was thinking about my friendship with my (best friend) and I've realized that I'v...
A. 13 March 2017: Talk to your mom.
Tell her that you feel you NEED a break from THAT friend so please STOP inviting her over. If she asks why explain that you feel you and the friend have grown apart and honestly? Your mom shouldn't meddle in this.
Again, ... (read in full...)
What do you think about guys who body shame women?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. He was the type to cancel on a date on me and get angry for small things or worse, make the topics that don't concern him, his own problems. He never wanted to take me out. After breaking up with him...
A. 13 March 2017: He sounds like an insecure a-hole, to be honest. Someone who can ONLY feel good when he put other people down.
My guess is he KNOWS that he can push your buttons by using weight as the ammo. He knows that it gets to you. He didn't know how to h... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is trying to be me. I cannot handle her behaviour any more. What can I do?
Q. I'm on a very difficult situation lately. I've known my best friend for 7 years and we've been through ups and downs but this time, I had enough. A few days ago, I was thinking about my friendship with my (best friend) and I've realized that I'v...
A. 13 March 2017: I actually think this is very common for young people in they teens/20's to not know their own identity yet. Your friend hasn't found WHO she really is, only that she looks up to you for who YOU are.
First, realize that the people who are prone to... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid, or is he following me?
Q. I befriended a guy twice my age (already a bad idea, I know) and knew he liked me. But I was honest and told him I didn't see him that way. We were friends and workout buddies. But after a while, I realized he was very immature and kinda creepy. I ...
A. 13 March 2017: First, make sure YOUR privacy setting are on high on YOUR Facebook and stop giving a CRAP about what HE posts about you on his WHO cares?! he seems like an immature loser chasing after young girls most likely because older women see RIGHT through ... (read in full...)
Why can't she see he is not a good person? Do I just leave her to get on with things? Since she is not listening
Q. Hello. My good close friend who is 27 has had a rough few years. Her Mother passed away, the Father of her 2 kids left her (he still regularly sees the children) She has begun having a relationship (now 10 months and I have met him once) with someo...
A. 13 March 2017: She knows he is trouble. She KNOWS. Why she is choosing to ignore it is hard to say. I can tell you this, though, it's NOT out of love, or love as WE know it. She thinks she can "change" him. She is dating a man because she THINKS he can be a great ... (read in full...)
Was he right to say I need "more education?"
Q. Hi.. I've been with my bf for about 7 months. He has a degree in classics, privately educated, where as I have A levels and I quit a dead end job because of depression and couldn't handle it. I still am intelligent and we have deep conversatio...
A. 13 March 2017: No.
I think YOU getting further educations is FULLY and WHOLLY your choice, not something he can "demand" of you. Now he may say it because he knows you are smart and could perhaps do MUCH better in life with further education, but it sounds l... (read in full...)
The guy is turning into an alcoholic. Should I keep it to myself that I'm pregnant, and raise the baby without him?
Q. I don't know what I want to do at this point. I think I may be pregnant with the guy I'm currently seeing. I feel like he's going on a downward spiral at the moment. He had a weekend out with the boys and he got really drunk and now he is gettin...
A. 12 March 2017:
If this drinking makes you NOT want to BE with him then END it, but you STILL have to let him know that you are pregnant (if you are) and that you intend to keep the child.
I think it could be a LITTLE too early to decide that he is an alcoholic... (read in full...)
My ex refuses to acknowledge that porn played a part in our breakup
Q. Hi there, I recently had suspicions that my partner of 8 years may be suffering porn related ed. he was being secretive, defensive and only capable of having sex when he could act out his fantasies(which he didn't share with me). No intimacy...
A. 12 March 2017: He is now your ex, correct?
So LET IT GO. If you know in your heart that YOU are right with this issue, who care WHAT he thinks? He is an ex and should be moved into the past.
And you have to accept that while you might WANT an apology or expla... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for for teenage son to just wear boxers around the house after school?
Q. Is it wrong for for teenage son to just wear boxers around the house after school? This started happening a few months back and while it is not the end of the world it just seems out of the norm. He will change if we have visitors other then fami...
A. 11 March 2017: I don't see the big issue, however... He can get in trouble if he opens the door and you have a kid/female who doesn't WANT to see a guy in his undies. So I'd suggest you guy have a robe hanging by the front door he can toss on if he opens the ... (read in full...)
When would be the appropriate time to block my ex on social media?
Q. Dear Aunts, This isn't a major issue. The thing is, I have half a mind to block my ex on facebook. Because I hate him so much and would like to erase from my mind I had him in my life. I'm happy and single now but sometimes I feel very angry when ...
A. 11 March 2017:
If you REALLY think he would act in a vengeful manner with you - HIDE his feeds and downgrade him to an acquaintance (he can't see that) and then UP all your security setting so that none but FRIENDS can see your stuff.
OR
Block him now, ... (read in full...)
Does a man call a woman a bad word because of how he sees her physically?
Q. Do men call women wh..res because they think they are ugly ? Is it because it's thought a woman is not attractive enough to be appealing enough for a man to want to date and marry that she would have to sell herself sexually in order to survive ...
A. 11 March 2017: No, it's not just UGLY women who get called whores. It's all and every woman who crosses path with a man (or woman) who lacks respect for the female gender.
When used, (in most cases) It's MEANT to make the woman feel LOW and bad about herself.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend no longer has time for me because of his new job. How do I cope?
Q. I feel that my boyfriend and I may have hit a rough patch. We're about 6 months into our relationship and up until this point, things have been so easy and carefree. Then, he got a new job that has a lot of potential for him to advance and be v...
A. 11 March 2017: I agree, Welcome to Adulting!
First of all, let him settle into the new job, it might take 3-6 months before that really happens. And yes, texting 24/7 every hour is NOT necessary for a relationship to work. Otherwise, think of all us "old" fo... (read in full...)
I'm troubled by my boyfriend's spiteful side
Q. My boyfriend and I went on holiday recently and we missed our flight as we both got the return flight date wrong. We travel on the bus to the airport to see if we can get another flight. I had a leg injury. Our suitcase fell of the baggage ...
A. 10 March 2017: I think it's a HUGE red flag.
I get that he was annoyed, who wouldn't be? The extra cost the uncertainty of how and when to get home? Would annoy anyone who likes FIRM and KNOWN plans.
For him, however, to put ALL the blame on you? That's... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling that I'm his second choice!
Q. My boyfriend always tells me that he knew from our first date that I was special and a keeper. I recently found out we had our first date, then he went out with another women the next day and had been chasing this women before and after we first...
A. 10 March 2017: His phone searched for this woman who didn't want him ALL by itself? My my, he must have some very advanced AI phone far ahead of its time.....
/sarcasm off.
Seriously OP, WHY do you stay? The reason he calls you a Keeper is because you have... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he just doesn't have a clue about women
Q. I am seeing a guy who is into porn and hasn't had much experience with women. It feels like he doesn't know the difference between porn and being with a real women. He's not romantic at all, doesn't make the effort to make me feel special,...
A. 10 March 2017: He sounds like an immature creep. Sorry. Someone who sees women as props in his life, for his pleasure.
The reason you have lost your sex drive is because he is killing it slowly but TAKING TAKING and giving none back. I mean, WHAT guy in his 30's... (read in full...)
He's so unhygienic it's putting me off him, am I being unreasonable?
Q. I have been dating for over a year. In the early days he was relatively tidy.The guy is increasingly becoming a slob. His whole place is like a teenages bedroom clothes, rushbish, hangers, money etc chucked on the floor, plates piled up in the ...
A. 10 March 2017: YUCK, just YUCK
I could see if he was BARELY out of his teens, early 20's that keeping his place just a LITTLE clean might not be a high priority, but seriously OP? What are you thinking?
SO what that he wants kids and marriage? Sure, ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I lost out after the break up with my boyfriend?
Q. So its been probably a month post break up. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship. I really love my ex and care for him immensely, despite the fact that he is directionless, has no goals/ambition, very lazy in everything and he was/is ...
A. 9 March 2017: The thing is no one is perfect, OP.
But the fact that he dumped YOU is more a reflection of HIMSELF than it is of you.
HE KNEW that he had LITTLE to offer someone like you. That is why he liked you in the first place, you were a "prize". Well... (read in full...)
My Long Term girlfriend has just been diagnosed with Herpes. Should I bail?
Q. The question i'm posing is whether or not i should leave my girlfriend of almost 5 years. I know that herpes can lay dormant for a long period of time, and i know there is a POSSIBILITY that either of us could have had herpes with no symptoms for ...
A. 9 March 2017: Talk to your doctor if you want ALL the medical facts. None of us can determine IF this infection happened recently or not.
And IF you too are positive, talk about HOW you best can manage it moving forward. And BE honest with future partners... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I lost out after the break up with my boyfriend?
Q. So its been probably a month post break up. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship. I really love my ex and care for him immensely, despite the fact that he is directionless, has no goals/ambition, very lazy in everything and he was/is ...
A. 9 March 2017: I agree with Anon there.
It's having to let go of the dream of WHAT COULD have been, the fantasy of who HE COULD be - that is what hurts.
My guess is you also cared for him and that YOU taking care of him as much as you did gave you purpose... (read in full...)
Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?
Q. Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...
A. 9 March 2017: I think there ARE men who rather date younger women because they themselves don't see themselves as getting up there themselves. And of course, because there IS the social stereotype that an older man dating a younger woman is more virile...
But I... (read in full...)
What are my options to protect my privacy? Do nothing? Or contact the company and flag my concerns?
Q. A year ago I split with my ex partner leaving behind an abusive relationship where my ex had been given a suspended sentence for assaulting me. I've moved on with my life and am a lot happier. This week though I discovered that my ex has a new ...
A. 9 March 2017: If I were you, I'd contact your OWN company's HR and go from there. It's your company's job to protect your information, not the one HE works for (if that makes sense).
You can also contact Citizen's Advice
https://w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said my genes were inferior and any flaws would come from me
Q. Boyfriend of almost two years and I were watching a movie (Harry Potter) and I was jokingly saying that I would name our future son Albus cause he was a bad-ass. My boyfriend said it'd be too much pressure for a kid to live up to. I laughed and ...
A. 9 March 2017: Anyone who in all seriousness said MY GENES were inferior would be kicked to the curb asap.
So what if your cousin is a bitch? That has nothing to do with genetics. That's just her personality, how she chooses to portrait herself and has a LOT mo... (read in full...)
He said we should just let things go. What did I do wrong?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 4 months now and everything has been going on just fine , we never really labelled what we were but he made sure that we hang out a lot and talk a lot. We met on tinder and at first I used to cancel until we actually...
A. 9 March 2017: Why make plans and then cancel over and over?
Honestly? That would annoy me too. And I don't think that makes him "insecure".
If you know you have "responsibilities" and thus CAN'T met up, don't MAKE plans.
It makes you look like a fl... (read in full...)
Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...
A. 8 March 2017: So why are you with him?
You are obviously NOT fulfilled and he is NOT committed to this relationship. Calling you a "friend"? Ouch!
So is he living with YOU or vice verse?
If he is living with you kick him out, cut the contact and move on.... (read in full...)
Blocking's been unsuccessful. How to stop a woman obsessed with my Bf from messaging him on social media?
Q. Hello. So I need help on stopping someone from harassing my boyfriend. I am 21 and he is 24 and since high school, his friend met a girl our age who pretended to be my friend when I didn't know her at all and she's hung out with my boyfriend's ...
A. 8 March 2017: Has he contacted Facebook and reported her for harassment? If not, I suggest HE starts there.
And I'd suggest he (at least for the time being) UP his security settings on FB including NOT accepting any requests or messages (if that is possible... (read in full...)
Does he have a sexual addiction to anal? The business card has raised questions for me. Should I ask him?
Q. Hey Guys, From some time in my 3 years of ”Inconsistent” Relationship with my bf, we had sex once a week (we could not do it more ”due to schedules and his medical studies”) Besides not having much sex, he also happened to have, well I could de...
A. 8 March 2017: 1. OP you should NEVER do sex acts you don't enjoy. If he insists on anal then go buy a GOOD size dildo and tell him YOU first!
2. YOU need to learn 2 things. Firstly that it is OK to say NO to things you don't enjoy in bed and secondly CONSENT ... (read in full...)
How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?
Q. How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...
A. 8 March 2017: A woman should put in the effort she is WILLING to put in.
I don't think women (or men) should put in an effort to look attractive solely for a partner, but for their own good.
Let's say your BF is now into redheads and wants you to dye your ... (read in full...)
He was so attentive and now not so much. How do I get him back?
Q. I have been talking to this guy from another state and he told me I was gorgegus, from there we have been messaging each other everyday. However in the beginning he moved alittle too fast for me, he was calling me beautiful and added "xx" at the end ...
A. 8 March 2017: I would not put in any more effort than he does. Not because I'd want to play games but I would try and NOT get too emotionally involved till you actually know there might BE something here. Something worth building on. And maybe there is, maybe ... (read in full...)
We went from sex twice a day to maybe once a week. I can't live without sex!
Q. Hey here's the problem my boyfriend and I used to have sex twice a day morning and night we've been together just over 2 years he moved in after being together a year the past few months we hardly ever have sex maybe once a week I asked him if he ...
A. 7 March 2017: I don't think you HAVE to live without sex. Though, you can. We all CAN. Doesn't mean we have to "settle" for a life without.
I think it's kind of normal for SOME, that once people move in with each other over time the occurrence of sex tapers o... (read in full...)
He was so attentive and now not so much. How do I get him back?
Q. I have been talking to this guy from another state and he told me I was gorgegus, from there we have been messaging each other everyday. However in the beginning he moved alittle too fast for me, he was calling me beautiful and added "xx" at the end ...
A. 7 March 2017: Unfortunately, that IS common for online "friendships" or relationships. Over time, the novelty wears off.
If he is dealing with depression, anxiety, and stress he might not be able to sustain a high level of effort as he has a LOT on his plate. H... (read in full...)
My husband is a serial cheater. Am I fooling myself to think he will change?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 23 years. We were young when we got married - 20 and 21. Early on in our marriage he cheated on me twice. I was not very confident back then and terrified of being alone, so I forgave and stayed. And I guess ...
A. 7 March 2017: Why "should" he change?
You haven't.
You are still willing to "pretend" he isn't cheating so you don't have to be alone.
Consider that for a moment. YOU know how hard it is to change YOURSELF. To make a decision that will change YOUR wo... (read in full...)
Should I go on a trip with my family or to a wedding with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...
A. 7 March 2017: I'm ABSOLUTELY with Cindy and Denizen!
I'd go on the trip. I would have no doubt. You have ONLY been together with your BF for 6 months and while this is HIS best friend's wedding - it just doesn't compare.
... (read in full...)
Are single attractive women usually more messed up?
Q. I know I may get flack for this. But it's been my experience that very good looking women who are single in their 30s and beyond are messed up in some way. My theory is that they have to deal with so many guys just looking for sex that they have ...
A. 7 March 2017: I will agree with Denizen, I don't think you CAN generalize and I think maybe you need to rethink the "pond" in which you have been fishing.
If looks are more important that personality, maybe... you also need to rethink that?
And I don't... (read in full...)
She dropped me as a friend after realizing we would not work romantically! Why??
Q. OK, perhaps people will think I'm daft but in brief I began corresponding with this woman in another country on an international dating site. At first we thought we would just be friends, and we seemed to share a lot: philosophy, books, movies, art, ...
A. 7 March 2017: I remember your earlier posts and the disagreements you two had that led her to start talking to someone else, correct?
You were on that dating site to MEET a woman for a relationship ( after meeting and getting to know one another) NOT for a pe... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to use him for sex?
Q. So there's this guy that fancied me. I sleep with him but don't have no feelings. Is it wrong of me using him for sex when he wants more ...
A. 6 March 2017: I think so. I think people should be HONEST about what they want. As in don't lie and say you want more if you don't.
How would you feel if you were being "used"?... (read in full...)
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