I don't in the slightest trust this artist who she met for lunch recently . Am I just insecure?
Q. I am engaged to be married (2nd time for both of us). Because of her work my wife to be has developed many male friends/acquaintances including some who have been keen to take it further than platonic. She presents very innocently of al...
A. 20 February 2017: Why should you trust him or even like him?
But, if you let your distrust in THIS (or any other guy) creep in and take over you are letting this (or other) man create waves where there aren't any.
I don't think your wife-to-be is at ALL intere... (read in full...)
What are the protocols about posting and commenting on the pictures of others on social media? Or am I just being crassly controlling?
Q. I am coming to social media rather late in life and am confused by the protocols that seem to liberally litter posts with kisses and hearts. So when my girlfriend posts a pic of an event she attended where I wasn't present and someone responds...
A. 20 February 2017: I think you need to NOT read too much into Facebook comments. Honestly? I think you are WAY overthinking the comment and you need to not try and micromanage your GF or her social media.
What is so bad in her getting a compliment? And since wh... (read in full...)
Is it true that men simply don't want to see my body type, over weight but not huge, or is my body type just boring to them?
Q. My bf looks at porn with the women who are much thinner than me and also those who are extremely overweight . I am overweight but not huge like the bbw porn he likes and he says he doesn't have any porn of women like me because it's hard to find ...
A. 20 February 2017: Even the women in porn don't LOOK like what you "see" in the porn. Camera angles, make up, "outfits", lighting can make ANYONE - SERIOUSLY anyone look like someone else.
So no, I don't think YOU have a body type NO man finds attractive.
But you... (read in full...)
Should I get back into the dating world, before my youth fades?
Q. Dear Cupid,I been single for almost going on 16 years. I stopped dating at the age of 32-33. I'm 45 now. My heart has been hurt so bad that I'm in fear of dating again I don't want a repeat of my pass so I just allow my youth to fade away. I ju...
A. 20 February 2017: Are you even sure you WANT to date?
I mean we have ALL had some crappy dating experiences in out lives, but most of us move past it and try again.
As much as it sucks being hurt is part of life. There is no way to live in a glass bubble not... (read in full...)
Does she still want this wedding?
Q. Just a quick question? Me and my partner are due to be getting married in october this year not a big expencive one but one we can offord we have put deposits down for most things but now all of a sudden shes saying we cant offord the wedding so i ...
A. 20 February 2017: Sit her down. Tell her you two need to decide NOW if you are to postpone, not marry or go ahead. There might still be 7 months til the original wedding plans BUT if she is not excited about it, but already has cold feet I don't think that will ... (read in full...)
Did I just get friend-zoned?
Q. So ive been talking to this girl , she Has trust issues from her past relationship she told me but before We texted each other goodnight she told me this Thanks for being the bestest friend.. did I just get friendzoned ??...
A. 20 February 2017: Do you two live in geographically different areas?
If so, she is trying to set boundaries - as in all she wants is friendship. Which I suppose you can call "friend-zoned".
However, if you two have BARELY started talking again I wouldn't be so s... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and violated that he's been snooping on me on my phone! There's no reason for him to do this!
Q. I'm so angry as I write this post and a little confused. I was talking to my boyfriend of 9 years the other day and he asked me about something that happened to one of my friends that I could of swore I never told him, I brushed it off thinking...
A. 20 February 2017: First, I'm sorry I would feel violated too!
Secondly, without telling him CHANGE ALL your passwords.
HE violated your trust by snooping, it's IRRELEVANT that you had given each other your passwords. THAT does not GIVE him the right to go thro... (read in full...)
Did I just get friend-zoned?
Q. So ive been talking to this girl , she Has trust issues from her past relationship she told me but before We texted each other goodnight she told me this Thanks for being the bestest friend.. did I just get friendzoned ??...
A. 20 February 2017: Could be that she is TRYING to convey that she isn't interested in MORE than friendship with you. It can also be that she wanted to simply thank you for "whatever".
You two have "just" been talking so I'm guess you haven't met or been on any date... (read in full...)
How should you say that you're rich, on Tinder?
Q. I'm not rich, but if a guy were rich, what would be the best way for him to say that he's (seriously) rich on something like Tinder?...
A. 19 February 2017: Um, you (or the rich guy) should perhaps leave that out. UNLESS this "rich guy" wants people to come after him for his money.
And I don't think a "rich guy" would need to use a "hook-up" app like Tindr.
If he is just looking to hook up, money w... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm never going to be enough for him. Is my husband gay or just into weird stuff ?
Q. My husband of 12 years has been web camping girls for 8 years about anal play, pegging and being dominated. I just found out and have taking it hard. He has even had advertisements for meeting girls. He says it because he didn't think I would lo...
A. 18 February 2017: I think it's a very uneven relationship, at least sexually.
How is it OK for him to be webcamming and advertise to meet up with other people? How is that OK in a marriage? His excuse was he hid it because you wouldn't like it? And is THAT why you ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend touching me this way?
Q. I have a friend whom I know from 2 months and we became close in a very short while... From few weeks he is touching my sides, hips and breast. What does this mean? ...
A. 18 February 2017: What does it mean?
That he is NOT a friend and NOT being respectful.
You have only known him 2 months so he isn't a REALLY good friend (and even if he was he shouldn't be touching you like this).
He is testing YOUR boundaries. GROPING you.... (read in full...)
Should I completely cut him off and just mend my broken heart?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 2 months in a sort-of FWB situaton. We never specifically defined it as FWB, but I did say I wasn't looking for anything serious...Unfortunately I have started to catch feelings for him and it was eating me up ...
A. 18 February 2017: OH EDIT!
I wrote:
A GOOD and deep friendship takes TEARS to build and doesn't involve sex.
Should have been:
A GOOD and deep friendship takes YEARS to build and doesn't involve sex.
LOL... (read in full...)
Should I completely cut him off and just mend my broken heart?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 2 months in a sort-of FWB situaton. We never specifically defined it as FWB, but I did say I wasn't looking for anything serious...Unfortunately I have started to catch feelings for him and it was eating me up ...
A. 18 February 2017: It isn't a good idea to continue and you aren't friends either - you were f-buddies who were friendly.
My guess is he wants to stay friends, so he MIGHT be able to get more sex here and there.
People don't become GOOD friends after knowing ea... (read in full...)
Is he trying to convey something by winking at me?
Q. Hello there, My co-worker and I were very good friends at work. We had never gone out together, I felt some subtle hints from him. Then we got into major conflicts, he came by to apologize afterward. After that, I backed off and just be another ...
A. 18 February 2017: He is trying to show you that all is forgotten and good with you two, I think.
And I think you did WISELY in deciding to keep it professional and polite.
He might have other ideas or he wants the "friendship banter" you two had before the confl... (read in full...)
How do I cope with a gambling addicted boyfriend?
Q. How do I cope with a gambling addicted boyfriend? My partner of 2 years started gambling a lot about 2/3 months into the relationship. Ive tried my hardest to support and understand this problem ive offered to go to counciling with him or pointed ...
A. 18 February 2017: What can you do?
YOU can accept that THIS is NOT your issue. Either he wants to "fix" it and work on it himself or he doesn't.
If he does, TALK to his therapist on how YOU can help.
If he doesn't want help and seeks help there REALLY isn't ... (read in full...)
Should I really start planning a future with him?
Q. Hello! My boyfriend and I are both 20 and met at his hometown in Denmark in October before we took the relationship to long distance. So far he was my first everything-my first kiss, my first boyfriend, and my first time having sex (i don't regret ...
A. 18 February 2017: I don't think there is anything wrong in looking at the big picture when you are in an LDR but it's ONLY been 4 months. Before you go totally overboard, I'd see what can be done with saving up for visits both ways, you back to Denmark and him to the ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can remedy this situation? He's avoiding spending time alone with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together all last spring 2016 and part of the summer, but we had known each other much longer then that and I am very close to his oldest son since he goes to school with my daughter and is alway over my house. It was his son ...
A. 18 February 2017: Is this how you see your future life? With a guy who doesn't WANT to spend time alone with you nor be intimate with you?
He might not do it on purpose, but he is making YOU feel like you are no longer "good enough" YET he isn't letting you go s... (read in full...)
Help, he dismisses my feelings of rejection and that he's being disloyal!
Q. I've been with my partner for 3 years now I'm 23 he's 28. We have a 19 month old daughter and lived together almost the whole relationship. Hes never gave me one single compliment but I've got over it thinking he's just not that type of person. But ...
A. 18 February 2017: I think the relationship is over.He has checked out and is NOT making an effort, seems like he is just waiting for you to kick him to the curb.
Are you the one who pays for everything? And how long has he not been working?
Why are you trying t... (read in full...)
How do I respond when friends query me on this? She uses a picture of herself with my BF as her profile picture on social media
Q. Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I am currently contemplating getting back into a relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years. We split for 3 years, and he began dating someone else. They recently had a child together, but are not in a relatio...
A. 17 February 2017: It's Facebook, seriously...
Tell the friend who ASKED you about it, that you DO NOT know why. Maybe because they had a child together. But that SHE (your friend) can ASK the girl or your ex-bf about it. It's NOT like you have ANY control over thi... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling so very angry with my ex boyfriend? ?
Q. Hi , I used to be in a relationship with this guy , we started off as being friends he was all pleasant he even sat alone with me to have lunch . But then things started to change, we both developed romantic feelings for each other, we both fel...
A. 17 February 2017: Honey, your biggest mistake here was (and I will quote you)
" I knew that he was dodgy but I wanted to change him "
You knew he was dodgy. I know that you are still very young, but this "relationship" was a good lesson for you and I will tell ... (read in full...)
If he misses his ex does that mean his affection for me was fake?
Q. Seeing him for 3 months. He told me he loved me 3 separate times when drunk, to which I didn't respond. He came over to my place all the time, he said he wanted to meet my parents. Then the last time he told me he loved me, the next day he just sto...
A. 16 February 2017: You might have been his rebound. Dating you was his way of trying to get over her, except he didn't get over her.
He sounds like a twat-waffle. I mean pouring a beer over your head for kissing another guy's cheek? But it was OK for him to flirt wi... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag if a woman has been 3 or 4 times and says all the marriages were abusive?
Q. well asking a question, if a woman, a man started dating, tells you they been married three or four times, is that a big red flag, my own opinion is that they all couldn't be bad,one or two maybe,an if they say all three men were abusive ...
A. 16 February 2017: I think it's VERY common for a woman who has been in abusive relationship to continue that cycle. NOT because she WANTS to be abused, but this is twofold - she ATTRACTS abusive men (they see an easy target for them) and she is (like, ... (read in full...)
My LDR is in limbo. What should I do?
Q. I'm writing this to gain clarity and ask for help on a seemingly complex situation that I find myself in. Last February I met a guy through common friends during a little party. We never really talked much. But a week later he contacted me on faceb...
A. 16 February 2017: Yes, OP it is time.
Not to toughen up, but to put yourself first. And if YOU want a GOOD and healthy relationship HE isn't it. On paper, he might be "perfect" for you, but you know better.
Like Auntie Cindy mentioned, he let you down at LEAS... (read in full...)
I like older guys. He was respectful to me. But then his decision to ejaculate on my face bothered me. Were his actions out of line?
Q. I'm attracted to older men and that's what I normally date. I met this guy recently. He's 34. After exchanging texts for a while, we went out. It went really well. We had great conversation. There was chemistry between us. It was great all around. I ...
A. 16 February 2017: To me, it's such a PORNY move. But he might have thought it was "sexy" and he might NOT have meant any disrespect by it. MY take is, however, that a guy OUGHT to ASK if it's OK before doing it. Because there are as many women who DOESN'T like it, as ... (read in full...)
My LDR is in limbo. What should I do?
Q. I'm writing this to gain clarity and ask for help on a seemingly complex situation that I find myself in. Last February I met a guy through common friends during a little party. We never really talked much. But a week later he contacted me on faceb...
A. 16 February 2017: OP, you already know what's going on.
This is a guy who LOVES to waste OTHER people's time for his own gain. And he has been wasting YOUR time for the last year. ONLY really doing a "little" effort when you bring it up but quickly goes back to ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 15 February 2017: Ok, I can see that your husband is VERY good with his words and making it seem like an everyday thing. But it's NOT an everyday thing for a husband to suggest that his wife becomes a "sex surrogate" for a friend who isn't getting any at home.
... (read in full...)
Two years and I should be over the treatment at my last workplace!
Q. It's been nearly 2 years since I left my precious work place. This workplace was awful. I was treated horribly by both management and staff. I was talked about behind my back, was given almost all the workload and I was even called 'their bitch' a...
A. 15 February 2017: Well, OP when we go through a traumatic experience it sticks with us for a LONG time. And the way you were treated WERE a traumatic experience for you.
Is it, however, time to move on? I'd say it is - but this is YOUR life, so you do it at YOUR ... (read in full...)
Bummed out and annoyed at her lack of understanding!
Q. Hello! It was valentines day yesterday as most of you know! My Gf and I have been together for two years now and things have been well. Like most couples, we've had our ups and downs but we still love each other very much. I am curren...
A. 15 February 2017: I'm 100% with Auntie Anonymous 123,
Same school of thought here. LOVE and showing LOVE & affections are NOT just for Feb. 14th it's a 365 event thing. It's in the little things.
I know you two will be meeting up soon but that doesn't mean you... (read in full...)
He suggested we have a meal together. Do you think it's a date?
Q. My male friend and I were supposed to just be going out for drinks this Friday night, but he asked me if I wanted to go out for a meal before that too. Do you think it's a date? He hasn't said whether it is or not. I feel nervous about havin...
A. 15 February 2017: Ask him?
I would PRESUME it's NOT a date. Him putting his arm around you and even the wink doesn't mean anything MORE than him trying to make you feel comfortable, he probably noticed and sensed you were a little nervous. It's what SOME people d... (read in full...)
Disappointed he couldn't see me Valentine's day. Am I being selfish? Should I try and make things work?
Q. I'm 38 and have been dating a guy who is 38 as well. Our first date was Nov 5th last year and we've seen each other every weekend since then and sometimes during the week. He is part of a culture that does not honour pagan holidays...and I am fine ...
A. 15 February 2017: I think you are settling for this guy even though he doesn't fulfill YOUR needs. He fulfills SOME of them, just enough to keep you hanging on but nothing further.
You are NOT sexually fulfilled, yet you do your best to give HIM what he wants/ne... (read in full...)
Would I be doing myself a favour to just tell him how I feel?
Q. When should you tell someone how you feel? A friend and work colleague kissed me a while ago and told me had feelings for me but it all went wrong as he had an ex in the same work place and didn't want to make things awkward. I have been trying...
A. 15 February 2017: I think you are STILL wasting your time.
The guy told you he doesn't want to date in the workplace - which means.... he doesn't WANT to date you or have anything serious with you. Saying he likes you doesn't mean he wants to BE with you.
... (read in full...)
I am a transgender man, dating a woman but I prefer sex with men.
Q. I am a transgender man and I have been dating a very respectful, understanding woman for a few months now. We have reached the stage where she wants to define our relationship and move forward together, though I feel conflicted on how to progress or ...
A. 15 February 2017: I think you should be honest with the woman you are currently dating.
IF you do NOT want sex with women I honestly don't think you should be dating them because the NORM is for MOST women (and men) to want sex in a relationship. So you would on... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to give his friend a hand job!
Q. my husband has been trying to talk me into giving his best friend a mercy hand job , Because his wife has some kind of a medical problem ? His friend has been so sad ever since his wife has cut him off . I am seriously considering doing it for him ...
A. 15 February 2017: Pfffst, your husband can give his friend a handjob or even better... the FRIEND has 2 hands right? So HE can take care of business himself! And IF this friend is having problems with his wife - HE NEEDS to be a GROWN ASS man and sort it out or WALK ... (read in full...)
It's been impossible to move on from my ex. He's in a relationship now, yet is concurrently sending me texts. What should I do?
Q. im in need of advice, I am being confused with random contact from my ex. my ex and I have been on and off for years. Four to five months ago he disappeared to date someone else, broke my heart. i was always the one wanted to get back together an...
A. 14 February 2017: Oh yes, like N 91 said - HE wants to have you as the fallback girl if this new one doesn't work out. He knows you will take his crap.
An on/off relationship isn't a good thing. If people need to take "breaks" from their relationship they either a... (read in full...)
Why did she block then unblock me?
Q. I was friend to girl , i call and propose to that girl in voice call , but she told she was busy and cut off my phone.. then again i propose to that girl in whatsapp message in the same day , but then she block after 2 hour she unblocked me , ...
A. 14 February 2017: Stop proposing over an app or phone. If you are SERIOUS about offering marriage, be classy and do it in person. And follow the etiquettes of your culture.
I don't know what customs you normally have in your country but proposing over WhatsApp... (read in full...)
Crazy obsessed women wants my man!
Q. This lady had sex with my bf. They now share a kid together. She is obsessive over my bf. She is 10-11 years older than us. Recently she has stalked our Instagram a. But she blocked us but only unblocked my bf. I know she still wants my man. But I'm ...
A. 14 February 2017: You really can't do anything and unfortunately, your BF can't cut the contact as they share a child. THIS woman will be in your LIVES as long as you DATE him (or be with him). Those are the facts.
Stalking Instagram/Social Media in apparent... (read in full...)
My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: I have to say I agree with Cindy.
2 years is PLENTY of time to get fit IF that was the only reason to not having met up. And it would ALSO be plenty of time to SAVE up money for traveling.
The thing with an LDR, they don't work if you both don'... (read in full...)
Should I just enjoy our FWB relationship as it is?
Q. I got out of an 8 year relationship last year, and recently I signed up for tinder with the intent of finding a FWB. I went on dates with a few guys, but the first guy I hit it off with so well, I couldn't bring myself to pursue any of the other...
A. 14 February 2017: You really don't HAVE anything to lose by telling him that you have caught feelings and might want more.
Why? Because you will KNOw where YOU stand and where HE stands.
And honestly? I don't think that a guy is showing respect by being totally... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps pics of hot women on his phone and it bothers me
Q. My bf keeps my photos on his phone and he also had lots of pictures of women he collects on there like models , some porn stars and women he finds hot. It makes me feel so horrible being just one of so many , like how am I even special when so many ...
A. 14 February 2017: What is wrong with you?
I'd say nothing really... You might, however, put a LOT more into these pictures than he does. For him, it's jerking off fodder - you are not. I think some men prefer an anonymous picture over one of their GF for spank ba... (read in full...)
Why does he now decide he wants to do this?
Q. I've been having a fwb relationship with this guy for a few months now. My partner and I have been having unprotected sex for the last couple times we had sex. Today he decided to cum inside me. What does this mean? Is he starting to have feelings ...
A. 14 February 2017: Well, OP THAT is stupid!
Are you hoping to get pregnant to "get" him to be in a relationship with you? Or are you trying on purpose to expose yourself to as many STD's as possible?
Why is he doing it? Because YOU are letting him. If HE isn't... (read in full...)
My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.
Q. I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...
A. 14 February 2017: 2 years and never met? I'm thinking catfish.
And I agree with FA, have you done ANY kind of background check on him? If not, do it. It's worth the $20-30 and the time it takes to look him up on as many social websites as you can. Not sure if Spoke... (read in full...)
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