I prefer staying home to attending his family gatherings! Is this going to be a problem?
Q. Dear all, I am married to a wonderful guy and yet I've always been a bit of a loner. We always joke that we love being loners together. He comes from a large happy family and they meet every now and then for a huge meal. I have no issues with his ...
A. 6 April 2017: I totally understand where you are coming from but you should SUCK it up and go. You will have PLENTY of days where you can putter around at home alone.
And eating a salad while they eat greasy foods is OK. You could even bring your own food if ... (read in full...)
Does this look like a green light?
Q. There is this man I have had feelings for the past six months. I know I am only infatuated with him, but I can't explain my feelings for him. They are strong and won't go away. I have a feeling he likes me, but I'm not exactly sure. If I post a ...
A. 6 April 2017: It does sound like he likes you. However, hold off on sex till you have HAD a talk about being in a relationship WITH each other that is exclusive.
Why do I say that? Because he KNOWS you are infatuated with him. If he IS looking for a relation... (read in full...)
He says he's not quite ready for a relationship. Am I over-thinking this situation?
Q. I've know a boy for 1 year and we were close talking everyday we could, he lives 6 hours away from me and is in the army, recently he's moved based and is less than 1 hour away from me. Whilst talking to him I slowly started falling in love, wh...
A. 4 April 2017: You are not listening to what he is saying. HE IS NOT READY for a relationship. THAT is it.
No matter how great it felt to BE with him in person, HE is not ready NOR is he looking to date anyone - INCLUDING you.
So if YOU want a relationship, ... (read in full...)
I feel lonely in this relationship! Should I accept this is as good as it gets with him?
Q. I have been dating a divorced dad with joint custody of two younger teen children I get on great with, for 9 months. He works away three days a week and we only have two free week ends a month. I also see him on a week night. He puts a lot into his ...
A. 4 April 2017: He sounds like a REALLY good dad but maybe NOT the best partner for you.
He HAS his priorities straight, though - kids and work first then fun and dating. So that leaves you in category 3-4, maybe lower.
If you feel you are lonely and not b... (read in full...)
Are there any signs that he still loves me? I caught him cheating
Q. i recently broke with my ex. he was having an affair with another girl and when i asked he denied it. we broke up and he said he is not a suitable guy for me and my family. but we still do video calls and talk for the whole night. actually we talk ...
A. 4 April 2017: I agree if you are broken up CUT the contact and don't "let" him watch you sleep that is just ... creepy for an ex to do.
YOU need to accept he cheated on you and that CHEATING is not right for you. So wish him well and CUT him off.
That me... (read in full...)
Second time I've caught my b/f texting other girls! Do I end things?
Q. I caught my boyfriend messaging other girls twice on Facebook and I don't know what to do. The first time was last summer when I went on holiday. I coincidentally met a girl (seriously small country, everyone pretty much knows each other) who ...
A. 4 April 2017: You think he WOULD delete his Facebook? You sure he wouldn't just make another one with a fake name or nickname? Or he will download a chat app and look for girls there on Tindr or Snapchat or whatever he can get his hands on.
He has CONTACTE... (read in full...)
How do I end things without hurting him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 45 year old woman married for 18 years . The marriage has been more of a business relation tand there has been no sex or romance...there were a lot of family issues....i never thought of a divorce since i had basically accepted...
A. 4 April 2017: I think YOU will hurt more than him but you NEED to do this. Don't have LONG drawn out conversations as to WHY you need to end it, just wish him well, tell him it's OVER and then BLOCK and delete ALL contact info.
If he shows up at your work or ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my b/f for a break due to exams and him being in another country?
Q. Hi there everyone, i have a little dilemma that i don't really know how to deal with. I have a bf for about 3 years now and well recently, things have been hard on us with me being away and stressing out over exams. For some reason, we don't...
A. 4 April 2017: IF you feel you need to TAKE a break from your relationship then something IN the relationship is not working. I think he is being UNREALISTIC with the amount of contact you have time for on top of your school work. BUT where there is a WILL there ... (read in full...)
Is there really such a thing as being at different stages in life?
Q. I never see ages gaps as a problem but now I'm doubting that maybe we are at different stages of our life. I took some time to realise university is what I wanted and when I started my first year my partner had completed his and is 4 years ahead on ...
A. 4 April 2017: I'm with N91, DEFINITELY.
And I can say that because I'm on my late 40's so I have BEEN through a few of them already.
I had a LOT of male friends in my preteens, teens and 20's - the neighborhood I lived it was mostly boys my age. I have been... (read in full...)
Want a new relationship but having children is out of the question am I wrong or not?
Q. Dear Cupid,I have been a single parent all of my children's life now they are fully grown I want a relationship but Im hoping that he doesn't want children that part of my life is history.Am I being selfish for this or not. Help...
A. 4 April 2017: I think at your age you are definitely within your "rights" to say I'm done having and raising any more children. Whether you have had children or not even regardless of age if you DO NOT want kids, that is your choice and a perfectly OK choice.
... (read in full...)
Married man says he's in a loveless marriage and likes me insanely but won't get in touch with me till I contact him
Q. Good day dear aunts and uncles. I met a charming man on a conference I was heading. We exchanged few words and couldn't stop looking at each other. 2 months later I bumped into him on another business venture and we felt the connection. Then we ...
A. 3 April 2017: Oh boo hoo - loveless marriage and only staying for the kids.. HOW trite~! This is 2017, people divorce at the drop of a hat and they CERTAINLY don't feel obligated to stay for their kids either.
Like Anonymous 123 said, his story sounds l... (read in full...)
Why are those women items still laying around, is he lying?
Q. Hi, So The times that I have gone to my boyfriends apartment, I have seen around 3 or 4 woman stuff laying around, on the bathroom, I saw a black eyeliner, closed kotex pads, thrown in a corner of the bathroom, there was also like two shopping bags ...
A. 2 April 2017: "Why are those women items still laying around?"
Because your BF is a total SLOB! For crying out loud he hasn't cleaned his place in 3 years? GROSS!
Since it's more or less the SAME thing laying around I don't think there is another woman in... (read in full...)
Why did this older woman have a thing for the guy I'm dating?
Q. Recently I've gotten together with someone my age.(24) I've known him for since he was 14 he lived down the street. We were at a bar andhis friend told me that when he was 17 he was fucking this woman when she was 32 years old. (She was in the same ...
A. 2 April 2017: While I find it a bit predatory of her as well (let's face it if your BF had been a young woman of 17 and the older person having sex with her was a guy - most would find it predatory and maybe a little gross). YOUR Bf still made the choice to have ... (read in full...)
Is my LDR guy taking me for granted? Or is he cheating on me?
Q. Hey, Aunts! I'm in a LDR with my guy for some months now. I understand it's difficult cause we don't get time together like we used to before. Nevertheless, communication was indeed great in our relationship. Since the last month, I've been ob...
A. 2 April 2017: Pull back, see if HE will start to initiate contact more in the next month. LEAVE it to HIM to make contact.
And IF he does, good if he doesn't then meeting up might NOT be the best thing. Especially if he expects physical intimacy with you when... (read in full...)
What gives here? Does he want a baby or not?
Q. A few months ago my boyfriend and I decided we were ready to have a baby, so I went off my birth control so we could start trying. The first night we attempted, he pulled out. He apologized and said he was just nervous. I said I understood. Well...
A. 2 April 2017: He is not ready. Go back on birth control and tell him it's OK to wait a while with the baby making.
I think you have to consider a few things.
1. if he is not REALLY wanting a kid right now, would he then stick around IF you got pregnant?
... (read in full...)
We met online. He didn't ask my phone number. Was he not really interested in me?
Q. I met with this guy on the dating website. We had alot of things in common. After a week, we decided to meet up. He asked my phone number so he can send me the direction of the restaurant. I did not want to write my number on the dating website and ...
A. 2 April 2017: I think he didn't ask for your number because you had declined giving it once (for safety reasons) - maybe he didn't want to get shot down on the date too?
While I think it makes sense to be cautious handing out your number, you also need to ... (read in full...)
I feel no connection with the available guy. Yet the married guy and I do have a connection. What to do?
Q. I am trying to figure out love and what it means and why life gives me certain people when I ask for love. I don't get it. I feel I'm ready for true love but nothing is happening. I admire my coworker who I look forward to seeing everyday, who pu...
A. 2 April 2017: 1. NEVER settle for a married guy. It's that simple.
2. NEVER settle for a guy JUST because HE likes you. If he doesn't make you excited to see him, gives you butterflies and you enjoy his company, SKIP him.
3. DON'T mix work with dating. You... (read in full...)
We met online. He didn't ask my phone number. Was he not really interested in me?
Q. I met with this guy on the dating website. We had alot of things in common. After a week, we decided to meet up. He asked my phone number so he can send me the direction of the restaurant. I did not want to write my number on the dating website and ...
A. 1 April 2017: I'd give a few days. It might BE that he thinks he has to wait 3 days to contact you (like some dating books suggest) and it might be he wasn't interested after all.
What I don't get... is WHY didn't you give him your number when you met? If ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel rejected. Can anyone offer me some perspective on this situation?
Q. Hello aunts. I would really appreciate some advice please. I have been in a relationship for seven months now, and we see each other weekly as we live a little way from each other. In the main we are good together. There is lots of contact betwe...
A. 1 April 2017: You are you and HE is who HE is. You are touchy feely, HE is not.
It has nothing to do with REJECTING you, it's just who he is.
If that doesn't REALLY work for you, I'd consider ending it and finding someone who 1. lives closer so you can spend... (read in full...)
What should I do? Should I let him go? 2
Q. I have been talking to this guy for over a month now and now has been going downhill from there. There will be days where he treats me like his girlfriend and call me "his beautiful" and tells me to stop worrying about him, then there are other da...
A. 1 April 2017: Eh, block him and move on.
He can't even have a semi-grown up conversation with you and it seems like you REALLY don't share much in common.
It's not being a QUITTER when you realize there just isn't anything here "worth" building on. It'... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that on our break I paid for sex?
Q. Hi, my and my gf of 5 years have sort of had a bit of distance come between us, on my end mainly. She was always so insecure and sort of clingy and although I loved her it chipped away at me and I felt I needed space. We took space and things were ...
A. 31 March 2017: Do you really think OP, that getting back together is a good idea?
There usually IS a good reason people break up or "take breaks" from a relationship - it;s because it's NOT working.
You running off and having sex with a prostitute (of a... (read in full...)
My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi, just looking for some advice please My partners family are ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do. Background info- we've been together 2 years, live together (against their wishes). I'm 25 and he's 26. I have never given ...
A. 31 March 2017: You have been together for 2 years and it has not changed at all. They don't WANT him with you if they are devout or even just "traditional" Muslims, then he technical can't "date" anyone. It's marriage or nothing.
They for whatever reason "... (read in full...)
I'm ok with my sexless relationship but my friends think it's weird
Q. Hi there , I have been with my partner a year and a half yet in all that time we have only had sex 10 times we cuddle kiss hold hands but nothing more he was honest from the start and said he wasn't very sexual, this is ok with me however my friends ...
A. 31 March 2017: If you and YOUR partner are good with a relationship without sex then you are GOOD with that. Your friends might NOT be GOOD with it but THEY are not you and NOT dating this guy.
I do agree with Youcannotbeserious - why discuss it if you are h... (read in full...)
I'm very happy in my relationship but why do I suddenly want to contact my abusive ex to tell him how awful he was to me?
Q. When I was 16-18 I dated an emotionally and physically abusive man who was a little older than me. My first time was with him and it wasn't something I wanted, but we were somehow together for a couple years. When it ended, it didn't properly end. . ...
A. 31 March 2017: I think you are starting to process what happened on another level. For years you were scared, worried, intimidated, stressed etc. etc. NOW you have gotten to the ANGRY part. Which I think is good.
However, you DO NOT need to contact him to go th... (read in full...)
If he didn't care about anything with me, why would he stop talking to me?
Q. This one is complicated. I've had a thing for one of my guy friends for almost three years. I admitted my feelings to him before heading out of town to visit family at Christmas. He said he was flattered but into someone else. I understood and didn...
A. 31 March 2017: Maybe he was looking for a way to end it with you where HE didn't look like the bad guy.
WHY you think YOU did something wrong is a little beyond me. The guy (Mr. Complicated) USED you. He USED the fact that you had feelings for him to get sex,... (read in full...)
My ex said he wanted us to be together. A week later he said he didn't mean it like that. I'm angry and confused.
Q. He’s 28, I’m 27. We were together 4 years and he left me 6 months ago. He's now in a relationship an 18 year old. He’s kept in touch with me all the time since our break up (always him initiating). Last week he told me he misses me and that he k...
A. 30 March 2017: What made him say it?
To KEEP you around. To PREVENT you from moving on like HE has with a new partner.
He doesn't "want" to BE with you but he also doesn't want YOU t obe with anyone else. It's a totally SELFISH mindset and I would advise you... (read in full...)
He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!
Q. Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...
A. 30 March 2017: OP, Spend a $15-20 on a background check on this guy pronto.
Secondly... No, a secret marriage sounds like a REALLY dodgy and shady thing to propose. Alarm bells should go off here.
You have only dated 7 months, so if he feels the 14-year-old ... (read in full...)
My wife is still trying to contact the guy she had an affair with
Q. What is going on with my wife? She had an affair with another guy that we both know, and I only found out about it after more than a year and a half..before the start of her affair we argued and fought alot ,but at one point for no apparent reason ...
A. 30 March 2017: Because she doesn't WANT to get him out of her head and life?
Have you two worked through whatever issues that cause all this fighting? And have you two worked through the affair part?
And let's say she DOES contact him (trying to contact means... (read in full...)
We still see each other and its just like before, but without the romance. Is there any hope for us?
Q. Hi everyone, I've never written on here before but I kind of have ran out of options. A little over two months ago, I was placed in an art class at my high school. I noticed a guy in the class who I had never seen before in school, he was very att...
A. 30 March 2017: You can't make a relationship work ALL by yourself and HE isn't interested in a relationship right now.
He has been pretty honest about that. He knows you expect more, expect to be a higher priority etc. but he CAN'T give that to you. Now, per... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend have commitment issues? He won't change his address
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year, but he hasn't changed his address with the post office. He is still picking up mail at his parents house. We moved in together June 2016. Last weekend I mentioned it and he said, "t...
A. 30 March 2017: Have there been arguments lately? Or does he reason to feel this way?
I'd say it's not really about commitment - he LIVES with you and (I presume) help with bills, the child and chores.
Either he was SORT of joking or he was serious about fe... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage due to my wife's depression and now menopause. What do I do?
Q. My wife had 10 months off work with work related depression now the menopause has struck We have not had sex for nearly 2 years and even sleep in different rooms at times as she is in bed by 9pm most nights due to the medication. I am now becoming ...
A. 29 March 2017: I'm in the same boat as you. Except it's my husband who can't manage intercourse due to meds and severe migraines.
We STILL find OTHER ways to be intimate. Yes, sex is pretty much off the table and has been for 3 1/2 years. We make it work. Do... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for not wanting to have sex with her because she has herpes?
Q. I have a friend of around two years whom I am very close to, we were considering a relationship but due to the distance between us and financial difficulties on both ends we decided to just stay as friends for the foreseeable future. Despite t...
A. 29 March 2017: I agree with Chigirl,
Just tell her you don't want to add sex to the mix as you value the friendship BUT that also mean absolutely no "naughty pics dirty talk cyber sex" going on.
I wouldn't want to be with a person who is THAT careless about t... (read in full...)
I'm becoming close with my best friend's hubby's best friend! Is there something there or is this wrecking a friendship?
Q. I've becomever very close with my best friends hubbys bestfriend. We hang out all the time and he stays at my house most nights or I'm at his.(unfortunate event car accident and he's got to vehicle)people think we are dating but we are "just ...
A. 29 March 2017: Stick to being friends. IF he ONLY flirts and wants to make out when drunk he isn't really wanting more with you than friendship.
Just keep sex and romantic notions out it (for you own sake).
... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 29 March 2017: OP, could be he simply wasn't ready to date yet?
I think when someone rather throw in the towel then figure out if it CAN work, it's because they don't see a LONGTERM thing working.
As far as pushing for commitment - I think it's fair to not... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to meet up with my ex when I'm confused about my own emotions?
Q. Ok so I'm completely single, and have been for about a year. My ex recently contacted me and wanted to meet up sometime. We broke up on good terms and we're not necessarily friends but I'm not sure of what his intentions are. I still really care ...
A. 29 March 2017: Since there is a new guy in the picture I would not meet up with an ex-partner. It just complicates matters. And... it's not fair on the new guy either. It's like divided emotions.
Generally, I don't think being friends with an ex-partner is alway... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment-phobe? Is there still a chance?
Q. Hello! I'm a 39 yr old female who was dating a 38year old male. We dated for four and a half months and he broke up with me almost a week ago. I was on the verge of suggesting we take a break but he beat me to the punch. Sex was enjoyable ex...
A. 29 March 2017: OP,
You stuck it out because you thought maybe it will get better (like the sex part) but YOU weren't totally into the relationship either otherwise, you wouldn't have been considering a break.
HE just beat you to it.
SO, really NEITHER of... (read in full...)
Should I try online dating?
Q. As a male virgin who's never been on a date, never kissed a girl, and never had a girlfriend, I've been thinking a lot lately about trying online dating. I've never been competent at approaching women, it always results in rejection. In the pa...
A. 28 March 2017: I think you should work on YOU before trying dating. Get to a COMFORTABLE you. Not saying you have to LOSE a lot of weight or give yourself a makeover.
The way to attract ANYONE is to be attractive (not necessarily in looks but be interest... (read in full...)
Was I being used, by her ?
Q. I was dating a girl for 5 weeks – I felt there was something special there and every time we met there was always at least one point where we both laughed so hard we were crying. We even had cute pet names for each other (I called her peach). ...
A. 28 March 2017: I would let her go, to be honest.
If she was "iffy" about dating someone at work from the get go then it's not a good idea to pursue it.
And... I think if she was as KEEN on you, as you were/are on her - she wouldn't have ended it. I don't thin... (read in full...)
I ratted out my friends for cheating. Did I do the wrong thing?
Q. I'm in college and recently we had our finals exam for calculus, I studied my absolute hardest and I know I still get didn't enough right answers to pass, after the exam I find out that some of my classmates were using a facebook group chat to share ...
A. 28 March 2017: I think you did the right thing, but for the wrong reason. You lashed out because you failed while they passed by cheating.
And I don't blame you.
Maybe the teacher needs to be less lack about what tech student are allowed to use for exams. A... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's insecurity is chipping away at our relationship
Q. So I am having some serious issues in my relationship and I don't know how to deal with them. I am coming here for some much needed perspective. To start, I'm a gay female. 33 years old. My girlfriend is 27. We have what I would normally conside...
A. 28 March 2017: I'd end it.
I get that you care for her and she makes you feel needed, but she is VERY manipulative and honestly childish. I agree with Ruby that she does sound like some of her issues could stem from a personality disorder, which is not an excus... (read in full...)
I like him but he doesn't stimulate me. Should I try again?
Q. Hi, I am under a lot of pressure by parents to get married, culturally, I'm old, 30. And my parents really care about whay others think. Anyways, I met a guy online. Sweet, untrustworthy guy, which is hard to find in a world full of untrustw...
A. 28 March 2017: He isn't for you. And he is "making" you into a person you won't like if you keep seeing him. The whole " he is so easy to control" is not really a "Bad" trait in him but IN YOU because YOU are the one doing it. He ANNOYS you. IMAGINE being married ... (read in full...)
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