Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 11 October 2017: OP, working on self-improvement is GOOD. Doesn't make you weaker or more like a doormat.
Being kinder and nicer doesn't mean you can set boundaries or that you should let people walk all over you.
One of the KINDEST people I know is a friend... (read in full...)
I overshared family information about my heritage with a professor and am now feeling very anxious
Q. I overshared information a week ago with my university tutor and have had severe anxiety since! I was showing my tutor some of my work for the class which included a reference to Aboriginal Australians. I then blurted out that my father is ...
A. 11 October 2017: Given the history and the treatment of Aboriginals in Australia, I don't blame you for feeling ambiguous. Your father didn't tell you for a reason as well. Probably to make like "easier" for you as a kid.
However, WHO you are, have roots in your ... (read in full...)
The man I am dating doesn't believe in kissing and affection
Q. I am seeing a guy who when I asked says he doesn’t do kissing and affection. I was widowed 9 years ago and this is the first since. I really like this guy but not sure about not kissing although the sex is great. I told him I kind of fell ...
A. 11 October 2017: If kissing and affection is part of YOUR needs (and it sounds that way to me) then this guy is NOT the right man for you.
This is who he is. He doesn't like/enjoy kissing and he doesn't like showing affection (maybe because he doesn't feel it ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...
A. 11 October 2017: How can he go on like that, knowing its bothering me?!!!
Because what HE wants to DO is more important to him. I think it also has to do with trust. He feels you should trust him unconditionally. Which means HE is to be the "judge" whether ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he was obsessed with women
Q. Looking for some feedback, especially the guys out there, interested in your take on this. My relationship has very recently ended and was a long time coming,This man made me feel uncomfortable, disrespected, less than and so much more. The worst ...
A. 11 October 2017: Nope, I don't think you overreacted - I think his behavior is gross.
Now, MOST people with SOME social skills know to not do these kinds of things. IF he is your age (in his 50's-60's) I would definitely say he is WAY WAY too old for that kind of ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to delete his exes from facebook?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend want to delete his exes from fb? Hes sayin that they r just friends and their break up were amicable but i notice a constant interest of them on his posts and messenger and also hints and subliminal comments One of them ...
A. 11 October 2017: You know even IF he deleted them he would still be in contact, right? There is NOTHING stopping him from that. Unless you next decide that as his GF it's your "right" to go through his contact and dictate whom he can talk to and whom he can't...
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Was my colleague right to feel left out?
Q. After opinions here.. A colleague A, has recently been off work sick for 3 1/2 weeks with tthe flu, most of us knew she was off, managers and some of us knew why. Shes a good worker, like us all! No different. She returned this week. As soon as...
A. 11 October 2017: I agree with Cindy.
The is more the norm that people send flowers to someone who is in the hospital than "just" at home sick. After all... we ALL get sick here and there and there is not REALLY need to send flowers everytime someone has the snif... (read in full...)
My son's father is in jail. My 6 year old is starting to ask questions. What should I tell him?
Q. Aunties and uncles here is my question.. I have a son who is fixing to be 6. His father has been in jail since he was 2. He doesn't get out until 2020. He is in fir a 2nd sex charge. My question is pretty vague I guess.. I'm jist not sure what to ...
A. 11 October 2017: Sit him down next time and tell him, you do have a dad, his name is "insert name" (just tell him the first name) and he left when you were 2. He left to go to jail because he did a bad thing. That his dad left you with the BEST thing in the world - ... (read in full...)
I feel like I was second servings!
Q. Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...
A. 11 October 2017: OP, think about it.
You learned a lesson in what kind of a person your room-mate and friend is as well as learning that... maybe casual sex really isn't for you.
I would honestly avoid giving this "friend" too much detail about who you are inte... (read in full...)
Why do I put up with my sister in law's rubbish?
Q. Hello all, Could someone please tell me the meaning of when something is on the up and up? I am so angry right now and thank goodness I love my husband enough to put up with his family's crap albeit we do have arguments before I go out with t...
A. 10 October 2017: OP, you need to grow a thicker skin when dealing with this SIL.
Her comment - "as long as it's all on the up and up" on your vacation - you could have dealt with in a humorous way, like telling the SIL that you are sure there will be trouble ... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 10 October 2017: OP, it's not about you "manning up". It's about you realizing that you might have become a tad needy and clingy because you feel INSECURE in your relationship with her. And she... has partly made you feel that way.
You need to get back to you. The... (read in full...)
Is it possible he wants more than sex?
Q. About a month ago, I downloaded the app Tinder out of pure boredom. I wasn't looking for a relationship because my previous one really messed me up and ever since then I've had a really hard time developing feelings for guys. I was in a place where ...
A. 10 October 2017: I agree it's possible he wants more, it's possible he likes semi-casual hookups to be more "elaborate" than just "wham bam thank you, ma'am" sex.
I'd say maybe suggest to go out and do something other than "home-dates" and see what he thinks. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I was second servings!
Q. Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...
A. 10 October 2017:
No one is saying you are a "bad" person for having casual sex. Your body, your choice. BUT thinking you can call dibs on a guy whom you slept with ONCE a few months ago it not working well for the casual mindset you claim to have.
If you ar... (read in full...)
Am I being too materialstic and self sabotaging?
Q. Am I being unrealistic? I am 50 and dating a man for close to three months who claims he is retired, I came to find out he was laid off and doesn't want to go back to work. I find myself paying more often when we go out, it is a huge turn-off. I ...
A. 10 October 2017: Nope, nothing wrong with wanting a partner who is financially stable. However, if you like a partner who is financially stable - THIS is not the guy for you.
Stop wasting your time on a guy who WILL not be what you are looking for.
You are... (read in full...)
I feel like I was second servings!
Q. Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...
A. 10 October 2017: Ewww. I remember tag chasers who went to have sex with one guy in the barracks and when he was done with her she would knock on the next door and the next till someone else would have her or take her home... THAT is your friend's friend. Gross.
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He found the girl he dumped me for was too costly and wants me to take him back.
Q. So, this guy and I were dating for almost two years and he proposed to me in May. A few weeks later he tells me hes going on vacation with his old crush/ friend since high school there both 28. But they have been friends forever. So, he breaks off ...
A. 9 October 2017: While I understand that it hurt a lot when he decided a "vacation" with an "old" friend was more important than his promise to you and relationship with you, you REALLY dodged a bullet. What kind of CRAPTASTIC guy does this and then expects the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sad after his ex girlfriend's revelation!
Q. Hello, I have a story to tell. This summer my bf and I got together. He had a girlfriend but he cheated on her to be with me. At first we were friends and I knew he had a girlfriend but I was so in love with him and I was trying to resist for so ...
A. 9 October 2017: Ever heard of Karma?
Yeah, that... it just ran you over.
Is she pregnant? Maybe, maybe not. If she is and the baby is his he will FOREVER be part of their child's life.
Did she say it to hurt him? possibly. Or to hurt you? possibly.
W... (read in full...)
Why am I having thought about having passionate sex with my friend?
Q. I think somethings wrong. I am in college, and one of my classmates, I have known since high school turns me on. Every time we talk and see each other (which is all the time, because we have the same major and minor) I have thoughts and fantasies ...
A. 9 October 2017: Hormones, honey. Nothing "wrong" with you.
Hormones are a pretty powerful thing. The reason HE is the one on your mind is that he feels "safe" and he is also attractive.
However, it doesn't MEAN you need to let your hormones control you. Kee... (read in full...)
I need advice on a difficult stepchild!
Q. Hi all, I could really do with some advice on a difficult stepchild. I've been with my partner 2 years and I'm pregnant with my first. He has a 5 year old son from a previous relationship. At the beginning of the relationship he had great time for ...
A. 8 October 2017: You need to sit down with your partner and if possible with the boy's mother. Establish RULES and BOUNDARIES. And the KID needs to be told by his dad (and/or his mother) that he needs to listen to you as well.
While his behavior is not really T... (read in full...)
A years long troubled friendship has turned into a family obligatory relationship. What should I do?
Q. Hi! I'd very much appreciate some perspective on a friendship I've had since childhood. Is it really a friendship, or an inherited relationship? Am I overreacting after 30 years, or have I been to patient and accommodating? Our parents were bes...
A. 8 October 2017: OP,
It's OK to not want to keep being friends. If you only give, give and give, and she takes, takes and takes - it not only get monotone but it also becomes a "chore" for you, not a friendship.
I don't think she really knows how to have frie... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?
Q. Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to ...
A. 8 October 2017: If you don't feel like the relationship is fulfilling and you don't feel like he has enough TIME to spend with you, then yes you are wasting your time.
Are you sure he is even single?
If you two are dating and a couple then spending a weeks... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 8 October 2017: First off, don't treat her like your mother. PICK out what YOU want to wear. Don't ask her to pick... it's... emasculating IMHO.
That way you can avoid the feeling like she doesn't give a flying fart next time you go out.
And when SHE is gett... (read in full...)
Should I kick him out of my house and my life?
Q. Hi All!! First thank you for taking the time out to help me... Ive been dating the same guy for 5 yrs now. And for the past couple yrs he has changed into an unpredictable screaming heartless prick towards me. Im always caught off guard when he gets ...
A. 8 October 2017: Should you?
That is entirely up to you.
His excuse though... ("the Devil made me do it") is bullshit and shows how little responsibility he takes for his actions and behavior.
You have been together for 5 years and it's gone downhill for a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is blaming herself for an early miscarriage.
Q. Dear Cupid, The other day my girlfriend had a few drinks and on the way home started going on about how she thinks she's pregnant. She hadn't done a test and was purely going off her breasts being tender and feeling "weird" plus she rambles when she...
A. 8 October 2017: It's pretty normal for the woman to feel it's her fault she miscarried. Having a drink or two wasn't what made it happen.
1 in 4 KNOWN pregnancies (where the mother KNOWS for sure she is pregnant) result in miscarriages. 85% of these happens ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is afraid of my beauty and that I will leave him!
Q. My boyfriend said he's scared of my beauty and is afraid I will leave him.what do I do to prove I won't and he doesn't take me out, prefers me staying indoor with him is dat y?. And I love this guy so much and it hurts me anytime he saids dat..pls...
A. 7 October 2017: What do you do?
You tell him that HIDING you away doesn't make you less pretty. That taking you out on dates or dinners, to the museums or park doesn't doesn't make you MORE likely to cheat or run off with someone else... Hiding you away and trea... (read in full...)
How do you treat a friend who doesn't act like one?
Q. Since last year May I started hanging out with two new friends, Jennifer and Jackie. I knew Jackie since late-high school but we virtually never spoke. At the time, I was good friends with her best friend, Nancy, and they're still best friends ...
A. 7 October 2017: I think she is a passive introvert. Someone who is enjoying people's company but doesn't participate as much with other (even if she REALLY enjoys the friendship).
She might also not have had many friends over the years and thus doesn't KNOW how... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only likes sex if I am on top
Q. My boyfriend seems to like all sexual activities with the exception of (vaginal) sex, which he does not seem to care for. He only seems to like it (a little) if the woman is on top doing all of the work. Do any men out there feel the same way, and ...
A. 7 October 2017: I think a lot of WOMEN enjoy being on top and in control every now and then, so I wouldn't be surprised if men enjoy that as well.
However, I think if that is the ONLY kind of sex you get that will not change.
If you are OK with a lot of or... (read in full...)
My ex bf new gf texting me how good their relationship is
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We've had our ups and downs but we pulled through. We also had lots of arguments. On our last argument we had I went to work, came home and he packed his things and left. My ex bf now, left a ...
A. 7 October 2017: I think the reason they are BOTH texting you now is that HE is trying to prove to her that he DOES love her more. My guess is he SAW some of the texts in those weeks they were dating AFTER you two broke up.
She is doing it to make HERSELF feel bet... (read in full...)
Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?
Q. One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...
A. 7 October 2017: Honestly?
I wouldn't piss on a man like your husband if he was on fire. I don't CARE that he "only" looked at underage pornography. By doing so he has SUPPORTED the people who took advantage and ABUSED these underage VICTIMS. So he can get off ... (read in full...)
We'd been having intense eye contact but then she just ignored me! What happened?
Q. Need advice ! I sensed a girl in my office building but different company(i have never spoken to her) was noticing me.Soon we started having regular eye contact..Inbetween she ignored me couple of days,i responded by ignoring her back and then it ...
A. 6 October 2017: Could be she was looking at you trying to figure out why you were staring at her. You might have thought she looked out of interest, she might have, she might NOT have.
Since you are 30, not 15 I think the best approach is TALKING to someone.... (read in full...)
Should I move out?
Q. Hello, everyone! I am here to ask something and hear your opinions. I am a romanian girl which moved to Germany about 5 years ago. I am in school and to be honest, is going pretty well. But my problem has got nothing to do with my school. I turned ...
A. 6 October 2017: If you are in school have you thought about talking to a counselor there?
As for moving out, that can be difficult even on the "allowance" you get from the Government (or rather your parents get to take care of you). The money that your parents ... (read in full...)
My wife is another man's slave
Q. My wife is deeply into S and M and I am not. I discovered that she has become the slave of another man, but still professes she loves me. I have allowed her to spend 2 or 3 nights a week with her dom. I don't think I can find any way to give her...
A. 6 October 2017: Are there are children in the equation?
If after 7 years and there are no children, then I think you need to consider that you and your wife are utterly incompatible sexually. What she is looking for you can't fulfill and you obviously aren't h... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be turned on by a thong?
Q. I'm a 26 year old male and I have a question regarding a fetish that I have had since I was probably like 11 years old. Basically my fetish revolves around women's thong panties specifically. When I was just entering puberty I found thongs to be...
A. 6 October 2017: OP, if you ALSO get aroused with women - either wearing a thong or not... I don't see the problem. I think a LOT of men have some desire to see their partner in something "sexy" - why else would the lingerie business be so big and with such a ... (read in full...)
Should I take my online friend's comments with a grain of salt?
Q. Hello everyone, I have been spending some time on social media and I have quite a few male friends as well as female friends. There is one guy in particular who I like as a friend but it's hard to ignore the fact that he is extremely good looking, ...
A. 6 October 2017: I agree with WiseOwlE
You are now part of his "admirer's club" and he is enjoying the attention. Doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive but in reality how big is the chance that anything REAL would come of this?
Get on with life, go me... (read in full...)
It seems like our relationship was a big lie!
Q. First, let me start by saying the past week with my boyfriend has been great. He's been affectionate and talking about marriage, which itself isn't new, and spending all his time with me at my house aside from work. We'll call him D Then out of n...
A. 6 October 2017: I think your BF is full of shit. And I'm sorry.
I do find it odd that the girl (and guy) so easily got your contact info. The e-mail I can perhaps guess if the other girl's BF went through your BF's Facebook etc. Still....
If I were you I wou... (read in full...)
Is my married boss hoping I will ask her out. ?
Q. Hi this only happens at work lm a guy and really like 2 women 1 is married and find it hard to ask her out for a coffee and chat l feel she's still interested but she wants me to approach her and ask her out l don't think it will happen also cause ...
A. 6 October 2017: The woman who is your boss is married. There is no need for you to invite her out for coffee... If you need to talk work, do so at your WORKPLACE.
She likes the attention doesn't mean she is REALLY looking for more.
And workplace romanc... (read in full...)
This married man is only interested when his family are out of town
Q. Hello here, the thing is I met this married guy around august 2015,though he didn't tell me he was married until almost a month and then I was already in love with him I don't know why but I remember all I could say to him was know problem and don't ...
A. 5 October 2017: How can you stop "loving" him?
By looking at his actions, his treatment of you AND of his wife. Those are NOT the actions of a good man.
And look at your own actions. Would you be OK with a husband doing to you... what he is doing to his wif... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my purse, I broke it off but am feeling sad.
Q. I am 48 years old and in a telation with a man my age ,we r engaged but since i knew him i felt that there is something missing in the relation and i wasn't sure that i love him and kept postponing marriage.he is so kind with me and generous in ...
A. 5 October 2017: Wow, OP I think you NEED to realize that your now-ex-bf is a scumbag. A thieving scumbag.
He actually had the NERVE to tell you he took the money as a test? And that YOU failed? What a load of camel dung!
I think he took the money because he... (read in full...)
Uncertain if he lied for the right reason
Q. Hi, I have been married for 4 years to a guy who seems devoted to me. I've had a lot of problems in the past. Before I got with my husband I had been through a rough time, I had had cancer and was just finishing chemotherapy and my youngest daughter ...
A. 5 October 2017: Wait, what?
I fully agree with Cindy as well.. WHO THE #$%^ invents a dead baby to have something in common with someone else? No, no, no... that is not OK.
And then it turns into the baby isn't dead? But he doesn't know her full name?
N... (read in full...)
Do you bleed the second time you have sex?
Q. Hi,I lost my virginty 3 months ago I had bleeding I bleed for four days and I had craming along with it I didn't know if it was my period or that and he didn't go all they way in either. I didn't had sex after that because it hurted alot I wa...
A. 5 October 2017: I'm glad if it can help you or give you a little nudge in going to see a Gyno. (yes, I know those visits are not all fun and puppies but your "under the hood checkups are important!)
As for your second part of the question ( the will sex get bett... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be turned on by a thong?
Q. I'm a 26 year old male and I have a question regarding a fetish that I have had since I was probably like 11 years old. Basically my fetish revolves around women's thong panties specifically. When I was just entering puberty I found thongs to be...
A. 5 October 2017: Are you aroused by a woman WEARING a thong, as well as just a pair of thongs in a drawer?
Or is it JUST the thongs by themselves?
Do naked women NOt arouse you at all?
I don't think you should feel ashamed at all. It's such a "mild" thing... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he wouldn't call me names again, but is this method still not acceptable?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, and in some cases it has been hard for me, having come from a emotional abusive relationship before hand, my insecurities are all over the place, and occasionally find it very hard to trust. But ...
A. 5 October 2017: Maybe you BOTH need to "learn" how to "fight fair"? My husband comes from a household where yelling and namecalling and cussing is... pretty normal. He NEVER calls me names. Not in 20+ years. He does occasionally yell and over the years he cusses a ... (read in full...)
Do you bleed the second time you have sex?
Q. Hi,I lost my virginty 3 months ago I had bleeding I bleed for four days and I had craming along with it I didn't know if it was my period or that and he didn't go all they way in either. I didn't had sex after that because it hurted alot I wa...
A. 4 October 2017: You go see your Gyno.
4 days of bleeding is not the "norm" after sex, not even the first time. A little bleeding CAN occur - the thing is vaginal bleeding (that isn't a period) can be a sign of other things. Which is why I say GO get a checkup.... (read in full...)
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