Like what
she writes?
... Add *indyCares to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
Ciao
Cindy |
|
| Latest articles: Devastation in Italy
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 August 2016: This has got nothing to do with romance or relationships or love- maybe with love for our fellow human beings, i.e. solidariety and compassion , so I hope that the mods will publish this regardless. On August 24th a devastating eartquak...
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
|
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 20 May 2012: OP, now don't go turning the tables on us. You had generally been advised to leave your gf BECAUSE you said that you COULD NOT stand the torment and the pain of your gf's non-virginity, to the point you were breaking down ( see title , and text, ... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 29 August 2011: @krit: I suspect you are pulling my leg and benevolently making fun of me :) - but tks any way for the appreciation. No, I don't have all these PHDs but- the best teacher is always hands on life experience and , having a Muslim ex , and quite ... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 3 July 2011: You are asking the wrong question.
The right question is not "What does he want from me ? " but, " What do I want from him ? ".
Think it over , then you decide.
Do you want a platonic penpal ? Do you want to play Romeo and Juliet for a... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 26 May 2011: He wants to waste your time and make a fool out of you. He wants to have his cake and keep it too.
He may have real feelings of love for you, perhaps , ( I doubt it, because true love is not so selfish ) but he knows he is not going to marr... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 23 May 2011: He is not committment phobic in general, I think- he is just being practical and sensible and knows that in these conditions he cannot commit and your relationship cannot work.
LDRs only work if they are temporary , and there is a precise , feas... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 21 May 2011: It would only mean something if his parents or yours would strongly believe in Astrology , but...do they ?
Listen, leave astrology or destiny alone - our destiny is 90percent shaped by what we do, or omit to do.
He told you already- he is not goin... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to lose your virginity to a Prostitute?
Q. I'm a 28 year old male virgin, who has never had a girlfriend. I have asked dozens of women out in my life though I was always rejected. There were plenty of women that I liked but did not approach them because I knew they had boyfriends already. I ...
A. 14 May 2011: Anon male reader of May 14th : your comment is so neither here nor there , that I think you got into the wrong thread by mistake . But in case this is really where you want to post :
- how do you know that all the female respondent here have or h... (read in full...)
How can you take on more, when you are already overwhelmed with pain?
Q. I have a very complicated situation. I hope you can help. My life turned very challenging in the last year, and I don't know how to deal with things. Here is the short version of the story. I just lost my daughter, less than 1 year ago, from car...
A. 9 May 2011: It's a delicate matter. You are perfectly right , of course. In the death of a young person , there's something brutal, innatural, twisted, in the death of an old person- we all have to die , and she has lived more than most people.
Logical and ... (read in full...)
How can you take on more, when you are already overwhelmed with pain?
Q. I have a very complicated situation. I hope you can help. My life turned very challenging in the last year, and I don't know how to deal with things. Here is the short version of the story. I just lost my daughter, less than 1 year ago, from car...
A. 8 May 2011: Your husband's family is pressuring HIM and making HIM feel guilty. As long as they don't want YOU to take care of your mother in law, back off and let him deal with his family and his problem.
This is not as cold and callous as it may soun... (read in full...)
Why am I so upset by this guy?
Q. A guy I used to be sort of "friends with benefits" with, and who I still like a lot, wants to sleep with me even though he now has a girlfriend. He's been with her for nearly 2 years but he's been coming on to me for about a year and a half. We he ...
A. 8 May 2011: You are supposed to say : "You are correct, I don't want you anymore ".
Why is he even with his girkfriend if he wants other women ?...
I have a better question for you : Why were you even having sex with him,when you know he has a girlfrie... (read in full...)
How can you take on more, when you are already overwhelmed with pain?
Q. I have a very complicated situation. I hope you can help. My life turned very challenging in the last year, and I don't know how to deal with things. Here is the short version of the story. I just lost my daughter, less than 1 year ago, from car...
A. 6 May 2011: I'd stick to my guns, and listen caredully to the counselor. Conflicting with reality ?... reality is how you make it, and your reality at this time is : sorry guys, fuck you all. Got bigger stuff going on right now;first things first.
My h... (read in full...)
I have this distorted image of the world and need advice on how to fix it!
Q. I have low self esteem and have battled with depression for years. I have a really bad body image and hate the world right now because of how it has become about hot bodies, sex, one night stands, etc. i feel like women have become more obse...
A. 6 May 2011: @ anon female reader, that 's your depression talking, and it must be rather severe if you have such a warped perception of the world .
How is the world's fault for making women depressed ? Society and media push lots of different ideas, conc... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he says he misses me, yet then is completely ignoring me. Help!
Q. Three days ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. We recently just moved out of our apartment together two weeks ago to move back to our parent's places for this summer (I am a student, and he will be in January) I am turning 22 in August and he is 23. ...
A. 6 May 2011: Sorry but I side with the boyfriend. Loving somebody can't mean giving your life up and being at your loved one's beck and call 24/7. Maybe if the loved one is a child ,- but if he/she is an adult he can't use his sickness as an excuse to make ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 6 May 2011: English is not my primary language, so I do make mistakes , mostly when I am in a hurry or not well focused on what I write, but- ahem- still less than most native English speakers , I guess. You treat your beautiful language very casually, my ... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to lose your virginity to a Prostitute?
Q. I'm a 28 year old male virgin, who has never had a girlfriend. I have asked dozens of women out in my life though I was always rejected. There were plenty of women that I liked but did not approach them because I knew they had boyfriends already. I ...
A. 6 May 2011: More than good or bad, it's futile. What do you hope to solve or to accomplish ?. Sure, you would loose your virginity- and ? It's not like you'd get a girlfriend or a lover, you'd still be partnerless, and if you want more sex you'd have to keep ... (read in full...)
Why am I so upset by this guy?
Q. A guy I used to be sort of "friends with benefits" with, and who I still like a lot, wants to sleep with me even though he now has a girlfriend. He's been with her for nearly 2 years but he's been coming on to me for about a year and a half. We he ...
A. 6 May 2011: You get out of it by stopping being passing aggressive and , instead of telling him " I can't " , "I am busy," you tell him, " I don't want to come over , and I don't want you to come over. I am not interested anymore, no point in contacting me ... (read in full...)
Which of these 2 scenarios is worse?
Q. I'm Doing a bit of introspection and have a very strange hypothetical question to ask: Which is worse; A) A guy who's a great provider, not very affectionate or caring, never helps out around the house, spends hardly any time with his kids bu...
A. 6 May 2011: Both are very bad, but definitely B.
A may be not such a joy to live with- but B is simply laughing in your face and taking you for a ride, if all his love and caring are affection aren't enough to make him keep it in his pants !... (read in full...)
I have this distorted image of the world and need advice on how to fix it!
Q. I have low self esteem and have battled with depression for years. I have a really bad body image and hate the world right now because of how it has become about hot bodies, sex, one night stands, etc. i feel like women have become more obse...
A. 6 May 2011: OP, I don't know how to say this without sounding preachy or sanctimonious, but I think that the world has become.. the way we choose to see it. After all, it's like our own living room, it depends from what we let come into it. If we fill it with ... (read in full...)
Men don't like me, what can I do?
Q. I am getting so wary, in my whole life I had only a handful of terrible relationships, and because I prefer to be alone than in a terrible relationship I was mostly alone. I thought for many years that it was because of my looks, last year I even ...
A. 5 May 2011: Ok, I take my post back and officially declare myself baffled : you do seem to have pretty inclusive tastes , perhaps even too much ( I'd skip the mentally ill guys, even if not severely ill :).
Maybe, then, it's like you and Cerberus Raph... (read in full...)
Men don't like me, what can I do?
Q. I am getting so wary, in my whole life I had only a handful of terrible relationships, and because I prefer to be alone than in a terrible relationship I was mostly alone. I thought for many years that it was because of my looks, last year I even ...
A. 5 May 2011: And, do you like nice guys ? Do you give them a chance ?
I don't want to be ingenerous and just assume that because you are good looking you must be an airhead. But ,if you rate yourself, and are rated, a 9, maybe you 'll look only for guys who are ... (read in full...)
What makes me so incapable of attracting a girl?
Q. I'm 25 and have never in my life had a girlfriend or even anything close. I'm not a virgin but might as well be. I've had sex a total of one time several years ago leaving me with almost no sexual experience and zero relationship experience in my ...
A. 5 May 2011: What do you exactly mean by " attracting girls " ?
Because, you know, sitting at a bar nursing your Martini and waiting for the girls to flock at you only works for James Bond. If you are not him, you'va gotta be proactive. Approach them, flir... (read in full...)
Should I try for this job again?
Q. Any advice much appreciated with this. I am currently looking for a job at the moment...not easy. I have heard about a job where I live at. The thing is I got offered a job at this place about this time last year. I said I would take it but at the ...
A. 5 May 2011: What's the harm in trying ?
If the boss says no, you'll be in the same situation as you are now , but not worse. You've got nothing to loose. ... (read in full...)
I caught my ex cheating in the office! Would you turn her in?
Q. I caught my ex gold-digging past-lover that I work with screwing with another person in the office this morning? I caught them and now have extremely incriminating evidence against her and I would love to get her kicked out of the office for ...
A. 5 May 2011: And what would you accomplish ? You would not change the past, you would not cancel the harm she has done to you , and you would not get back the " gold " she has digged .
You'd kick her out of your workplace, true- but as for kicking her out of y... (read in full...)
A close childhood friend doesn't like my girlfriend - we got invited to her wedding...should we go?
Q. Some very good female friends of mine, which I know since we were young, were really mean (to say the least) to this other girl when they met her in college. This girl now happens to be my girlfriend of almost a year, and soon to be my fiancée. ...
A. 5 May 2011: A wedding invitation is not a royal summons,you are not obliged to go ( unless it's the wedding of someone in your immediate family or of your closest friends ). Since you already had other plans, courteously decline and save yourselves the ... (read in full...)
I am obese and therefore have very low self esteem and self confidence...what should I do?
Q. Hello I am a 25 year old guy. I am about 5'8" tall and weight around 220lbs. By medical standards that is obese! Probably the first thing that you will tell me is "lose weight!" well, I should and I am trying right now. However, I feel very u...
A. 5 May 2011: Stop " tryng ". Tryng implies the possibility , the probability ,in fact ,of failing.
When you decide to get out of your apartment, you don't "try" to get out . You decide to do it,then you put one feet in front of the other, reach the door and ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like an orgasm?
Q. So usually I struggle to reach orgasm. I do sometimes get a 'twitching' feeling in my vagina, am i right in thinking that this is a small orgasm? Recently I have been trying to explore my body more to se what makes me tick. Anyway earlier I was ma...
A. 5 May 2011: Hard to say not being into your body :)- to me it sounds like pretty close but no cigar yet. An orgasm is accompanied by rythmic spasms of the pelvic floor muscles , so that would account for "twitches ". Then again,, if you have to wonder , ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if she is into me or is just a friend?
Q. i've posted on here before asking for a bit of advice on how to tell if someone is into you or if they're just platonic friends. truth is that i'm really confused by this girl, and i really care about her, so i'm going to try this one more time. i'm ...
A. 5 May 2011: I think she is playing the very same game as you.
Meaning, obviously you are not willing to go for broke, telling her clearly how much you fancy her, and risking therefore being rejected ,being laughed at, or being told : " how do you dare !, y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 5 May 2011: I don't get it, he's is perving on your teen daughter, steals her underwear... and he's still there with you just because he said "sorry"??
Who cares even if " all guys like young girls " ?... I doubt that,but that's not the point - the poin... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 5 May 2011: This guy is meesing up with your head. Maybe not on purpose, maybe just because he is so in love with you that wants to see as possible the impossible.
The fact, is , he can't marry you and he knows it very well ( And, living in India, I am surp... (read in full...)
Should accept the fears and limitations of my parents or move on with my life as the adult I am?
Q. i'm a 20 year old woman who still lives with her parents. i have a 25 year old boyfriend who lives in another state. i've been planning a trip to see my boyfriend and go with him to a convention since december of last year. i spent around 200 ...
A. 5 May 2011: I think your mother is pretty reasonable.She could have said , no matter what your age is , " My house my rules and until you live here , you don't even go ". She realizes though that this trip is important to you so she is allowing you 10-11 days ... (read in full...)
Depressed after cancer... am I being overly sensitive?
Q. I was diagnosed with cancer last year (September 2010). My initial prognosis was not good as they thought the cancer had spread to my liver/adrenal so they basically gave me a year to live. It seems the tumours in the liver/adrenal are now benign ...
A. 4 May 2011: Your depression is not caused by your bf, and he HAS been there for you, the way he can and the way he knows how .
Your depression is due to having battled with cancer, been in hospital,felt sick, having lost one breast and your hear , being face... (read in full...)
Is it normal for him to continue looking at girls on the Internet?
Q. My boyfriend has a issue with porn and watching other women on the internet. we worked out the whole porn thing but for some reason he will not leave watching other girls alone. I've expressed my emotions to him about it but he just cant leave it ...
A. 4 May 2011: It depends from what you mean with " normal ". If you mean, every man does it, heck no. If you mean other men do it too, sure they do.
I think the problem is not to assess how normal this is in the general scheme of things, but whether you are will... (read in full...)
I just want a nice guy in my life but how can I when I'm still messed up over my ex?
Q. hey there, so ok ive had some really bad relationships in my past and i hate being alone but i dont know how to find a great guy that wont hurt me...since i cant find a good guy i always seem to catch myself doing things with guys just so ill have...
A. 4 May 2011: You still love him because you don't love yourself enough. If you had enough self love and self respect, you would not pine after somebody who "messed you up " and used you, you'd authomatically say : what a jerk !, I don't know how I let myself ... (read in full...)
What are natural ways to grow a larger penis?
Q. Ok, this is my question. I am 15 years old and I have a 7 inch penis. Is that normal? Is that small or anything, cause I'm kinda worried it'll stop growing. What are some natural ways to grow a bigger penis? Anything useful will help!!! :) Thanx...
A. 4 May 2011: 7 inches is already above average. Don't be greedy, be content with what you have.... (read in full...)
Is a line being crossed here?
Q. Hi, my friend with benefits, wants to cum on my face and I've had it on my tummy but never on my face, I realize it could be some sort of power trip for guys but since we re just friends and he's not my boyfriend, is a line being crossed here?? I ...
A. 4 May 2011: It's not wrong of him asking it, you are not " just friends ", friends do not have sex with each other. You are sex partners, and sex partners can surely express their desires and preferences.
If you want to accomodate them or not, it's up to you ... (read in full...)
Her family harping on her weight is undermining her self-esteem
Q. Hey guys, So ive been dating this girl for 6 and a half months, and so far its been great! We love each other very much, we share intimate moments together (sex) and we get along super well and constantly know how the other is thinking. Un...
A. 4 May 2011: I tried to leash and muzzle my inner bitch but she escaped, so I have to say : oh so your gf is depressed because she MIGHT be 10 pounds overweight ... then, take her to visit, say, a pediatric oncology ward in a hospital, and talk to the parents ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act so weirdly about food?
Q. Hi everybody I do feel embarrassed about this but here it goes I am trying to understand my boyfriend we live together I have a 18 year old special needs daughter now to me he has issues with food he soon as start a fuss over nothing concerning this ...
A. 4 May 2011: I did not quite get the whole pizza hamburger scenario, it was a bit confusing, but... you have a 2 year old with special needs, keep your energy to deal with HER tantrums and off moments, not with that of a fussy adult.
Why he acts like this... (read in full...)
Why do guys talk to ordinary looking girls while gorgeous unattached girls exist?
Q. I know this is an insecurity problem, but I don't know how to overcome it? I know i'm not ugly, but when I meet a guy who shows he is interested in me, it's then i think 'why would he want to talk to me?' The next day, I'll be out and see these...
A. 3 May 2011: The politicaly correct answer would be : because not all men are shallow, superficial, obsessed with looks. Many of them may be attracted by something you DO , even if you are not a Playboy bunny. Like, you smile warmly, you have a friendly ... (read in full...)
What bothers me is that I wasn't special enough. How can I forget him?
Q. Hey everyone, same old tale... Fallen for a boy who doesn't want a relationship! Met, been seeing each other for few months, was totally honest about not wanting a relationship, which I respect him for and it's not even like I minded that he goes ...
A. 3 May 2011: Hey, girl from Leeds ! greetings to you and to your nice town. I must be perhaps the only person in Europe thinking that Leeds has a charming, romantic atmosphere , but I do.
Nice people - and very good looking guys around :).
How can you forg... (read in full...)
Does it really hurt that much to have sex the 1st time?
Q. My mom told me this "since you are now 14 and have a boyfriend I want you to be more careful with your actions. Don't do it it with him. It hurts to have sex for the first time and it hurts even worse to have a baby" is that true??? Does it rea...
A. 3 May 2011: It's so individual that's hard to say, I've heard women reporting the pain of their first time as everything from very intense to mild to nothing at all.
Anyway, if I were you I'f focus on the second part of your mother's statement : it's true... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to get tattoo of his name! Should I?
Q. my partner Shane says he is not the marrying kind. but we do everything together. He was my fiurst boyfriund and I never want any other boyfriend. He does shift work and i get scared at night sometimes when he is not home. And I cant go out without ...
A. 3 May 2011: Heck no !
Do you know that Johnny Depp has a tattoo which says "Wino forever " ? It used to be "Winona forever" , then he and Winona Ryder split. That's the best he could come up with for erasing the unwanted memento without totally messing up h... (read in full...)
Should I give her a birthday gift? She's made it clear we are just friends
Q. alright, long question here: ok so about 6 months ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else ...
A. 3 May 2011: Simple, don't give her the T shirt. There's nothing wrong in exchanging gifts between friends, the point is that you still would like to be more than friends with her, and she knows it . That you may have accepted the fact that you got stuck into ... (read in full...)
BF has been collecting nude pictures of girls off Facebook. What should I do?
Q. I have just found out that my boyfriend of 10 months has been collecting naked pictures from girls off his facebook the whole time we have been together. He says he doesn't understand why he did it and he has promised me to stop. He has deleted a...
A. 3 May 2011: I second DB. "I don't know why I did it " it's total bullshit. He does it because he likes it, clear and simple.
And no, you can't trust him again. Now you'll never be sure if he stopped or just got better at hiding it.... (read in full...)
He says he is accepting the baby, not both of them. Is this true?
Q. A month before he met me, he met a girl and he started dating her. It was after sometime that he left the girl because of me not knowing the girl is pregnant for him, now that the girl is back into his life with an unborn baby, i dont know what to ...
A. 3 May 2011: In theory it's true, he wants to do the right thing and be there for his child ,he does not want or have to be sexually or emotionally involved with the mother. Nothing wrong with that.
In practice, I'd be very uncomfortable about the timi... (read in full...)
I love him..but I'm not sure how to say it, or what to do.
Q. Here we go again... I just got out of a two year relationship, with 1 year olds father, he was very mean, and treated me like i was his property instead of a person, he doesnt treat me like a women, and i finally have had enough!! So as of two week...
A. 3 May 2011: No darling, I am afraid you only see what you want to see and hear what you want to hear.
He DID correct his friend. Saying " yeah he is confused " is a diplomatic way to say " no, I am NOT your boyfriend ".
He mentioned expressely that he needs... (read in full...)
Penis size insecurities......
Q. OK, so we've seen the barrage of penis size questions. Got me so curious I decided to actually measure mine. What I encountered was that it may be impossible to get an accurate measurement because there are probably 13 ways to measure it. I know ...
A. 2 May 2011: Well, actually there is one standard method that researchers use in their measuring. The 13 different ways come from Internet sites or friends suggestions, but in a scientific setting they use one way.
Which, I purposely skip detailing- beca... (read in full...)
Can you really just be friends with a guy?
Q. I was having a friendly conversation with a guy I just met. I could tell he was interested in me, but I have a boyfriend (of four years). I'm a pretty friendly person, so I didn't mean anything by it, except maybe enjoying the attention (being ...
A. 2 May 2011: Of course there's harm, and my guess is that you know it perfectly already. This guy is interested in you- he is into you as a woman, he does not care about being just friends. So, if you encourage him, you are either confusing him and wasting his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 9 months says he wants to be with me, but he doesn't even have my number in his phone!
Q. I got a boyfriend and we was going out for 9 months And I had this feeling he was cheating and I Founded out he be calling other girls and he Don't even call me I call him all day and he never Answer unless its something that he wants My numb...
A. 2 May 2011: You should pay attention to what he does, not to what he says. He can say all he wants- talk is cheap. His actions speak louder than his words and say he does not care about you. Move on.... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 2 May 2011: I can't but reiterate my previous advice : leave her . If you love her as you say, you'll understand that she deserves marrying somebody who cherishes her exactly like she is, and that fully accepts her with all her past " mistakes " and ... (read in full...)
Is there an effective way to tell him how he hurt me?
Q. I fell hard for a guy who knew it and used me for sex. I've been hurt by men before and always found a way to move on and shake it off and find something better. No matter what I do, and how much time has passed: I fall to tears when I think of him. ...
A. 2 May 2011: You have the right , but it's a total waste of time that won't ease your pain and will only keep you stuck in the past. I had a bf that cured me from my need for " closure ", and taught me I have to make my own closure,- at the time I was shocked ... (read in full...)
She keeps walking in on me masturbating!
Q. Need help? My sister walked in on me masterbating last month, now she keeps doing it. And i've been super carefull, but its like she knows i'm doing it and my bedroom door flys open, she's even walked in on me twice wheni've been in the shower. What ...
A. 1 May 2011: I think this must be a troll post, because the solution to this quandary is so evident that the OP should be totally clueless for not having figured it out.
But, in the off chance that our OP is too hormone -laden to be able to think stra... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 30 April 2011: I am going to comment something that has already been very well commented by You Wish, - and I am insisting on it to show you why most people would have trouble to "feel your pain ".
Let's take for granted that dismissing you with a : Aw come on, ... (read in full...)
| *indyCares's friends
These are mutual friends, so *indyCares has
added them and they have added *indyCares!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
