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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 14 July 2012: Sure it makes sense , OP. That which you wrote, and also , probably there 's a bit of " treat them mean keep them keen "... on the receiving side. Meaning - you like him BECAUSE he did not ( quite ) want you and made clear he 'd rather do without ... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 12 July 2012: Dear OP, come on, you guys are in college right ? All you write is still too middle school. Way too much thought and interpretation of subtext and hidden meanings where there aren't any- but even IF there were.. who cares, OP, it's over, it was a ... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
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A. 14 June 2012: OP, this is an example of the clueless, helpless attitude that may be off putting to people way more than sexual inexperience.
" I believe I have Asperger's " . Yeah, but do you KNOW that ? Have you been to get yourself diagnosed by a comp... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 13 June 2012: Oh,but you will know what to do inherently. Everybody does. Kids 14 years old know what to do .It's pure animal instinct.
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Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
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Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
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( The Armani Code IS rather a surprise- lovely scent, one of my favourites, but... a bit metr... (read in full...)
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Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
Q. Hi, this is a post for the ladies (guys can def help too). I'm a guy and have been meeting the odd female here and there but I never actually get a formal relationship out of any of them. So I have been thinking of what may be the problem. It i...
A. 22 May 2012: 1)Yes, the guy pays on a first date. If she is a well behaved girl, though, she'll offer to split the bill ( knowing that you are supposed to say : no way ! ) or to pay for desserts, or for after dinner drinks ( that, you can let her do it ).
2... (read in full...)
Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
Q. Hi, this is a post for the ladies (guys can def help too). I'm a guy and have been meeting the odd female here and there but I never actually get a formal relationship out of any of them. So I have been thinking of what may be the problem. It i...
A. 22 May 2012: 1)Yes, the guy pays on a first date. If she is a well behaved girl, though, she'll offer to split the bill ( knowing that you are supposed to say : no way ! ) or to pay for desserts, or for after dinner drinks ( that, you can let her do it ).
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Does she not want to get close? Should I hang around and fight for her or move on?
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Why can't I get my wife pregnant?
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A. 22 May 2012: You need to see a doctor, a fertility specialist actually, this is the only way to find out what's the problem.
The fact that your wife has regular menstrual cycles does not indicate at all that she is free of fertility issues and neither that... (read in full...)
Will flowers win back my teenage, but legal ex-girlfriend?
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A. 21 May 2012: This is going to end badly .
If she never wanted to tell her parents, she must have had her own good reasons.
One of it being that not anything that's legal is also necessarily right. It only means that you can't go to jail for that, not that par... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 21 May 2012: OP, you'd make the day of any Cognitive Behavioural therapist, because you are a textbook exemple of suffering caused by skewed perceptions / unsubstantiated assumptions.
Basically, you love your wife, and you love her the way she is, incl... (read in full...)
Should I pay my children's' father's debt?
Q. My grandma passed away in march, it still brings tears to my eyes just thinking about her. However she was 95 and was able to be in her own home which is better than other ways. I was surprised to get a summons as she left something for my children ...
A. 21 May 2012: Excuse me, but, ... are you out of your mind ? I think most people would think is insane just considering the possibility to use your grandma's money to pay off this guy's debts. You are not even properly together ! You are just " doing couple ... (read in full...)
Am I naive in thinking that on a first date nothing more than kissing should happen?
Q. am i naive in thinking that on a first date nothing more than kissing should happen? My friends and I were discussing this today and when I said i would never sleep with someone on the first date, they all said they wouldn't rule it out... But ...
A. 21 May 2012: You are supposed to know it ( always better to be prepared :) but you are not supposed to do it.
To do it for whom, if you don't want to do it ? To please your university girlfriends ? To please some horny , and probably drunk, guy that you don'... (read in full...)
I'm not looking for a serious relationship, any advice?
Q. Hi all, So I don't know dating rules and am a naturally horny person. I don't have a lot of self control if I'm attracted to someone. This does not mean I can't say no but if I like the person and he's hot to me, I'm very sexual and "fast" to many ...
A. 21 May 2012: I don't quite see what's the problem. You don't want a serious relationship , he does not want one either. You want a fling, sort of, he too. He says he wants to hang out with you again if and when he has time, you would be Ok with that . So ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong not to buy my wife another vibrator?
Q. Am I wrong not to buy my wife another vibrator? A few years ago I bought my wife a vibrator to spice things up in the bedroom. She was a bit hesitant at first but after a while she would regularly use it to finish herself off. As the months w...
A. 20 May 2012: Curious - does your wife need your permission / your money to buy herself a vibrator ? why can't she just up and go get herself a new one ?.
Ok, I get it, you don't like her to use a vibrator during your lovemaking sessions, and you don't like... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 20 May 2012: OP, now don't go turning the tables on us. You had generally been advised to leave your gf BECAUSE you said that you COULD NOT stand the torment and the pain of your gf's non-virginity, to the point you were breaking down ( see title , and text, ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt and I don't understand what went wrong!
Q. Hello. I dumped someone I was dating for 2 years. I tried to be as nice to him, such as telling him it wasn't his fault, and that it was mine. However, there was quite a few things that WERE his fault. I just kept it all to myself, until he...
A. 20 May 2012: Op, what exactly don't you understand. You cheated on him, you lied to him for two years, then you dumped him. He is hurt- and he is sore at you , and with good cause. Being backstabbed by a lover or by a friend is ultimately not that different. ... (read in full...)
Guilt. Boy troubles. We are getting closer. Should go for him, if they do break up given the history of it ?
Q. So this is another one of those boy problems. As much as I want it to NOT bother me, as much as I want to not pay attention to it, it keeps popping up in my mind. :/ So my friend (call her X ) was dating a guy (let's call him Z ) who has a best f...
A. 20 May 2012: My answer to question no. 1 is : maybe just a little.
Meaning, in theory no, you guys are just talking because you have common interests, you are all friends , he does not have a problem with talking to you, his girlfriend does not have a prob... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 20 May 2012: OP,what makes this confusing for you- and for us Aunts - is that it was all about a kiss, one wonders , but would a kiss be such a make-it-or-break-it element ?
let's make the scenario a bit spicier and it will become more understandable. Guy meet... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 19 May 2012: I am afraid that Cerberous is actually quite right. You are focusing on the fact that you he did the chasing.Well, the story would make more sense if he had done the chasing because he was very into you , then unluckily you did or say something ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: Don't talk to the wife, how come all of a sudden you are so concerned about her dignity and well being etc., and you don't want her to be with a cheater ? has she become a good friend of yours ? .. because you weren't that friendly concerned about ... (read in full...)
Is She Worth Keeping?
Q. Well me and my girlfriend have been together for about 10 months. Just recently I heard from her aunt that she has a lying problem not just with me but her family. Her aunt told me that she hasnt had a job since we have been together, altho she said ...
A. 19 May 2012: I'd say ,leave her. She sounds very messed up, either she has an unbelievable sense of entitlement that suggests her to do whatever feels good in the moment ( stealing from a disabled grandma ? ) and then deal with the consequences by pushing hard ... (read in full...)
I'm only interested in American women, is this normal?
Q. Ok so as the title suggests, I'm only interested in American women. This is based on something not just movies and tv shows. I dated an American girl for 2 and a half years, have spent a lot of time over there and truth be told I just mesh better...
A. 19 May 2012: This is not an answer to your question, in fact, just out of curiosity, I'd like you to answer my question :
what exactly is the difference you see between American girls and locals ? In other words, what makes an American girl " American " in y... (read in full...)
I thought everything was fine, why hasn't she gotten back to me?
Q. Hello so me and my girlfriend have been together for a month and it's been great and we have a lot in common. She's been really cool but we had an argument a couple days ago but made up that night. I went over to her place and stayed the night and ...
A. 19 May 2012: I think that in any case you should not be pressuring her and breathing on her neck and counting minutes waiting for her texts !
I don't know, obviously, if she is just depressed,stressed out , tired ( dealing with a 14 months child is no joke... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 19 May 2012: Op, you must have lived a very sheltered life.
Of course a woman can cheerfully and casually walk off from a night of sex. Ask any Club Med entertainer or vacation resort sport instructor ,lifeguard, cruise staff, etc :). Women too have sex with... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he doesn't want to be seen with me?
Q. ...Still close with my Ex, do everything together...but he didn't invite me to his Birthday Party...? My ex split up with me a year and a half ago, his mum died and he felt like he could not handle a relationship no more. I respected his wi...
A. 18 May 2012: I don't think it's so mysterious,- it's obvious that he wants to be seen and perceived as single and not give anybody the impression that there
is any special arrangement or agreement with you.
You say you saw the guest list, but, really, ... (read in full...)
I can't trust a single word he says ever time he opens his mouth my thoughts are lie lie lie..
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about two years now but I am so mentally drained is my boyfriend a narsassistic psychological abuser and doesn't really love me? Or am I just over thinking our relationship and what has happened? Hear is alittle bit ...
A. 18 May 2012: The guy is bad, but YOU are being your own worst enemy.
Come on, this is simple ...
... So, you found out that your BF is a pathological liar, you don't trust him at all ( because he proved you that you can't trust him ) he would not tell you... (read in full...)
I'm a stripper, I have 2 kids with a third on the way, I want to stop dancing and stripping but my boyfriend and his family just wont let me
Q. Sorry if this is a little long I just don't have anyone to talk to about this issue and I can really use some advice. I'm 24 years old and I currently live in Texas. I was born and raised in PA but I moved to texas about 2 years ago. When I wa...
A. 18 May 2012: If you feel as if your bf is pimping out of you , well, I guess it's because he IS pimping out of you.
50 Cents would tell you " I don't know what you heard about me
but a bitch can't get a dollar out of me....
...Look baby this is simple , ... (read in full...)
After all this time spending so many wonderful moments together, my boyfriend is questioning our compatibility over a few petty arguments!
Q. I have been in an amazing relationship for 8 months now.Everything seems to be going so well, however there have been at the most, five occasions when my borfriend and I disagree on something. I see them as insignificant arguments, but last night he ...
A. 18 May 2012: Perhaps you are actually not very compatible. As shown by the very same fact that you don't give the same weight to your differences and arguments, and you don't draw the same conclusions about them.
It's not a matter of who's right who's wrong abou... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 18 May 2012: Yes, pretty normal. Maybe lamentable, maybe unwise, maybe objectionable, but still " normal " in the sense of fairly common. For women and men alike.
Teenage years are often rather turbulent. It's a time for exploration and curiosity, it's a time... (read in full...)
Will I be more than just a hook up?
Q. I have fallen for my sometimes hook up. We see each other only a few times a month. We chat every other day or so. He is not into having a relationship. I knew this and was ok but something about him is so amazing other than sex. I tried to break ...
A. 18 May 2012: He's not doing any great love feat for you , don't tell me you'd still be at his beck and call for hook ups if he would NOT please you and would NOT make you comfortable, and would NOT have the decency to add some appreciation for your good ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I'm moving away and wont be coming back?
Q. Iv been in a relationship with a guy for some months now, we started dating when we were schooling together. We are happy together but the problem is, i have moved to a different country and i dont think i'll be returning due to some pesonal issues. ...
A. 17 May 2012: Of course you have to tell him. What do you want to do, keep him hanging for 6 months, one year, two years etc ? Eventually he'll figure out that you are not coming back and have been wasting his time, and that you have lied to him, - he'll ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 17 May 2012: OP, I just realized that you may be the same person who posted about a similar quandary ( younger uncommited bf ) with a Muslim bf .
If this is the case, I have to say that it would be an added obstacle.
It is true that there's no point in... (read in full...)
My ex lover is married and looking to continue the relationship....
Q. I was sleeping with my best friend for 2 1/2 yrs after he broke up with his ex girl after 7 yrs of an on and off again relationship. We had a great time together. We are compatible and love each others company, sex was awesome but it would have ...
A. 17 May 2012:
Strange reasoning, yours. It is so obvious, why :
From his point of view, the point of view of a cheater and as such unhindered by moral scruples,if he can have two good things , intead that just one, and nobody is preventing him from getting... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 17 May 2012: Mean ?... We can be personally supportive and sympathetic with your situation, but, do you want to be supported and resuured regardless,... or do you want the straight dope ?.
Everybody is datable. But, some people will have more trouble than othe... (read in full...)
I've been interested in my friend for over 3 years and our mutual friend asked me not to tell her yet, only for me to find out that he's been having sex with her!! I feel so betrayed by both of them!
Q. I have been interested in a girl for over three years. I've never looked at another woman the same way. We are very good friends and we share a mutual friend. The reason I never said anything to her was because I discussed it with our mutual friend ...
A. 17 May 2012: The male friend has been a regular little Jago, so he is no friends of yours in substance anyway.
The girl... why do you blame her ? if she had no idea about your attraction, what was she supposed to do , turn down any other guy in case in a few ... (read in full...)
I've been interested in my friend for over 3 years and our mutual friend asked me not to tell her yet, only for me to find out that he's been having sex with her!! I feel so betrayed by both of them!
Q. I have been interested in a girl for over three years. I've never looked at another woman the same way. We are very good friends and we share a mutual friend. The reason I never said anything to her was because I discussed it with our mutual friend ...
A. 17 May 2012: The male friend has been a regular little Jago, so he is no friends of yours in substance anyway.
The girl... why do you blame her ? if she had no idea about your attraction, what was she supposed to do , turn down any other guy in case in a few ... (read in full...)
I thought everything was fine, why hasn't she gotten back to me?
Q. Hello so me and my girlfriend have been together for a month and it's been great and we have a lot in common. She's been really cool but we had an argument a couple days ago but made up that night. I went over to her place and stayed the night and ...
A. 17 May 2012: Simple, shut the damn phone off. Do your work or social calls before, or after, spending time with your gf. Or keep the phone on if you need to, but screen calls and texts and ONLY answer those who could be urgent and important. You are not , ... (read in full...)
Fiance has posted pics of himself with his ex and children on Facebook, is this wrong?
Q. My Fiancé and I have been together for nearly 2 years, and were recently engaged. We have both been in previous marriages and have children from those relationships. Because my ex and I have had great animosity towards each other and my feelings ...
A. 16 May 2012: Relax- it's just Facebook. It would have been worrisome if you had found pics with his ex carefully hidden in some secret drawer, or stashed away in his coat pockets. But the way this pics were taken , it probably never crossed his mind that ... (read in full...)
Fiance has posted pics of himself with his ex and children on Facebook, is this wrong?
Q. My Fiancé and I have been together for nearly 2 years, and were recently engaged. We have both been in previous marriages and have children from those relationships. Because my ex and I have had great animosity towards each other and my feelings ...
A. 16 May 2012: Relax- it's just Facebook. It would have been worrisome if you had found pics with his ex carefully hidden in some secret drawer, or stashed away in his coat pockets. But the way this pics were taken , it probably never crossed his mind that ... (read in full...)
My mom is dating a 33 year old guy, who's closer in age to me than her! Its so embarrassing!!
Q. My mom who is 49 years old is now dating a guy who is 33 years old and I don't know how to feel about the whole situation. I mean he's closer in age to me than her, she's never done anything like this before so I don't know whats going on. She has ...
A. 16 May 2012: So you want your mom to stop dating a younger man, just because you are afraid of your friends' comments and are afraid you may loose some " street cred " :).But, I guess, you'd feel offended and intruded upon if you'd mom wanted you to stop ... (read in full...)
We like each other but we'll be 10 hours apart!
Q. This is real complicated. This guy and I found out we both liked each other a couple of days ago, but the problem is, we will soon be 10+ hours of flight apart. We've hung out together on a few dates, held hands, kissed, cuddled. But the problem is, ...
A. 16 May 2012: I don't think this is the advice you want to hear, anyway IMO you should just let it go . Chalk it up to " a few nice dates " and move on.
LDRs are extremely difficult even for seriously committed people. 10 hours distance is often too much... (read in full...)
How do I convince my mother to let me cut my hair short?
Q. I have long waist length beautiful healthy hair. But the trouble is that i dont like them at all. I want to get them cut short because i like hair better that way. My mother apparantly doesnot understand me and she does not even let me do the ...
A. 15 May 2012: Call me crazy, but I am with your mom. A beautiful, healthy, shiny head of waist length hair is a wonderful sight, a privileged exception, a small miracle to be grateful for :). It goes beyond fads and fashions, and to me does not tell Rapunzel, ... (read in full...)
Is it worth commiting for a visa?
Q. I have recently traveled to a European country to be with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is both a US citizen as well as a citizen here. He was able to get a research position that will take another 3 or 4 years to finish and asked me to join ...
A. 15 May 2012: Go home and come back in 3 or 6 months on another tourist's visa. Repeat as needed. The extra flight tickets will cost you something, but probably not more than getting a divorce later on, which sounds like a definite possibility when the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has no interest in sex whatsoever, is it wrong to consider breaking up with her?
Q. We've been together for 3 years, but this isn't the sort of thing where she gradually became less and less interested in sex... She's just always been pretty non-sexual, at least with me, anyway. We broke up for awhile about a year ago, and she had ...
A. 15 May 2012: Saying " if not for the lack of a sex life, we'd be the perfect couple " is like saying " if it weren't for the lack of a roof , this house would be my dream home ".
Total lack of sexual compatibility is not a trivial issue, it's a very seri... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 12 May 2012: I think he is embarassed and does not know what to tell you . Actually, what's really there to talk about ? I mean, it's good that you want to deal with the issue without tears and drama, but I guess it boils down to being on two different tracks. ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 9 May 2012: I don't think that asking that question after 18 months of dating in your age bracket is forcing the issue.
it would be if you were 18, then a what the heck do I know would be an appropriate response. But if he is around your age or olde... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 2 May 2011: I can't but reiterate my previous advice : leave her . If you love her as you say, you'll understand that she deserves marrying somebody who cherishes her exactly like she is, and that fully accepts her with all her past " mistakes " and ... (read in full...)
The fact that my GF was not a virgin when she met me, is breaking me down.I cant handle this relationship anymore...
Q. Ive being going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years now and early on in the relationship i found she wasnt a virgin. This was painful for me to hear for two reasons: 1-I belive that you should lose your virginity to someone you love and want...
A. 30 April 2011: I am going to comment something that has already been very well commented by You Wish, - and I am insisting on it to show you why most people would have trouble to "feel your pain ".
Let's take for granted that dismissing you with a : Aw come on, ... (read in full...)
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