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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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My period is late, could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. i had sex on the 10th of july and i dont use contreception with my fiance...we use withdrawel method, wen he pulled out he didnt do it quick enough and caught just of the inside of my vagina and the rest on my clitoris and groin...i was due on my ...
A. 25 July 2010: Explore others means of contracetives, even if you are allergic to latex there are condoms made out of other things (can't remember the name at the moment) so if you don't wamt to be pregnant, but want sex, take responsibility and find a ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina sore because it was rough or another reason?
Q. it had been a month at th longest since ive had sex, and i just recently had sex on saturday night just gone, it is now wednesday. i have a really sore vagina, like it hurts when i pee, th sex was rough though. is that normal? should i go see the ...
A. 22 July 2010: Yes, to prevent UTI, pee after sex. Also drink cranberry juice or take cranberry pills. If you can't stand cranberry juice drink orange juice or other juices with high level of acid. This creates a hostile environment for the bacteria that causes ... (read in full...)
Is feeling loved different than someone loving you?
Q. is feeling loved different to someone loving you? i feel it is but my partner is happy to just tell me he loves me and to him thats him loving me. is he just incapable of connecting with me emotionally and caring how i feel? does this mean he doesnt ...
A. 21 July 2010: Like said before, what you talk about is "action says more than words". He can tell you he loves you, but if his actions doesnt show it, then you are not feeling loved. And that is just how it works. To hear "I love you" is important, but it also ... (read in full...)
What tips can you give me on masturbating??
Q. Hello, I am 16 years of age and am a virgin. It's kind of bad between me and my mum so I was kind of hoping to ask questions here. So my friends gave me ways to masturbate but none of them seem to work for me. Does anyone have any ideas? If so I'm a...
A. 21 July 2010: Did you try and twist of the shower head and use the water to stimulate you? That is the best tip I can give anyone, unless they can go get a vibrator. A vibrator, for example the bullet, works wonders.
Only the very talented can get off by thems... (read in full...)
My period is late, could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. i had sex on the 10th of july and i dont use contreception with my fiance...we use withdrawel method, wen he pulled out he didnt do it quick enough and caught just of the inside of my vagina and the rest on my clitoris and groin...i was due on my ...
A. 21 July 2010: The pull out method is a method for getting pregnant really. If you don't want to be pregnant use a contraceptive. Or you could have taken the morning after pill. That is, of you really didn't want to become pregnant.
Yes, you might be pregnant... (read in full...)
Why does the creep factor go up the older you get?
Q. Why is it when a young man craves sex, it's just young a man craving sex. But when that young man gets old and craves sex, he suddenly considered a Dirty Old Man, or even a Sex Addict. Someone help me with this. ...
A. 21 July 2010: I think that is probably because older men are expected to be more mature and able to keep their lusts in check. ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina sore because it was rough or another reason?
Q. it had been a month at th longest since ive had sex, and i just recently had sex on saturday night just gone, it is now wednesday. i have a really sore vagina, like it hurts when i pee, th sex was rough though. is that normal? should i go see the ...
A. 21 July 2010: Sounds like urinary tract infection to me. A new partner can often be the cause of an infection because of the different bacteria's they bring with them. This is normal, everyone has healthy bacteria down there, but when two sets are mixed it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he wanted a break, but how long should I give him?
Q. My bf has asks for a break a week ago. He said he was too stressed about his college work and family problems. He also said that he is a sucky bf.The reasons are he got no car and no money.We are both college students,so i don't mind whether ...
A. 21 July 2010: Did you discuss with him the rules of this break? Every break needs a set of rules. Like, is dating other people allowed, is kissing or having sex with others allowed? And of course, there should be a time limit, you can not be on a break for an ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me or it?
Q. My boyfriend and I fool around almost every time we see each other. He goes down and me and is fantastic! I go down on him and he won't stay hard. He insists that it feels awesome, but his penissays otherwise. He claims to just get really nervous ...
A. 21 July 2010: Maybe he isn't ready for that level of intimacy yet. Are you the first girl ever he has been that intimate with?
I don't think it has anything to do with your skills! But I think he has a problem staying erect, and maybe a problem relaxing... (read in full...)
My sister refuses to sleep in her own bed.
Q. A couple of months ago, my Mum lost her job, and we had to move into a flat, which only has 2 rooms. This means I'm now sharing a room with my sister whos a year younger than me. We each have a bed, but she will only sleep in mine, and it's really ...
A. 21 July 2010: Why might your sister get in trouble over this? Maybe you need to tell your sister to go sleep in her own bed even if she gets upset. Stand on your grounds and don't let your sisters puppy eyes get to you. ... (read in full...)
Did HE put this picture on Facebook???
Q. hi, everyone need some help if yall wouldnt mind taking the time, please, and thanks. so yesterday my soon to-be husband comes home from work, we're laying on the bed talking and im checking my facebook on my phone and there was a photo downloaded ...
A. 21 July 2010: I think you should trust him on this too. Someone pulled a prank on him. You know your man, so is he stupid? You wouldn't marry a stupid man right? If he is not stupid he didn't do it. It is facebook... why on earth would anyone with brains do that. ... (read in full...)
Freckles
Q. "OP Own Title" Hi! I have to much freckles! I just want some off not all. I'm filipino-mexicano, I'm just saying, if that changes anything:)... so tell me your remedies that work for you please! ...
A. 21 July 2010: The best thing I know against freckles is to use sun block!!! That prevents more from showing up. And then use a good foundation, that covers it up.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone so young?
Q. Well, let's get right to the point. I'm 14 years old, and I really believe I'm in love. I've read things like, "how to tell you're in love!" or, "are you REALLY in love?" They of course list things like, "Do you think about him/her every waking ...
A. 21 July 2010: I don't think it is normal for a 14 year old to have been in relationships before. But the kids seems to grow so fast these days. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 18...
Okay, so say you love this boy. Are you a couple? Does he love you... (read in full...)
How to raise my girlfriends self-esteem?
Q. "OP Own Title" My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 years and have a 2 year old son and we are both 19. I was recently kicked out of my house and I am now living with my girlfriend, her parents and our son. Ever since I have moved in, about 2 ...
A. 21 July 2010: Sounds like she needs space, the house sounds crowded. Don't be offended. Just let her come to you for hugs and kisses instead. Moving in together is a big deal, and she needs time to get used to it. Simple yet complicated. Give her time. I don't ... (read in full...)
Why does he do this to me?? am soo depressed.
Q. so my ex came to my house he told me to make him some tea i did. he asked if am dating anyone i said yeah.. he said he regrets getting with me cos i couldn't even kiss and then he showed me a text message from some girl who is in love with...
A. 21 July 2010: Tell your brother that you two were an item and that he is now bothering you. And even if you can't stop him from coming to your house, you can keep yourself in a different room from him. Just go to your own room, or excuse yourself and leave. Or ... (read in full...)
How do you become just friends with someone you are attracted to
Q. How do you become just friends with someone you are attracted to? There is a guy I know who I now is strongly attracted to me as I can tell by his body language but I believe he is in a relationship. I do not want to lost contact with him bu...
A. 21 July 2010: When you feel that you can't be either or... don't try. It is too bad that you don't want to loose friendship, but it is not your fault. He is the one who doesn't keep within his boundaries. Too bad. Find friends who know how to respect the ... (read in full...)
In need of a few new sex positions!
Q. Just want some ideas from people who are sexually experienced! Ive been in a great relationship for over ayear now but just want to add a few different things to our sex life. We've done all sorts of foreplay, but when it comes to the actual crunch, ...
A. 21 July 2010: What two positions are you usually doing? I am guessing missionary (the most popular one by far) and then ... you riding him?
Third on the list of favs here is doggy. Depending on his penis, some just hurt you, others feel good. If it hurts, t... (read in full...)
My man makes me sick!!!
Q. Is this very common, that a man in his forties becomes uninterested in sex and wife. Or does it always depends on the situation? Can a man be totally cold with his wife but get really horny in a new relationship? Is it ok, to be roommates and st...
A. 20 July 2010: Talk to him. If that doesn't work, look at your own morals and beliefs. Is it allowed for you, once married, to divorce?
But you need to talk to him. You have been married to him for years, if anyone can make it through this hard time with him... (read in full...)
Ladies, orgasms during sex?....
Q. Questions for ladies who have had orgasms during sex....does it intensify your orgasm sensation to have the guy coninue to move during the contractions? what is most intense fast or slow thrusting?...
A. 20 July 2010: Slow thrusting for me. The contractions make it intense enough that he is just inside me, to have him move in addition gets a bit too much, and also takes away some of the pleasure. At least I think so. I guess this is up to each and everyone to ... (read in full...)
He's so wonderful but he's not fulfilling my needs!
Q. So, about a year and a half ago my husband passed away in a tragic accident, I was left with three young children (FYI-I was 34 at the time). I panicked and quickly dated out of fear of the "unknown", and I wanted to put the pieces back together, so ...
A. 20 July 2010: I'm not going to say break up with him. You've been with him for a year already and you like it, the relationship in itself is not what is bothering you. It is that you hold back and are unsure. Which I think is only normal. You are still grieving. ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex in the bathroom??
Q. ok so me and my bofriend want to have sex.......but the thing is hes not a virgin and i am.......he wants to do it in the bathroom and idk if i could do it in the bathroom.........and idk if i want to do it with him or not.......how would we do it ...
A. 19 July 2010: Does he know you are a virgin? Why does he want to do the first time with you in the bathroom? Does he understand the word "romance"? Because this isn't exactly what you define as romantic. The first time for you, and the first time for you both as ... (read in full...)
Condoms! We don't use them, why do you have them?
Q. Serious problem! I've been in a relationship with my guyfriend for the last three years, and during this time we have never used condoms during intimacy. A couple of weeks ago, I discovered condoms in his nightstand, and he hurriedly rushed over ...
A. 19 July 2010: Each individual packet of condoms also has an expiration date. Condoms do tend to last quite a bit, but not 3 years... If these aren't expired yet, he recently bought them. Also, when he changed his excuse from "they are old" to "I'm keeping them ... (read in full...)
He proposed!! Do I share the excitment??
Q. My now fiance just proposed, he is in basic training so he did it over the phone, he told me to pick out three rings and he wants to choose one and ask again when he get back. Is it wrong to say we are engaged? He said that that was him proposin...
A. 18 July 2010: Yes! Do tell! Or ask your boyfriend again to be sure, maybe he wants you guys to spread the news together? But other than that, you should tell! Congratulations!... (read in full...)
Do most girls shave down there? And how do you do it anyway?
Q. do most girls shave down there? do guys like shaved or hairy or trimmed? how do you shave it, dont the hairs get caught in the shaver?...
A. 18 July 2010: The guys who actually care about you will like it either way. And thats the truth. The way you naturally look should always be accepted. If anyone is disgusted by the way you look then you know they are not a good person for you.
What guys lik... (read in full...)
Condoms! We don't use them, why do you have them?
Q. Serious problem! I've been in a relationship with my guyfriend for the last three years, and during this time we have never used condoms during intimacy. A couple of weeks ago, I discovered condoms in his nightstand, and he hurriedly rushed over ...
A. 18 July 2010: Does it matter? This IS the reason you want to end the relationship, and a good reason too. Let him try and talk his way out of it, just make sure you have your bags already packed and are on your way out the door. ... (read in full...)
Do most girls shave down there? And how do you do it anyway?
Q. do most girls shave down there? do guys like shaved or hairy or trimmed? how do you shave it, dont the hairs get caught in the shaver?...
A. 18 July 2010: It can be good to trim is so it doesn't get intertwined when you have your period. Just use a small pair of scissors (get the ones they sell in beauty salons, they are small and perfect for this purpose). It is also good to shave it a bit if you get ... (read in full...)
How do people survive long distance relationships? And how can I ease my girlfriend's worries?
Q. Dear cupid, Am a Zambian and me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost two years. The thing is I will be going out for college to the US for four years. My gf is very happy for me but also worried If we will stand the test of time. Lately ...
A. 18 July 2010: Make a plan. Set up times for when to meet, and very importantly never break a date. Always show up at the agreed time. That is what works. You need to prioritize your relationship in a whole new way. Set aside time for her, tell her about your day, ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 18 July 2010: Why would it be cheaper for you to go to him, and he said that him visiting you would cost too much? Did he give any explanation to this? Do you think that sounds fair? It would be a lot cheaper for him to go see you to be honest, as the US is more ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 18 July 2010: Listen, you did not tell him you were going to go to him. No plans were made. It was his decision alone to sell the house. And as mention, how can you be sure that he sold the house because of you? Doesn't make sense to me. If you want someone to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbates next to me in bed and wakes me up, and gets defensive when I ask him to stop...
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for a little over one year. We are very much in love, and have a great sex life, but once in a while have a good argument about eachother's peeves. One that I am CONSTANTLY arguing with him about is the fact ...
A. 18 July 2010: Anti, there is a time and place for revenge, and when a woman on numerous occasions has been placed on the very edge of what is tolerable... bad things will happen. Beware men. Bad things will happen. They don't call it "beauty sleep" for nothing ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 18 July 2010: This guy is a fake. Hun, sorry, but if his webcam was broken he could have bought a new one. When I first got into a long distance relationship the very first thing I did, within the first weeks, was to buy a webcam. My guy also bought a webcam soon ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 17 July 2010: Alright, I will get a few things off of my chest first. I know for a fact that online relationships can work into real relationships. So don't get me wrong, I have no objections to online relationships. But you need to realize a few things, and also ... (read in full...)
Why would he send me nude pictures of himself?
Q. This guy i like knows i like him and he likes me and wants me to be his gf, i have told him i am ok with being his friend soi giess he is ok with it since we still text, but just recently he ignored more for a week and i texted but no response, then ...
A. 17 July 2010: Why do you like this guy if he ignores you and then sends you nudes.... He probably wants you to send nudes back. Im sorry but it doesn't sound like he cares. Sending nudes are for whores or people who are in a committed relationship. If he sent you ... (read in full...)
Will teenage guys hook up with anyone who is even a little bit attractive?
Q. I am 16 and don't have a boyfriend but I really just want to hook up. I was wondering if guys only will hook up with skinny big breasted girls of if teenage guys will hook up with anyone even a little bit attractive. ...
A. 16 July 2010: Teenage guys hang out with the popular girls, or girls who stand out, are outgoing and fun. They love to hookup with girls who flirt with them. But, a hookup is a short brief thing. A boyfriend takes more work and compatibility. ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he is seeing someone else?
Q. How to know if he is seeing someone else?...
A. 16 July 2010: If he is good at hiding it you won't know. If he is not too smart he will screw up and you will find evidence that he is cheating. If there is nothing in particular that causes your concern, trust that your man is not cheating. ... (read in full...)
How can I fix things between us and kick this other girl to the curb?
Q. so ive been with my boyfrined, Scott for over 4 months... im always worried about him cheating, but its never really bugged me, cause i never thought hed do it, well there was this girl Bella, that i askedt o him to stop talking to, he did, and then ...
A. 16 July 2010: I found this all too confusing to understand. What girl is his ex, and what is a "signature" that he never used with you... I don't understand this. But, from what I think is going on, you believe he has cheated on you, and you want to control who ... (read in full...)
Is sex between siblings bad?
Q. i would like to know if sex between siblings, is bad or actually a taboo? and why? is it just because of society norms? is it because we have been born and educated with the thought that it is bad, even though we have experimented when we were kids? ...
A. 16 July 2010: I disagree, I bet many people will not be attracted to their siblings. I think people who are attracted to their siblings are in a minority. My personal point of view is that, well if both of the siblings want to have a relationship and they ... (read in full...)
He never tells me something is wrong until we start fighting!
Q. Okayy so me and this kid have been going out for about two months. And yesterday for example, we were talking all day and he was acting totally fine. And then that night i asked him how his game went...and he said that they won and so on. After that ...
A. 15 July 2010: Glad it's going better, but stay alert!... (read in full...)
My father touched me inappropriately when I was younger and now its hurting my relationships!
Q. When I was younger I was always scared of the dark. In result, I always ended up sleeping in my parent's bedroom. When I was 5, I soundly went to sleep in between my mom and dad only to wake up in the middle of the night with a hand down my panties. ...
A. 15 July 2010: No, not necessarily. You said: If he honestly true to God didn't know he did that in his sleep, he would have continued to have wandering hands as he sleeps.
You are not a psychiatrist. You are not in a position to say that. You honestly don't kn... (read in full...)
He never tells me something is wrong until we start fighting!
Q. Okayy so me and this kid have been going out for about two months. And yesterday for example, we were talking all day and he was acting totally fine. And then that night i asked him how his game went...and he said that they won and so on. After that ...
A. 15 July 2010: Are you sure you weren't being offensive? The man had a great day and you bring him down by pointing out flaws and things he haven't accomplished in a while (hitting a homerun). I think anyone could be upset by such a comment. But, it could also be ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, he's 20, and I want to have sex with him, but will he leave me afterwards?
Q. Hey all im a 13 year old girl and my bf is 20 im a virgin and well this has been my first real bf we have been together 4months and well i want to take it to the next step and have sex. i know he probably will want to as well but im just a bit ...
A. 15 July 2010: That is correct what raiders have said. If this man had any morals he would not be dating you, you are way too young for him. Imagine if you had children, would you have let YOUR 13 year old daughter have sex with a 20 year old?
People who care... (read in full...)
My father touched me inappropriately when I was younger and now its hurting my relationships!
Q. When I was younger I was always scared of the dark. In result, I always ended up sleeping in my parent's bedroom. When I was 5, I soundly went to sleep in between my mom and dad only to wake up in the middle of the night with a hand down my panties. ...
A. 15 July 2010: You need to not talk to your parents about it, but talk to a therapist or psychiatrist. Remember that asking for help is not for crazy people with mental disturbances, but also for completely normal people who encounter problems in theirs lives. ... (read in full...)
Do I have to make my career choice already at 15?
Q. hi, im 15 and i've been told i have 5 months to decide what i want to do and i have to apply for college in 5 months. im not sure what i want to do i wanted to be a police woman and make a change because i really do care but im not very healty( ...
A. 14 July 2010: It is nice to have made up your mind at an early age, because then you have a goal to work towards. Some educations take many many years. And then again, some careers aren't profitable (or at least not the first years), and are only fit for the ... (read in full...)
Is sex between siblings bad?
Q. i would like to know if sex between siblings, is bad or actually a taboo? and why? is it just because of society norms? is it because we have been born and educated with the thought that it is bad, even though we have experimented when we were kids? ...
A. 13 July 2010: Siblings are not allowed to have sex/get married and have children because the children of siblings have a much higher chance of being born with defects and not capable of living. Sex between family members is called incest, and you might want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbates next to me in bed and wakes me up, and gets defensive when I ask him to stop...
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for a little over one year. We are very much in love, and have a great sex life, but once in a while have a good argument about eachother's peeves. One that I am CONSTANTLY arguing with him about is the fact ...
A. 12 July 2010: That is inconsiderate. He needs to respect that you need sleep, and if he needs to masturbate to sleep he should do it before he goes to bed. Really, maybe he should take sleeping pills? I don't think he gets what the problem really is.
"It w... (read in full...)
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