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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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I'm scared of sex and getting married soon!
Q. Okay so I am 18 and I'm getting married soon. The problem is that I'm a virgin and I am scared to have sex. I have always thought of sex to be disgusting and I even tried to get over it by watching anime porn but I couldn't bring myself to do so. ...
A. 1 July 2010: Anon female, I think getting married pretty much means it is now or never. Why else get married, if you are not ready to take the relationship to the next level! What is marriage about really, if it os not about being everything you can be for each ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for genital warts to show up?
Q. If you have beed exposed to genital warts which i have (i knew he had them and it doesnt bother me because i love him but i still have to face the fact that i could have them) how long does it take to show up if you do have it and if you dont have ...
A. 30 June 2010: Last time I checked I was not allowed the vaccine because they only hand it out to virgins. But the law might be different in your country. ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend so secretive over her phone?
Q. Hello. Ok let's get into this straight away. I am in a relationship and its going well. We are in love and going to be having a baby in Oct. Not married but we are strong how we are. I Don't know why but my GF always has a secretive mind. For...
A. 30 June 2010: Reply? Why are you communicating with her through texts in the first place? This is something you have to talk to her in person about! And then you need to tell her your side of the story, exactly what you are wondering about.
You headed at this ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend so secretive over her phone?
Q. Hello. Ok let's get into this straight away. I am in a relationship and its going well. We are in love and going to be having a baby in Oct. Not married but we are strong how we are. I Don't know why but my GF always has a secretive mind. For...
A. 30 June 2010: Next time she tries to hide the screen from you, ask her politely if you can see it. My guts is telling me she is secretive by nature and that there is nothing going on that really needs this secrecy. She just likes her life personal and private and ... (read in full...)
I hooked up with my best friend! Only two problems, he is gay, and he has a boyfriend!
Q. "Joey" and I have been best friends for eight years. When we were younger, I had feelings for him, but about four years ago, when he came out as being gay, I completely moved on with my life. Around that time, Joey started dating his boyfriend ...
A. 30 June 2010: Let me rewrite this to you so you can see the picture more clearly. Your best friend cheated on his boyfriend. With you. You are now his lover on the side. Your friend is not so much a friend as he is someone who used your body. If he is even gay I ... (read in full...)
Are these all good signs for us? And what do I do now?
Q. There is this guy, he's pretty awesome! Total package! I posted a few days ago to get advice on how to "catch" him. He's always on the road for work, not even from my same city. We talked on the phone for two hours tonight. He played music on ...
A. 30 June 2010: Send him a text saying you don't want to text or call him too much, but want to let him know you are thinking of him and hope he is doing well. And that you will be happy hearing from him again.
Yes he likes you back. Don't rush in too fast now... (read in full...)
How long does it take for genital warts to show up?
Q. If you have beed exposed to genital warts which i have (i knew he had them and it doesnt bother me because i love him but i still have to face the fact that i could have them) how long does it take to show up if you do have it and if you dont have ...
A. 30 June 2010: Another link, although I highly recommend you see your doctor instead of trusting all you find online.
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/genital_warts/article_em.htm
Once you do get a breakout you will need to see your doctor to get the pr... (read in full...)
How long does it take for genital warts to show up?
Q. If you have beed exposed to genital warts which i have (i knew he had them and it doesnt bother me because i love him but i still have to face the fact that i could have them) how long does it take to show up if you do have it and if you dont have ...
A. 30 June 2010: It can take years. Really. I had them once too and I had no idea where I got them from, because it had been ages ago since the time I could have been exposed. For me it took minimum a year. I could have been exposed earlier. I had absolutely no ... (read in full...)
What did this dream I had about my boyfriend mean?
Q. hi im an 18 year old female ,a few months ago i had a dream where my boyfriend who is 22 was just standing there in the pitch black with a heavy mist passing behind him , he looked lifless and pale.. he is a heavier guy about 210 lbs. in my dream he ...
A. 30 June 2010: Don't let yourself be bothered by it. This is not something that is easy to interpret, especially as I don't even know either of you. If his mother decided to add meaning to it, then let that be up to her. Don't let her secrecy affect you. You were ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of sex and getting married soon!
Q. Okay so I am 18 and I'm getting married soon. The problem is that I'm a virgin and I am scared to have sex. I have always thought of sex to be disgusting and I even tried to get over it by watching anime porn but I couldn't bring myself to do so. ...
A. 30 June 2010: Foreplay is a part of sex. Any intimate action between people can be judged as sex, even kissing. So "the best sex" is not one particular action. It is often the sum of many actions, such as being with someone you love, kissing, looking into their ... (read in full...)
Do you believe there is any way to change what sex you are physically attracted to?
Q. I'll try 2 make this short! Basically I am a lesbian and always have been. I have never been confused about my sexuality, I love women. The thing is that my best friend, who is male, has been in love with me for many years now. We are great ...
A. 30 June 2010: I will say yes. But, I have to add that you are too young to start thinking you will "never" meet someone like him in a female version.
You two don't match up. You are not physically attracted to him. So no he is not perfect for you.
As for ... (read in full...)
Suggestions needed on how to stimulate my guy??
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try new things involving foreplay. He doesn't want to have to tell me what to do because he gets the feeling like he is training me and that is just wrong. I'm fairly inexperienced and I don't know much about what stimulates ...
A. 30 June 2010: Talk to him about this next time you are about to be intimate. Tell him that him telling you what he likes is not him teaching you. It is you getting to know more about him. Intimacy is never a text book experience. It is personal. What you learn ... (read in full...)
Falling for a friend who is pushing me to be friends-with-benefits
Q. I'm in love with some one. They are someone who has been a very good friend for a while. I know that he doesn't feel the same way. But the problem is I need to adjust our friendship without ruining it by letting him know how strongly I feel. I ...
A. 30 June 2010: I don't know how much of a friend he is if he can't take no for an answer. Why should you have to explain or give reasons? Just say no. You are not some s%%t that have to say yes to everyone. You don't want to go further with him. Say no. If he ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship is wearing thin, need advice to help??
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship - I've been with my boyfiend for 2 and a half years, 9 months ago i moved away. We're still very much in love but i'm not happy living where i do and it's beginning to really show. When we're together...
A. 30 June 2010: If what you need to be happy is to be together then you need to get together. As that appears to not be an option, the only thing left is to leave. And say, if it is true love and meant to be, you will find your way back to each other after this ... (read in full...)
What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: Design your own symbol that means everything you want it to mean. My brother made his own sign, which symbolized "creator". To him at least. And it is quite a nice sign, made an aesthetic tattoo.
That is if you are the type who enjoys symbols ... (read in full...)
True Love: Fact or Fiction?
Q. Let me tell you a story. When I was a little girl I used to pretend that I was a princess who was awaiting prince charming. He was always the picture perfect man: tall, lean, stunning, poetic, and the type of guy who'd sweep you off your feet. I...
A. 29 June 2010: Thanks for sharing this lovely story with us... (read in full...)
I want to stop being his victim and start living without fear!
Q. I'm just so stressed out, my husband was a serial cheater who I refused to call quits with as he always lied he's way out of every dodgy situation. I left him when I was pregnant and things went from bad to worse, with him getting violent ...
A. 29 June 2010: Yes, do as caring guy said. Your ex is playing a serious game. Step up and take it to the next level yourself. He threatens you? Record it. As many times as you feel will be necessary. Pictures too if there are things he broke or if he is stalking ... (read in full...)
Caught between my parents, with my little sister. Need to find a way to improve my situation.
Q. Okay so this isn't your typical relationship question, has more to do with family, but i've always relied on you guys for help in the past so i can't think of a place i'd feel better asking this. So i absolutely hate my mom. Long story short, she...
A. 29 June 2010: I first have to ask you to clarify this: " mommy gave me cherrywine pop." What does that mean?
If you want to protect your sister, move to your moms. Then when you turn 18 you can apply for custody of your sister, but that will be hard trial an... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to think about sex with exes whilst masturbating?
Q. Is it normal for men to think about sex with ex girlfriends whilst wanking? I know this sounds like a silly question, and Godknows how we got into the conversation, but my boyfriend told me that when he wanks he thinks about ex girlfriends ...
A. 27 June 2010: I think it could be common, but the wise thing would be to never tell anyone! I personally never masturbated to an ex, but I wouldn't be surprised if some people did. Im just surprised he would tell you. He is too honest, he needs to learn what is ... (read in full...)
Where are all of the men?
Q. I am 34 years old, and despairing of ever finding my Mr Right. I thought I had found him, but just before Christmas we split up. It really sucks being single in your thirties. Everyone of my local friends has settled down now, meaning tha...
A. 27 June 2010: See, told you you should take a vacation lol... (read in full...)
Where are all of the men?
Q. I am 34 years old, and despairing of ever finding my Mr Right. I thought I had found him, but just before Christmas we split up. It really sucks being single in your thirties. Everyone of my local friends has settled down now, meaning tha...
A. 27 June 2010: I guess you are only down to one more option. Move. How large is the city you now live in? I'm thinking about what the percentage of single men would be. And you might want to consider going down on the age, find a man 5 years younger? It is n... (read in full...)
Will I ever find anyone, male or female, who loves me for who I am?
Q. Heyy, Well the thing is I'm a really self-conscious person, I hide myself a lot (mostly my face) and I freak out when I'm standing with or next to a boy or a girl (I'm Bisexual) I know I'm not pretty, and I hate it when person tell me otherwise...
A. 27 June 2010: Yes, you will. You might have to start crawling out of your comfort zone though, and approach someone. But with time, yes, I am sure you will find someone who loves you for you. You just haven't been around long enough yet to meet him or her.
... (read in full...)
Am I the only guy who prefers petite women?
Q. I'm just wondering why it is that most men prefere big breasts as oppossed to small breasts, the women in porn and magazines reflects that men are more sexually aroused by big breasts and i'm just curious why that is? I'm more sexually attracted to ...
A. 27 June 2010: Im not a guy, but bisexual, so here's my input on what you are saying... When it comes to porn, in my experience, the women vary quite a lot. I simply don't get it when people say they are all so beautiful and all the same.. I don't think they are. ... (read in full...)
Sick of hearing all my friends' sex stories!
Q. All my friends ever talk about now were 18 seems to be sex, we've all had it but I haven't for ages and it just makes me feel so undesireable, how can I not be so affected by tem all just alking about their boyfriends and sex? It just makes me feel ...
A. 27 June 2010: Try to talk about other things? This happens all the time, next time around you will be the one who has something you talk about all the time that your friends don't. You just have to learn how to not let this affect you. So they have sex, you have ... (read in full...)
Too shy to have sex because I'm worried about the size of my penis...
Q. Hi. I'm 16yo. My penis is something like 5.7 - 6in long when erect. I'm still virgin.. I had maybe 7 chances to have a sex with girls but I didn't do it because I'm too shy and I don't want to get embarrassed when they see my small penis. I know ...
A. 27 June 2010: The thickness is called the "girth". And what is normal while in the teenage varies a whole lot. But what I will repeat: "Most guys have sizes just like yours! And, that is what is most pleasurable for a woman" But like others pointed out, if ... (read in full...)
Do I really dress like a slut?
Q. People think I'm a how because of the way I dress. I am a beautiful blonde with great legs and nice natural breasts. I like to show it off through what I wear. Guys are always getting pissed off at me for "leading them on." tgey know im un a ...
A. 26 June 2010: To enjoy sex is not bad. And you must live in a bad area and meet the worst kind of men if they are the types who think the way a woman dress means she will sleep with them or not. I got that comment thrown after me once, and I was wearing noth... (read in full...)
Too shy to have sex because I'm worried about the size of my penis...
Q. Hi. I'm 16yo. My penis is something like 5.7 - 6in long when erect. I'm still virgin.. I had maybe 7 chances to have a sex with girls but I didn't do it because I'm too shy and I don't want to get embarrassed when they see my small penis. I know ...
A. 26 June 2010: You are normal. The size problem is only in your head. Besides, any decent girl would never make you embarrassed about your size. You are comparing yourself to some fake images in your head about how guys "normally" are. If her ex really did have a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to cum really quickly for your first time of getting intimate?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I've grown really close to my girlfriend over the last few weeks and we recently started experimenting with each other - taking steps. Today, we went to third base, she gave me a hand job, at which point I was very VERY turned o...
A. 26 June 2010: Yes, it is quite normal. I consider it a complement if the man comes fast. It just means it was THAT good, he couldn't help himself. ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep pictures of him with his ex?
Q. I found pictures of my boyfriend with his ex gf in a drawer. They were romantic pictures of them at a beach. Is he not over her? Does he look back at those times and reflect on them as good times? Why would he keep those pictures though ...
A. 26 June 2010: No it does not mean he isn't over her. I don't know if he looks back and reflects on the memories as good times, but I assume he does. We all do. Don't try to tell me you never looked back on your life remembering the good times. So his life with ... (read in full...)
How can I teach him to kiss better?!
Q. Does anybody have any experience with or know how I would aproach the subject with a guy I'm seeing on how to kiss better?!?! He just kisses so big, and I mean massive, I almost feel like I need to wipe my face with a towel after. No joke, it makes...
A. 26 June 2010: Approach it softly. Don't ever tell him he kisses horribly. Just continue to kiss him! You want him to be confident that you love kissing him. With time he will adjust to you as you adjust to him. If you want to speed up this process, kiss him ... (read in full...)
I want to stop having sex with everyone I meet!
Q. I don't know what kind of girl I am anymore. its like every guy I meet wants to sleep with me, and I dnt know how to say No. I feel like such a hoe because I'm 19 with 8 sex partners and only been sexually active for 3 years. I want to stop having ...
A. 26 June 2010: Demand an official relationship before you have sex. Or you could do what I did for a while to shoo off guys I wasn't interested in: tell a little white lie and say you are waiting for marriage with sex. Which could be totally true, you don't have ... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Yes, my guess is she is not telling you the full story. Men aren't blind. If they don't like what they see they don't got for it. Unless it is for a quick fix, which is why I asked if she sleeps with them right away. ... (read in full...)
I've lost my faith in men because of him, how can I overcome this?
Q. hi, I just broke up with my four years bf, I was in love with this man but it took me a lot of time to really know that he can't give me what I need from this relationship, he only cared about himself...ok, it's gone now and I really need some help ...
A. 26 June 2010: One month is not enough time. You need to heal from the breakup first. A sign that you are still hurting and needing to heal is that you have no trust in men. This is your heart and mind telling you you are not ready for a new relationship yet! When ... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Of course, you know her better than us. But you don't know her better than herself. If she is happy with her weight and don't have a problem with her weight, then the weight is not the issue.
Why do the men date her in the first place if they are... (read in full...)
I want to stop having sex with everyone I meet!
Q. I don't know what kind of girl I am anymore. its like every guy I meet wants to sleep with me, and I dnt know how to say No. I feel like such a hoe because I'm 19 with 8 sex partners and only been sexually active for 3 years. I want to stop having ...
A. 26 June 2010: Say no. Don't get drunk. When you get drunk you will find it harder to remember what you truly want. So if going out, stop after one drink. And remember what you want! You want to find a boyfriend. A good decent boyfriend-material will not want to ... (read in full...)
Why is she angry with me for trying to protect her?
Q. Heres the story.. My girlfriend and I were at a bar/dance spot in town with friends yesterday. By the end of the night things got out of control because a few guys started fighting the bouncers. Naturally everyone started rushing to watch the figh...
A. 26 June 2010: Your girl is in the wrong here, in my opinion. It might be she has been around the block a few times before, but she sounds rather naive. Just because something hasn't happened to her yet, doesn't mean she should continue to provoke a mob... And ... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Lots of guys like a woman with some curves, but being obese is in general not that attractive. Not always just because people don't like fat, but people imagine that an overweight person must be lazy, don't eat properly, don't take good care of ... (read in full...)
Does masturbation affect virginity?
Q. when i do the secret happit, does that may affect my virginity cause iam getting maried after few months and i must be virgin ? and how can i knew or be sure...
A. 26 June 2010: You can not know if you are a virgin or not by looking yourself. But, in this case you must define what it means to be a virgin. You have never been with a man, so in that sense you are definitely a virgin. However, if you have inserted anything ... (read in full...)
My sister always embarrasses me in front of my family!
Q. My sister always has to tell embarrassing stories about me when we have family events. One time I had my friends over and forgot to open the flue on the fireplace. (My parents came home and managed to open it up, so everything was fine.) But then on ...
A. 26 June 2010: I think olderthandirt makes a good point, siblings can be bothersome at times. They are not always your best friend, and they don't have to be either. You still must accept them like they are, because they are family. You can not trade family in for ... (read in full...)
My sister always embarrasses me in front of my family!
Q. My sister always has to tell embarrassing stories about me when we have family events. One time I had my friends over and forgot to open the flue on the fireplace. (My parents came home and managed to open it up, so everything was fine.) But then on ...
A. 25 June 2010: I don't know if she sees the harm in what she does. Nor do I think the stories you have used as examples here are particularly embarrassing. They might serve as amusement for a short period, so try not to take yourself too highly, but learn how to ... (read in full...)
I'm the office Cinderella with no Fairy Godmother!
Q. Hi everyone, I desperately need some career advice, or really just some reassurance that I shouldn't take this personally. Last year I studied to be a journo and excelled! I'm in my late 20's and before starting the course I'd been working in ...
A. 25 June 2010: Stick to where you are for now to have a source of income. But don't put your heart and soul into it. This admin job is now to be considered your job nr.2 Your first job is as a journalist. Do free work on the side, or write articles and then sell ... (read in full...)
I plan to move to America... but how do I to tell Mum and Dad!
Q. hello reader i am 17 and i didn't stay at school or go to college i have regretted that as i haven't been able to fibd work. i am now thinking about going back to college and getting some education the thing is next year if i have enough m...
A. 25 June 2010: are you old enough to be allowed to make these decisions on your own? I don't know what would be a good way to talk to your parents if they are protective of you, that is up to you and them. I don't know them. But often, if you have proven yourself ... (read in full...)
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