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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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How do I know what I am?
Q. How do I know if I'm gay, bi, or straight?...
A. 12 August 2010: You know when you find out what gender you are sexually attracted to. If you aren't sexually attracted to anyone right now, don't worry, you are still what we call a kid, and you're not supposed to have it all figured out yet. It will come in time, ... (read in full...)
Porn for women?
Q. [OP original title] Hi there. With all these porn questions flying around... I just had to ask: where can I find the porn for women? Guys have their places for porn, and it is quite easy to come by. But as we women know, they don't really work fo...
A. 12 August 2010: Thank you all! I was actually just wondering if there was some webpage specifically for porn for women, or perhaps a store that sold movies. But it seems that I have to just keep a better watch out and look through all the porn that is out there ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my sister I saw her husband with a hooker?
Q. I picked up a hooker and took her to a motel. When we were done I was taking here back to where I picked her up. A door opened just a couple doors down as I passed by with her and it was my brother in law with a hooker of his own. He just ...
A. 11 August 2010: Tell your sister before she finds out he has given her HIV. ... (read in full...)
I can't remember my childhood!
Q. Don't know where to start but ill start with I don't remember anything about my childhood.. and when I try to remember I get this bad feeling type of deal.. I know I had my far share of bad things my best friend got tooken away and my great grandma ...
A. 11 August 2010: Some people just forget. Some remember well. It doesn't always have to mean something. But, you could try and talk to your little sister to see what she remembers. And then talk to your mother again, and tell her that you want to talk about it, ... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and it's hurting my girlfriend. What can I do?
Q. Hello fellow peers, my alias is dimario, and I am a 20 year old well to do male with a beautiful girl friend whom I have been with since I was 16. But! There is a problem, since I was a teenager ofcourse I masturbated, and that seemed quite okay at ...
A. 11 August 2010: I don't think you have a high sex drive as maybe not that high of a sex drive? If you don't want to have sex with your woman, then it is not a high sex drive that causes any of your problems. It is the lack of a sex drive, and possibly an addiction ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't buy me anything!
Q. My boyfriend almost never buys me anything, he got me this bracelet that he got downtown it have cost him like about ten bucks and for valentines day he got me a bunch of stuff from jewlery box where evrything is a dollar but he also got me flowers ...
A. 11 August 2010: Then tell him so. Tell him that it bothers you. ... (read in full...)
Is her preference for married men and casual attitude towards affairs a red flag?
Q. My girlfriend has been with predominantly married men in her past. All of her relationships prior to me were FWB. The guy she lost her virginity to was married, the next was single, but she did him while she was still with the first. The third was ...
A. 10 August 2010: I think this is a huge red flag. This shows her character, and unless she has convinced you in some way that she is a better person now, I wouldn't place my money (or heart) on it. Her being accepting towards cheaters I think is a red flag too, and ... (read in full...)
Does semen volume impress the ladies?
Q. Hi aunts, All the questions about penis size and female squirters got me wondering about another "size" related topic that many men obsess over...semen volume. But I wanted a womans take on it. Men are sometimes obsessed with producing a volu...
A. 10 August 2010: I can honestly say I don't care whatsoever about the volume of the cum. It has not even been up for discussion with my girl friends. We don't care. But I am glad that you guys can get some pleasure from it, then I guess it is good for something? ... (read in full...)
There's a chance I could be pregnant to my 18 year old cousin, but he already has a pregnant girlfriend!
Q. I need help when i was 13 i lost my virginity to my cousin i know what you are thinkin EWWW GROSS!! but i dont wanna hear it! well now im 14 and my cousin is 18 now and we still have sex once in a while and we use a comdom but im scared because i ...
A. 10 August 2010: I don't think you are pregnant. Get tested. Then stop sleeping with your cousin. Not because he is your cousin.. although having a child with him would be extra complicated, but because you are not old enough to be having sex, and he can go to ... (read in full...)
How do I get out this mess with minimal damage?
Q. A while ago I wrote on here about an annoying colleague who liked to cause drama at work and was difficult to get on with. I got some fantastic replies which hit the nail on the head about her being insecure and selfish. The good news is she...
A. 10 August 2010: Do you have a husband that can talk to her for you? Can you ask another friend of yours to talk with her?
What about you invite her over for tea.. sit her down, and explain that you don't know how to tell her this, but she is self centered... (read in full...)
How many times do you have to have sex before you bleed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have had sex twice now..and he keeps worrying about how he hasn't popped my cherry and that hes doing something wrong. Is he doing something wrong? How many times do you have to have sex before you bleed? And if he's doing ...
A. 10 August 2010: Nothing is wrong. Some women just don't bleed. The hymen could have been popped years ago (sometimes they just do) or you could have not had one, or .. I dunno, maybe it popped and didn't bleed? The problem with first time sex, and bleeding if you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't buy me anything!
Q. My boyfriend almost never buys me anything, he got me this bracelet that he got downtown it have cost him like about ten bucks and for valentines day he got me a bunch of stuff from jewlery box where evrything is a dollar but he also got me flowers ...
A. 10 August 2010: I'll add in to what SamanthaX said. I have a friend who's boyfriend had a nice job, and he always got the designer things, like a guess watch, purses, parfumes, you name it. He got her the Iphone when it was brand new and cost a ton of money. He got ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't buy me anything!
Q. My boyfriend almost never buys me anything, he got me this bracelet that he got downtown it have cost him like about ten bucks and for valentines day he got me a bunch of stuff from jewlery box where evrything is a dollar but he also got me flowers ...
A. 10 August 2010: He is a young teen, and he can't afford much. Besides, are you giving him tons of stuff? So he got you plenty of gifts, just none that were pricy enough? Are you dating him so that you can only get expensive gifts?
Your boyfriend is totally ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like sex is all he was interested in?
Q. At the beggining of the year i had my first proper relationship with a boy 5 years older than who had a kid from a previous relationship. We were together 2 months and he made me feel really special so i decided to sleep with him. I am moving t...
A. 10 August 2010: I don't think he was interested in sex alone. I think he sounds like a man who thought you looked like a beautiful and interesting girl, and he wanted to know you better. Then he realized he was falling for you too fast, knowing you were going to ... (read in full...)
Sex after dating just 2 weeks?
Q. its bad to have sex with your boyfriend if you have date him only for two weeks?...
A. 10 August 2010: I think 2 weeks is just perfect, if you during these two weeks have been an official couple. Because then you get to know your boyfriend better before adding sex into the relationship. A relationship based on sex will go nowhere as we all know. But ... (read in full...)
Why does my man treat me like this?
Q. my by of three years is confusin the hell outta me. He proposed when we'd been together two months. I moved into his place let mine out. Then he changed. . Rumours of him cheating, calls on his phone, whispering comin from downstairs. Whenever i ...
A. 10 August 2010: A man who quickly jumps into love, grand style, is often not quite right in his head. I am sorry. That he proposed after only two months is the greatest sign that he is not emotionally balanced. You should not have been flattered, but warned, by ... (read in full...)
Should I cut my losses or hope that things will get better in time?
Q. I love my boyfriend very deeply and dearly. We've been together for over a year and we lived together for about 6 months before I moved out as his teenage daughter and I could not get on. Now that we are living in separate cities I feel lost, con...
A. 9 August 2010: If you never dare to find out.. well then you wont know. And when it comes to love, it is always going to be a game where you risk everything, but can also gain everything. If you and him work great as a couple, then why not take a chance? Yes you ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex a week after my period and its been about 10 days and im worried i might be pregnant. i also had unprotected sex twice 8 days after the 1st time. i feel so stupid and im worried im pregnant. im 16 and im scared people will make ...
A. 9 August 2010: Well, get the test anyway and read the instructions. Some tests can be done very early, up to 6 days prior to your expected menstruation. And yes, there can be bleedings during an entire pregnancy. It could also be that you have a miscarriage, as ... (read in full...)
Circumcision for women... is this all taboo?
Q. Hello, I'm a south african citizen, there are many cultures all over the world and some are considerd taboo.. especially here in the african continent to where im from, i live in johannesburg. most of you who have visited s.a would know it. There ...
A. 9 August 2010: Soon103 said it better than anyone of us I believe. Circumcision of women is not like circumcision of men. It is not even close. It is closer to cutting off the head of the penis and for you to always have pain and discomfort, not only during sex ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex a week after my period and its been about 10 days and im worried i might be pregnant. i also had unprotected sex twice 8 days after the 1st time. i feel so stupid and im worried im pregnant. im 16 and im scared people will make ...
A. 9 August 2010: Never have sex again until you understand how you end up pregnant. YES YOU CAN BE PREGNANT. Go take a pregnancy test right away. Today. If it is negative, take another to be sure. Then for heavens sake NEVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX. Just, don't have ... (read in full...)
Circumcision for women... is this all taboo?
Q. Hello, I'm a south african citizen, there are many cultures all over the world and some are considerd taboo.. especially here in the african continent to where im from, i live in johannesburg. most of you who have visited s.a would know it. There ...
A. 9 August 2010: It is actually illegal. To be honest. It is brutal indeed, and it is also illegal. Don't forget that. Don't forget why it is illegal either: precisely because it is ruining a woman's body, it is dangerous as there can be infections, and it is a ... (read in full...)
Did my husband touch my sister inappropriately?
Q. my younger sister age 13 stayed at my flat the other night wiv my 4yr old daughter. Our pc is in my daughters room so wen my hubby came home from he went on the pc after i went 2 bed. The next morning my sister went to her study class as usaul while ...
A. 9 August 2010: That is good for you all that nothing really happened. And by now I am sure your sister has got a scare, realizing just how serious her little game was. I have heard of many teachers who have lost their job and reputation over some young girls ... (read in full...)
Should I cut my losses or hope that things will get better in time?
Q. I love my boyfriend very deeply and dearly. We've been together for over a year and we lived together for about 6 months before I moved out as his teenage daughter and I could not get on. Now that we are living in separate cities I feel lost, con...
A. 9 August 2010: That depends on what you wish will get better. Are they things that are possible to change, or are they set in stone? If you want him to change parts of his personality, or for his daughter to change her attitude.. then no, they will most likely not ... (read in full...)
Questions about the pullout method and pregnancy. All advice is welcome!
Q. I just wanted to hear your own experiences and opinions regarding the following questions, feel free to say anything, i would really like to hear your answers. 1. Have you ever used the pullout method? (esp, how often?) 2. Have you or your...
A. 8 August 2010: Me personal have only used the pull out method.. 2 times I think? And did not wind up pregnant, but was scared for a little while that I would be and swore up and down I would never be that foolish again. I've had unprotected sex with boyfriends in ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend shaved 4 years off her age, should I confront her about it?
Q. My girlfriend has always been very private. I don't know her address, or have met anyone in her family, or friends, nothing. It just the two of us. She has met my friends after hesitation but only two time. We have been together for 4 months or so. ...
A. 8 August 2010: You have been together 4 months. How can you possibly be ready for children and huge commitments? You say you love her, but.. after only 4 months you love her? Are you not scared that you have based off your relationship on a lie, and that you love ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend shaved 4 years off her age, should I confront her about it?
Q. My girlfriend has always been very private. I don't know her address, or have met anyone in her family, or friends, nothing. It just the two of us. She has met my friends after hesitation but only two time. We have been together for 4 months or so. ...
A. 7 August 2010: If she never replies don't contact her again. What will your relationship be worth if you can not trust her, she lives a lie? Don't continue this relationship unless she comes forth with the truth, and you find you will be able to accept the truth. ... (read in full...)
Did my husband touch my sister inappropriately?
Q. my younger sister age 13 stayed at my flat the other night wiv my 4yr old daughter. Our pc is in my daughters room so wen my hubby came home from he went on the pc after i went 2 bed. The next morning my sister went to her study class as usaul while ...
A. 7 August 2010: I don't think it happened, but you need to provide more information. What exactly was it that was supposed to have happened? "touched inappropriately" can mean A LOT. Be specific. What happened? And, does your husband agree to the same story, that ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong that I had sex?
Q. I have a problem now that im starting 11th grade boys are very tempting about sex. my boyfriend and i of 3 years had sex and now i feel all weird at first we didnt say that much 2 each other and now we talk alot.. for me loseing my virginity at 16 ...
A. 7 August 2010: I don't think you are too young age wise. But if you were ready for it is another thing. Laws about when someone is over the age of consent vary from 12-18 in the world. So most will say, around that age you are ready to decide if you are personally ... (read in full...)
Uncircumsized, is it really that gross?
Q. Are there any girls out there that prefer an uncircumcised man? I just had a girl in a club push me into a bathroom stall in the mens room. After some kissing she got on her knees, and unzipped my pants. When she saw my stuff, she visibly reco...
A. 7 August 2010: Again, can I ask.. why all this talk about being clean or smelly? Circumcised men can smell too!!! The foreskin naturally cleans itself, just like a woman's vagina. All this talk about needing to clean down there is actually a bit off. It is not ... (read in full...)
He chews, and he lied about it.
Q. My boyfriend has been lying to me for 6 months. We've been together for 9 months. He was a constant chewer before he met me. In the beginning of our relationship I asked him periodically to quit because i find that habit repulsive. He just laughed ...
A. 7 August 2010: Dump him. I't only been 9 months, don't sit around to wait for more disappointments. He lied to your face on numerous occasions. Why excuse that? Why accept that?
I say, you don't have kids and a house or are married. If you were more seriousl... (read in full...)
Partner said they wanted sex and then changed mind with no reason. Fair?
Q. My partner and I have sex on occasion. We were with friends and my partner discussed in front of our friends "gettin some tonight" I had plans to go for a walk with my daughter later in that night. I was given a choice between the walk and "getting ...
A. 7 August 2010: Did your partner know about the plans you cancelled? If they didn't then that could explain how casually it is treated, and the no explanation. If your partner knew about the plans you had, and that you cancelled them, then it is really not nice at ... (read in full...)
Pre-owned jewelry?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs now and I wanna be different and propose. I found the perfect ring for him on Zales but its pre-owned. It was returned before the 100th day of its purchase. That's the only ring I really like but I ...
A. 7 August 2010: Don't buy it. Your gut is already telling you this will be a bad idea. The right ring will show up eventually, and it is not this one. But this is good, now you know what you like at least! But try and remember, if it is a ring for him you are about ... (read in full...)
Finding a casual sexual partner
Q. Why is it so difficult to find a casual sex partner? This guy I just slept with a few weeks ago, in the beginning we had an understanding that I wasn't looking for a relationship, just some fun. But since we had sex he has become clingy and needy an...
A. 7 August 2010: Girls do this too.. They say "me too" to get a chance to be close to the person. A casual relationship isn't for everyone, and many find themselves developing feelings for whoever they have sex with. It is quite common in fact. So I am afraid your ... (read in full...)
Sexual Past, Lies, Sexual lies
Q. Ok, here goes my question. My wife and I have been struggling over the past year or so because of a long series of lies I have discovered regarding her romantic and sexual past. To save you the drawn out details, there are at least four people she ...
A. 7 August 2010: It can happen that all he did was oral sex and then they never talked about it again. It actually can. Just because you find it impossible, or never could imagine it, people are different and indeed it is possible. What confuses me though is that ... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 7 August 2010: Change your doctor to someone you are more comfortable with! ... (read in full...)
Uncircumsized, is it really that gross?
Q. Are there any girls out there that prefer an uncircumcised man? I just had a girl in a club push me into a bathroom stall in the mens room. After some kissing she got on her knees, and unzipped my pants. When she saw my stuff, she visibly reco...
A. 7 August 2010: I like uncircumcised. I like circumcised too, but I live in Norway where every man is uncircumcised. Up here we believe only the highly religious jews are circumcised, and find it odd when someone who is not a jew/highly religious are circumcised. I ... (read in full...)
How long will the pain of a break-up last for?
Q. The man I have been with dumped me this morning after three years of dating . He stated he is depressed and blamed me. Said he needs to find himself . What want to know is how long does it take to mend a broken heart . I was /am. In love with this ...
A. 6 August 2010: The pain will last a bit and be the strongest right now. Just hang in there. It will diminish, trust me. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him, and go spoil yourself, and then cry your eyes out. But after you have cried, try to stop crying ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend tells white lies!
Q. [OP original title] My GF told me she loved me about a month ago and I said the same. we also as of last week said we may want to move in together a bit in the future. BUT, she told her BF that she just realized she loved me but hasn't told me and ...
A. 6 August 2010: btw, tennisstar got it right, girls do get judged by their friends. I have close friends that I don't tell everything to, because I know they will start going off about it in a negative way and make me doubt my own feelings or wants, and try and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend tells white lies!
Q. [OP original title] My GF told me she loved me about a month ago and I said the same. we also as of last week said we may want to move in together a bit in the future. BUT, she told her BF that she just realized she loved me but hasn't told me and ...
A. 6 August 2010: She told whom? A BF is typically short for "BoyFriend" aka YOU. Do you mean she told her friend? And what makes you so sure she was lying to you and being honest with her friend? My bet is on it being the other way around, she is honest with you, ... (read in full...)
I was the most popular girl in school but everything seems to be going wrong!
Q. okay you need to know my story.. this is how it starts kay. well im voted as the most popular at my school,and other stuff and everyones loves me.. but something went wrong.. i told my best friend ever im maybe moving so shes comes over and my s...
A. 5 August 2010: I think it was a good thing your didnt have sex with your ex boyfriend because now you see what he was really worth. Your friend as well. I am afraid they were both superficial and not for real. A real boyfriend who was sincere and cared about you ... (read in full...)
How long will the pain of a break-up last for?
Q. The man I have been with dumped me this morning after three years of dating . He stated he is depressed and blamed me. Said he needs to find himself . What want to know is how long does it take to mend a broken heart . I was /am. In love with this ...
A. 5 August 2010: It will take you about 1-2 years. The pain will be intense the first 6 months, then slowly diminish. By one year you will only remember him now and then, and after 2 years he should be completely out of your system. Well, based on my own personal ... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 31 July 2010: Such up your phobia. It is ironic that you are scared of the one thing that could possibly save your life. I don't want you make you scared because I have no idea if what you are suffering from is serious or easily treated. But you wont know either ... (read in full...)
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