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writes:Why is it when a young man craves sex, it's just young a man craving sex. But when that young man gets old and craves sex, he suddenly considered a Dirty Old Man, or even a Sex Addict. Someone help me with this.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (21 July 2010):
Sexiness and sexual desire usual go hand in hand with youthfulness and attactiveness (primarily for procreation). That is:- the more attractive you are the more people tend to desire you.
Once men and women are of a certain age - be it 40s 50s 60s 70s etc... they tend to loose their attractiveness gradually and fertility levels drop - so subconsciously us humans have less reason to find them desirable - rightly or wrongly!
However, like one of the other aunts said - if you manage to keep up your good looks and keep your thoughts about sex to yourself - you will probably still find that you are quite attractive to more people than you realise! x
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reader, karen1989 +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I'm 21 and i hate it when someone in his 50's/60's is caught checking me out its horrible it gives me the creeps. The only reason for that is because hes old enough to be my grandfather. The fact that there is that huge age gap and he still thinks he can approach me and drop me a chat up line gives me a sicky feeling in the back of my throat. Its gross it really is. If your old enough to be my granfather i don't care how good you look for your age i'm not interested so back off. its wrong. People around your age should not be looking at young girls. Its pervy,creepy,and morally wrong.
However if i was say in my late 40's or 50's it would not be so much of an issue for me i wouldnt be getting the creeps.
Its just when theres that huge age gap then it becomes creepy.
Just my opinion there for you,Hope you got the right feedback here :)
Karen.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I think that is probably because older men are expected to be more mature and able to keep their lusts in check.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Well I don't think an older man, still active and able, should necessarily be considered a "sex addict" just for being interested and willing. We do not all go blind or have a sudden drop in desire with age. As long as a woman is of legal age, also willing and might enjoy the pleasures of experience over youth, then what's the prob?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Because,whether we like or not,and whether is right or not, erotism and every display,or even latent suggestion, of sexual behaviour has an esthetic component.
Think of a wet T-shirt contest- if it happens among college students, it's hot. If it happens among the guests of a retirement home...you don't want to think about it.
Nobody says that one should not have a sex drive at 50,60,70- but you'd better be discrete about it.
The other reason is that you- or, the persons you are talking about if that does not apply to you, are hitting on girls way out of your league , and chasing after gerls in their 20s or early 30s. Only a small minority appreciates a man who could be their dad , - and only if he is an exceptionally well preserved older man. Therefore any display of sexual interest toward them by "regular" older guys is offen received with surprise and irritation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): A creep is an unattractive guy who is confident and forward towards women he is interested in. A sexy guy is doing all the exact same things, just in a more physically attractive package.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): I think it's something to do with the gross-out factor... like, people don't like to imagine old people having sex, or fat people, ugly people, etc. Basically anyone that isn't sexually desirable isn't supposed to desire sex and old guys aren't exactly... desirable... unless they are extraordinarily rich (lol) or have somehow preserved their good looks, ie. Brad Pitt, Clooney, etc. Basically, girls want to screw younger guys, not older guys, so it gets creepy when older guys are into sex. If you're unattractive to the population at large, it creeps people out when you act sexually. I'm not saying it's right, but it is an explanation.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (21 July 2010):
Not all are called dirty old men it's more like perverts.thats just a nice way of putting it? and there are some older men that act wrong torge women, and they have proably been like that all their lives. and they just become older out of shape w/ a beer gut w/ bad breath thats where i think the term comes from? look at actor Sean Connery! va va boom!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Very good point. I think I'm among those needing an explanation, too.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 lol! It's only creepy when it's older man hitting on much, much younger women for sex. If an older guy feels the same drive he felt in his twenties, I say more power to him. However, he can't have that twenties behavior along with the drive, that's disturbing. Meaning, he "can't" really be hitting the same places, looking for hook-ups, and basically being unable to resist to chat up a lot of different women for sex. As a guy gets older, society expects something else. A wife or girlfriend of the same age may find the big sex drive exhausting since I hear that as some women get older, sex takes a backseat to weariness, stress, and the hormonal changes that come with the approach or duration of menopause. But, don't let titles rule you. Craving sex at your age is natural for YOU and that's just the way you are. As long as you aren't chasing high schoolers, I don't see why anyone should attach such negative titles to a person who still enjoys sex and just happens to be older. xo
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