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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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Hot, heavy, and HPV!
Q. I'm concerned! I met a man and we hit it off great. Lots of sexual energy. He has Genital warts on his penis but no where else. We've made out very intensely including oral on me. My question is, Can I catch the HPV virus by him putting his mouth on ...
A. 10 July 2010: Untreated HPV does not cause cancer. If you have the virus that causes genital warts you get genital warts. They do not evolve to cancer. However there is a HPV virus that does cause cancer in some women. This virus is sadly very normal and almost ... (read in full...)
Is this a yeast infection or something entirely different?
Q. Hi, this is really embarrassing but i have a "feminine problem!". i rlly hope this isnt too graphic and im trying to make it as clean as possible! well yesterday i slept over a friends house and i felt fine alll day. then that night, around 2:30am ...
A. 10 July 2010: I think you need to tell your mom and go see your doctor.. Not that this has to be serious, it is just that if you try self treatment you might treat yourself for the wrong thing and still experience discomfort. To me it sounds like an infection, ... (read in full...)
Is there anything romantic about having sex with a prostitute?
Q. I'm not going to lie. I have made love to prostitutes before. I have tried to be gentle with them (women of course). But I want to know...is there anything romantic or beautiful about making love to prostitutes? I need to get it off my conscience. I ...
A. 10 July 2010: No there is nothing romantic about having sex with a prostitute. Sorry. ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you are ovulating?
Q. how do i know when am ovulating?...
A. 10 July 2010: There are also tests you can buy to find out when you are ovulating, if you are trying to get pregnant. They can be bought at the pharmacy I believe. ... (read in full...)
He won't move out and the police don't help..how do I evict my 46yr old drug addicted roommate?
Q. Please help with this problem. I live with a guy who smokes crack frequently. It didn't start out this way years ago when I met him. He was in AA and clean. He started this, unbenownst to me at the time, when he took his first drink again after ...
A. 10 July 2010: Get the cops to help you. Not to help you bust the man for his crack, but get him out of your place! He is no longer wanted there, and him being there still can be considered trespassing? ... (read in full...)
Hot, heavy, and HPV!
Q. I'm concerned! I met a man and we hit it off great. Lots of sexual energy. He has Genital warts on his penis but no where else. We've made out very intensely including oral on me. My question is, Can I catch the HPV virus by him putting his mouth on ...
A. 10 July 2010: Genital warts can be treated. Don't have any type of sex with him until they are gone, I say. The man needs to take some responsibility. Yes, you need to wash your hands well! And he needs to wash his. But I do not think gential warts spread from ... (read in full...)
Are growth enhancers safe?
Q. Well according to my friends im a little on the short side. 15 and about 5'2..they joke about it and all that and tell me i should get those growth enhancers? i was just wondering if they're safe? if they work and are reliable? and what are some of ...
A. 10 July 2010: Your friends are just messing around with you. Don't listen to it. You are normal sized, and what more, you could still grown down there as you are still just a teenager. Doctors don't even do any plastic surgeries on teenagers because they are ... (read in full...)
Is he going to marry me or am I fooling myself?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He enticed me to move to another country with him in our second year together and within weeks of living together I knew I wanted to marry him. He moved to further his career and is now 35. Unfortunately, I ...
A. 10 July 2010: You need to tell him how you feel, and especially about the house. Maybe you can say that you don't want to add pressure on him, but he is adding pressureon you to live with him as a family when he has not proposed to you even. I think it sounds ... (read in full...)
Found my faery tale but trying to live a dream
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 9 July 2010: What you can, and should do, is to take time off from both of these men and get over the first guy. Then when you are ready, you can start dating again. ... (read in full...)
How long should I keep silent and miserable while he enjoys life?
Q. my husband has made certain rules like dont discuss anything about family,friends,work etc.if i do so he pretendwahe cant hear.he is very funloving person to society in the house we hardly speak but sit and watch tv.i cant share my thoughts with ...
A. 9 July 2010: Why are you unhappy about your life? Aside from not being able to talk to him about the relationship, what are the reasons you feel unhappy? How do you feel you can impoove your own life? ... (read in full...)
Hurt myself while masturbating. Will it get better?
Q. Hey, well this is embarrassing but i was on the phone with my bf one night. I was masterbateing and i was really turned on so i wanted more pleasure but i dint have a toy or any thing else i could use, So i used the handle of a screw driver but it ...
A. 9 July 2010: If you have cut yourself it can take about two weeks for it to heal. I speak from experience, rough sex has caused me to be sore for weeks after. Are you bleeding? Any abdominal pains? Problems with urine? If everything else is as normal, I assume ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a bisexual or gay?
Q. I have a boyfriend who lives in a gay village in montreal, He stays with a 60 year old guy (apparently gay). But according to my boyfriend that this guy has been a very good friend of him for years now, and that they're just friends like a family. ...
A. 9 July 2010: No matter if he is gay or not, the man is married... So why not just find someone who isn't already taken, fake marriage or not? If you see too many red flags, trust your instincts and leave. Even if he is hetero, there are still many red flags ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure whether I should break up with my boyfriend!
Q. I am having a problem with my boyfriend. He seems unable to be comfortable with my sexual history. I am 22 yrs old. I decided long ago to abstain from sex until i was able to do it under my terms. I had boyfriends and dated guys but i often felt ...
A. 9 July 2010: You want to break up with him over a "vibe" you get?
Woman, talk to your man. Ask him what the deal is. And tell him if he can't deal with you for who you are you need to break it off, because you want to (and deserve) to be with someone who love... (read in full...)
My boobs haven't grown any more!
Q. hi. i started my pireod when i was 13 and a half and im now 15 and a half but ever since i started i've stayed the same boob size( a :( ) and 4 months after i started my boobs never hurt again. what is going on with them? thanks for any reply...
A. 9 July 2010: It could mean you are destined to have small perky boobs. Or it could mean that your breasts had a little growing spurt now, and will continue later on. Mine didn't grow until I was 16-17, and I was a size a for years until then. Some breasts ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on a sex life gone south?
Q. hey guys and gals just a quick question. what do i do here? i have been with my gf for 3 years now almost. we have a 1 year old kid which is tough but life is great. it gets hectic at times but i expect that. but our sex life has gone south. when we ...
A. 9 July 2010: Get the baby and dog out of the room. You will be able to hear the baby though the door, or leave the door open (put the dog in another room with closed door so it can't disturb you) and have the baby right outside the room. So that is she cries you ... (read in full...)
I am only 24 and have 5 young children, should I abort the child I am currently pregnant with?
Q. i am pregnant but i already have 5 young children and im only young. I thought about an abortion but dont think i can do it, what should i do my man isnt much help ...
A. 9 July 2010: Too little information for me to make a good judgement of your situation, but I question your sex life and the protection you use. After 5 children, knowingyou don't want more at the moment, what happened? Were you not careful? Even if you resolve ... (read in full...)
I don't think our sex life is healthy, but he says I have just got sex on the brain!
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend just over a year and live with him at his parents. There is always a problem when it comes to sex. I have to wait months each time. I've tried alsorts to get his interest and nothing works. He told me last nig...
A. 9 July 2010: Your boyfriend has a low sex drive. For him, sex is not that important, and something he perefers to do once in a blue moon. Im guessing he has been this way most of your relationship, although at the verybeginning sex might have occurred more often ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but HATE his lifestyle choices!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about three years this time. We dated before from our senior year of high school into college for about three to four years then took about two to three years off due to cheating, lying, and needing to grow up. ...
A. 9 July 2010: You are right, you should not stay with this man. I also worry that you will never get your money back. So stop lending him money immedeately. He is a drug addict, and not someone who is suitable to marry or have a family with. You love him, and he ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to lose 10 lbs in 3 weeks?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but im just curious. Is it possible to lose 10 pounds in 3 week..?...
A. 9 July 2010: 10 pounds is nothing. You can loose that in one week. But I guess it depends on your body, some people loose faster than others I guess. Pluss if you workout you might gain muscle weight. However I was on a bootcamp once and it was one intense week ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be this ready or is it just that I'm more mature than most females my age?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been talking for about 19 months but we've only officially been dating for 14 of those months. He's 20 and I'll be 19 in September but neither of our families has a problem with us being together. We've had our ups and ...
A. 8 July 2010: I don't think you are more mature than most females your age. Many females your age feel the exact same way, and are ready for a family, or already have one. They say females mature faster than men, which I believe to be true. We are also often ... (read in full...)
Questions about the honeymoon period, and what are other couples sleeping arrangements?
Q. I have a couple of quick and easy questions: How long has the 'honeymoon period' typically lasted in your relationships? How do you normally sleep with your partners? Most of my relationships I'd go home to sleep but my current partner lik...
A. 8 July 2010: A last comment on sleeping arrangements. I take ages to fall asleep, sometimes I lay in bed for an hour before I doze off. My boyfriend falls asleep almost as soon as his head hits the pillow. Hence it is mostly me cuddling up to him while he is ... (read in full...)
Questions about the honeymoon period, and what are other couples sleeping arrangements?
Q. I have a couple of quick and easy questions: How long has the 'honeymoon period' typically lasted in your relationships? How do you normally sleep with your partners? Most of my relationships I'd go home to sleep but my current partner lik...
A. 8 July 2010: My honeymoon period... about a year perhaps? I have heard the "in love" and infatuation only lasts 6 months, but I am one of the few I guess who stay in love for a really long period of time.
As for sleeping arrangements, I like to cuddle u... (read in full...)
My husband won't go to anger management, is it time to divorce?
Q. My husband gave me an ultimatum last week which was I needed to return home by Thursday otherwise he was going to his scheduled appointment with his attorney to end our marriage. I really need him to go to anger management or something since his ...
A. 8 July 2010: How many sessions has he had so far? You said he has 5 more, but how many has he already been to? Are you in any contact with whomever he has this session with, or do you know anything about how a session like that works?
I hope you are in a saf... (read in full...)
My husband won't go to anger management, is it time to divorce?
Q. My husband gave me an ultimatum last week which was I needed to return home by Thursday otherwise he was going to his scheduled appointment with his attorney to end our marriage. I really need him to go to anger management or something since his ...
A. 8 July 2010: Sit it out. He is going to anger management for a reason, just this reason! He is treathening you with divorce, when he wasn't able to go though with it himself (as it was an empty threat) he is testing you instead to see if you will dare to file ... (read in full...)
What should I say to my BF to keep us together?
Q. [OP original title] My bf and i have either split, or are splitting, or may split, I'm not entirely sure, he kicked me and said he didn't want to see me again, but that was after england lost and an extremely tough weekend of me nagging and us havi...
A. 8 July 2010: If you want him to feel it is his conversation too, then you need to let him decide the time when you meet, at least. If he doesn't, and he is aware of when you are going to the party, he is not interested in a conversation.
Can I ask why you insi... (read in full...)
At what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why?
Q. Hey Guys: Just for curiosity's sake, at what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why? And for those of you married already, at what age did you tie the not? What made you want to get married and was it more about the person or about ...
A. 8 July 2010: I wasn't ever planning on when to get married, but when to have kids. I wanted to start having them at 25. That is not likely to happen. But around 25-30 should be a good time to both get married and have kids. However I don't think I will be upset ... (read in full...)
If you love someone as much as she says she does me, should she be knowingly hurting me?
Q. I had been dating a girl for about 2 years. A few weeks ago, she told me that she didn't want to be with me anymore because she wanted to go out and learn about her self, not date anyone exclusively right now, and "enjoy the single life". However, ...
A. 8 July 2010: Your girl says she loves you, which might be true. But she doesn't want a committed relationship to you. At least not right now. I personally would ignore what she has said about you two getting closer from this and being together at the end. It is ... (read in full...)
I'm beggin my LD girlfriend for attention
Q. hey , i have a problem with a long distance realationship , so far me and my gf been together for over 2 years now , im australlian and shes british , we see eachother on and off usually on vacations, but lately she got a job (which shes quitting ...
A. 8 July 2010: If she is having a stressful job it is understandable that she wont have as much time left over for you. But she is quitting this job soon, so isn't that good? Then you can ask her if she thinks it would be good to find a new job that has better ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have a car and I have to drive him everywhere
Q. okay my situation is this I've been dating this guy Rigo for about a month.Well he lives like 15 minutes away from me.I have a car and he doesn't.So yea when we want to see eachother I have to drive to him.We went on dates and I had to pick him up ...
A. 8 July 2010: I didn't have a car until recently (although still waiting for my license so I cant drive anyway haha), but some years ago I had a boyfriend with a car. He always drove out to see me, he often came and picked me up, he was more than happy do drive ... (read in full...)
We have no experience, should we "explore" before our wedding?
Q. Hello everyone! I got engaged to my high school sweetheart about a month ago, (we started dating our junior year of high school). I've always believed in waiting until I was married before having sex and even though he doesn't have the same belief, ...
A. 8 July 2010: It is a good idea. You have to start off with exploring anyways! Either explore now and have intercourse on the wedding night, or explore on your wedding night and nothing more. It is fully possible to wait with full intercourse after you are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have a car and I have to drive him everywhere
Q. okay my situation is this I've been dating this guy Rigo for about a month.Well he lives like 15 minutes away from me.I have a car and he doesn't.So yea when we want to see eachother I have to drive to him.We went on dates and I had to pick him up ...
A. 8 July 2010: I don't think it was wrong of him not to buy you anything, if it was your first date. He didn't really know you then. Did he even know it was your borthday? It could have been a nice gesture, but some women would have thought that was coming on too ... (read in full...)
I want to know how my best friend's husband feels about me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently married, and only have been for six months. My husband is loving and supportive, and we treat each other very well. Although we have a strong emotional relationship, I have never been interested in him sexually [we have sex, it's ...
A. 7 July 2010: Hmm, you are quite right, sex isn't everything. But it is a whole lot. Have you given up on trying to have "everything"? Are there things you and your husband could to to make the sparks fly in the bedroom? Perhaps that would take your mind off of ... (read in full...)
I want to know how my best friend's husband feels about me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently married, and only have been for six months. My husband is loving and supportive, and we treat each other very well. Although we have a strong emotional relationship, I have never been interested in him sexually [we have sex, it's ...
A. 6 July 2010: In the defense of the OP, she has not insisted on doing anything. She came here wondering if she should tell the man because she feels she needs to. Now that she has heard our opinions we do not know if she will still tell the man or not, so saying ... (read in full...)
I left my husband, but now the guy I had feelings for won't see me.
Q. I'm married (now separated). While still with my husband, I met a guy online who I knew years ago. We flirted with each other off and on for months. We didn't meet up because of my marriage. We still flirted and fantasized about being together. I ...
A. 6 July 2010: I'm guessing he had second thoughts about you. Some times people change their minds and he wasn't very serious about you to begin with. I mean why would he be, you were married, and then he thought it would just be a flirt. I don't think he was very ... (read in full...)
Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?
Q. 1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...
A. 6 July 2010: Oh, I am sorry, but I must have skipped that part when you said Virgo's best match is capricorn, cancer and taurus! They didn't say that online back when I checked it! It was 3 years ago though so maybe they have updated who Virgo matches with later ... (read in full...)
Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?
Q. 1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...
A. 6 July 2010: Just as a comment on the horoscopes. I dated a perfect match one time. Me Saggitarius, he Virgo, and Virgo is Saggitarius' opposite sign or a good match. We also matched numerologically, me a 2, he a 7, which is the perfect combination for each ... (read in full...)
I want to know how my best friend's husband feels about me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently married, and only have been for six months. My husband is loving and supportive, and we treat each other very well. Although we have a strong emotional relationship, I have never been interested in him sexually [we have sex, it's ...
A. 6 July 2010: I actually came to think of another thing. The question why you want to tell this guy. Could it be that you are feeling guilty for thinking this way, and just want to tell someone? Him being the only man you can possibly imagine telling? Because you ... (read in full...)
Another girl's boyfriend is turning my head from my own boyfriend...
Q. Im in a relationship but cant stop thinking about someone else! Ok so Ive been in a relationship for 8 months, its quite serious, and i believed he was 'the one' although now we are over the 'honemmon period' i can see cracks. he's very negati...
A. 6 July 2010: Only end your current relationship if you are ok with being single. Don't leave a guy because you think you found someone "better". You might get fooled. He might not be all that. He might find someone new by the time you get single! Really. I've ... (read in full...)
Should I date older guys or stay single until highschool?
Q. hi i'm really good at getting people together. i talk to the guy i talk to the girl and bam their together. i even have to get people together on my little brothers video games. im pretty popular and i guess kinda attractive, (i have self asteem...
A. 6 July 2010: Go single. Why bother dragging yourself to dates with men you don't like at all. I don't see why that would be a good thing. Being single doesn't mean you can't find a boyfriend, it just means you haven't found him yet. You should wait for the right ... (read in full...)
Opinions on what constitutes cheating?
Q. My boyfriend has a close female friend who he used to like. I'm wondering what are people's opinions on what would be classified as cheating( apart from kissing and having sex)? Thank you...
A. 6 July 2010: I think kissing and sex is pretty much it for me. But there are grey areas that I am not too happy about. My guy holding hands with another girl for example. I wouldn't call it cheating, but when in a relationship with me there are certain rules of ... (read in full...)
I want to know how my best friend's husband feels about me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently married, and only have been for six months. My husband is loving and supportive, and we treat each other very well. Although we have a strong emotional relationship, I have never been interested in him sexually [we have sex, it's ...
A. 6 July 2010: No no no.. do not tell him. If you tell him you will loose his friendship. And do you really think he will be faithful towards you or his own wife? He will tell his wife what you told him. His loyalty lies with her, not you. So you will loose them ... (read in full...)
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