What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 10 June 2016: I think you want him to show you this attention though, you may be trying to avoid him but deep down you want him to care you want him to flirt with you. ... (read in full...)
What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 7 June 2016: You just need to ignore him, Surely this is not the type of person you would want to go out with? Someone who uses girls?... (read in full...)
Post baby body woes. What can I do to get my confidence back after this pregnancy?
Q. Hi all I have been having an issue with myself. I have 2 children with my husband. My second was born about 7 months ago. 2 beautiful children who I love to bits. My issue is with my post baby body. I know that sounds juvenile. My stomach n...
A. 1 June 2016: There are products you can get to help with the appearance off stretch marks, bio oil, coconut oil, choco butter. Lots of things to try. Maybe also try doing core workouts to tighten your stomach muscles. ... (read in full...)
I think I am going to miss her, but is she the one that got away? what should I do?
Q. I need your help agony aunts and for some advice as to what to do. I am friends with a female at work, we get on, have a lot in common and share the same interests, she's supported me when someone close in my family died and also when my heart wa...
A. 1 June 2016: Is it possible that she is just busy? It sounds like you are expecting a lot from her at the moment, while she might not have a lot off time at the moment to herself. Why not drop her an e-mail or text and ask her is everything okay?... (read in full...)
Who ditches the decent girl?
Q. Hi, I've always been a shy introvert and I struggle to talk to people I don't know well. In big groups (aka 6+ people not counting me) I am helpless when it comes to communication. I seem to be the only introvert at school. I'd be fine if I...
A. 1 June 2016: Okay I am going to be honest with you here, being at school can be very difficult when you don't fit in to a crowd, but when you get older and look back you will be glad that you stayed true to yourself and didn't turn in to someone that you are ... (read in full...)
I'm into him, and he knows it. Can you help me try to understand his actions?
Q. Hi. I'm confused about this guy's behavior and need help. I'm into him and he knows it. Earlier I used to start a conversation assuming he's shy and introvert but I got sick and tired and stopped texting him. I got his text after 10 days!! He rep...
A. 1 June 2016: If he knows that you are in to him I think he would make more off an effort if he felt the same way as well. Maybe he likes to play hard to get, or else he likes the attention he gets from you, either way if it was me I would keep my distance from ... (read in full...)
What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 1 June 2016: Sweetie this guy is in a relationship now, so it should not matter if he likes you or not as he is off limits. If he is using this girl to make you jealous well that does not make him a nice person.
Do you like him as more off a friend? If not then... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend lie to me about spending time with his son? What's going on here?
Q. My boyfriend's son is over on a visit. He has been here for a week. He lives in the Florida and we are in Canada. Now, I am having some trouble figuring something out. Can everyone help me? Before I go insane? My boyfriend was supposed to sp...
A. 1 June 2016: Sweetie I think you need to get help. This is not good behavior. You don't trust your boyfriend because he has cheated on an ex partner, well if their is no trust then their is not point, you can say you love him ect until you are blue in the face, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and I have all the proof but he keeps denying it
Q. This is probably a no brainer but I'm asking anyway, found out my boyfriend has been texting and chatting with his ex, I confronted him and he promised to stop because he didn't want to lose me the problem is he hasn't I checked his phone and have ...
A. 1 June 2016: You gave him a second chance to stop behaving like this, but he didn't, he probably thought you would never leave him so he carried on. What you have done is right. He is not to be trusted, he is blatantly lying to you, best thing you can do now is ... (read in full...)
I'm turned on by a fantasy I'm sure my wife's interest in would be zero!
Q. Hi All. I am a very happily married man and my sex life with my wife is fantastic. However, I am hugely turned on by the thought of a threesome between my wife and a shemale. I am almost certain that my wife's interest in this is pretty much zero. ...
A. 31 May 2016: This would ruin your marriage, it is okay to have fantasies, but a whole different story trying to introduce them in to a marriage. ... (read in full...)
He still lives with his ex. What can I do. ?
Q. Hi guys thanks for reading, I am open to all the advise you can give me. I have been dating this guy for a few weeks, but I barely get to spend time with him because he has a son. I haven't met his son yet I would like to but not till we are in a...
A. 31 May 2016: I believe this man has fooled you. It sounds like he is still with his partner and mother off his child. He wants a bit on the side with you when he can have it, but other than that he has no feelings for you or does not want a future. ... (read in full...)
Are my strategies taking me in the right direction? Should I 'live' a little after the divorce?
Q. My husband and I are amicably divorcing after 10 years of being together. There's no drama, we've been dead as a couple for years, we just didn't fight in public or complained to friends and family. So people close to us are in shock, as they ...
A. 31 May 2016: It is okay to allow yourself to be happy again, you are doing nothing wrong, as you said yourself your marriage has been over for a long time, and well his wife won't be coming back, so it is good that you are both moving on with your life. Just ... (read in full...)
Third option. Should I wait for more clear signs before reaching a decision on what to do?
Q. I have fallen for a best friend of mine. I don’t know if his feelings are reciprocated, what I do know is that I am walking between the borderline of acting on my feelings and pursuing him as more than a friend or restraining myself altogether and ...
A. 31 May 2016: I think you need to figure out first if he is gay. Therefore try and bring it up in conversation, ask him is he single? Has a gfriend or Bfriend, hopefully will give you a better clue. Or even if you found out the sex of his last partner you would ... (read in full...)
I feel crushed. How can a man turn nasty so quickly?
Q. My ex of 42 recently ended things twice with me and I have lost all trust in him now. He wanted to see me yesterday. I still love him but declined as Im healing and feel it was not a healthy relationship anyway. He had mood swings and was not over...
A. 31 May 2016: Sweetie he probably didn't even kiss another woman, he wanted to see you and you said no so this is him lashing out at you, he wants to hurt you because he is hurting at the moment. You done the best thing blocking him. ... (read in full...)
We me on an online site. Should I assume we are still in a relationship?
Q. Dear Auntz. Ive fallen inlove so fast within a period of a month with a guy 9 years older than me from a dating site. He asked me to help him do a website for him because i told him my brother does that so at fast my brother wanted to do it for f...
A. 30 May 2016: Sweetie I remember your older post asking the same thing, being blunt, this guy used you as he thought he would get a free website from you. Now that you asked for payment he has went off the face of the earth. A relationship is where two people get ... (read in full...)
Why does my heart warm up when I see my ex? What's up with my current relationship?
Q. I am now into my third year of a wonderful relationship. We got together about 6 months after breaking up with my daughters father, which was a very turbulent time. Some his fault, but I admit, I never made things easy by cheating several times(he...
A. 30 May 2016: Have you cheated in your current wonderful relationship?
I guess sharing a child is a huge deal and that would always mean you will have a soft spot for your ex. But maybe you just like the thrill off cheating. I suggest no commitment unless you ... (read in full...)
My Bf wants to be single again to sort himself out. How can I cope with all the uncertainty of this change?
Q. My boyfriend of two years decided yesterday out of no where as things are going great that hes too stressed with everything going on in his life and wants to be single to sort himself out. It was totally out of the blue and I'm utterly heart br...
A. 30 May 2016: Sweetie the harsh truth is he does not want to be with you, it is clear to see. He is wanting you to give him space, and you need to do that. He has agreed to come to the hospital probably out of guilt that he is leaving you and your children, but I ... (read in full...)
How can I get the respect I seek from my husband and from his family? What will improve this situation?
Q. My husband told me he recents me for keeping him away from his family. I do keep him away from his family because HIS family doesn't like me . my marriage is falling apart over this we are at the point where either I let him be around his famil...
A. 30 May 2016: It sounds like you have been a very controlling wife and I don't blame him for resenting you. Yes it can be difficult for someone if a spouses family doesn't like them, but I wouldn't like someone who kept a member of my family away from me, ... (read in full...)
Feeling obsessed and desperate. Who really is my baby's Daddy?
Q. Hello there, I am really hoping someone can help me here with some advise and no judgment. I am 31 years old and married for 5 years. My husband and I share a daughter that is 3 years old. Last year we are having a lot of trouble in our marriage ...
A. 30 May 2016: How can you say you love this guy when you literally only had a fling with him? It sounds like you love the idea of being with someone other than your husband, but do you really know this guy so well that you actually think that you love him?
D... (read in full...)
He is the best friend of a guy I used to like. Does the best friend like me?
Q. So basically, about 2 years ago, I moved to a new college and so did a new friend that I had made. We both ended up really liking each other. His bestfriend also came to this new college too. At the beginning the bestfriend and I really got along. ...
A. 30 May 2016: The only way you will find out is if you ask, you have said yourself you and his best friend are no longer interested in each other therefore you should forget all about him. If you like this guy then tell him, you have nothing to lose. ... (read in full...)
Dating problems. Where does one find the nice, genuine, yet good looking guys out there?
Q. It seems that every descent looking guy I come across ends up being a total a^^^ole! They turn out to be liars and cheaters and users and abusers and honestly I'm sick of it. They think that just because they are good looking they can step al...
A. 30 May 2016: Are your standards to high? Are you going for men who are good looking first then getting to know their personality? I think you need to broaden your search if you are looking for a long term partner, plus play it easy for the first while, make a ... (read in full...)
How do you treat your soon-to-be ex-husband as a friend after being together for years?
Q. We were a couple for 10years, married for 4yrs. What issues I saw we had when we were young and didn't really focus on resolving it before it manifested during our marriage. It didn't help that I went through several personal strategy and depr...
A. 30 May 2016: If you need to stay with him for a while then I suggest you both set ground rules. You where married so yes it is going to take a while getting used to being flatmates now. Sit down and talk to each other establish how you will both behave while you ... (read in full...)
How do I let others know that I'm a good friend and not snobby?
Q. Hi:) I believe I am an above average looking guy with a stable job and take good care of myself. I am very sociable with family but am quiet outside the home environment. I do not enjoy drawing attention to myself and would rather just be a part of ...
A. 30 May 2016: Your opening line was you believe to be above average so that is your problem straight away, you think two highly off yourself and people will pick up on that attitude.
Its great you have a stable job and that you look after yourself, but you also... (read in full...)
Someone stirring up trouble and losing friendships thick and fast
Q. hello agony aunts I've got a problem which I hope you can solve for me, I feel as though someone at work is plotting against me and is telling untrue stuff about me to my friends and to a girl who I'm friends with about my past, he doesn't like me ...
A. 30 May 2016: Hi *******
I have noticed a change in our friendship lately and I was just wondering was everything okay? I hope I have not offended you in anyway, if I have please let me know as I value your friendship.
From **********... (read in full...)
My husband left me says he'll never come back but I still love him and am waiting for him
Q. My husband left me 3 months ago,but he is still in contact with me and give me a little money weekly. he does not show affection to me now and said he will never be back to the marital home. Should i wait and hope we can restart our relationship, i ...
A. 27 May 2016: I think he needs to drop the contact with you. It is kind he is giving you some money, my guess is he feels guilty for leaving you. But the hard truth is he does not love you anymore and he will not be back. I am sure this is not something he ... (read in full...)
What is your story about your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. Hi, I'll be 17 soon and have never had a boyfriend. Probably because I'm less confident around guys I like and I struggle with expressing my feelings in any situation. I mean I've been somewhat intimate with a guy (without going too far luckily - im ...
A. 27 May 2016: You are still very young, I was shy at your age, and I got my first boyfriend when I was 17. We took our time and did not rush in to anything. I guess the thing is we are all different, yet none of us know what is around the corner, so for now enjoy ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've lost a friend and its making me feel very confused
Q. I'm in a situation where I don't know where to begin and it's hard to explain, I'll try to make as much sense as I can with it so bare with me. I like this female at work, she likes me and we seem to get on well, she's a temporary worker and want ...
A. 27 May 2016: No Sweetie there is nothing wrong with you at all, it sounds like this girl might think that you have romantic feelings for her and she does not feel the same therefore she has backed off so that she does not give you the wrong impression. You ... (read in full...)
I'm angry that my mother believed rumors of me cheating with a married man and I'm unhealthy because of all the stress!
Q. Hi, I've been having some issues after some events from a year ago and was hoping for a bit of clarity or advice. Here i go... Around the begining of last year my partner of 7 years and I decided to take a break from the relationship to ...
A. 27 May 2016: I think you should write your mother a letter and tell her exactly how you feel, explain to her how this has upset you and that you never did anything wrong. Then write a letter to the woman who caused this mess and tell her what she has done to ... (read in full...)
Should I stop cooking for my Bf after what he did? Any suggestions on how to get him to appreciate me more?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, living together for 1 year. He can be super sweet, loyal and sensitive and we have a lot in common... but sometimes he can just 'lose it.' Though he would never be violent he has lost his temper over ...
A. 26 May 2016: Think back on the last month, what have you both had that was something you had in common? I bet you will struggle to think off something. Maybe when he is winning at his games he is sweet and loyal, but when he is annoyed he lashes out and he has a ... (read in full...)
The age issue bothers me. How do I learn to accept what my sister has done?
Q. Hello, My sister is 32 with a 9 year old child. Until recently, she was with a man, W, for a majority of her child's life. He is not the real father, but my nephew believes him to be. W has stepped up and taken care of both of them. He has pro...
A. 26 May 2016: I think you are judging this man before you have even met him. It is none of your business who your sister dates, they are both adults so age should not be an issue.
Yes it is hard for your nephew because things have changed, it will be diff... (read in full...)
It's a secret I've not told my long term friend. How do I reveal my autism to her?
Q. I've been friends with a girl from high school for many years and I have a secret I haven't told her about me. That I have autism and I can't find the right words to say or explain it to her, and as I've autism my words get cross wired and some...
A. 26 May 2016: You have been friends for a long time, so it should not bother her that you have Autism, remember Autism is a part of who you are but it is not who you are, if you know what I mean! If you feel that you want to tell her, then just say to her ... (read in full...)
He ignores me and treats me like I don't exist ever since we had a one night stand. How can I better handle this rejection?
Q. Hi there, I'm married with 10 childrens and had an affair with a man that has 4 Children. We go to the same church and that's where everything happened. He smiled at me all the time and then it ended up into a one night stand we met up and ha...
A. 26 May 2016: A one night stand generally is have sex and then never see each other again, harder when you go to church together but it just means he is avoiding you now because he does not want anyone knowing about it. You cannot be good friends with a man you ... (read in full...)
I suffer social anxiety. How can I break the news to my parents that I've met a guy?
Q. Hey everyone, just looking for some advice and I guess some moral support :-) Brief background story: I've always been shy and introverted, and have been in abusive relationships in the past. After my last long term relationship I moved...
A. 26 May 2016: Next time they ask where are you off to say you are off to meet a guy you have been seeing and tell them you would like them to meet him. It can be scary in your mind yes, but there is nothing logically to fear. Why not get your anxiety under ... (read in full...)
What can or should I do? I can't stop thinking about another man
Q. So I'm in big trouble. I haven't been happy in my marriage for years now. I still love my husband and like him but not like I used to, he is an alright person but does some questionable things. He has been unfaithful with another woman. However he ...
A. 26 May 2016: Are you sure staying married to your husband is what you want? He cheated on you and you forgave him, but have you forgot? Can you still trust him. You mention him cheating so am guessing it is still playing on your mind. Off course he is against a ... (read in full...)
Help ! I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother.
Q. Dear All, I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother. My mother is a good woman and has been a good mother. She raised 4 kids all by herself after my father fell mentally ill. She is still married to him but unhappily and bitter at ...
A. 26 May 2016: No don't push her away, she is lashing out because she is having a hard time. She is caring for your dad who is being abusive, that alone is a tough life, and off course she is bitter and angry and that impacts on you and your siblings.
Talk to y... (read in full...)
She is wonderful, fulfills all my needs in life, but I'm not in love with her. Should I reconnect with an ex, instead, despite problems likely to result?
Q. 5 years ago me and my partner that I have children with went through a very rough patch and I ended up cheating on her. Me and her friend ended up falling for each other but in the end I couldn't deal with the guilt and told her what has been go...
A. 26 May 2016: I cannot understand why anyone with a child would consider cheating and then going on to have a second child. It is very careless and irresponsible. But anyway here you are. If you are not in love with your partner let her go, it is unfair to keep ... (read in full...)
Does he still like me? Friends think yes. I thought so too, but now I don't know
Q. So I like this guy in a bar and he's working there and for the past few weeks whenever he's there he always looks at me and tries to strike up a conversation, but I'm always with my friends and it's kinda hard to have a decent conversation with so ...
A. 26 May 2016: Hand him your phone number next time you are in the bar and see if he contacts you, if he does then you know he likes you and if he doesn't well at least you tried. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Things don't feel right in our relationship. I still feel betrayed at times!
Q. My husband and I are having a major problem and I come to you for help. We've been married almost 3 years, no children. He wanted to separate for a bit and so I agreed. I went to go stay at my dads. Out of hurt and anger I told him I would be filin...
A. 26 May 2016: I don't think I would be able to go back to him. At the end of the day he wanted the separation, has he ever told you why? It sounds like there was no time between you and this woman, is it possible that this is the reason he wanted to separate? I ... (read in full...)
Should I speak to my Aunt beforehand about re-establishing contact with my mother? I do not want my sons to see, hear or experience any nastiness over any reunion
Q. When I was 22 I started dating a friend of my fathers he was 18 years older then me and my parents didn't accept our relationship. They thought he "groomed" me and that he was using me for sex. Things got really bad between us and they told me...
A. 25 May 2016: Hope it went well for you and it worked out the way you wanted, family can be the most important part of life. ... (read in full...)
I need advice! I'm young, married and unhappy!
Q. Hi looking for advice. My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 6. About two years ago I moved for work, we had talked it over and agreed he would move the rest of our stuff and then come join me in a month. However he ended up ...
A. 25 May 2016: Sweetie the point is you should not be mothering him, he should not be telling you that your not allowed male friends, if this was me I would feel suffocated. You are feeding him what he wants and this will only make him worse. Yes your talk was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is touchy feely with other girls.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. The problem is that he's extremely touchy and always tickles and teases other girls, even in front of me. I talked to him about it but it seems that it's pointless. I've never told him not to hang out with ...
A. 25 May 2016: Yes it is immature in a relationship to touch a tickle other girls, but as honeypie said it is to be expected at your age. He is young and he wants attention from girls, he is not ready to settle down and be in a serious relationship, you have asked ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine breaking up with him, and I can't live with my married lover. How do I cope?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 3 years this June. He has told me he does not love me. But he loves having sex with me. The passion we share and the sex we have is out of this world. Even after 3 years, we continue to reac...
A. 25 May 2016: You want compassion from people because you are in a lonely situation, but the thing is you put yourself their, the moment you decided to open your legs for a married man you where destined to be lonely and judged.
You say that you are scared he w... (read in full...)
Will it get better? Am I going to regret leaving home as a teenager, in the long run?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 18 years old and about two months ago I left home. I never got on well with my dad and I was quite distant from my mother. I have serious middle child syndrome, I'm quite selfish and never satisfied. I was yearning emotion...
A. 25 May 2016: Please remember that you only get one set off parents in life. Think off it this way, if your mum and dad died in a car crash tonight how would you feel? Would you miss them? Be upset? Use these feelings for something positive. You don't need to ... (read in full...)
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