Should I leave my wife because of her fixation on finding “the big one”?
Q. My wife is totally ignorant to me on occasssion. Thoughtless or worse. She cheated 4 years ago looking for 'the big one' as I caught her when she left FB open. It was a coworker and the brief fling happened after she lost her job. Turns out he w...
A. 18 May 2016: It seems you have developed the attitude if you cannot beat her you will join her. That is a shame really because at the beginning I thought you where a nice decent man, now it looks like you are sleazy and gross and having sex with anyone and ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex and I think he's looking at porn! Advice?
Q. A few months back I caught my husband looking at porn on his tablet. he was also working away from home during the week and weekend all his underwear has cum stains in. we had lots of arguments bout this. now he is back home and for a long time his ...
A. 13 May 2016: Get a babysitter and go away for the weekend... (read in full...)
How do I know if my boyfriend fantasized about this other woman when we had sex?
Q. I have what might seem like a weird question. Is it normal for your boyfriend or partner to fantasize about another woman/person while having sex with you? Do people do this sometimes? Or is it just not ever spoken about? I am asking bec...
A. 12 May 2016: I think you are reading to much in to this. Okay so he found this girl attractive, but am sure he finds plenty of girls attractive on a daily basis does not mean he will pretend you are them. It sounds to me like he may have been stressed about ... (read in full...)
Is this synchronicity? Should I contact her or let her be?
Q. I have a few questions that I need help with. I am 40, I am attracted to woman and my husband knows. I have been waiting on a female, the right one so to speak. I found her, I think but its complicated. I have not talked with her for abou...
A. 12 May 2016: I still stick with my advice am afraid. If you want friendship then off course why should you not contact her, but I think you know deep down you want more from her, and that would not be fair on your husband and children. ... (read in full...)
Does his change in communication style indicate disinterest?
Q. I feel petty asking but my gut tells me something is off. I’ve been dating a guy for four weeks. During the first two weeks we saw one another every other day. And the last two weeks he’s been out of town and returning this Saturday. He’s initiated ...
A. 12 May 2016: It sounds like he is still interested, he has agreed to meet up with you and he only asked you out a couple of days ago. The thing is though if he is doing all the running maybe he is starting to feel like it is one sided. You need to make an effort ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex and I think he's looking at porn! Advice?
Q. A few months back I caught my husband looking at porn on his tablet. he was also working away from home during the week and weekend all his underwear has cum stains in. we had lots of arguments bout this. now he is back home and for a long time his ...
A. 12 May 2016: Okay first off if he is wanting to look at porn, that is his right and he should be able to do that. Checking his underwear is taking things a bit to far in my opinion.
Now what you should be annoyed at is the fact he is not making an effort in t... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend tell me he was with his mom all day when he actually went out without her?
Q. Hello. I need your help in figuring out my boyfriend's actions today. Here is what happened. I texted him this morning at around 11. I said "good morning" to him like usual. But there was no reply. Usually he replies pretty quickly. I th...
A. 11 May 2016: I think you need to deal with your own issues before being in this relationship. Yes you got hurt in the past, but that is not his fault, and yes he has a wall up but this could be because you are insecure and clingy. I honestly think you need to ... (read in full...)
I should go at all?
Q. So I really liked this guy, who at first liked me too, but who now has feelings for my best friend instead. My best friend isn't into him in that way because she has someone she already really likes but on my end it still kind of hurts and is weird...
A. 11 May 2016: I agree with everyone stay at home, why should you put yourself through pain for someone else? He likes her, but she doesn't like him that way, it is for them to sort that out not you. ... (read in full...)
Can I get over my insecurity and jealousy in this situation? My Gf had sex with someone else shortly before we started dating.
Q. So this is my story, I don't know if I overreact or not. I chatted up this girl in late November last year through a dating app. We talked a bit but there was nothing going on, she said she was busy, working on a project day and night and had to...
A. 11 May 2016: I have to disagree with you, sharing your past with your partner is a good thing, I agree that you don't need to hear any of the details, but you should be secure enough in your relationship that if she tells you who she was with it should not ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to overcome what I have done? I've apologized but I'm worried about family repercussions following my action.
Q. i drunk kissed my sister, she is 5 years younger than me, i feel bad and helpless, i wish i could reverse it, it was a small peck on the lips but with wrong intentions. I have said sorry to her, now i am afraid our relationship will never be the same...
A. 11 May 2016: If this is the way alcohol affects you maybe you should give up drinking. Talk to your sister and ask her how she feels about it? Tell her it was a drunken mistake and hopefully she can forgive you.... (read in full...)
What’s the best response to a break up message?
Q. If you are in a long term, committed relationship with a man, and he decides to break up with you [either because he's found someone else, or has just tired of you, or whatever his reason], in your experience, what is the best way for the woman to ...
A. 11 May 2016: I don't really think that this question can be generalized because all men are different as are woman. In my opinion if the woman walks away and he never hears from her again he may either think that she never really cared anyway, or else he may be ... (read in full...)
Rekindling the spark in a relationship
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pretty nice and cordial relationship. It has been a long time that we have been together. We both are working and successful. I was a complete nerd throughout my student life and never been in a serious relationship ...
A. 11 May 2016: Light some candles, put on some music, maybe add some sex toys, dress up, dim the lights. But most importantly ask him what he would like you to do and you also can give him ideas what you would like to do. Make sure you do date nights, have a laugh ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 May 2016: Block her from your phone, social media and all other ways for her to contact her. Then forget about her and move on. If she does anything out of boundaries then contact the police and tell them.... (read in full...)
What age is too old to have a baby? 40? 41? 42? Or beyond?
Q. Is 40 (me) and 43 (my husband) too old to have a baby? We both have kids from previous relationships but I would really love for us to have a child together. He has hinted that he thinks we're too old. I don't. We have talked briefly about it at the ...
A. 11 May 2016: Go to your doctor and ask them what they think, but most importantly talk it out with your husband to see if he actually wants another baby..... (read in full...)
Can my cheating be condoned? Should I feel guilt?
Q. Here is my current situation... I am a married 35 year old with 2 kids and I am currently cheating happily. I know how it sounds but hear me out. I have been in my relationship with my husband for 12 years. I like to think we are good parents, we...
A. 11 May 2016: You are both lying to your husband and his wife, so yes off course you should feel guilty, if you thought you where doing nothing wrong then you would have told your husband, but instead you are lying to him and sneaking around because somewhere ... (read in full...)
Is my nudity, inside my own home, in front of my 44 year old stepdaughter, OK or not?
Q. My wife and I are in our late 60's - just average people except that we like to be nude at home when it is warm enough. Now my 44 year old step daughter is living with us and strongly objects to me being naked even though it is my house. Her mo...
A. 11 May 2016: If you both like to be nude on your own home then good for you. However did you discuss this with your step daughter before she moved in? I can see why she would feel uncomfortable I would feel the same, but it should have been discussed so she knew ... (read in full...)
Am I being reasonable or unreasonable? Needy or too needy?
Q. Am I being too needy? I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable. My boyfriend is a great guy and always makes time for his work, hobbies, friends, parents, siblings and one or twice a week me. However my precence, to him, counts as quality time ...
A. 11 May 2016: If you are feeling lonely then this relationship is obviously not working for you. How long have you both been together? It sounds like your boyfriend does care about you, but he doesn't make enough effort to spend quality time with you. If he feels ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 May 2016: The thing with women like this, is that when they realize they cannot have what they want it is like a game to them, I bet if you where to be single in the morning she would leave you alone because she would then have lost the thrill.
Are you sure... (read in full...)
Paralyzed by fear of rejection - How can I get my life back?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles: I’m in kind of a bad way. For the past year, I’ve been living in a constant state of self-imposed fear and intimidation that has confined me to home, when I really should be out there trying to make a better life for myself. ...
A. 10 May 2016: Don't be angry or disappointed with yourself, you might feel that your fear is irrational, but in your mind it makes sense and that is the one you need to look after. You need to ensure your mental health is looked after. Can you afford to visit a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I slept with our friend?
Q. Hello my aunts! Im back again. You guys gave me great advice about how to handle my bad situation with my not so faithfull wife. I followed it and it worked out. The only downside is she kicked me out. which means less time with my babies before I ...
A. 10 May 2016: The answer is simple, it is none of your wife's business who you have sex with, you are both separated and you are free to be with who you like. It does seem low that her friend would have sex with you, she may have had a crush on you, but she is ... (read in full...)
Insensitive, thoughtless partner that doesn't care about special occassions. Calling a woman as materialistic when confronted him about his ways.
Q. If I can get back to the times that i can run away from my partner, i will. I am 30 years old and my partner is 40 yrs old. I did not imagine I will be treated like this by a man i am living with for almost 8years. We are not married but since we ...
A. 10 May 2016: Someone can love you without buying you gifts. Off course we all want to be appreciated and showed that we are loved. But maybe he cannot afford to buy you gifts, maybe he is not sure how to be romantic. I guess every relationship is different. If ... (read in full...)
Rekindling the spark in a relationship
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pretty nice and cordial relationship. It has been a long time that we have been together. We both are working and successful. I was a complete nerd throughout my student life and never been in a serious relationship ...
A. 10 May 2016: The spark may have died because their is no sexual chemistry between you both. It is okay to be worried about sex for the first time, it just means you are not ready, but are you both intimate with each other in different ways? Why not read some ... (read in full...)
Is this synchronicity? Should I contact her or let her be?
Q. I have a few questions that I need help with. I am 40, I am attracted to woman and my husband knows. I have been waiting on a female, the right one so to speak. I found her, I think but its complicated. I have not talked with her for abou...
A. 10 May 2016: No I don't think it is a good idea contacting her. She is married now and you have a husband and baby to think about, contacting her will bring nothing good. If I am being honest I think their was a sexual attraction on her part but nothing more, I ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is great, except when he comments on the appearance of other girls!
Q. Hi.. Um I have very low self esteem and suffered from depression since i was very young. I'm in a relationship, and honestly, its great.. Apart from the fact where he compliments other girls sayong they are hot or have big boobs . This really ...
A. 10 May 2016: Am afraid that you need to learn to love yourself. Your boyfriend cannot cure you for having low self esteem. Okay so the thing is most girls boobs are uneven, that is a fact. Its just not noticible through a bra. Has your boyfriend ever commented ... (read in full...)
Is it him that’s off? I think how I’ve acted and the messages I’ve sent are fine!
Q. Hello, I've been single for just over a year. I have been online dating. I met a guy and he was very keen 2 dates in he was saying if we get married would you take my second name? And my daughter would be happy here at the weekends with us. He's...
A. 9 May 2016: It sounds like he just lost interest. He was all words and no action. It sounds like he told you what you would like to hear, but then he was scared off by your messages. Him saying he hopes you found someone is a huge sign that he has lost ... (read in full...)
Would our guests from Scandinavia be horrified to see ants in our home?
Q. We live in the USA and are not really into using poisons. Thus we have a fair number of ants in our house. Mainly the tiny little ones that don't bite or anything LOL Anyway, we have some houseguests coming to visit from Europe (Scandinavia). D...
A. 9 May 2016: Well personally if it was me I would not like to sleep in a bedroom that has ants in it, mostly because I would be paranoid they would be crawling all over me. It depends what you mean by a few and if they are in the bedroom as well. However at the ... (read in full...)
Why? He seemed interested. Then he dissed me to my coworkers
Q. There's a guy at my work place who I had a crush on who seemed to like me too. Most of my coworkers pointed it out and has been talking about it for weeks. He would flirt with me, playfully push or tease me and go out of his way to talk to me which...
A. 9 May 2016: Are you sure he actually said this and it was not your co worker causing trouble? She could have twisted what was said and made it sound worse. If it was me I would pull him up on it, ask him why he has said these things and show him you are not to ... (read in full...)
I found out by accident that my biological parents are not the parents who brought me up. I feel hurt and so confused. What should I do?
Q. I found out something awful and I'm hurt and disappointed and don't know what to do. My mom's brother and my dad's sister used to date in high school. I never met my uncle because he's been in prison since I was 9 and we live states away from our...
A. 9 May 2016: From the sound of your post you are a very lucky young lady that your parents took you in as their own and loved you like they have done, imagine if it had been different you would have a mother who is a heavy drinker and a father who is in prison, ... (read in full...)
Is he faking his love for me?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for 3 months now, he had always been a very nice guy and treats me with respect. He spends hours talking to me non stop. He always flirt with me and always opens up to me and shows me how deep and how sensitiv...
A. 9 May 2016: Technically he has done nothing wrong talking to another girl, you are not in a relationship and he does not have to tell you who he is talking to.
It is strange that your brother hates him and will not tell you why, are you close to your brot... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife because of her fixation on finding “the big one”?
Q. My wife is totally ignorant to me on occasssion. Thoughtless or worse. She cheated 4 years ago looking for 'the big one' as I caught her when she left FB open. It was a coworker and the brief fling happened after she lost her job. Turns out he w...
A. 9 May 2016: What a shallow woman you choose to marry. Is she insecure with herself? Maybe this is why she is lashing out at you and bringing you down? Either way her behavior is unacceptable and really inappropriate. How dare she be so cruel to you and hit you ... (read in full...)
Should I consider this relationship as a possible LDR? How would I raise this with him?
Q. I met a great guy on an online dating site last summer. We only went out once, but I liked him. He's everything I'm looking for in a guy - Tall, Smart (med student), Asian, caring, compassionate, etc... The only problem is...he goes to school in...
A. 9 May 2016: You only went out once, so no I really don't think it would be a good idea to enter in to a LDR, I mean it is difficult enough when a couple do LDR after being together for a while, but it just would not work to begin a relationship. His priority at ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over him? Why is he still in my head?
Q. Hi guys i have this problem i went out with this guy and he cheated on me and we broke up. B ut i cant get over him i always think about him, and he's a family friend, so i see him a lot and its so awkward to be around him. I don't want it awkw...
A. 9 May 2016: Okay so he cheated on you, which means he did not show you any respect at all, it shows he was not serious about your relationship. Now you need to stand up and say you won't allow a guy to treat you this way. It is okay to think about him still, ... (read in full...)
Family issue I never mentioned earlier. Is it reason enough to (possibly) not wish to marry me?
Q. Hi I am in quite a fix please help me out here I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year,a few weeks ago I told him something about my "so called" family member (we are not in touch,our families don't talk to each other,they have been not...
A. 9 May 2016: This is not your aunts fault, this is your boyfriends fault, if he really loved you he would not care what your aunt done, are you sure he is not just looking for an excuse to leave? It sounds dodgy to me. If I loved someone I would love them for ... (read in full...)
Is this liason weird?
Q. I'm 25 and he's 30. We've been dating 5 weeks and are exclusive. I posted earlier about him inviting me to LA with him on business trip (in a month). We plan to go sightseeing together for a few days. Our connection is amazing and we talk about ...
A. 9 May 2016: I remember replying to your last post where you where worried about him wanting sex and you being a virgin, now it seems to have taken a U turn. Look I think you really need to sit with him and talk to him about this, you are both adults, and if you ... (read in full...)
Is this one to keep?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for 2, 2.5 years. We always get on very well in groups but don't really talk outside of seeing each other at gigs/parties. He had a girlfriend until about 6 months ago. She was lovely but he used to occasionally say ...
A. 9 May 2016: It sounds like he is not as interested in you as you are in him. He did not acknowledge the match at all when you brought it up. Probably because he was unsure about what to say. He is not long out of a relationship therefore maybe he is using these ... (read in full...)
Does he sound insecure? Should I have given him more reassurance?
Q. I met a guy of 45 three months ago. We went out on a few dates and by the 3rd date he was all over me, wanted to be more than friends. We began properly dating. He sent me a rose, and told me a month in that I had his heart. He said he couldn't...
A. 9 May 2016: It sounds like he is insecure and very clingy. I agree with Honeypie that this is a lot of drama way to early on in the relationship. It sounds like he needs a lot of attention, and yes this could be because of his past, but you only missed one good ... (read in full...)
I'm still trying to move on from my ex after 2 years!
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and we broke up broke up just under 2 years ago. We had a lot of issues whilst we was together, no trust, arguing and sometimes even when things were going well i felt he wasn’t the right person for m...
A. 9 May 2016: It never worked in the past so it more than likely wont work next year either, yes you have both matured and changed and you have a good connection but that does not mean you will have a great relationship. There was no trust between you and you ... (read in full...)
Have I missed my chance to marry? is it too late?
Q. I feel like I've missed the chance to fulfill my dream of getting married long time ago and I'm ready to throw the towel. I will turn 44 this year, still single and lonely. I know that you can find true love at any age, I also know there are lo...
A. 9 May 2016: Are you actively looking for another man at the moment or are you hoping that this man will wake up one day and realize he does want to marry you? The thing is you need to let go off the idea that he is serious about you, his life changed after ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the FWB it can’t happen anymore?
Q. I have a friend ill call him ( a ) and we are friends with benefits but now ive met someone else call him ( b ) and we plan on having a relationship once hes back from his family holiday (no wife no kids hes single) How do i tell (a) friend with ...
A. 9 May 2016: You said it yourself, you knew this day would come and so did he. At the end of the day we all get to a point in life where we want to settle down with someone we care about. You are friends with A but you only have benefits nothing more. You just ... (read in full...)
I need to tell him I faked my pleasure!
Q. So this is slightly embarrassing, hence why I’m staying anonymous. Basically I lied to my boyfriend about liking anal sex and he now wants to make it a regular thing. Do I tell him the truth that I was ‘faking it?’ This all happened last we...
A. 9 May 2016: I know that you don't want to upset him, but you also don't want to keep putting yourself through such an ordeal either. You need to tell him, you can keep out a lot of the truth and just simply tell him that you where very sore the following day ... (read in full...)
What if my ex tells people what we did?
Q. Hi there, I'm just wondering about my ex. He fingered me when we were together and I gave him a wank. I'm scared he's gonna tell people I know and I'm scared if my friends find out that they will break our friendship and I end up with no friends. ...
A. 9 May 2016: Sweetie if you where not ready to be sexual with a boy then you should have listened to your inner mind and said no. I know why you are scared, but am afraid we cannot control what people tell others, also who is to say that people will believe him ... (read in full...)
I put my foot in it! What do I do?
Q. I work in a condominium and have gotten the chance to know a lot of really lovely people. One of them is a lady "Mary" who has the absolute cutest baby daughter. She showed a mommy's day video made for her by her partner and I stupidly asked "Did ...
A. 9 May 2016: There is nothing that you can do now, you just need to let it go and be normal with her. It is an easy assumption to make so don't beat yourself up about it, people make these mistakes all the time. Am sure she will have forgotten about it already. ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 9 May 2016: Simple answer is she is jealous that you have found someone else and you are happy. ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 April 2016: Yes it could be that she wants sex from you, but do not let her in again, as feelings will rise and you will only end up back at square one. The best thing for you to do is not respond to her and tell her that you have moved on from him. Don't give ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 8 April 2016: It's not odd behavior at all, it is the behavior of a woman who doesn't want you, but also who likes the attention from you. She doesn't want you to be with anyone else, but she also is just using you for her own benefit and to make herself feel ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 29 March 2016: Maybe you are just not ready to be out dating again. You still have feelings for your ex, and am sure all these other women you are comparing to her and making yourself feel even worse. I think you should be alone for a while and concentrate on ... (read in full...)
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