How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 29 July 2016: If you are not going to do the proper thing for yourself then please do it for your children, your two boys deserve better than this, as soon as she moves in they will feel even more pushed out, do not allow this to happen, do not let him control ... (read in full...)
We fight, we flirt, we hug and kiss, does she want to date, or for me to leave her alone?
Q. So i work with someone thats been showing inconsistency in her behaviour, just wanted to know whats wrong or going on. So the story goes, we both annoy each other, ignore each other, hate each other, backstab each other. She deleted my phone number, ...
A. 11 July 2016: Are you really in your 30s? If so then it is time to grow up and act like an adult. ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 8 July 2016: The thing is though that you felt this escort liked you before she even set eyes on you, just over a phone call? She is well capable off trying to get a man feeling like he is wanted and special and one of a kind. Now am not saying that you are none ... (read in full...)
Should I insist on marriage before sex?
Q. Hello am 37 and dating a man of 60, I have never had a boyfriend or even kissed a man due to my fathers control of me for a long time. I am still a virgin. Recently I wanted to wait until marriage, but I wonder if I can find a man who can wait until ...
A. 8 July 2016: I will admit that it is rare for a woman at your age to be a virgin therefore he might be quite shocked, so you should be prepared for that. The best thing for you to do is be honest with him and see what he says. Don't have sex with anyone unless ... (read in full...)
Lies are taking me to the edge
Q. I've been a single mother to my 6 year old since she was 3 months old. Her dad walked out on us, and even though I tried to get him to see her, he pretended like she didn't exist. We were both 18 when she was born, and we had been together for ...
A. 8 July 2016: Sweetie this is not his girlfriends fault, she is listening to his poison and she does not know you so she takes it to be the truth. It sounds like she is very immature writing things up on facebook, but that is life at the moment, people broadcast ... (read in full...)
Is a thankyou card to my doctor appropriate?
Q. Hi , Thanks for being helpful . I need a advice. I am going to doc for treatment. His treatment helping me a lot. I want to send him a card. I bought a thank you card.now I am confuse about sentance in the card. Its written thanks for making m...
A. 8 July 2016: The words in the card are okay, so yes send it, am sure doctors like to hear positive feed back as well. Hope you are on the mend. Take Care. ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship possible with this age gap?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for a while now and I am realy into him and he says he is realy into me. Im 17 and he is 29. He dosnt want to hold me back and has said I can back out at any time and that he dosnt want to be selfish. It is my first proper ...
A. 8 July 2016: Does your family know about this? Look sweetie, they are your friends and they are worried, and rightly so, you might not see it at the moment, but a 29 year old should not be looking to date a teenager. I am not sure what is reasons are, but you ... (read in full...)
Should I move to win love?
Q. Most of the girls in my home town only see me as a friend by this stage of my life, Any that i managed to be romantically involved with never lasted longer than 2 dates. By logic I am clearly the problem here. I'm too nicey nice and can't be the ...
A. 8 July 2016: You are still young, do you live in a small village with little population? I am sure there are plenty of girls that you have yet to meet, you don't need to uproot your whole life just to try and find love, also if you think you are the problem well ... (read in full...)
What should I tell my ex'?
Q. My ex boyfriend got in touch. What should I do? He sent me a message on Facebook last night. I received it this morning. He asked how I was. I told him I was doing ok and that my flat is nice. Last time we spoke, which was last October, I had only ...
A. 8 July 2016: It sounds like you both tried to be friends, so maybe it is a friendly call? The thing is he is still your ex and it might bring up some old feelings that you might not want to feel. So have a proper think about it and be honest with yourself. If ... (read in full...)
Guilty about dating best freind's brother
Q. I feel like I'm doing something wrong by seeing my best friend's brother behind her back, but I don't know what to do as I don't want to lose her friendship. I've known my best friend since we were 8, we do everything together, or did until last yea...
A. 8 July 2016: I am marrying one of my friends brothers, the thing with that though was I was honest about it, trying to hide it and lying to her, well that is your mistake, if she can't trust you now it is because you have been lying to her, your boyfriend is ... (read in full...)
Is it me that is making women act like this?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm looking for some advice. I am a male who was abused both psychologically and physically. I am no longer in that relationship but I have been on my own for many years now. I do have difficulty in letting other people in ...
A. 8 July 2016: You where upfront and honest with her, you gave her a second chance and she blew it, so yes now it is time to walk away. It is not your fault she behaved like this, it is not something that you done. She is the one with anger issues not you. At ... (read in full...)
My husband’s sister seems to be in love with him!
Q. Is my sister in law in love with my husband? Long story short weve been married for 7-8 yrs now 2 beautiful kids..he has a younger sister theyre 9 yrs apart and every time shes around she does anything to get his attention.. she seems to be jealous ...
A. 8 July 2016: What age is she? What has she done so bad to you? Why are you all sharing a room, yet she has her own place? Try and explain more. ... (read in full...)
Now she’s wanting to try long distance but I have some doubts!
Q. So, I've been in a relationship with this girl for almost 15 months now. The thing is, she was here (asia) studying for a few years until she finished high school, and now she's moving back home to Europe, to study at Uni for the next 4-5 years, ...
A. 8 July 2016: I think you should sit down and talk to her and work it out together between the both off you. Be honest how you feel, tell her what worries you and ask her how she feels. Will long distance be hard? Yes it will be, even more so when you are both ... (read in full...)
She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?
Q. I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...
A. 8 July 2016: I think you are being very needy and clingy and this behavior is probably worrying her, if not scaring her, leave it alone now, be polite at work but try and remember that she is just a co-worker and keep your distance. ... (read in full...)
What satisfaction do some men get from sleeping with so many different women?
Q. What satisfaction do some guys get from sleeping with so many different women? Seriously, what satisfaction does one get from this? It really perturbs me that there are men like this out there. Men who think it's nothing to sleep with their friend's ...
A. 6 July 2016: THIS IS THE BEST ANSWER
A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2016):
Idk. Why don't you ask my wife. She had sex with many, many guys before we were married (about 3 dozen) under all sorts of circumstances. An guess what...she is a ... (read in full...)
False rumor. Then cheating.I forgave him. Am I a mug? Have I done the right thing?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months now. Then this weekend a rumour spread about me and another guy which wasn't true, I told my boyfriend about said rumour before it got to him by other means and he told me he believed me. He de...
A. 6 July 2016: Real love? Do you think he loved you when he was on top of some girl having sex with her? If you want to make it work then that makes you a stronger person than I am, because I would not be able to trust him again, I could pretend that I was, but ... (read in full...)
I am involved with a married man and I'm worried he will take up with this other woman who works for him!
Q. No judgment please. I have been having an affair with my married Martial Arts instructor for 2 years now. We still have the most amazing sex and electric chemistry and the relationship is mostly sexual although we both care about each other. I...
A. 6 July 2016: But Sweetie you are his mistress, you are not in a relationship, you are just wanting to believe that because if you open your eyes up to the truth it will hurt you, if you where in a long term relationship he would not be married to another woman, ... (read in full...)
Do I like him more than he likes me?
Q. I want to ask people's opinion on how a man I've been seeing feels about me. Sometimes I feel he's really into me, but I can start to think negatively about it quite quickly. I've been used to being the one with the power in relationships (m...
A. 6 July 2016: It sounds like what is happening between you both is very casual. I think the best thing that you can do is tell him you like him and give him a chance to tell you how he feels. It might not be what you want to hear, but its better the truth be out ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 6 July 2016: I just think you are reading to much in to it, you paid for her company and that is what you got, if you feel there is a genuine interest then ask her out on a date, but I know you are not willing to do that because deep down I think you know she ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: I honestly don't think that an escort would date one off her clients, so if you where to go again and pay a second time well then I think it would be lessening your chances of actually going on a date with her. ... (read in full...)
Should I just swallow my pride and tell him I really miss him or should I just wait for him to message me first?
Q. So I've been at university in Oxford this past year and at the end of April I started dating an amazing guy who lives in Oxford. I'm back at home in Surrey for the Summer now, so I haven't seen him for almost a month now and I really miss him a lot. ...
A. 5 July 2016: Sometimes the truth hurts, but I hope you do get the truth now from him so that you can plan ahead for your future and decide what path you and he are going to take. the truth is not always nice, but if he does not want to carry on at least you know ... (read in full...)
He ghosted and came back... what now?
Q. I posted a couple weeks ago. I dated someone for three months. The first two months were great. He was affectionate and planned thoughtful dates (as did I) and reached out daily. We met 1-2x a week. However everything changed last month and I ...
A. 5 July 2016: He is wasting your time sweetie, it is sad that he has went and hurt you all over again, I am sure that is not his intention, he was probably bored and texted a few girls. It is clear he doesn't want anything serious with you, you handled things ... (read in full...)
Is this fair? I've developed depression due to my concerns. Should she be contributing more? She leaves me to pay everything in order for us to live
Q. I'm feeling incredibly depressed lately. Be been married for 1year, we've been together for over 6years. I really do love her but I feel like she is bringing nothing to our relationship. She got a great degree from a state university, she cou...
A. 5 July 2016: Stop caring for her and start being her husband. She is taking advantage of you, and it is horrible to see. She can afford to have a low pay job because she is not worried about any bills she has to pay. Stop doing all the house work and see what ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 5 July 2016: It sounds like you might actually have been much better off just you and your boys, are you sure that this is the man you want to marry? It sounds like he was being made homeless and moved himself in to your home, don't get me wrong your a good ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: Yes you where the only one that was there so you have to go by your gut instinct, but in my experience, these girls want there clients to keep coming back, so they need to be really good at what they do, now am not saying you are not good at picking ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend isn't interested in phone or video sex after we met up and slept together in person! Is he losing interest?
Q. I am dating my boyfriend from last two years. we met through Facebook.In the initial stage of our relationship when we were in long distance. we used to Skype everyday.. almost every day we used to do naughty stuff on video chat. Whenever we used to ...
A. 5 July 2016: From your original post it sounds like your relationship is sex based, you say it is not and you are still together, but what does he do for you now as a boyfriend? He cooked, but does he send flowers? Chocolate? Buy presents, has he made plans to ... (read in full...)
Should I mention I found out he's leaving?
Q. I have built a rapport with my co worker and I fell for my co worker but we work in different departments.We have little to no work related interactions.He's always friendly and was giving off subtle signs of interest. However, 1 month ago I decided ...
A. 5 July 2016: You will look back some day and be glad he moved from this job just so that you have a chance to move on from him. It is okay to wish him well, but don't try and give your number again. I think you need to accept that he is not interested, stop ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 5 July 2016: In my eyes I would find it quite rude, you are there on a date with him and he is texting his ex girlfriend? When did they break up? Was it recent? Do they have children? For me I would find it strange that they where still friends, I mean who is ... (read in full...)
How do I fill this void? I've lost hope in love and in a new begining.
Q. I have written here previously as I am trying to collect myself after a series of events and a breakup that happened And wanted to know if, 1. This is normal and will it go away? 2. Any tips of developing a self esteem right as I hit 30 years old...
A. 5 July 2016: 1. I think your therapist is right, before jumping in to a relationship you need to be happy and content being single and enjoy your own company. You go above and beyond to please the man in your life, so now it is your turn to spoil and look after ... (read in full...)
Due to a chronic pain issue I cannot go ahead with this pregnancy. But is my reaction to this termination normal?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am in a happy relationship. We are both at university and have no money. I have 3 kids, he has 2 from our first marriages. This baby was not planned. I am 5 weeks. Due to circumstances including a chronic pain...
A. 5 July 2016: Yes I am pretty sure that this is a normal reaction, after having three children and knowing that there is a fourth growing inside you obviously you are going to be heartbroken and distressed, even though you know you will be unable or unfit to give ... (read in full...)
She thinks it looks cool. Anything I can say, or do, to change her mind about smoking again??
Q. I apologize in advance for anything I'm not making sense on. I've had this issue before and now its cropped up again but this time it's even worse. Just over 4 months ago me and my girlfriend finally came to an agreement that she wouldn't smoke c...
A. 5 July 2016: I remember reading your original post, and it is simple really, if she starts smoking end it. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue as a friend and hope he'll change his mind? Or let him go?
Q. I am in love with a friend of mine and he has told me once before he doesnt really see me as what I see him. He doesnt want to date; at first it hurt but I got over it after a while. The feeling is back and I cant shake it off as I used to wors...
A. 5 July 2016: You need to get out there and make new friends. Get new hobbies, join new clubs, you need to have friends in your life other than this one boy you have a crush on. You need to try harder, and be more positive about leading a happy life. ... (read in full...)
Everything I do seems to annoy him!
Q. Hi I've been together with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now everything was great up until recently everything I do lately seems to annoy him it's like I can't do anything right like for instance this morning he wanted to borrow some money I told ...
A. 5 July 2016: Maybe you are both spending to much time together, if that is the case organize things so that you have time apart. Also it could be that he is unhappy about something, so talk to him and see what is going on, maybe he is suffering from depression ... (read in full...)
Should I just swallow my pride and tell him I really miss him or should I just wait for him to message me first?
Q. So I've been at university in Oxford this past year and at the end of April I started dating an amazing guy who lives in Oxford. I'm back at home in Surrey for the Summer now, so I haven't seen him for almost a month now and I really miss him a lot. ...
A. 5 July 2016: From reading your post it sounds like he is not that in to you, the way you are with him. He dated you, but I don't think he is looking at it long term, that is my opinion, but sweetie if he was missing you he would make an effort to keep in ... (read in full...)
Paper thin wall mean we can hear each other! What's the best way to deal with this?
Q. I live in an apartment building in which the walls are pretty thin; so thin that I can actually hear what my neighbor is watching on the tv. So, for the past couple weeks, Ive been hearing my neighbors going at it and its really awkward. I havent ...
A. 5 July 2016: I second honeypies advice. It is the downside with living in an apartment block. You can hear them and vice versa. If you are paranoid then you could try tone it down a little, put on some music to drown out your voice, but other than that its best ... (read in full...)
Does he like me, even a little bit and if so will he think my behaviour is very strange?
Q. Ok so this guy that i like I also suspect that he likes me but i cannot be sure... He is at the same university as me but we don't see each other all that often - maybe once or twice a week in passing. We have had conversations before (before I...
A. 5 July 2016: It is normal, very normal. This is what happens when you get a crush, knees go weak, voice shakes, arms tremble. All perfectly normal. It is okay to go shy, most girls do when they get a crush, you just need to practice more being confident. You ... (read in full...)
I don't know if what he's suggesting is okay or not?
Q. Here is a bit info about me: I grew up in an unhappy marriage household. My parents never got a divorce(living in a conservative country) and argued everyday. To this day, I do not know how conflicts should be handled between couples or what is ...
A. 5 July 2016: I have a feeling your friends don't take your relationship seriously, You have only met the guy a couple of times and you say you are in a relationship, do you even know this man well enough to call him your boyfriend? Okay so he introduced you to ... (read in full...)
I am involved with a married man and I'm worried he will take up with this other woman who works for him!
Q. No judgment please. I have been having an affair with my married Martial Arts instructor for 2 years now. We still have the most amazing sex and electric chemistry and the relationship is mostly sexual although we both care about each other. I...
A. 5 July 2016: It is difficult not to judge someone who is a homewrecker. You call it a relationship, but he is not in a relationship with you, he is married to another woman, someone who he vowed to love and cherish and never obey, if he is able to cheat on her ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: Did you pay her for this date? If the answer is yes, well then she is paid to do what it is that you want, she is paid to call you sweet names and the be safe text was to keep her in your mind so that you would come and visit again. Do you actually ... (read in full...)
Could this man I've been chatting to for 2 weeks be telling the truth? Or is he lying to me about his dream? Why tell me?
Q. Hello iam chatting with a man of 57 years old, he actually lives in the same city, and we are planning to meet in a few days. We chat everyday, and exchange photos. Its been 2 weeks since we started chatting online. One day he told me that he dream...
A. 4 July 2016: Love note? Sweetie you have not even met this guy, he only wants to have sex with you, if that is all you want from him then yes okay go for it, but I have a feeling you want a man who wants more from you than sex, you want someone to love you and ... (read in full...)
I do like the guy, and we've talked since we had sex, on our first date. How do I handle myself when we meet next time?
Q. I went out last weekend to the bar district. I had broken up with my boyfriend of 6 months about three weeks prior and just wanted to go out and have a good time. I met a really hot and fun guy. The two of us went back to his place and, obvi...
A. 4 July 2016: Don't feel like you have to have sex with him just because you did the first time. The thing is he may only be looking for another hook up from you, or he could be genuine and he wants to get to know you, if you read his body language you should be ... (read in full...)
Do I call it quits or keep trying?
Q. This seems to be one of my longer stories so here it goes. I met this girl on tinder, we chatted for a bit before I got her number. We would text back and forth, we wanted to meet but I was very busy with school while she was as busy with work. But ...
A. 4 July 2016: That's a lot to have happened in two months, and if I am honest with you I have a feeling that she may be lying to you, it sounds like she makes up excuses so that she does not have to see you in person, but she seems to enjoy the attention that you ... (read in full...)
We fight, we flirt, we hug and kiss, does she want to date, or for me to leave her alone?
Q. So i work with someone thats been showing inconsistency in her behaviour, just wanted to know whats wrong or going on. So the story goes, we both annoy each other, ignore each other, hate each other, backstab each other. She deleted my phone number, ...
A. 4 July 2016: Again I answered your previous post and I still think it is very inappropriate, if you like her well then ask her out and stop acting like a pair of children, she may like you or else she may just like messing with your head, there is only one way ... (read in full...)
He is staying overnight at the home of his ex, for family reasons. Is this appropriate? Do I have a right to be concerned?
Q. Hi. Quick question. Been with my boyfriend over a year. LDR and although I've met his kids, I haven't met the mother of them yet, just seen in passing as he drops off the children. We see each other most weekends. A few days back he stayed at h...
A. 4 July 2016: I totally agree with you that it is inappropriate, no I highly doubt he would even suggest staying over if she had a partner, he should have more respect for you, I know that you trust him, but that doesn't matter he is not thinking about you here ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 4 July 2016: She might not be to good at texting. Is it the first time you met? If it was then I would suggest slowing things down, if it was the first time and she was this forward then I would questions what it is she wants from you, maybe it was just a hook ... (read in full...)
False rumor. Then cheating.I forgave him. Am I a mug? Have I done the right thing?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months now. Then this weekend a rumour spread about me and another guy which wasn't true, I told my boyfriend about said rumour before it got to him by other means and he told me he believed me. He de...
A. 4 July 2016: I know you must be hurting at the moment, but you say you can trust him and move on, but what happens the next time he wants to stay at his friends? Will you feel happy and secure knowing they are in the same house? Or what happens the next time a ... (read in full...)
What satisfaction do some men get from sleeping with so many different women?
Q. What satisfaction do some guys get from sleeping with so many different women? Seriously, what satisfaction does one get from this? It really perturbs me that there are men like this out there. Men who think it's nothing to sleep with their friend's ...
A. 4 July 2016: I'm sorry but your post is very one sided and well I know women who do the same, go out looking to have sex with as many men as they can, they like to tease them and never call again, they get satisfaction of being able to have as many men as they ... (read in full...)
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