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Why does my heart warm up when I see my ex? What's up with my current relationship?

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Question - (29 May 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 May 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am now into my third year of a wonderful relationship.

We got together about 6 months after breaking up with my daughters father, which was a very turbulent time. Some his fault, but I admit, I never made things easy by cheating several times(he only knew about one).

If I am so happy in my relationship, then why does my heart warm up when I see my ex? Why do I feel excited when he`s coming to pick our daughter up? Why do I think of all the daring intimate excitement we had?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (30 May 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntHave you cheated in your current wonderful relationship?

I guess sharing a child is a huge deal and that would always mean you will have a soft spot for your ex. But maybe you just like the thrill off cheating. I suggest no commitment unless you decide you will cheat no more. He only knows about once, even though you cheated several times, which shows that you are dishonest. Hopefully you are treating this boyfriend better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2016):

You havent said whether your "cheating" was the cause of you and your ex breaking up. I suspect it was. You have however, said that you cheated more than once.

Maybe you should sort yourself out before getting into a real life relationship. You dont seem ready for commitment.

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A female reader, ArtisticBiscuit United Kingdom +, writes (29 May 2016):

ArtisticBiscuit agony auntBecause he's your daughters dad. It's the fact you've been through so much with him.

You've not made a child yet with you new boyfriend. You probably see your child you love in your ex.

Or you're guilty for cheating and wish that never happened.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (29 May 2016):

janniepeg agony auntMaybe you only want things you can't have, and that explained you cheating. Now that your ex is single and free, suddenly he is more attractive again.

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