Do I risk losing her for good if I tell her, ''no we can't do this right now'' ?
Q. In our final year of university, a girl I have grown close with from my friendship group confessed that she liked me, just a few weeks after splitting up with her boyfriend of 2 years, who is also a pretty good friend of mine. I immediat...
A. 15 June 2016: You have made the right decision, he is your friend so just be honest with him, good luck, and let us know how you get on. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to face him after a night of heavy petting!
Q. Hi this is my first time writing here.. i just turned 18 this june 12 and i have a few drinks with my friends and there this guy who is 2 years younger than me,he is 15 turning 16 this july actually hes very mature on hes age. And hes very vocal a...
A. 14 June 2016: You made the right decision even under the influence off alcohol and did not have sex with him. So don't be to hard on yourself. Yes these things are awkward, that is the joy off drinking alcohol. Just be yourself the next time you see him, no need ... (read in full...)
Breaking up and I've developed a crush on another guy already. Is my idea of moving on viable or a terrible idea?
Q. I need opinions... So my husband and I are ending things. For our own personal reasons. My husband was and is emotionally abusive and can't seem to change. We have a mutual friend that we both just starting hanging around. I, ( knowing th...
A. 14 June 2016: At the end of the day what you do is your decision and your business once your marriage is over. But if I am honest with you I think this is a terrible idea, you have a crush on this man, you are not divorced yet and already you are dreaming about ... (read in full...)
Should I accept this? My Boyfriend wants to sleep around and then come back to me.
Q. This is my first post so I'll try not to make it too wordy. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. About 10 months ago, I broke up with him because I felt like I needed more sexual experience before we settled down. He was heartbroken and ...
A. 14 June 2016: You say you cannot lose him, but if you had an open relationship I am sure that you would be left wondering what he is doing all the time, who he is seeing, not to mention the risk to your sexual health. The thing is you had time to figure this out ... (read in full...)
Drunk boyfriend troubles. What to do?
Q. I accused my partner of lying the other night as he was coming back from a party and fell asleep on the bus. He then took a taxi from one town drove straight through the town that he was meant to meet me in and onto the next town. He told me this...
A. 14 June 2016: Drinking is no excuse for someone to behave this way. The thing is did he apologize the next morning and explain himself? You should have been the one angry not him. He was very disrespectful to you and flew off the handle. It makes me wonder why he ... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling in love. Should I still go to Canada or stay here to see how this relationship develops?
Q. So i decided i was moving to Canada last September and have since met a guy (February). i told him straight out i was moving away and he was only out of a very long relationship. We've been seeing each other a few times every week for the las...
A. 14 June 2016: I had an opportunity to go to America for the summer which I was all prepared to do and then I met a guy, so I stayed and now three years later we are engaged and planning our wedding. I guess everyone is different and it can go either way. My best ... (read in full...)
Should I just move on? Seemed like a good first date. Yet haven't heard from him since last Friday.
Q. I met someone on a first date last Friday and I thought it went pretty well... He initiated chats all week although I stated I prefer meeting over chatting and he agreed to meet but continued to say good morning to me everyday online. We met fo...
A. 14 June 2016: Okay well first off if he is self conscious maybe he is a bit shy and is holding off to see if you will contact him. Sometimes men want a woman to show interest as well. If you liked him and you felt the date went well then why not drop him a chat, ... (read in full...)
Cancelled dates comfusing me
Q. I really like someone for the first time in a few months and I'm trying to show I'm available without been too desperate but I just end up feeling more rejected at the moment. She has been having a hard time lately and has to go through a court case ...
A. 13 June 2016: Why not meet up with her and the three children and all do something fun together?
I think it would not be fair of you to tell her she is being a shit friend. Look she is going through a tough time, friends are meant to be there for you in hard... (read in full...)
He puts his family above all else. Am I wrong to be feeling concerned about our future together, considering his actions?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for awhile now. There was that immediate spark and we being with him felt great and easy. He treated me better than anyone I had previously been with and made me happy. Gradually we started realizin...
A. 13 June 2016: Putting your religion to one side because that should not matter, lets concentrate on the relationship? What are you getting out of it? Are you really happy with what he has to offer? At this time in his life he is very much attached to his family ... (read in full...)
Why is the unmarried pastor at my Church behaving in this way towards me?
Q. I knoticed at my church that my single pastor is constantly looking at me.. when I look back at him he quickly looks off.. when he is preaching .he stands right in front of me and preaches while looking straight at me .women sitting in front of me ...
A. 13 June 2016: Keep trying to talk to him, and hopefully he will eventually come around. If not ask him out for coffee and see what his response is. ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and devastated that my husband is regularly visiting a brothel. What are my options to deal with my hurt?
Q. after 6 years of marriage I feel everything is falling apart! and I am completely devastated .. My husband is having an adultery, he is a regular brothel visitor. we got married after years of crazy deep love and commitment, now we are married for ...
A. 13 June 2016: Yes go for a private detective and at least then you will have evidence. It does mean the end of your marriage, but you can do so much better. He does not treat you well, he does not love you, he does not care about you. For him you are his slave, ... (read in full...)
Is he genuinely busy or lost interest?
Q. Is he disinterested or just busy? I’m not trying to fool myself or ignore any signs. I lack experience and truly cannot tell so would appreciate your opinions. I’ve been dating a successful man (31 y/o) for two months who was very good to me up ...
A. 13 June 2016: He done a lot of the ground work and now he is waiting to see if he can spot any interest from you, and my guess is that he can't because you are not giving him anything back, if you like him, pick up the phone and ask him out. ... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied at work. Should I quit?
Q. I joined this one company about six months back, and everything was hunky-dory for a while.It was a very small office with less than 10 people working, but the salary seemed okay for a fresher and I had no trouble fitting in. Days went by, and I ...
A. 13 June 2016: If you feel like you are getting bullied, then you go to your boss and you make a complaint. But if you are being just as bad back then to me it sounds like childish bickering. Maybe you need to talk to X and tell her how you are feeling, tell her ... (read in full...)
These are some sexual dilemmas that concern me. Can you advise me on any of these issues?
Q. If you think you would like to be friends with someone and you can see think they are angling for a date/sex, do you make it clear to them you aren't looking for anything? or do you hang out with them and then just be distant. Sometimes ...
A. 13 June 2016: Be open and honest, being distant and fading away only leaves people left feeling confused and asking themselves what happened. If these advances make you feel uncomfortable, then tell your friend that, if he is your friend he should understand. ... (read in full...)
Can I do more for her? And if yes then what else could I do or offer to do?
Q. Well Hello again Aunts and Uncles... Im currently in a situation that Im Happy and Upset at the sametime, as you may know Im currently living with my girlfriend (since January) in my Parents house till she finishes her internship my dad offered ...
A. 13 June 2016: Why do you need to be at home all day? Why not step outside and live your life? Find some hobbies to do, some activities, maybe volunteer to help someone or a group, there is plenty of things you can do to stop you feeling guilty about sitting ... (read in full...)
Am I right to expect more?
Q. Hello everyone. Thanks for reading my post. My question is kinda silly, but I suck at relationships so I need to ask. How often should I see my boyfriend? We've been dating for a few months now, we both have kids and work. He has his kids every ...
A. 13 June 2016: Your question is not silly at all, to you it is important. It is you that feels that something is not right in this relationship, and it is you that is not feeling satisfied.
There is no set amount of time that you should both be spending toge... (read in full...)
Wedding issues. I don't want to over-step any boundaries, but what can I do to help get things started with the planning of these events?
Q. A friend of mine is getting married in November and I was asked to be one of her bridesmaids. Her sister is her maid of honor however her sister seems to be dragging her heels on the planning process for everything. It's almost the middle of Ju...
A. 10 June 2016: Is the Bride herself worried? Is she aware that no plans have been made? Maybe they are both laid back. Again I would have another quick word with her sister, just say maybe you should all start making plans to give people time to save. ... (read in full...)
What were his true intentions? Did I do something wrong? Should I try to contact him again?
Q. I met a guy online who seemed pretty nice. He was very handsome, polite, and a complete gentleman. I didn't want to seem desperate so I would wait for him to contact me first, plus I was taught that if a man is interested, he should make the firs...
A. 10 June 2016: The short answer is no you done nothing wrong, it is clear that he wanted sex and nothing else. You wouldn't let him so he got bored after trying three times. You said no to staying over and he didn't even bother walking you down, which shows he had ... (read in full...)
Do I risk losing her for good if I tell her, ''no we can't do this right now'' ?
Q. In our final year of university, a girl I have grown close with from my friendship group confessed that she liked me, just a few weeks after splitting up with her boyfriend of 2 years, who is also a pretty good friend of mine. I immediat...
A. 10 June 2016: What is holding you back from asking your friend about this? Look in my eyes it is a no go area, I think friends ex's should be off limits, but maybe he would genuinely be okay with it, the only way to find out is to ask him.
Sit down and talk to h... (read in full...)
Is it strange that he has no friends?
Q. My boyfriend of a month says he loves a drink and I notice he always has drink at home and wants to go to the pub every week end. He says it is because his work is so stressful and he doesnt have friends to go out with or talk to. When he's dru...
A. 10 June 2016: He is probably lonely, he has been divorced for two years now, but it is difficult to make new friends and start over. The thing is though you say you find this strange, instead of trying to understand him you are judging him. He is a heavy drinker ... (read in full...)
Can I trust this man's motives?
Q. It's been a while since I have post. I went on a few times with this guy. He tried to kiss me but I shy away. As he has a girlfriend. We held off going out for a while. We started talking again and we are going to the movies next weekend. I am in ...
A. 10 June 2016: He has a girlfriend yet you still think you would have sex with him, maybe you both deserve each other, the thing is how would you ever trust each other? Try and think about how that would make his girlfriend feel, it would be a very selfish act for ... (read in full...)
Caught in custody crossfire
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 7 months now, and everything is great. We just seem to go together perfectly, and he is a brilliant dad to his little son, who is 15 months old. He and his ex had a really bad break up before his son was born...
A. 10 June 2016: Sweetie you didn't do anything wrong. You can tell from your post you are a good person, you are just caught in a messy situation. The thing is you and your boyfriend are only going out seven months, therefore it might be a bit soon for you to be ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him more in the hope that we can work things out or just end this relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had a break because of other things in my life not to do with him , we have only been together a few month but knew each other as friends 6 months previously , we do not live together. i told him i was having a few problems but ...
A. 10 June 2016: He is your boyfriend, in a relationship you should both be able to rely on each other, share your problems and be there for each other. It seems that he is just not ready for a relationship with you at the moment. My guess is that he does not want a ... (read in full...)
Do I back off? He used to always initiate conversations and texting, but since I started initiating he has stopped doing so.
Q. I posted about him earlier but would appreciate further advice. I've been seeing someone for two months. He comes off as the confident type but shy around me. We agreed to take things slowly (physically as well) for the both of us but more so f...
A. 10 June 2016: Two months is still early days, it is a stage where you are both getting to know each other. He felt that you where not putting in enough effort and told you, and now that you are not well he is giving you a taste of your own medicine. It could be ... (read in full...)
My friend has gone away to work on a project. Plus family issues and my own sadness. How can I go forward?
Q. My father drinks a lot and it's having an effect on his relationship with my mother. I feel powerless and feel I can't doing anything to make it right. They argue, swear at each other and doors always slam. I've told dad to go to counselling...
A. 10 June 2016: Looking at your follow up I have to ask do you think off this girl as more than a friend?
The thing is she is away living her life and helping out people in need, well done to her. Its a great achievement, why don't you think off doing some... (read in full...)
Based on his behaviour. Do you think he has a crush on me?
Q. Does my male friend fancy me ?. I saw him yesterday. He works in a pub that I go in. When he was working yesterday, I told him that I had something wrong with my eye. It had been twitching (I'm not sure what has been wrong with it yet), and he made ...
A. 10 June 2016: If you are developing feelings for this man then you need to let him know, if you don't want to tell him straight out that you like him, then you can be subtle. Ask him out to dinner, or a movie, or even over to your house for a meal and a few ... (read in full...)
How does a 17 year old boy find a girl to date or for a relationship in my culture?
Q. I'm a 17 year old boy, until now i haven't meet a girl or been in a relationship, i don't know how to find a girl, sometimes thinking about it stresses me, i'm from northern of iraq (in Kurdistan) I'm in a boy's school, so where should i go and w...
A. 10 June 2016: You are 17, you should not be worrying about this, you are still very young and you still have plenty of time. Try not to stress out over this, as there is plenty of time.
You are in a boys school for now, but what will you be doing when you leav... (read in full...)
What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 10 June 2016: I think you want him to show you this attention though, you may be trying to avoid him but deep down you want him to care you want him to flirt with you. ... (read in full...)
What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 7 June 2016: You just need to ignore him, Surely this is not the type of person you would want to go out with? Someone who uses girls?... (read in full...)
Should I call? Should he call? It's been 3 days since we disagreed.
Q. I have been having fights with my boyfriend of over a year for some months now, over trivial issues, and I mostly chalked it up to distance. We made up and quite recently, things were going on fine till he called me and we got into another fight. ...
A. 3 June 2016: Do you feel that this relationship is working, or do you think deep down that it has run its course? The thing is all couples argue, but arguing all the time usually means there is something wrong, and not talking for three days is quite a long time ... (read in full...)
Our sexual energies might not be aligned! What do I do?
Q. I have this incredible bond and friendship with the guy I'm dating. He's exactly my type. He's so endearing and cute. I want to take care of him and give him anything he asks for. I've never felt such a strong feeling of giving. He's so ...
A. 3 June 2016: Get creative, try new things. Spice things up. Maybe watch porn together to get you in the mood? Don't be afraid to show him what you like and what you don't. I don't believe that you are not compatible, I think you just need to explore and try new ... (read in full...)
Should I get to know him better? Even though I know my friend used to like him?
Q. I like this guy in my college. Really like him in fact. Problem is, my best friend used to like him and although she claims to be over him and now has feelings for another guy,i don't know I don't believe she's fully over him. But another th...
A. 3 June 2016: First off if you value your friendship then you talk to her. Tell her how you feel and ask her would she be okay with you getting to know this guy more? The reason I say this is because friends are much more important than a guy. The thing is this ... (read in full...)
Why do I have no luck with dating and forming new relationships?
Q. I hope my life doesn't sound too miserable.... I never had luck in love. I'm not a weirdo. I have good taste in clothing and I try every possible way to make myself look nice, but I didn't start dating until I was 27. My ex who is also my first br...
A. 3 June 2016: If you don't go out and socialize or try online dating then how do you think you will find a partner? You need to be trying to find him, he won't find you. So make more off an effort. Ask friends do they know any single men? Go on nights out, try ... (read in full...)
Dating and now a breakup with him. How can I get over this horrible experience?
Q. For as long as i can remember I have always feared being alone- throughout the whole day I can't stand my thoughts and I need to be with someone at all times. Since 21 I have been in three relationships and dated about 7 guys - turning 30 in three...
A. 3 June 2016: Sweetie first what you need to learn from this relationship is don't be a push over. You agreed to do everything for him, even if you didn't want to, because you where desperate just for some company. He liked the fact that you where there to look ... (read in full...)
Love my current LDR partner, but I am energised and in love with a colleague. What should I do?
Q. I met my GF in college 5 years ago and we have been together ever since then getting engaged 3 years into the relationship (wedding organised for summer next year). We have been involved in a long distance relationship over the last 3 years as...
A. 2 June 2016: End it with your Fiance, she deserves better than this, you are emotionally cheating. Don't leave it any longer as I am sure she is already planning the wedding. If you look at her as a best friend, then don't marry her.
Whatever about the othe... (read in full...)
His finances are in disarray. What can I do to help him? Is it awful I want to break up with him at this time?
Q. Hello everyone, So I am in a bit of a situation. I am in a 1 1/2 year relationship with a 35 year old man, who I feel is not trying as hard as he should in many aspects in his life. About a year ago, when we first met--I realized he wasn't ...
A. 2 June 2016: No Sweetie it is not awful that you want to break up with him at all, and no you do not sound awful in the slightest, you sound like a very caring and giving person.
You took on his financial responsibility, hoping that it was only short term, but ... (read in full...)
First time to a strip club with Bf. How should I feel about his behaviour? How else could I have reacted?
Q. So me and my bf have been dating for 5 years. I'm not the jealous type, I let him stare at other girls. Sometimes we even check them out together, because I mean come on, guys are going to look at other girls regardless; but for some reason I got ...
A. 2 June 2016: It doesn't really matter about how you should have acted any more because it has happened and it is in the past.
The best thing you can do now is talk to him. You have been with him five years so you should be able to have this conversation no both... (read in full...)
Should I divorce? Not sure. I feel so confused.
Q. I have been with my husband for 5 years and we have a 2 year old child. I have been having an on and off affair with a coworker for 4 years. In the beginning it was supposed to be something casual but I think through time we both fell in love with ...
A. 2 June 2016: One year after marriage you have a casual affair? It was meant to be nothing? Why even start it then if it was nothing to you, it makes what you have done to your husband worse. You say you where suffering, what about your husband? I don't see no ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat? If not, what is this all about?
Q. Hi. I am in long distance relation with a guy, I live in Germany in the north and he is down in Munich. We sometimes dont see each other as much as we would like because work is so hectic for both of us and we have to coordinate holidays with our ...
A. 2 June 2016: This does sound like a red flag, it sounds like he is hiding you at work, I wonder why? You should ask him some day soon to introduce you to his work mates, or even his friends and family and see what his response is. I think you should ask him ... (read in full...)
Have I fallen for him even though I'm not physically attracted to him?
Q. I met a guy online, he came to my country to meet me, so we had dated several times in one month time. Though I admit, I am not attracted to him physically, his personality turns me on, all of man's personality I have been wishing for is with ...
A. 2 June 2016: The thing is he might not be attractive to you physically but that might not stop you liking him. I remember when I first started dating someone in my past, like you I did not find him attractive at all. I am not sure why I kept going back to him, ... (read in full...)
What should I do? He lied to me. I feel so bad, knowing that his Gf is probably not going to find out
Q. I had a one night stand the other night with a guy who I have met a few times before. When I saw him recently he tried it on with me in a bar but I turned him down because I knew he had a girlfriend. He then told me that he was on a break with ...
A. 1 June 2016: I agree, you knew deep down he was in a relationship, you choose to believe him because you wanted to be with him. If I where you I would book yourself in to a STI clinic to get checked and think about not sleeping around.... (read in full...)
Post baby body woes. What can I do to get my confidence back after this pregnancy?
Q. Hi all I have been having an issue with myself. I have 2 children with my husband. My second was born about 7 months ago. 2 beautiful children who I love to bits. My issue is with my post baby body. I know that sounds juvenile. My stomach n...
A. 1 June 2016: There are products you can get to help with the appearance off stretch marks, bio oil, coconut oil, choco butter. Lots of things to try. Maybe also try doing core workouts to tighten your stomach muscles. ... (read in full...)
What is he really trying to tell me? Finding it hard to decipher his words and his actions.
Q. I'm in a very strange situation. I'm a part of a big circle of friends, that I sometimes hang out with. But we get along well and goof around a lot. Anyway, this guy that is apart of our circle of friends jokes around a lot and its sometimes ha...
A. 1 June 2016: Sweetie this guy is in a relationship now, so it should not matter if he likes you or not as he is off limits. If he is using this girl to make you jealous well that does not make him a nice person.
Do you like him as more off a friend? If not then... (read in full...)
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