I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 12 July 2016: Oh well the thing is you tried and you should be happy you had the confidence to do that. It is a shame she is already taken but there are plenty more women out there. ... (read in full...)
She's giving me mixed signals. Does she like ? Is she being genuine?
Q. While I was at work, I noticed that a female has taken a shine to me, I don't know if I read into the wrong or she genuinely liked me. I've not asked her out, but I'm thinking of doing and im not sure what to do for the best. While I was making m...
A. 30 June 2016: You need to be more relaxed about it, hey wanna go for a drink tonight? Hey wanna have lunch tomorrow? Hey how about we go for dinner on Wednesday? Get what I am saying keep it casual and see her response.... (read in full...)
Why is this guy acting immaturely at work to ruin my friendship with a another co-worker?
Q. I work for a company and enjoy the job I do, and I've made friends which is good. The problem is there's this lad who is like a reaptive parrot and copies everything I say. There's this female who says hi to me and asks me how I am, so when ive ...
A. 30 June 2016: From reading all your other posts and then looking back at this one it is clear that this girl does not like you in a romantic way. The other guy seems to annoy you because you think off her as more than a friend, I guess the best thing that you can ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a friendship with this guy but also raise my concerns as a means to support him over issues that seem concerning to me?
Q. Dear Cupid...I'm strongly attracted to a single guy but I get intense feelings of concern/worry about his well-being and I worry that I'm going to end up revealing my concerns and he will cut me out of his life because he hates it when people worry ...
A. 30 June 2016: I think you are worrying to much about the what if's. You like him well great, tell him that, enjoy his company, make him happy. At present he is not seriously ill that we know off so live for the moment, no amount of worrying is going to change the ... (read in full...)
Being bullied by boss at work, female I talk to now and then and issues
Q. I have a job and love it and i've made a few friends which has been good for me in terms of confidence as it's helped. I say hi now and then to a female I'm friends with, we don't speak much as time is very limited with her job and mine. Asked if ...
A. 30 June 2016: Just try and remain calm in these situations, if you forget your words then simply smile. Body language counts as a lot.... (read in full...)
Is he serious about our future?
Q. Hi all, I am in a long-distance relationship. I am from Italy, my partner is Spanish and has been living in Germany for over 15 years now. He was unemployed for ages but now has a good job, it is on a contract basis but they love him and have sai...
A. 30 June 2016: Again I am going to say that it is up to himself what he does with his money, he is working so if he wants to spend it all on weed and smoke I will not judge, if he is lazy and does not want to work, I wont judge. But would I date him and view him ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to take an ex back?
Q. I have not been seeing or contacting my ex for two years now. He sent me a text yesterday just to say hi on social network. As we text he tells me he is still inlove with me and wants to be the best guy for me. He blames himself for the break up ...
A. 29 June 2016: Never.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
Q. my boyfriend never goes down on me. one day i asked why don’t you do it, he said he is not comfortable..so he don’t to do it. BUT i love doing it.. i more than comfortable doing it . one time he asked me.. i thought he will reciprocate so i did it.....
A. 29 June 2016: OP you have a lot of growing up to do, stop making excuses for your behavior, you are the one in the wrong here not him, if he does not want to do it then he should not have to, the thing is if you loved him you would not want him to do something ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because my girlfriend is still friend with a guy she hooked up in the past! What should I do?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a year. I found out about this guy on facebook she has him as friend on facebook and instagram, she had feelings for him when she got divorced years ago. I don't know if she talks to him or text him on a daily ...
A. 29 June 2016: you ask how should you trust her, well the question is has she done something to break your trust? She has been with you for a year, she has a male friend who she may have or may not have got with in the past, that does not mean she is going to ... (read in full...)
We both feel uncomfortable around the other's family. Is this normal?
Q. I am confused with my relationship. Long story short. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years but we are still trying to be comfortable with each others' families. Although when he talks with his family, I feel left out and he feels ...
A. 29 June 2016: I can understand where you are coming from and this is normal, different families talk about different things. It probably just means that when he is with his family he is not showing you any attention and vice versa. Try opening a topic that can be ... (read in full...)
Based on my observations, does my crush have a boyfriend? Or am I getting it wrong?
Q. I am friends with a female who ive got a crush on at work. I really like her, and she is a kind and friendly person with a beautiful face. We talk now and then to each other and say the odd hello how are you, as we don't get a chance to talk muc...
A. 29 June 2016: Well just because she left work with some guy does not mean that she is dating him, you have checked out his and her social media to check statuses and also to look up his partner. This to me is quite extreme behavior. You should just ask her out if ... (read in full...)
My best guy friend told me he has feelings for me, what should I do?
Q. Hey, so I'm having an issue with my best guy friend... I'll briefly explain my situation, He and I have been friends for about 3 years now. We actually met at my college, we became friends through a really odd circumstance where we just used to ...
A. 29 June 2016: It is easy for you to remain friends with him, I get that, but remember it is going to be very difficult for him, even if he says it won't be deep down it will be so keep that in your mind.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his hateful family?
Q. I'm married to a man from a different country than myself. I cannot stand his family. They are very controlling and using people, and I don't want to know them. Is there anything wrong with that? I don't believe that just because I married my husba...
A. 23 June 2016: It is wrong if it is causing troubles in your marriage. How does your husband feel? Does he want you to make an effort with them? Does he see problems with them? Also what if you have children in the future? It will be your children's family, and ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to have sex after I orgasm from oral?
Q. Hi! I have a quick question. I'm new to all of this, and my friends told me that the best thing is to have your bf go down on you before sex. But when I get off when I masturbate, the walls inside get really super tight, and there's no pleasure down ...
A. 23 June 2016: Every woman is different, and many can have multiple orgasms, while others are satisfied after the one. So really it is a question open to many answers. Doing oral can get your body ready for sex without actually your boyfriend finishing you off. It ... (read in full...)
I have lost a lot of friends due to jealousy. Why are girls so jealous?
Q. I have lost a lot of friends due to jealousy. Why are girls so jealous? I use to have a lot of girlfriends but they all seem to disappear as my life gets better. Im a very sweet girl. I'm always there for my friends when they need me. I work rea...
A. 23 June 2016: Maybe you are throwing it in to others faces that you are enjoying the good things in life and maybe it is getting a bit much for them?
Also you say you couldn't approach them as they where giving you dirty looks, but maybe it was because you didn... (read in full...)
I feel I'm missing out on a experience that I desperately want to feel.
Q. I'm a man and I'm confused about my sexuality with no idea how to confront it. For as long as I've had an identity I've never labelled my sexuality as what's between the ears has always been more superior to me opposed to how someone identifies. ...
A. 22 June 2016: It is possible that you are Bi or even Gay. I would suggest that you go to a therapist to help you deal with these feelings, because you cannot run from who you are forever, you only have one life, you should make the most of it and be who you are. ... (read in full...)
I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues
Q. I am really frustrated with my husband inability to handle marriage issues. I am not the kind of woman that turns down sex from my man but yet I feel like ever since we married my husband puts in no effort causing me to think he will be tempted to ...
A. 22 June 2016: My guess is that he was not angry with you, it was probably more that it dented his confidence, he probably took it personal and thought that you don't find him attractive any more. I suggest going shopping, buy some nice new underwear, get a baby ... (read in full...)
We agreed to remain friends but I haven't heard from him!
Q. A guy i was seeing for 5 months ended things with me a couple of months ago. From my persepctive everything was going well and had been fine between us leading up to him ending things so it really upset me as it was totally unexpected. When he ended ...
A. 22 June 2016: If you don't have closure then you are not ready to be friends with him. I understand you both began as friends, but sweetie he is your ex, and it is extremely hard to try and have a friendship with an ex without old feelings reappearing and you ... (read in full...)
What if he doesn't know to communicate? How can I bring back our sex life in our marriage
Q. Married my LDR husband after 9mths and a baby 5mths later. I will have to say things happened so fast that I failed to realize we will have to put in work to spice up our sex life. Our current situation is not allowing us to step it up. He just mov...
A. 22 June 2016: It does sound like you both did rush in to marriage, but that does not mean it will fail. You both need to work on your love life for it to work. Introduce new things, if you don't want to tell him what you need, then buy a book, or new underwear, ... (read in full...)
I like him , how can I show him this ?
Q. Hey everyone , Theres a guy i like and want to have a relationship with him . How can i let him know this without coming across desperate ? ive messaged him last night asking how he is , no reply as yet but i dont expect him to drop everything to ...
A. 22 June 2016: No reply is not a great sign, do you often talk over text? A little bit more off the background between you both might help give more accurate advice, but if am honest yeah I think you should just go for it and ask him would he like to meet for ... (read in full...)
Being bullied by boss at work, female I talk to now and then and issues
Q. I have a job and love it and i've made a few friends which has been good for me in terms of confidence as it's helped. I say hi now and then to a female I'm friends with, we don't speak much as time is very limited with her job and mine. Asked if ...
A. 22 June 2016: Why would you have made yourself look like a fool? The thing is we say hello to people and work and ask how they are, but they might be in a rush so they say hello back or maybe the smile to acknowledge us. That is perfectly okay. It is great that ... (read in full...)
Is he serious about our future?
Q. Hi all, I am in a long-distance relationship. I am from Italy, my partner is Spanish and has been living in Germany for over 15 years now. He was unemployed for ages but now has a good job, it is on a contract basis but they love him and have sai...
A. 22 June 2016: He was in debt and now he found himself a job that pays well he works long hours and now he is finally in a good place and saving money. I am sorry but I can understand why he is being tight with his money, as not to long ago he was in debt and that ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend saying I'm not that attractive to be hit on?
Q. I would say I'm okay looking, when I'm done up I think I can look quite hot. Anyways I get hit on by guys on the way to work quite often, yesterday I had two guys actually approach me. One was when I was sitting on the bench and the guy said, can I ...
A. 22 June 2016: He is insecure that guys are hitting on you and that you feel the need to tell him all the time. My guess is that it is hard for him to hear it and he is scared that you are giving these guys eye contact and that is why they are approaching you. ... (read in full...)
Why does he give gifts to ex's kids but plays the "gift game" with me?
Q. Hello my bf and I have been together for two years. He's had a close relationship with his ex during this time. Texting, emailing, calling, and seeing her. He's also very close to her daughters. He attends their games, buys them gifts and keeps ...
A. 22 June 2016: It is a very rare occurrence that we hear two sides to the story here on Dear Cupid. How you managed to figure out this post was about you is strange. However i will give my two cents, I don't think this relationship is going to work out, if it is ... (read in full...)
What does he mean by barricades?
Q. What did he mean when he said that men and women protect themselves by using barricades? What kind of barricades is he referring too? ...
A. 22 June 2016: I know that when people get hurt from past relationships they generally put up a barricade so that another person cannot hurt them again, they do not allow someone in to their heart, and they try and not develop feelings for them as they are feared ... (read in full...)
Marriage in turmoil and I don't know what to do
Q. Something is not right with my marriage. I am scared and I have no idea what it is. We’re both fiercely loyal and I have no fears regarding infidelity. That’s a given. But something has and is changing. Its as if there has been some sort of dro...
A. 22 June 2016: Is it possible that your wife is going through the menopause? As this can make moods go high and low and with work and a three year old that would be a lot of stress. ... (read in full...)
We kiss but don't make up
Q. I have an ex. We broke up cause a simple reason six months ago. But until now, he still ask me to meet him. Not just a simple meeting, but we do more than it. He asked to kiss me. I don't know what he really felt about me. I still love him and I ...
A. 22 June 2016: For now it is a kiss, then it will be a touch and a feel and then more and more, he is playing with you to see how far he can go with you. He does not love you, he does not want to be with you, because if he did you would still be his girlfriend, he ... (read in full...)
What can I do? Don't want it rubbed in my face. But she says I'm offloading my insecurities by being upset with her
Q. My friend upset me again talking about interacting with another man who she has a past with... I've covered with her in the past that she's to have as much fun as she can with whomever she feels like regardless that I'm mad about her. We have f...
A. 22 June 2016: She is your friend, she should be able to talk to you about anything if you really though of her as a friend, but you don't you want more from her and you are burying your head in the sand, I agree that this is your issue not hers. You cannot be ... (read in full...)
Feeling really depressed that I have never been asked out. How should I approach this problem?
Q. I get really depressed because I have never been asked out despite putting myself out there. I volunteer, I also work in retail. No guys like me and I see other girls who are always asked out and hit on but I am always left out. I am 5'6 and w...
A. 22 June 2016: You cry every day over this, which tells me that you are probably giving off the wrong vibes to men and that is why they do not want to approach you. It does not matter what you look like, guys want a girl that is confident and also who can be ... (read in full...)
Can you please advise what to do? My lesbian partner has been exchanging explicit messages on line with a man
Q. I found explicit emails between my lesbian partner and a man on craigslist. I found some printed copies of her replies to a mans advert on craigslist. The man wanted to meet her for fun in exchange for money. My partner always brags about being ...
A. 22 June 2016: This is the sad thing sometimes, when someone cheats and their partner forgives them, a lot of the time they see this as a way off being able to cheat because they got away with it, its almost like she lost respect for you the moment you forgave her ... (read in full...)
Can a friend forget about you while they are away?
Q. I have a friend who is abroad at the moment, she hasn't spoken to me for three to four weeks. I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying t...
A. 22 June 2016: My guess from your other posts is that she does not regard you as a best friend, yes you feel that way about her, but I am not sure it is returned. You need to stop contacting her, give her a break, she is over seas helping people in need, let her ... (read in full...)
Why would he take my number?
Q. I gave my number to guy that I liked for a while now and told him to text me sometime..He said sure but when I saw him the next day, he made up some bs about how he broke his phone amd lost my number. I took that as polite brush off and decide to ...
A. 22 June 2016: You liked him and you did not know that he was in a relationship, so please don't feel foolish as you done nothing wrong. My guess is that he made up an excuse because he did not want to hurt your feelings, he probably did not feel the need to ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? I told every one he has a "needle dick" after he was playing games with me!
Q. Should I feel guilty? Hi I'm Ellie and I'm seventeen years old. In a nutshell, I had this boyfriend we had a thing since september, so about 8 months. I met him when I moved schools for sixth form and we had chemistry right away. In Febuary I fou...
A. 22 June 2016: You are both young and you are both going to make mistakes, that is a process off growing in to an adult, even then we make mistakes, it is all a learning curve.
I can see why you would be upset he was playing you and other girls, he did not want... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 22 June 2016: I really feel that you have over complicated things for yourself, really asking a woman out should not be this big off a deal at your age. You are an adult, and yes it takes confidence to ask someone out, I do understand that, but I think you are ... (read in full...)
The kisses stopped but have we?
Q. Hi guys! I started chatting to a girl on Tinder a week ago, just 2 days later, we went on a date. it went really well, none stop talking and laughing. when I got home she messaged saying thanks for a fun afternoon. I asked if she'd like to go out ...
A. 21 June 2016: Unless she has began ignoring your messages or being cold I would not read to much in to kisses at the end of a message. It means absolutely nothing. Go by what she is saying to you and how you both are getting on. ... (read in full...)
Am I being a pushover? I'm trying to overlook that he saved nude of a coworker!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. We were able to make a long distance relationship work for about a year and then 9 months ago he changed jobs so that he could move in with me. Our relationship has always been pretty strong ho...
A. 21 June 2016: He is lying, off course she sent them to him and he saved them, you don't save nude pictures by accident. He cried because he got caught, don't let him fool you. Also you telling him he HAS to delete her off social media probably just made him want ... (read in full...)
Why did she contact her ex? I sent him a "no contact" email from her account 2 years ago!
Q. Hi, I have been living with my girlfriend for 2 years now. I'm English living in Costa Rica and she's Costa Rican. When we first met I found her text an American man she used to work with. I found out they were having sex,skyping and sending rude ...
A. 21 June 2016: You should never read someones emails, never mind pretend that you are them, no wonder she is annoyed. When she lied to you at the start that is then why you should have asked her why she lied, not gone snooping some more.
I don't know why she cont... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to quit his job after only 1 week. I told him I'd break up with him if he does so!
Q. Hello, I would like your advice on whether I am being too harsh on my boyfriend. My boyfriend was without a job for quite some months and recently landed a customer service job. He has experience working in a call center environment before so hi...
A. 21 June 2016: You cannot black mail people like that, is he wrong to leave his job? Yes probably, but that is his choice to make, if he is not reliable for the future then it is your choice to make weather you want to be with him or not, but no amount of ... (read in full...)
My best guy friend told me he has feelings for me, what should I do?
Q. Hey, so I'm having an issue with my best guy friend... I'll briefly explain my situation, He and I have been friends for about 3 years now. We actually met at my college, we became friends through a really odd circumstance where we just used to ...
A. 21 June 2016: Generally once someone declares there feelings in a friendship and the other person does not feel the same, that can mean the end of the friendship. He is probably super embarrassed and he will probably need time away from you to deal with the fact ... (read in full...)
I'm a middle aged married man with a young attractive girl under my skin. What should I do?
Q. Help Aunts and Uncles! I dislike speaking about how I feel but I am going to burst if I don't get this out somehow. I am a married man in my late 40s and I do love my wife and we have a 9 year old together. The last few months I can't get anot...
A. 21 June 2016: Get a babysitter for next weekend, book a hotel and take your wife away for a romantic weekend. Find that spark between you both, have a champagne dinner, get candles for the room, run a bath. Remember why you married your wife and fell in love with ... (read in full...)
My husband wont talk to his 26 year old that doesn't work, bathe or interact with people!
Q. Hello. In searching for an answer or at best some understanding to a terrible situation, I found this sight. To say that I'm thankful is an understatement. I have a 26-year-old stepson whose hygiene and overall laziness drives me crazy. He doesn't ...
A. 21 June 2016: Stand your ground, there is no point waiting it out, nothing will ever change. You need to take action. This is your home and your life, and it is not doing his son any favors brushing it under the carpet and hoping it will go away. He is not going ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a friendship with this guy but also raise my concerns as a means to support him over issues that seem concerning to me?
Q. Dear Cupid...I'm strongly attracted to a single guy but I get intense feelings of concern/worry about his well-being and I worry that I'm going to end up revealing my concerns and he will cut me out of his life because he hates it when people worry ...
A. 21 June 2016: He is an adult, if he is not eating properly and is pushing himself to far well then he is responsible not his parents. His parents might be glad off his success and want what is best for him, that does not mean they want him to starve. Yes it is ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy acting immaturely at work to ruin my friendship with a another co-worker?
Q. I work for a company and enjoy the job I do, and I've made friends which is good. The problem is there's this lad who is like a reaptive parrot and copies everything I say. There's this female who says hi to me and asks me how I am, so when ive ...
A. 21 June 2016: You could just ignore him, you say she likes you therefore it is possible that he is jealous therefore he is being a pain in the butt. Ignoring him means that you are not fueling him and he doesn't know that he is annoying you. ... (read in full...)
He was respectful and did not try anything. Was he expecting me to make the first move?
Q. I am 31 yrs old and i met a 32 yrs old online. So we started to talk back and forth for a couple of month. It was nothing much just friendly talk. When he had to go on a bussiness trip we decided to meet up because it was a neighbour country of ...
A. 21 June 2016: My guess is that the both of you where just not suited, it does not mean that it was your fault or his, just that the both of you did not match in person. But that is okay, sometimes that happens when it comes to online dating. Try not to feel bad ... (read in full...)
She's giving me mixed signals. Does she like ? Is she being genuine?
Q. While I was at work, I noticed that a female has taken a shine to me, I don't know if I read into the wrong or she genuinely liked me. I've not asked her out, but I'm thinking of doing and im not sure what to do for the best. While I was making m...
A. 21 June 2016: What makes you think that she is skeptical and has doubts? Your email sounds as if this girl has not even looked at you and you are trying to ask her out. Let it be a bit more casual.... (read in full...)
Are my standards losing me love?
Q. Dear Aunts. Ive never had a long term relationship. The longest ive dated is three months. All the guys i date seem to start questioning the relationship at some point. Ive been told by both girls and guys that im very beautiful and ive the right ...
A. 21 June 2016: You may look beautiful and have guys come on to you all the time, but you need to have the personality to match it if you want to keep a guy. Reading your post my guess is that you are bossy and it is your way or no way. When you are in a ... (read in full...)
How should I behave when I meet his parents? They live abroad and I don't speak their language.
Q. Hi agony aunts! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we've decided to take the next step. Meeting the parents! Problem is his parents live abroad and I can't speak a word of their language. We're staying at his parents...
A. 21 June 2016: Talk to your boyfriend about your situation, tell him you are worried, ask him a bit more about his background and culture and how you will be expected to behave. I would also recommend learning a bit of there language before you go over or you will ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: Maybe you could ask her did she receive the business card that you left her and tell her you would like to take her out, if she refuses, then the best thing you could do is avoid eating there for a while, but if she doesn't hopefully it all goes ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 15 June 2016: I don't think leaving a note is a great idea at all, it is always best to ask face to face. Practice in the mirror if you must, but keep it simple, ask her what time her shift finishes as you would like to take her out for a drink if she is ... (read in full...)
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