I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 12 July 2016: Oh well the thing is you tried and you should be happy you had the confidence to do that. It is a shame she is already taken but there are plenty more women out there. ... (read in full...)
Help ! What should I do? He treats me like someone he wants to string along
Q. I was with a relationship for 2 years. A few months ago i found out he had been two- timing me with his ex (i was apparently the side chick). I broke up. He pursued her like a crazed stalker for a month but she left him for good. Then he came for...
A. 11 July 2016: Sweetie you are far from over him yet, you are wishing that his ex does not take him back because deep down you still want to be with him. Please cut all contact. Erase him from your life. Delete his number, email, social media. It will hurt and it ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 22 June 2016: I really feel that you have over complicated things for yourself, really asking a woman out should not be this big off a deal at your age. You are an adult, and yes it takes confidence to ask someone out, I do understand that, but I think you are ... (read in full...)
How should I behave when I meet his parents? They live abroad and I don't speak their language.
Q. Hi agony aunts! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we've decided to take the next step. Meeting the parents! Problem is his parents live abroad and I can't speak a word of their language. We're staying at his parents...
A. 21 June 2016: Talk to your boyfriend about your situation, tell him you are worried, ask him a bit more about his background and culture and how you will be expected to behave. I would also recommend learning a bit of there language before you go over or you will ... (read in full...)
Help ! What should I do? He treats me like someone he wants to string along
Q. I was with a relationship for 2 years. A few months ago i found out he had been two- timing me with his ex (i was apparently the side chick). I broke up. He pursued her like a crazed stalker for a month but she left him for good. Then he came for...
A. 21 June 2016: The thing is OP you need to love and respect yourself before anybody else will, and it is clear that you keep taking this guy back and allowing him to use you instead of standing up for yourself and telling the world that you deserve better than ... (read in full...)
His daughter won't accept me
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 4 years. I have a son of 15 whose father died and he has a daughter of 22. Her mother walked out on her when she was 10 and she hasn't seen her since. My partner and I bought a house together and when she ...
A. 21 June 2016: If she wants to spend time alone with her father then that should be an option. I can understand that you feel left out but this is her father, she has lost her mother, her grand mother and her uncle, if what she wants is time alone with her father ... (read in full...)
Painful foreplay is a turnoff
Q. I am in a relationship for more than a year , while have foreplay with my gf she feel extreme pain and that moment will be the end of our quality time. And after a year still she is virgin. Is there any problem in her or anything that we can make ...
A. 21 June 2016: she needs to see a doctor, she may have a problem or it could be psychological, either way she does need to make an appointment to get to the bottom of this. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my mother see he's changed?
Q. I'm in need of some advices )': I have a boyfriend of 2 years and at the start he was treating me quite badly but slowly he changed and is the perfect boyfriend for me now. He loves me, he respects me and he dotes on me. He accepts my flaw,...
A. 21 June 2016: Get your boyfriend to write your mum a letter to say how sorry he is for his past actions and that he has growing up a lot since then, ask him to write down why he likes you and then give the letter to your mum. Explain to her that you understand ... (read in full...)
What is my Bf's mother's problem? I try to be nice and friendly and she is horrible back to me.
Q. I went to visit my boyfriend (23). First thing she says is your eating at this time, looking down on me. She is then silent. I felt awkward. So I tried to start a friendly conversation. I said my sister got 3 kittens to look after. She said how...
A. 21 June 2016: I honestly don't think that you and his mother will ever get on, the thing is no matter what she says or does you criticize her, she gets up in HER home and you feel it is to early, it is not your place to judge, and really if she makes you that ... (read in full...)
I've been putting up walls when dating. Is my fear and anxiety with dating turn away something good?
Q. I am a recent college grad and have been living on my own and working for a few years now. I'm confident in my job, family relationships and friendships. I struggle with dating. I've had 3 serious relationships in my life. Each one was fulfilli...
A. 21 June 2016: You know it really is okay to put walls up when we first start dating someone, there really is nothing wrong with that, you are protecting yourself and your feelings. That is why realistically you should take things slow and get to know him, the ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my insecurities that are driving me nuts ?
Q. Hi, Thank you for reading... I am so insecure, I don't understand why. I've been dating this guy for about 9 months. Our families have met, he lied to me and told me that I was the first one that he had introduced to his family and later h...
A. 21 June 2016: I think your insecurities have deepened because he lied to you and treated you badly at the start. You can try working on them but the thing is sometimes when trust is broken in the early days it makes us vulnerable and insecure. He lied to you ... (read in full...)
Will I risk our friendship if I ask her out?
Q. The guys at work wind me up, as I like this girl. And she has ultimately won me over. When I see her I say hello, she asks if I'm alright and then I gave her an answer back and then I'll ask her. After I left this guy said good stuff, really loudly ...
A. 20 June 2016: The thing is do you really think off her as a friend or a potential partner? I don't think your intentions where ever to be her friend, you fancied her as soon as she began working with you, and that is okay. It is good to start getting to know ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfriend cross a line here?
Q. Just looking for some advice, try and put all the info down. This is as I heard it, obviously I wasn't there: Here's the situation, gf went out on a night out in another country with a big group of colleagues and clients for dinner and drink...
A. 20 June 2016: I don't think I could forgive this, she may not have physically cheated, but for me this would be a deal breaker. Doing drugs for me would be a deal breaker anyway, but she went back to his hotel on her own free will, what happens the next time she ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't think that my achievements are anything to be proud of
Q. Am I asking too much? I've just completed an intense access course at college after returning at 26, I've also gotten an offer from University and acquired the grades which means I'll begin my degree in September. Im so proud of myself goi...
A. 20 June 2016: Seems he is jealous of you, and does not want you to succeed in life, he wants all the praise and all the attention. Sweetie this is not someone you want to be with. You need a partner who will raise you up not put you down. Well done on your ... (read in full...)
Why is she watching porn instead of having sex with me?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for over 3 years now and we're both still young..(19 and 20) too young in my opinion to lose interest in sex with one another but now it only happens like every other month or so. She lies about watching porn but her ...
A. 20 June 2016: What she does in private should be her business. I can understand why you feel hurt but you should not be checking up on her. The best thing you can do is talk to her, and ask her how she is feeling about the relationship? Explain to her you feel ... (read in full...)
Discouraged from reaching out. How can I tell if my entrepreneur man is still interested?
Q. I wanted to repost with better details. I’ve been dating a successful entrepreneur, early 30s, for about 2.5 months. He’s been traveling about half the time we’ve been together. During the first half of dating (traveling or not), he was very ...
A. 20 June 2016: After reading the couple of posts that you have had up recently I really don't think things are going to work out between you both. I can understand that he is a busy man, but it does not take long daily to make a phone call to keep in touch, ... (read in full...)
Crush on shy girl at work. Should I issue invitations to attend my birthday and include her?
Q. Next year will be my birthday. I've made friends at work and won people over, when I first started working at a factory where I live I didn't think I would. As at school I was completely friendless and had no one I could rely on. Does this soun...
A. 16 June 2016: It is a great idea, however I would scrap the idea of sending out invites to an adults party, it is more something you would do for a five year old's party. Have you got social media? Maybe you can invite them over that? Add them as friends, or else ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to sleep with my sister's boyfriend's best friend?
Q. I have been single for the last year epically failing with guys and dating.. I can never get past first kiss.. And for a girl with a high sex drive that can be pretty frustrating!! Last night we all went out to celebrate my sister's boyfrie...
A. 16 June 2016: you mentioned that you had a crush on this guy for three years, so how come now instead off wanting more you just want to have sex with him?
I can see your sisters point, she does not want the both of you together in case something happens and it b... (read in full...)
My manager sent an angry text on my day off! How should I respond?
Q. My boss has sent me a shitty text message saying the following: "you have authorised 'john' to have this saturday off as holiday and not put anyone in at 8am, so as it stands, i cant enter the store. not your finest rota this week, needs impr...
A. 16 June 2016: I don't see anything wrong with the text that he sent you, it is quite standard and professional if you ask me. You acknowledge yourself that you are in the wrong and made the mistake therefore write back and apologize for the mistake, say you will ... (read in full...)
Am I more than a close friend to him?
Q. I have a male friend but I don't know if he sees me as more? So far he has told me deep trauma from his past, he has went out of his way to introduce me to his mother, his sister and his cousin etc. He has hugged me, given me support when I needed ...
A. 16 June 2016: If I am being honest, reading your post I have friends just how you have described him, but its just platonic and nothing more. Now am not saying that he does not like you, but it is clear that he values your friendship and trusts you. Do you really ... (read in full...)
I told him white lie about my birthday, now what?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. Things are great and we're in love. Only I feel so guilty about a little white lie I told him at the start of our relationship! He's 21 and when I met him I was 17, literally turning 18 in a month's ...
A. 16 June 2016: It is not a minor lie at all, in fact it is a pretty major lie and something that many would not forgive. You thinking it is minor because you are 18 now anyway shows that you are immature and should not be in a relationship.
Lying to someone that... (read in full...)
My married man was upset I broke up with him! Was I unreasonable?
Q. I have been involved with a married man for 10 years, I waited until his children were grown up so I could make demands in my lover leaning his wife, they are 17 and 19 so not kids anymore....I asked him last night for us to be a proper couple now, ...
A. 16 June 2016: You knew that he was married, yet you still got with him. He is someone elses husband and father, you are just someone on the sides, you have wasted ten years of your life on empty promises. For now it is school and exams, then it will be college ... (read in full...)
Money, jealousy, love and complicated families. How does one negotiate around these challenges?
Q. I was hurt to see how people mostly think about money... I've alway had complicated relationship with my father and his family. Not to justify him or anything but he's a deeply damaged man. After leaving my mother he never supported me emo...
A. 16 June 2016: The only advice I have is that not to let him bring you down. He bullied you, he hurt you and you still loved him because you where a child and you wanted to feel his love. Concentrate on your wife now. Your family don't realize the damage your ... (read in full...)
Newly married but feel so guilty about my cheating. What should I do?
Q. I got married to my boyfriend recently whom I was with in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs. We still live apart as I have not moved to his city yet as he could be taking a transfer to mine. I have dark secret which haunts me even now. Las...
A. 16 June 2016: The guy you cheated with is using you, it is clear to see, he wanted sex and you allowed him. Now he is missing the sex and wants to break up your marriage. The thing is he will never want you as his wife.
No it is never okay to cheat, what did ... (read in full...)
Cute guy at the gym. How do I get his attention?
Q. I recently started weighttraining with a guy friend (older gentleman) at the gym, and there is one particular guy. I told my workout buddy (harry) that i think the guy's cute, and he's trying to help me break the ice with him. Because of Harrys he...
A. 16 June 2016: The thing is when it comes to men, they really are clueless and are not mind readers. If you like the look of him and want to get to know him then you need to get the confidence to do so because he is probably clueless and doesn't even notice the ... (read in full...)
Is she out of my league? Should I ask her out?
Q. I'm a single male and work, there's a female at work whose caught my eye and she is attractive. She always looks at me, smiles and gives me hugs and chats to me. I'd like to ask her out but the problem is, I'm not sure if im her type or not or w...
A. 16 June 2016: You need to try and gain some confidence. So far the signs are good, she hugs you, chats and smiles. It is all positive. I would try and find out first if she is single before you make a move, otherwise it may be awkward, maybe ask people at work if ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: Maybe you could ask her did she receive the business card that you left her and tell her you would like to take her out, if she refuses, then the best thing you could do is avoid eating there for a while, but if she doesn't hopefully it all goes ... (read in full...)
How can this continue with me losing my sanity? I have a wife and a girlfriend who are both amazing.
Q. I've been having an affair with a much younger, beautiful and sexy woman for over three years. I am in a fairly good marriage and we've been married for 22 years. My wife and I are on the same wave length. We've been through a lot together and are...
A. 15 June 2016: All I can see from this post is you worrying about yourself, it sounds like you are very selfish, I don't see any sympathy for your wife or the woman you are stringing along I just see you talking about you you you.
You need to stop being self... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or is my husband a cheater?
Q. I have been married for over 25 years, but am currently separated from my husband due to various issues. One of the issues is suspected cheating, which my husband denies. I just wanted to hear other peoples perspective on this, as my husbands...
A. 15 June 2016: None of the things that you mention is evidence that he is cheating. Maybe she was seductive to all married men and maybe she did dislike women, it does happen, unfortunately there are woman like this in the world. As for the phone call well who ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend telling me lies, when there is no need to do so?
Q. My question is , me and my ex grew apart and decided to be friends this has been a few month and we both moved on. He told me he plans on staying single i said yeah yeah and he replied saying its so much easier to stay single , i will admit he...
A. 15 June 2016: The thing is he is not your friend, he is your ex and that will never change. To be honest I would not want to be talking about my love life to my ex, I would find it uncomfortable and unnecessary. ... (read in full...)
Do we still have a future together? Right now it seems not
Q. I've been in a relationship for 7 years with someone I fell head over heels for in college. He was my first proper relationship and at 18. I thought I had found the one. Things progressed really quickly and after college we moved back home which is...
A. 15 June 2016: You are probably at an age now where you want to settle down get married and have children, and well the short version is he doesn't, he wants to live at home with his parents where he has no bills and no responsibilities. Even though you both might ... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 15 June 2016: Well see thats the thing, by the time he is finished work you are asleep so maybe he turns to porn as well he is hardly going to wake you. Children are a strain on any relationship especially when you are looking after them all day every day, but ... (read in full...)
4 years with my Bf. Do you think I am wasting my time?
Q. After 4 years with my bf i asked if we will ever move together and he started mentioning its too expensive and he just wants to live at his mom's house. Does this mean im wasting my time in here?...
A. 15 June 2016: After four years of being with someone I would also be looking to move on to the next step. It sounds like your boyfriend is not ready to move out of home yet, he says it is expensive but if I had to guess I think his mum is paying all the bills and ... (read in full...)
I have sex daily with my BF and I masturbate. My high sex drive is a problem. What can I do?
Q. I have always had a fairly high sex drive even in high school but the past year my sex drive keeps getting higher. It's to the point where I actually can't do daily things. My bf and I have an amazing sex life but he said that he physical...
A. 15 June 2016: If it is effecting your life then I would suggest going to see your doctor about this problem, he can refer you to someone who can get to the bottom off why you are doing this so much. ... (read in full...)
I think this is beyond a crush or I'm going mental
Q. I met this guy in November and we met because he frequently eat at Subway, where my friend works and I stop by all the time as well. He's always picking and I pick back. I have always found him extremely handsome and I have expressed multiple times. ...
A. 15 June 2016: You will stop thinking about him less and less now that you do not see him anymore. It will ease off. Distract yourself with other things.... (read in full...)
If he has a girlfriend then why is he around me?
Q. Hello, I have been talking to this boy for 3 years on and off and in the mean time we have both had partners. We first started talking at the start of college and it's normal for us to talk all day, everyday. I have met him twice and kissed him both ...
A. 15 June 2016: Yes it may be difficult as you have spoke to him for three years, but he has a girlfriend and he has used you going to uni as a reason why you both cannot be together. The thing is if he really liked you he would do anything to be with you, even if ... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 15 June 2016: Nope it is not your doing at all. The thing is though you do whatever it takes to please him therefore he feels he does not need to make an effort because you will do it anyway. You need to step back and take control of the situation. If you want ... (read in full...)
My Bf keeps arranging his schedule so that he's 'unavailable' when I am free and 'available' when he knows I have to work. What's going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He works at a shop and basically, he's his own boss. He can make his own schedule, work whatever days, and any hours. I work at a pizza restaurant and have absolutely no control over my ...
A. 15 June 2016: Stop sharing your bed with this man, he is not interested in a relationship with you, he only wants sex without having to take you out on dates or without even making an effort. He uses work as an excuse not to have to see you during the day. I am ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 15 June 2016: I don't think leaving a note is a great idea at all, it is always best to ask face to face. Practice in the mirror if you must, but keep it simple, ask her what time her shift finishes as you would like to take her out for a drink if she is ... (read in full...)
He says I bring out his silly side. Why is he behaving this way around me?
Q. My boyfriend and I laugh a lot together and share the same sense of humour. Yesterday he told me I bring out the silly side in him and that he is never this silly around anyone else. I am wondering if you think that's a good thing? Or not?...
A. 15 June 2016: Being able to be silly around your partner is the best thing in the world, it means he has let his guard down fully and he can just have fun with you, so yes it is a good thing. As long as you are both able to be serious with each other as well and ... (read in full...)
Do I risk losing her for good if I tell her, ''no we can't do this right now'' ?
Q. In our final year of university, a girl I have grown close with from my friendship group confessed that she liked me, just a few weeks after splitting up with her boyfriend of 2 years, who is also a pretty good friend of mine. I immediat...
A. 15 June 2016: You have made the right decision, he is your friend so just be honest with him, good luck, and let us know how you get on. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends mom is overbearing. She follows him around?? Need help!
Q. We are both 23. He lives with his mother who has been out of a job for the past year. When I am there (23) and we are in his room she calls his name every 30 mins to do something for her. Its obvious he finds it annoying but he is always polite and ...
A. 14 June 2016: The thing is he is living with his mother, therefore if you cannot bare to be around her then maybe you need to make a choice. You cannot make him choose between him and his mother. He is her child and she loved him, what you might think is strange ... (read in full...)
Group sex with boyfriend, his room mate and room mate's girlfriend! I loved it!
Q. I'm 23 and have had boyfriends all through high school I've never thought about another girl in a sexual way. A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I were drinking with his roommate and the roomates gf when they dared us to kiss. After more drinks we ...
A. 14 June 2016: Don't label yourself, bisexual is just a word, and yes you could be, or else you could be just experimenting and enjoying it. As long as you stay safe at all times and use protection then don't worry about it, just enjoy it. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to face him after a night of heavy petting!
Q. Hi this is my first time writing here.. i just turned 18 this june 12 and i have a few drinks with my friends and there this guy who is 2 years younger than me,he is 15 turning 16 this july actually hes very mature on hes age. And hes very vocal a...
A. 14 June 2016: You made the right decision even under the influence off alcohol and did not have sex with him. So don't be to hard on yourself. Yes these things are awkward, that is the joy off drinking alcohol. Just be yourself the next time you see him, no need ... (read in full...)
Do I risk losing her for good if I tell her, ''no we can't do this right now'' ?
Q. In our final year of university, a girl I have grown close with from my friendship group confessed that she liked me, just a few weeks after splitting up with her boyfriend of 2 years, who is also a pretty good friend of mine. I immediat...
A. 10 June 2016: What is holding you back from asking your friend about this? Look in my eyes it is a no go area, I think friends ex's should be off limits, but maybe he would genuinely be okay with it, the only way to find out is to ask him.
Sit down and talk to h... (read in full...)
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