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I don't want to be this crazy compaining person all the time but they really get to me.
Q. I am a middle child with two sisters, one older (divorcee no children, has a boyfriend), one younger (married with children). We are all in our thirties. We are a close family but I have a problem when they make arrangements and plan family dinners ...
A. 15 July 2011: Your parents are really shallow and have no consideration. Your mom is going to have to calm herself because she needs to know how you feel and take you seriously and the rest of your family does too. They're very immature and make you feel bad ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being hurt and lied to by my girlfriend!
Q. Hey, Dearcupid. This may be a bit long..but please bear with me because I desperately need help with it! I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, and we're both 17. My girlfriend went to a party with her friend and my girlfriend, h...
A. 15 July 2011: Start over. Give yourself time to get over her. Cut contact with her, find some new things to enjoy and spend time with friends. It takes everyone time to get over someone they love but they're able to because they know that's what's right for them ... (read in full...)
Depressed, Unhappy, I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Q. I am 22 yrs. old from Europe living in Canada. I use to be full of life and the kind of person that would light up the room when I walk in ever since I was a child. Everything changed when I was 15 and I started to feel attraction toward guys, wh...
A. 15 July 2011: That's what your family is for. Why else would we have them? Tell them what you've told us. They will accept you for who you are and if things change between you and them just because you're not the 'normal straight person', then they're pretty ... (read in full...)
I found my dad's been surfing porn and maybe using escort services, what should I do now?
Q. I was on my dads computer and I found sexual escort websites...I also found pornography on his cell phone. I am really worried that he is using these escorts and really don't know what to do. I would rather not confront him but its one of those ...
A. 15 July 2011: I know it's worrying, but you shouldn't let it worry you. I mean it is something to worry about, but it's something that has nothing to do with you. That's for him and your mother to work out(I'll assume they're together). Whatever he's doing will ... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed signals and tells me he needs a few years to figure out if he wants to stay married to me!
Q. My husband and I split up because he couldn't handle a stressful situation that we had no control over..he just couldn't step up to the plate and give support when needed. Now the situation is over, it is two months since I moved out and the whole ...
A. 15 July 2011: I think you should give him the time and space he needs. But he's not helping himself by calling you. So tell him to stop calling and get himself together. Let him know that when he's ready to really handle things, you will be there to make it ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being hurt and lied to by my girlfriend!
Q. Hey, Dearcupid. This may be a bit long..but please bear with me because I desperately need help with it! I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, and we're both 17. My girlfriend went to a party with her friend and my girlfriend, h...
A. 14 July 2011: Leave her. She was never going to tell you and you know that. But luckily you stomped her nerves enough to get it out of her. She's not going to change and she only says those things to keep you around. She really doesn't care that she hurt you ... (read in full...)
Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?
Q. This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...
A. 14 July 2011: Go to the doctor because he gave you something. He needs to go too so tell him and refrain from sexual contact until you're both cured.... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and still a virgin, is this normal?
Q. Hi cupid, I'm a "straight" guy age 24 and im still virgin.. is it normal? ...
A. 14 July 2011: Of course it's normal, and commendable also. Don't feel bad.... (read in full...)
He is spreading untrue rumors about me!
Q. Hi, im having a bit of a problem with an ex of mine. Recently i just started dating a boy been dating for about 2 weeks, but one of my ex's when who i was in a relationship for a year is trying to cause problems! So my ex who i will call 's' has ...
A. 14 July 2011: Well if he's done this to you before then why does it matter now? This guy is a liar and soon everyone will know. He has nothing better to do with his time than take it out on you, which is unfortunate. He'll suffer eventually by not having any ... (read in full...)
Relationship going nowhere, need advice on how to break up with this girl
Q. After seeing this girl for about a couple months now, I have decided that things simply aren't going to work. Despite dropping hints, she still has no direction, drive or make any real effort to land a real job. Given that we are at the same age, ...
A. 14 July 2011: You're not the villain for wanting someone better. You're simply not interested anymore so tell her exactly that and cut contact. If she asks why, then you can tell her or not. But don't keep leading her on.... (read in full...)
Ex Call Out of the Blue.
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for near 6 months now. We were together nearly a year. Two/three weeks after the break up she gets herself another bf, who she is still with. The only time we've really spoken was a drunken argument about 2...
A. 14 July 2011: Maybe she was bored or just decided to see how you were doing. But don't make it a bigger deal than it is. Sometimes exes do that with no intentions. This is one of those times, I think.... (read in full...)
I hate myself for being so brutal to her in the past...how can I move on?
Q. I was in a relationship with a girl for like six years and in June 2009 , all of sudden I dumped her saying that she was hell of a talkative and belong to lower class than my family. She was begging and doing all sort of desperate things not let me ...
A. 14 July 2011: Get her forgiveness and then forgive yourself. Give her time to get reacquainted with you and let her see that you won't hurt her again. Don't force her to try to forgive you so fast. Even though it was 2 yrs ago, she's still hurting and has a ... (read in full...)
Why would he want to know if I'm a virgin or not?
Q. So my ex boyfriend who now has a new girlfriend asked me today if I was a virgin when I answered yes he seemed surprised which offended me... Why would he want to know if I'm a virgin or not?...
A. 14 July 2011: Most likely to decide if he should ask you to do anything sexual...I could be wrong but either way it was none of his business because you're not together and that's a personal thing to ask.... (read in full...)
I love him but feel responsibility to my husband
Q. The two of us are matured and understand our responsibilities towards our families. Yet, he badly feels he loves me and wants to have romantic relations. For me, i understand,it is wrong. But i really feel good the way he speaks about boosting me ...
A. 14 July 2011: You're married so leave the guy alone. There's a reason why you married your husband...recall it and work on your marriage. Unless you just don't feel the same about your husband, then leave him. But don't ruin your marriage for this fling. You ... (read in full...)
Why does my FWB ignore me when he sees me?
Q. hi everyone me and this guy are sex buddys have been since march now we get on really well when we see each other which is about once every 2 or 3 weeks just lately i have saw him twice and both times he has pretended he hasnt seen me even though he ...
A. 14 July 2011: I was involved with someone like that. I hate people like that. If you can be sexual with someone then you should be able to talk to them. Talk to him about this and if he can't change, you might want to ask yourself if you can deal with someone ... (read in full...)
What would be safe times to go walking on my own?
Q. I know this isn't exactly a relationship question and probably comes across as pretty stupid but I'd really appreciate some advice on it as everyone I know doesn't have the experience to answer. In a couple of months I'll be going to university in...
A. 14 July 2011: Try in the mornings if you're a morning person. No one would be stupid enough to try to attack you when there are people around trying to get to work and doing what they have to and if you do ever get attacked, there will most likely be plenty of ... (read in full...)
Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating?
Q. Is Cybersex/Sexting, with someone other than your spouse, cheating. This is past dirty messages and includes videos of them selves being passed back and forth. I have seen for myself. He says I'm overacting since he's not physically cheating. i ...
A. 14 July 2011: It depends on what you and your partner define as cheating. Different couples have different views. But I would think of it as cheating because you're showing interest in someone other than your partner.... (read in full...)
B/f just vanishes on me and then has reasons, but I hate it!
Q. hey.. i don't know if its a really big problem but its all i think about all day, so here goes. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and 5 months now. and right now i'm only 19. i have been with the same guy since i started dating. i really ...
A. 14 July 2011: Like you said, he takes you for granted so leave him. You've told him how you felt and obviously he doesn't care enough to change. I think the relationship has been over for him for a year and he's too wimpy to say so.... (read in full...)
Cheated and feeling very guilty, how do I get over this and have a healthy relationship with my girlfriend?
Q. I am a 29 years old man. I have a girlfriend who is living in a long distance with me. We used to live together and had a intimate relationship. Since she has left there was some problem between us. Basically it seemed that problem was only my side. ...
A. 14 July 2011: If she doesn't care about the decisions you have to make in your relationship, then you shouldn't be with her. You're chasing her and she's going to keep running. So find someone who's open and willing to discuss anything with you.... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 14 July 2011: You are worrying way too much. She's probly been waiting for that for a long time so just relax. Wait for her to call and if she doesn't, then you call her and see what happens.... (read in full...)
In an affair with a married woman, her pattern is always the same, but it always hurts.
Q. I'm in an emotional affair that is based on sex...lol Well, the affair started with a married woman that I work with. We were both very unhappy sexually at home and those conversations led to us developing a close emotional attachment. I call it ...
A. 14 July 2011: This relationship isn't going to get anywhere so leave her. You know how she is and she can't make up her mind so unless you want to be part of her games, you end it for once and work on your marriage.... (read in full...)
My daughter's father broke up with me but wants to be friends with benefits!
Q. ok here it goes me and my boyfriend of 5 years just broke up a few months ago, he is also the father of my daughter. i figured we just needed a break, but he started acting like its a permanent thing, he stayed at friends houses for awhile, then ...
A. 14 July 2011: If you feel like he's being used and he's only living with you, don't let him actually start using you. Don't give him any kind of sexual favors until he knows what you wants and is willing to give it to you(emotionally). I think you should find ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said porn stars are hotter than me!
Q. My boyfriend and porn. Ever since my boyfriend got a new job we've had less time for sex. Whenever we see each other we have a lot of sex. I'm not a prude, so with me anything goes (except threesomes). I let him do whatever he wants. I sometimes ...
A. 14 July 2011: Your boyfriend is ungrateful and selfish. There was no need for him to say that, as much as you do for him. Does he realize that porn stars are full of fake boobs and privates that have been surgically worked on to look perfect? I would cut off the ... (read in full...)
My ex bf wants us to have some fun and make it our little secret so my Low sex drive Fiance don't find out
Q. ok well im back with another dilema :( my ex boyfriend (not my bby daddy) has been talking to me. he was always a great friend but when we were together we had sex once and thats all. we stayed in touch after we broke up.he was always a better ...
A. 14 July 2011: You're getting married so young. I think you should wait and see what you really want. You shouldn't want to be with any other man besides your fiance. Don't have a few nights of good sex and end up losing your fiance. Talk to him about this because ... (read in full...)
Husband skinny dipping with my Bf and now hes texted her behind my back, how do I deal with this ?
Q. I caught my husband skinny dipping with my best friend, who is also married. I feel he cheated even though they said nothing happened but it still hurts the same. This is not the first time he has done something like this to hurt me. When I ...
A. 13 July 2011: You know he's cheated. It's too obvious to deny it. As for your best friend she's not really a friend. You need to leave him. He doesn't respect you enough to just be with you. If you take him back or keep allowing this, he's just going to take ... (read in full...)
What is love?
Q. I have a huge crush on someone and I also thinks he loves me too, but does'nt know how to tell me do you think he loves me the way i do?...
A. 13 July 2011: You say its a crush so its not love yet. Make sure he treats you right and that he backs up whatever he says.... (read in full...)
I cant deal with her mindgames any more! Should I let the relationship diminish, or finally answer her calls and let her carry on behaving this way?
Q. My girlfriend and I 30 and 26 respectively. We just hit the year milestone on our relationship July 11. I haven't verbally spoken to her since two days prior to my bday when she unofficially broke up with me June 27. Anyway I haven't desired to call ...
A. 13 July 2011: If you can't even talk to her on the phone then I think it's time for you to end it. She's not going to change and she doesn't take your feelings into consideration.Be with someone who doesn't make you sad and isn't ashamed to be with you.Hope I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: He's a control freak. You deserve better so move on and leave him behind.... (read in full...)
I feel inferior compared to his ex and their amazing sex life, should I ask him if he does wish I were more like her?
Q. So, I've been in a couple long-term relationships and so has my bf. I know we all miss a bit of what we had back when but are happy with what we've got now. My current is a great boyfriend and I wouldn't trade him in, but we do have a lousy sex ...
A. 13 July 2011: He's not with his ex so there's no need to think about their sex life. Be yourself in bed and make your sex life your own, not like him and his ex. Maybe you could look up some different sex positions. There's at least 100 so find the ones you and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: He gets mad cause you want to do it on your own time and then gets mad if you do it at all? Very hypocritical...be with someone who backs up what they say.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: Your boyfriend's being a douche. He can't expect for you to be a perfect woman who only does sexual things to him. You can't cheat on him with yourself. You're always entitled to yourself. Its your body so do what you want. If he can't understand ... (read in full...)
Bad break up and our engagement has ended....what do I do now?
Q. I dated someone for 3 years. We got engaged in 2010 and broke up this May. He is now 27 and has only had 2 partners in an 8 year period. He is very athletic, tall, handsome. But he had a lot of weird beliefs about sex. He claimed to have a porn ...
A. 13 July 2011: You should just move on. You've tried to talk and he won't listen so just leave it alone. He seems controlling and immature. He tried to force religion on you, he won't be honest with you, and he doesn't like you to be with your friends. Giant flags ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has been acting different after getting back together.....
Q. So here is the thing im 38 weeks pregnant and due any day now. a few weeks ago my boyfriend/baby dad broke up and we got back together last saturday. from june 30 untill now he has been hanging out with his friends all the time. alot more then he ...
A. 13 July 2011: I do think that there's someone else. He's made it very obvious in everything he does. I think you should talk to him about it because it sounds like he is. I think maybe he feels he's going to be tied down when the baby comes so he's having as much ... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex, but she's getting married in August!
Q. This is a bit long and I apologize in advance for that. My ex girlfriend is getting married to a guy she's been with for two years now. She was my first love and although I've had other girlfriends after her, I still can't stop thinking about her. ...
A. 13 July 2011: I know its hard but you have to let her go. She's found someone to be with and even though it's not you, the fact that she's happy should make you happy and not want to ruin it. You both will always be friends so don't put your friendship on the ... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend holding a grudge because I cheated, am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi. Well i was with my ex for 5 years, and i cheated on her. She found out after we broke up, then she went through a horrible stage in her life. She contacted my mother on mothers day, and we started small talk i.e txing etc. Since last sunday we ...
A. 13 July 2011: If she can't trust you then you two shouldn't be together. She may not be able to forgive and its understandable, but she should try to trust you. You made a mistake and hopefully you won't do it to her again. I don't think you should get her a ... (read in full...)
Cheated and feeling very guilty, how do I get over this and have a healthy relationship with my girlfriend?
Q. I am a 29 years old man. I have a girlfriend who is living in a long distance with me. We used to live together and had a intimate relationship. Since she has left there was some problem between us. Basically it seemed that problem was only my side. ...
A. 13 July 2011: Since you slept with someone else, your relationship isn't going to be healthy. She won't be able to trust you and she'll hate you even more the longer you keep this from her. Even though you felt neglected you should have just waited for your ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask what he wants?
Q. Hi, I met a guy a couple of months ago .. we met at a bar, he works/lives down the road from where I live. Gave me his number and asked me to get in contact. It was brief. So a few days later I did. We spent 3 to 4 weeks of sending a handfu...
A. 13 July 2011: It's not unreasonable to ask what he wants. You guys are into each other so don't feel like you can't ask him. I do think he just wants sex because he wouldn't send the naked pic for any other reason. I think you should watch out and don't get too ... (read in full...)
He controls me and runs back to his ex, should I forget about him completely, or can I have both him and my happiness?
Q. Am I the one in the wrong? So, I dated this guy who was very, very controlling. I wasn't allowed to wear make up to school, low-cut shirts, or talk to other guys to cushion his extreme trust issues. We broke up nearly two months ago but for the ...
A. 13 July 2011: Ok when he started telling you what you can and can't wear that's when you should've left him. He's a jerk and he's not going to change. Don't be with someone that controlling and he's still trying to control you even though you're not together. ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my daughter's bad behavior?
Q. I am at the end of my patience with my 19 year old daughter! Her attitude, mood swings and rude behaviour started around the time she started 6th Form college and having sex with her boyfriend. We had a few arguments and she would storm off to her...
A. 12 July 2011: I think you should kick her out. You don't deserve to be disrespected in your own home. You've supported her for 19 years and its time that she supports herself. Your son has needs and she shouldn't disrespect him. She needs to learn how to respect ... (read in full...)
12 jobs in 5 years and now he wants to quit this job!
Q. In 5 years my boyfriend has had 12 jobs. The longest term of employment is 10 months and this is with his current job and he is wanting to quit. We live together, have bills and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. He owes child support on 2 ...
A. 12 July 2011: I find it hard to believe that he gets treated horribly at all 12 jobs, if at any of them. You can't keep babying him. He's a grown man and he needs to realize that every situation or scenario isn't all peaches and roses. It seems he's very ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my friend's boyfriend to see if he feels the same way?
Q. At the beginning of my sophomore year of high school I met my best friend. I've never been closer with anyone in my life, she knows everything there is to know about me. She trusts me more than anyone, and I trust her. Soon after we became friends ...
A. 12 July 2011: She's your best friend. Unless your friendship with her isn't important, please don't do this to her. She's been a good friend to you so put yourself in her shoes and see how you feel. Find someone that isn't taken.... (read in full...)
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