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*osycheeks
writes:Hi, I met a guy a couple of months ago .. we met at a bar, he works/lives down the road from where I live. Gave me his number and asked me to get in contact. It was brief. So a few days later I did. We spent 3 to 4 weeks of sending a handful of texts back and fourth.. half heartedly arranging plans to meet up, but didnt get round to it. No last minute cancelling or anything.. just busy..clash of work schedules..He was away a lot, but would stay in contact, then I was off for 3 weeks.. he popped over to mine for one hour before I was to leave, and we had a great chat.. we'd had a fair amount of banter in texts.. so had lots to chat about.. When I got back .. he was then off for a month .. so he is still away.. so weve been in touch for 2 months now.. so we downloaded whatsapp and have stayed in contact, a lot more regularly.. every other day.. long chats..He comes across so so confidant on texts.. but was really quite nervous when he came to mine.. I was very attracted to him.. On the chat at the moment.. he's really really fun/flirty/ and telling me everything I'd want to hear .. and really says he cannot wait until he is back to meet up. I had put off too much flirting with him at the start, then when we got chatting a lot on whatsapp.. I started to be more responsive with it .. he decided to send me a naked photo .. he'd been dying to send it before now.. so I just let him. He wanted to show me 'how horny I make him'He is very showy offy .. promises big grand gestures .. had a big car .. exhibitionist.. but also compliments very specifically to me.I'm just wondering if people like this.. can be trusted.. do they do it all the time.. or if he really genuinely does just fancy and like me.. and finds it easier over texts to be more forward.Is it unreasonable to ask what he wants? .. to get laid or dating? we are quite chatty and open .. he asks will I be single when he's back.. asks how many guys are after me ..Alternatively.. I can just calm down the contact until he is back.. and see if he persists.. Just would like some thoughts ??? Thanks!
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reader, rosycheeks +, writes (15 July 2011):
rosycheeks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Odds!
Its great to get a male perspective.
It was just the naked photo... that got me thinking he's feeding me lines I guess.
Otherwise I find him very interesting and attractive. Just don't want to waste time wondering. If I know he's just after getting laid, I'd tell him not to waste anymore time.
He's tried previous attempts to suggest cosy nights.. and the fact I've not given in thus far, he must have an idea he wont get what he wants easily.
His date ideas suggest he knows how to woo a girl too. So if he does want to get to know me more rather than just in my pants, it'll become clear I think in his actions.
I'm just trying to calm down the contact and flirting until he is back.
But man - I havent fancied a guy like I have him in quite some time !! (baring in mind i dont know him too well yet though) So just trying to remain level headed about it.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 "He comes across so so confidant on texts."
Everyone is a little (or a lot) different over varying forms of media than they are in real life. In real life, I rarely offer advice; in real life, most people just want comfort and a listening ear, not solutions. Plus it's easy to sound confident when you have a few extra seconds or minutes to frame a response.
As to your original question, there's nothing wrong with wanting to know what he intends. I say go out with him, and hold him to his promise to only kiss you goodnight - just about any guy would try to go farther, and there's nothing wrong with that, but making him wait a bit is part of the game. Take the opportunity to get to know him better, and to let him get to know you. See what you each have to offer, what you each want, and how that fits together.
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reader, rosycheeks +, writes (13 July 2011):
rosycheeks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThey are really good responses. Thanks a lot. Its good to hear 3 different point of views, and you are all pretty much agreeing.
I'm going to cool it down. Perhaps even ask him what he is after.
In discussion he promises to be a complete gentleman when we meet, with only a kiss goodbye, but he cant help himself because he really really fancies me. so he says anyway.
I guess I get the ultimate decision of what I want, and he either likes it or lumps it.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (13 July 2011):
 It's not unreasonable to ask what he wants. You guys are into each other so don't feel like you can't ask him. I do think he just wants sex because he wouldn't send the naked pic for any other reason. I think you should watch out and don't get too close until he tells you what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): Personally I don't trust men who willingly send naked pictures to a woman he hardly knows so easily.what was he thinking by sending this? My opinion is yes he does send this to a lot of girls and yes he probably is talkin like this to a lot of girls and gets off on it.
He sounds like a nice catch, but that picture let's him down. It seems he is just after his leg over.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (13 July 2011):
 i chat ALOT and from my experience this is just a big turn on for guys lol. guys act more confident online cause they can be whoever they want w/o the pressure of having to prove it. he sounds fake like hes just looking for sexual gratification/hookup. even tho youve met him id be very careful...unless thats what your looking for.
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