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Does he like me to have gone this far? He lost his virginity to me!
Q. Hello everyone. I have a best friend name Harry we work together at the beginning I use to think he was so weird. I work in the copy center and hes an office supply associate. One day we started talking since that day we became best buds. He would ...
A. 23 August 2011: Then it's better to stay friends if he won't give you the chance to discuss what happened.... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this thing? Does it look positive?
Q. Ok, I have had a crush on this girl for about a year, and noticed she was flirting with me. In fact she hired me in to the facility I worked in, she worked In human resources. Anyway I quit the job and kept coming back just to visit and every time I ...
A. 23 August 2011: I think that you should go for it, but if you do, then you shouldn't expect a relationship for a while. She's only been single for a month and that's probly not enough time for her to get over the fact that she could've been married. She seems to ... (read in full...)
Does he like me to have gone this far? He lost his virginity to me!
Q. Hello everyone. I have a best friend name Harry we work together at the beginning I use to think he was so weird. I work in the copy center and hes an office supply associate. One day we started talking since that day we became best buds. He would ...
A. 22 August 2011: I think this 'best friend' used you. He kissed you and didn't talk about it, he went further with you and didn't talk about it, and he finally had sex with you with no effect on him at all. Best friends would talk as much as possible and be totally ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want sex! Help!!
Q. Okay so I've been talking to this guy for a while now.. but we knew each other for 3 years. We both admit to each other that we have strong feelings for each other and are going to most likely start dating soon..he's so sweet, genuine, warm hearted, ...
A. 22 August 2011: He's propably not having sex because he feels sex is for when he finds the right person, maybe not. And that's understandable and a good idea to stand by. He's said that sex isn't a priority, so you're going to have to decide if all his other ... (read in full...)
Married for 8 years, he is no longer interested in anything but work and money
Q. My husband and I have been together for 8 years. When we first got together, we had sex all the time. After about a year it started dwindling away slowly and now we might have sex 2 times a year. When I ask him what is wrong, he says he has no ...
A. 21 August 2011: If you haven't already, then fix him a lovely romantic dinner and dress up for him. Tell him that you love him and miss him while you fix his favorite meal, and talk about things that you haven't before or that you haven't in a long time. And then ... (read in full...)
I've been a serial cheater but now my life is in a mess
Q. Firstly I know I have brought this on myself but here goes, I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years, and she is and was everything I could wish for and treated me better than anyone ever has but still I have cheated on her like I have with all ...
A. 21 August 2011: If you want to get anywhere with your girlfriend, then you have to be totally honest with her. Tell her about the other girl and everything that's happened since you started seeing her. It will be much better for her to find out now then later. If ... (read in full...)
I want him back and want him to love me
Q. DC, I miss him so much. I met this guy 3 months ago, and all he wanted was sex without any affection. I knew I would just be used so I dropped the whole idea of being with him especially because he didn't want to try LDR. He had said he liked me but ...
A. 21 August 2011: There's really nothing you can do to get him to change. He is who he is and unless he decides to change himself and it happens to be the change you want, then he won't be the person you would like to be with. If he just wants to live in the moment ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking deeply and she seems to be living on the surface
Q. I am a 30 year old man, and so a human being also. As a human, I have evolved over millions of years through a need to survive. This survival not surprisingly has required a strong need to procreate, and hence I am biological geared to be attracted ...
A. 21 August 2011: This may help or it may not, but I think that if this is really bothering you, that you should find someone who's on the same intellectual level as you are. If you've been with her 5 yrs and can't tell her your concerns or at least ask her if she ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is on a path that will destroy our relationship. Should I continue to see her?
Q. I have been in love with a girl over the past 2 years. she wants to make acting her career, but despite being in love with me she has made up her mind to sleep with other influential men to groom her career. Please suggest what i should do, shou...
A. 21 August 2011: If she's willing to sleep with someone else to improve her career when you've been together this long, then she's definitely not worth keeping around. There's a better woman for you.... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 17 August 2011: Why shouldn't women be berated when they sleep with married men? They're disrespecting the man's marriage, his wife, and herself. If you're expecting more validation besides yourself, then you won't get it. Cheating is cheating, it's wrong no matter ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure my lover's wife found out about us without him knowing I did it?
Q. I am having an affair with a man from work. I am single, he has been with his partner for about 5 years and they have lived together for one or two years. We worked very closely together for over a year. he had feelings for me throughout this ...
A. 15 August 2011: Sorry about the unfinished answer...If he was willing to do this during her time of need, then what makes you think he'd be better off with you? This guy has no respect for you. He's just getting what he can from you that he can't get from his gf. I ... (read in full...)
Open eyed when kissing???
Q. This is a silly question but I keep opening my eyes when i start to kiss fellas is this right/normal or what?...
A. 14 August 2011: There's no one normal way to kiss someone. Some people kiss with their eyes open and some with their eyes closed. Either way is fine to do.... (read in full...)
I sometimes fantasize about kissing girls. Does this mean I am gay or bi?
Q. I've only had two boyfriends and one of them I was sexually attracted to. We had oral sex a couple of times and never went any further than that. But we broke up because I was still in love with my best guy friend, Alex. Alex has had a girlfriend ...
A. 14 August 2011: You seem like you're bi-curious. You've kissed a girl but you felt nothing because she was close to you. But if you want to figure it out, then try it with someone else, and you'll probly know after that.... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be with somebody who treats me like this but am shocked and numb!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are 35. When we dont agree on things I prefer to agree to differ but he gets verbally abusive and swears and calls me a f*ing idiot. I find that so offensive. None of his family swear. He gets angry when he dr...
A. 14 August 2011: You can definitely find someone better than this. He's 35 and he can't even accept that your opinions will differ sometimes. That's sad and he insults you because you do things differently than him. He's known this for a long time so if he can't ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my girlfriend in regards to her behavior after an accident?
Q. My apologizes for the long story. I am 26. My gf is 25. We are both Asian. My gf’s younger sister and brother were also there and a friend of her. We sat together at a table. The tables were arranged in rows with chairs facing back-to-back wit...
A. 13 August 2011: Your gf was way out of line. This was an accident and accidents always happen. There was no need for her to have that attitude. She has the right to be a little mad, but not to that extent. She can always wash her shirt, it's not that big of a deal. ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and I'm really afraid of the treatment I'll receive and my family's disapproval
Q. Hello, Please Don't Judge me for the following question(s): I am 16 years old, and I am gay. (A lot of people may argue with the fact I am certain of my sexuality because I'm at such a confusing age, but I know, I have always known.) For the ...
A. 13 August 2011: No one reading this is going to judge you :). You are who you are and you can't help that. I really don't care for people who are homophobic and the Christians that make homosexuality feel like a crime, because it's not. Homosexuality should be ... (read in full...)
We already know my brother has been fired. Why is he keeping it a secret?
Q. Hi,Pls HELP.Any advises are greatly appreciated. My brother who's married,was fired frm work. He never tell anyone. but his wife secretly tell me but not to break news as she afraid in trouble later. Reality is he hide the truth and lied whenever...
A. 13 August 2011: I wouldn't talk to him about this. It happened to him and it's only his business and his wife's. If he chooses to tell you, then great. But don't force it out of him or expect him to tell you everything just because you're his family. He's allowed ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend argues about my gay past and it's not stopping.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we broke up before but we got back together again 3 years later. When we got back together she already had 1 daughter with her ex-boyfriend but I'm okay with the fact that she has a kid. The first ...
A. 13 August 2011: Tell your girlfriend that it hurts you that she can't accept your past and that you would like it if she would or if she doesn't bring it up again negatively. Everyone has a past and who we are as a person shouldn't be based on just that. If she ... (read in full...)
Engaged but still thinking of my ex
Q. I broke up with my ex 4 years ago. I loved him very much but he broke my heart. 5 months after our break up i met a guy that loved me so much. We'r engaged now but i can't stop thinking about my ex. I think i still love my ex and i feel lyk i'm ...
A. 13 August 2011: It takes different times for different people to get over someone. But if you still love your ex, then you shouldn't be getting married at all until you figure out who's the right one for you. Really think about this and ask yourself do you love him ... (read in full...)
Ex b/f is upset because I broke up with him after finding out he was cheating
Q. I was with my bf for a year and a half he betrayed my trust decieved me emotionally abusive when he got injured I moved in with him and found reciepts he was at the motel repeatly with some woman he told me his cousin was livin with him come to find ...
A. 13 August 2011: Move on from this guy. He's a jerk and he got what he deserved. He has no right to be mad at you when he's the one that disrespected you. I don't think you should look for an explanation. You both aren't going to agree on this so let it be and move ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to go down on me but my period's not quite finished. Pls Help!
Q. my boyfriend wants to go down on me but I have my period it's nearly finished? What shall I do!!! we don't get much time together so when he is here, I want it to be special, but I have had my period for about 4 days or so now and; their light...
A. 13 August 2011: If you don't want anything to come out, then it's best if he doesn't go down there at all. Unless he's ok with pleasing you while on your period? But you're not, so it's best if you just save the intimacy for a few days later, or at least the eating ... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat? why be unfaithful? what's the payoff to be the "other woman"?
Q. I have a question for all the unfaithful and the homewreckers. Why did you cheat!?!? Or help someone cheat!?!? I see so many questions about cheating..and they're the cheaters!! Doesn't anyone know cheating is wrong? And the only acceptab...
A. 13 August 2011: Wow, I feel the exact same way when I see questions like that. They knew that person was taken but they keep going and don't expect to get hurt in the process. Stupid really.... (read in full...)
Safe sex???
Q. well my girlfriend and I had sex and we used a condom. we did it again two more times and I used a condom every time. i am not sure if it was safe to use condoms time after time without washing myself first. i'm afraid that might get her pregnant. ...
A. 13 August 2011: Wait about a week or two for any symptoms and if you don't see any, just wait to see if her period comes on. The most obvious symptom is propably vomiting, but there may be others. But just google the symptoms of pregnancy and wait for them and her ... (read in full...)
What's this fleshy thing on my vagina?
Q. This is not REALLY a sex question but I guess it's a sexual health question... and I really wanted to see if anyone has the same problem as me... I am a 21 year old female who's been sexually active since I was 17. I have no significant medi...
A. 13 August 2011: Go to your gynacologist. Only they can give you peace of mind and know what this is. Even if you think it's nothing to worry about, go to the doctor anyways.... (read in full...)
Safe sex???
Q. well my girlfriend and I had sex and we used a condom. we did it again two more times and I used a condom every time. i am not sure if it was safe to use condoms time after time without washing myself first. i'm afraid that might get her pregnant. ...
A. 13 August 2011: Well you were wearing a condom so whether you washed yourself or not doesn't make things better or worse. You used protection and that helped, but it might not have been enough. Is she on birth control? If she is, then you're pretty safe. But if ... (read in full...)
Is this curfew fair???
Q. My mum drives me crazy!!!!! I'm 19 years old and the youngest in my house and currently unemployed and i still live with my parents. But i still have a curfew. I've started dating a guy and it's embarrassing that I have to be home before 1AM. Like ...
A. 13 August 2011: Talk to her and be honest. Tell her that you're an adult, you don't feel a curfew is necessary, and that you can handle yourself. If she doesn't budge, then maybe you could ask your father to talk to her if he's in the picture? If not, then you may ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this?
Q. i started dating this guy but he doesn't know i,m a virgin and he doesn't know that i,ve had very little experience with men. I know he's had a few long time girlfriends but i,m embarrassed because we,re starting to get a little heavy when we meet ...
A. 13 August 2011: If you're planning on getting intimate with this guy, then be honest. It's better to be honest now then to have to be honest after you do something he might not care for. So tell him and it might make the experience better. He'll help and guide you ... (read in full...)
My married lover destroyed my life!
Q. hi, i am single and had an affair with a married man. I managed to hack his mail ID and found he has chatted and flirted with many young girls. saying 'i love you' and all. he's definitely playing with innocent lives. I know his daughter's mail ID. ...
A. 13 August 2011: Honestly, if he's married and willing to have an affair, can't you tell what kind of guy he is from the beginning? You shouldn't have thought that you were the only 'other woman' since he went through with the affair. And you shouldn't have snooped ... (read in full...)
What body type do ladies find attractive?
Q. Everyone will have a different answer, I know, but... what type of body do you girls like in an 18 year old lad? As in skinny, slim and toned, bulky or lots of softness? I'm doing a bit of weight training to get biger and just wondered what people ...
A. 13 August 2011: I like a guy with muscles. He doesn't have to have abs or a flat chest, but I like that. I prefer any size guy that's not too fat or obese. But maybe I'm that way because I m more into personality, but the looks still matter to me in some way.... (read in full...)
My gf is really not reassuring me!
Q. My girlfriend is not reassuring me! She deletes stuff from her phone, deletes messages. When asked why, she tells me because she doesn't want me to know, or she doesn't want me to overreact. But... she does not seem to be doing an effort to reassure ...
A. 13 August 2011: Start communicating better and ask her to be calm and open to any problems you may be having and tell her you'd do the same for her. If she doesn't change, then you have a bigger problem.... (read in full...)
It's amazing when I'm with him but I don't want my heart broken
Q. About a month ago I was set up with my friends brother. He,s funny, cute and really romantic. we,ve been meeting up every other day and when i,m with him i feel amazing. You see i never had a proper relationship before and even though we,re not ...
A. 12 August 2011: Heartbreak is unavoidable sometimes, not saying this will happen with you and this guy. I wouldn't worry about this. He tried something once with you and now he knows the boundaries and hasn't tried anything since. He must not be interested in sex ... (read in full...)
Is it wierd if I propose to him?
Q. Hi everyone ! Please help me...i like a boy who works for the same company as i do, but we work in different state. Im 27 and the boy is 24. Will it be weird if i propose him...coz of age difference ?...
A. 12 August 2011: I don't see anything wrong with the age difference. But you should propose to him only if you love him. You say you only like him. Have you guys had a long relationship so far? Have you guys even lived together for a while? Do you know if he's into ... (read in full...)
My gf is really not reassuring me!
Q. My girlfriend is not reassuring me! She deletes stuff from her phone, deletes messages. When asked why, she tells me because she doesn't want me to know, or she doesn't want me to overreact. But... she does not seem to be doing an effort to reassure ...
A. 12 August 2011: Your girlfriend doesn't seem trustworthy. Even if she doesn't want you to know, she doesn't have to delete things from her phone. You don't go through her phone, do you? If not, she should be able to trust you. Ask her to stop deleting things from ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him, but now he doesn't want a relationship!
Q. I kind of have feelings for this guy, we have been through a lot together, I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him and now even though he still likes me he doesn't want a relationship as it is 'too much effort' I lost my ex, who I still kind of ...
A. 12 August 2011: Well if you really want your ex back, then apologize and show him that he can trust you again, and maybe he'll give you another chance.... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him, but now he doesn't want a relationship!
Q. I kind of have feelings for this guy, we have been through a lot together, I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him and now even though he still likes me he doesn't want a relationship as it is 'too much effort' I lost my ex, who I still kind of ...
A. 12 August 2011: If he doesn't want a relationship anymore, then get over him. He propably feels it's too much work because he had to get you out of a relationship to be with you. But he brought that on himself because he knew you were taken and could've found ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in a relationship when I know he's having sex with other women as his job?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 1 year and we love each other. i tried to hook up with him then because friends told me he was trying to get into the porn business so i thought he would be big. he is, trust me. he did not get an offer from ...
A. 12 August 2011: It isn't possible to be in a relationship like this if either one of you aren't comfortable with what he's doing. Of course any woman wouldn't want their man doing this unless they were in an open relationship, but that's not what you want. Sex is ... (read in full...)
My ex is friendly to me in person, but just ignored a casual text? why?
Q. Right after the breakup, I got a little nasty..but not too bad. We have to run into each other in town every once in a while. At first I ignored him and he me, but gradually we started to warm up to each other enough to say "hi" (his initiative.) He ...
A. 11 August 2011: Maybe he feels that he shouldn't have that much contact with you. You're an ex, so why would he? This is his limit, he won't get any closer than this. So let it go. And it's just a text and it's only been 21 mins. Just accept that all he prefers to ... (read in full...)
Do I tell b/f I know he kept a card a cheating ex?
Q. My bf was going through old boxes in front of me, and out a corner of my eye I saw him keep a card from a ex who he cheated on me with in our early relationship [they are not longer in contact]. I feel upset inside. Do I tell him? ...
A. 11 August 2011: Tell him and explain how it makes you feel. I can see why it would make you uncomfortable. Ask him to get rid of it and if he doesn't, ask yourself if it's something you can deal with. He shouldn't have it because it brings up bad memories for you ... (read in full...)
Best friend quitting on me... living a great hole in my life and trust.
Q. Thanks in advance for reading this and looking forward for your reply and opinion. My best friend ever seems to have quited on me and im very hurt. Almost 1 year and a half of the best friendship i had in my life... One year ago we were in the l...
A. 10 August 2011: This must be hard for you, but you have to move on. You were a great friend to him and for some reason, he's decided to give it up. Go your own way and he'll go his, and if he wants to be friends again, then he'll be the one making the plans next ... (read in full...)
Why are beautiful people the ones with the most insecurities, when there's nothing wrong with them?
Q. How is it people who are beautiful end up being the ones with most insecurities, even thought there's nothing wrong with them? My best friend who is bloody gorgeous and gets told it by so many people, has more insecurities then anyone would ever ...
A. 10 August 2011: There's no one person in the world without some sort of insecurity. We all have at least one, and she happens to have many. What you see as beautiful may not be beautiful to her. We all have different opinions on what looks or feels beautiful. Your ... (read in full...)
My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 10 August 2011: Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with this. If he doesn't want people making a big deal out of his bday, then they shouldn't. It's his day, he can do what he likes and handle it how he wants. He isn't being selfish or mean. This may be unusual ... (read in full...)
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