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Cheated on husband with his brother, he left but now is back and we had sex again!
Q. okay 3 years ago my brother in law came to live with my husband and I, well 5 months into him living with us, my bil and I starting having feeling (which we addressed) and then a sexual relationship. my husband at the time was in jail for fdomestic ...
A. 1 August 2011: You just have to let time take its course and eventually you won't be thinking about him at all. Get yourself in some hobbies or activities you like to keep your mind off him. If that doesn't help you, then just remember why he's no good for you in ... (read in full...)
Can eating ice make you gain weight?
Q. Hi, I know this isn't a relationship question but I need a serious answer as I can't find one on google. I have gained a stone in the last year and I'm worried its because of my addiction to ice? I'm very active, I don't have time for 'exercis...
A. 31 July 2011: I don't think ice makes you gain weight. Ice is water and water has no calories or sugar. So you can keep eating your ice because that's not likely the cause of your weight gain. You already have an active lifestyle, so don't worry about it but if ... (read in full...)
Help with irregular periods and pains.
Q. with my period, im always at different times sometimes its at the begining of the month middle of the month or towards the end, My last period was 28 june,so that that maybe over 4 weeks ago, i have the symptoms of one starting like pa...
A. 31 July 2011: Go to the doctor. They can give you a better diagnosis/solution than any of us can.... (read in full...)
Cheated on husband with his brother, he left but now is back and we had sex again!
Q. okay 3 years ago my brother in law came to live with my husband and I, well 5 months into him living with us, my bil and I starting having feeling (which we addressed) and then a sexual relationship. my husband at the time was in jail for fdomestic ...
A. 31 July 2011: You know what you should do. End the affair with your brother in law. He's not a person worth being with if he's going to do this to you and his brother. He doesn't care about you or have enough respect for you to walk away. So you walk away instead ... (read in full...)
Bf doesn't like me talking to other guys. Is he right?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 1 month. We've fought a lot about so many things. Our first year together, I had this one best friend that was a guy and my boyfriend told me to stop talking, so I did. A month later I talked to ...
A. 30 July 2011: You need to leave this guy. You have the right to talk to whoever you want. And when someone tries to stop you from talking to certain people, it's time for them to get out of your life. Don't let your boyfriend control you any longer. Tell him ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has kept our relationship secret for a year. Should I be upset about this?
Q. My girlfriend doesn't want to tell her friends that we've been dating for a year because that would mean they would know that she's only been single for 2 months (she had just gotten out of a relationship). She's finally going to tell them that ...
A. 30 July 2011: You have the right to be upset about this. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, then there's no need to be ashamed of that person. You like that person enough to be with them, so why should it be bad if someone else knows? I think ... (read in full...)
I hate being her backup friend
Q. Basically my friend has got closer with somemeone else who she always falls out with. I'm sick of them getting close because something always happens and my friends comes running back to me! Should I tell her this? I hate feeling like second ...
A. 30 July 2011: If she's your friend, then you should tell her how you feel. She will understand, and if she doesn't, then she'a not a friend. This is a problem between her and the other person. Just because you're friends doesn't mean you have to know everything ... (read in full...)
Is he to young?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female and I like a guy who's 19 he likes me too. Is 19 too young?...
A. 30 July 2011: In my opinion it's not too young. It's legal and your opinion is the only one that really matters when choosing guys to date.... (read in full...)
Should I keep waiting for my ex girlfriend to come around?
Q. im just a guy, pretty confuzed about this situation. i knew this girl for 4 years, as soon as we met we became best friends for a year, then decided to date which lasted 2 years. we broke up because another girl who was jealous of our relationship ...
A. 29 July 2011: I think you should ask her one more time why things aren't the same between you two anymore? If she doesn't reply or doesn't give you a straightforward answer, then I think you should stop trying to get with her. Maybe she's moved on or maybe she's ... (read in full...)
Stick it out? Or end things now?
Q. Hey, I need some advice on whether I should stick things out in my current relationship or end things now, because I feel I am starting to fall out of love with my bf. We've been together 10 months, and had both been single for a year before meet...
A. 28 July 2011: He cheated on you and it's not worth getting hurt again, because it will happen. Don't get yourself trapped. And you don't feel the same as you did in the beginning, so why stay? Find someone who loves you and won't disrespect you and cheat on you. ... (read in full...)
I love him more than anything, but he's not right for me?
Q. My boyfriend (Let's call him Jeremy) and I have been dating for over 10 months now. We've liked each other since we first met, and we'd been best friends for 3 years before we even started dating, because he was dating another girl during those ...
A. 28 July 2011: You need to tell him the truth. If he's not the right one for you, then you need to let him go so he can find someone who accepts his good side and bad side. He does seem to have somewhat of an obsession with you, or a lot of clingyness. He should ... (read in full...)
How do I "wow" my fiance' again?
Q. So my fiance' works a lot. I mean... A lot. 80 hours this week. Just this week. He comes home and he is tired.. In which case I do understand. When we first met, I was 80 pounds heavier than I am now, and he says that he loves my body.. and maybe ...
A. 28 July 2011: Maybe you could fix his favorite meal and have it waiting for him when he comes home. Or you could do that on a day he's off, so he has more time for you. But either way, you could cook his favorite dish and eat it with him when he comes home and ... (read in full...)
Is the relationship worth fighting for? He believes everyone else before me!
Q. I'm in love with a guy that believes what everyone in the streets is telling him when he's out of town before he believes me. he will not apologize when he finds it that it is all a lie. my question is in the relationship is it worth fighting for or ...
A. 28 July 2011: If your boyfriend can't put your opinions/truth before everyone else's, then he's not worth being with. He can't trust you, and if he can't, then your relationship with him won't be as good as it should be. Don't be with someone like this. He ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be enough for him?
Q. Will I ever be enough for him? My boyfriend and I have a one year old child together, he also has two other children that he has full custody of. He never puts my sons needs first, me and my son are always coming up short of spending any tim...
A. 27 July 2011: You need to leave him. You will always be treated this way by him. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have kicked you and his own child out. You deserve better, and he won't change, so find someone else.... (read in full...)
Should I stop watching porn?
Q. Can anyone tell me of any reasons that they can think of as to why I shouldn't watch porn? I watch it every couple of weeks, or so - just when I'm in the mood to. But then I feel sort of guilty, like I shouldn't be watching it. Do you think I should ...
A. 27 July 2011: You're doing nothing wrong. It's not like you're addicted so don't feel guilty. Just enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Is he worth fighting for? He said he doesn't want a relationship.
Q. So. Hey everyone. Here's my story. I know this guy since about three years and I've had a number of crushed on him since about a year and a half ago. I never acted on them because I had a boyfriend at the time but no matter how strong I fought t...
A. 27 July 2011: I don't think you should do anything but think about what he's told you. If he's not ready for a relationship, then it's not the best thing to do to try to change his mind. If you want a relationship with him that bad, then you're just going to have ... (read in full...)
I really can't stand her ex being in her life...am I being difficult?
Q. My girlfriend is still hanging around her ex and it really hurts, but I don't want to resort to leaving her, because I do love her and believe that she loves me too. What should I do about this? You see, me and my girl are in a long distance...
A. 27 July 2011: You have a right to feel the way you do. I believe that exes can still talk, but shouldn't have this level of closeness. If he won't forgive her, then why is she still talking to him? There's no need for them to talk if he can't move on from ... (read in full...)
My family dislikes my bf, I love him, they do crazy things to break us up, should I move out?
Q. Dear cupid, my sister and my mother hate my boyfriend!and i feel like its creating a gap between us and this makes no sense!when i ask them why they dont like him their only reasons are because he doesnt have much money all the time to take me to ...
A. 26 July 2011: Move out as soon as possible. You deserve respect and you're not getting it. Maybe you could move in with him or something. But you shouldn't have a relationship with your mother and sister until they learn to grow up and respect your life and the ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my ex, but he continues to test me by dating other people...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating since April 2010. it has always been a little rough because we are quite different and we would fight quite a lot. About two months ago a friend of mine just moved back into the area and her and decided to hang...
A. 26 July 2011: Your boyfriend is a selfish pig. Why even try to get someone like this back? He's trying to control you while he lives his life and does whatever he wants. Just because you broke up with him does not give him the right to control you. You said you ... (read in full...)
Husband won't talk to me except to criticize, and I am at my breaking point.
Q. My husband is bi-polar and a manic depressant. He refuses to talk to me about anything. He will small talk about something someone else does. when we use to talk about problems, he would and does always make it about him only and its all my f...
A. 26 July 2011: If he's not willing to change, then it's time for you to leave. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Why stay with him when you're not happy? You've tried your best and he doesn't seem to care. He's not willing to listen, compromise, make you ... (read in full...)
Want to rekindle relationship with ex but she now just wants to be friends. What to do??
Q. Hi, To make this as short as possible, I was with my girlfriend for a year and I was a real jerk to her, I wasn't showing her love or caring for her most of the time. After 1 year I came to my senses and realized what a jerk I was and a...
A. 26 July 2011: If she doesn't think it could work, then you need to stop trying to get her back. You can't make it work if she's not willing to make it work. She feels strongly about this, so stop trying to change her mind and accept that the feelings aren't ... (read in full...)
Horny guy is testing my sexual willpower!!
Q. Dear cupid, he is 30 years old and I am 28 years old. We met for a conference, flirted for a six weeks and we are going different paths because the conference ends in a fortnight. He is cute and turns me on with his stares. Problem is he is very ...
A. 26 July 2011: Save yourself for someone who's important and you care about. Don't let him make you a one-night stand. And if you can't do that, then at least don't have sex with someone you're likely to never see again.... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but rarely takes my calls or calls me back....I'm so confused.
Q. i am 20 years old, and am in love with a single lady of 31, she is a working class lady and am not, since i am a high school leaver, the problem i have with her is that she hardly pick my calls and never calls back when she sees my missed calls. But ...
A. 26 July 2011: Have you ever thought that maybe she doesn't call because she works? But if she's not putting any time into the relationship, then it isn't love and it isn't going to work. You two also don't see enough of each other and that doesn't seem like a ... (read in full...)
I feel like my girlfriend is slipping away from me. Am I losing her?
Q. Okay so my girlfriend of 4 months had recently gone on a long holiday with her family. its been a month since i've seen her so far and i wont see her again for another 3 weeks. I'm literally dying. I miss her so much, i see couples everywhere and im ...
A. 26 July 2011: It's going to be this way since you two can't physically see each other. And she's spending time with her family and probly having fun, so don't feel bad. She's probly doing a lot with them to give you her full attention/time. So don't feel bad and ... (read in full...)
He cheated and will not stop calling. What does he want?
Q. he cheated Im trying to not think about it but he will not stop calling,and I dont know why. We have a 8 month old together and I know if I answer he will say he is calling in regards to her, but he calls me from morning until night non-stop, at ...
A. 26 July 2011: He's trying to say sorry and get you to take him back. But just keep ignoring his calls because you deserve better.... (read in full...)
My fiance's butt stinks....how do I tell him?
Q. I have been dating my fiance for four years now. And theres this small little issue that KILLS me, and grosses me out and i dont know how to tell him without it hurting his feelings. I'm really embarassed to talk about this, but...something needs to ...
A. 26 July 2011: If it's this big of an issue for you, then you're just going to have to come out and say it. Any way you decide to say it is going to offend him to some degree, but the truth hurts. Don't be afraid to be honest when it comes to this.... (read in full...)
I want to be with him so bad but I don't know if I should go back on the roller coaster ride...
Q. My boyfriend and i has been broken up for 2 weeks now. I've been through a hell of a lot of bs with him. From him cheating on me multiples of times, hiding our relationship from 2 dozen of females on facebook, lying to me a lot, disrespecting me, ...
A. 26 July 2011: Don't do anything. You're right to not take him back. His nice acts aren't going to last and you know that. He won't change and he'll always be hurting you in some way, even when he tells you he's changed. Don't fall for it, keep your head up and ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my guy friend that his girlfriend is a complete tramp and people are laughing at him behind his back because he is dating her?
Q. I have a male friend who has been dating this woman for about the last 6 months seriously. He and I had a past, but now we really are just friends and it is cool. He has always been hesitant about relationships since he was burned by who he thought ...
A. 26 July 2011: The best thing for you to do is to stay out of this. He's happy and there's no need to bring drama into the relationship. Of course people are going to laugh and be immature, there have always been people like this. But they are happy together and ... (read in full...)
Problems with my ex...how do I handle this?
Q. I told my separated husband I'm pregnant. He still wanted to make it work. I asked him if he was sure. He said yes. We continue together for a month, within that time I took him to interviews he needed help with his car I help him get it fix. After ...
A. 26 July 2011: It's great that you two are getting a divorce and you no longer have to be disrespected. Well even if he might cause a mess, don't you think the unbron child deserves to get to know their father?... (read in full...)
What is going on in his mind? Will he contact me again? Should I contact him?
Q. After 1 year my ex returned to me. He dumped me for another girl. I was very hurt at that time. But when he came back to me I forgave him.He loved me a lot after reunion. But dont know what happened to me I always blamed him for his past. He tried ...
A. 26 July 2011: I think the best thing to do is to leave him alone and let him call you. Calling him constantly is going to push him away even more, especially since you two aren't together.... (read in full...)
He is back in touch with the girl he cheated on his last girlfriend with, what do I do now?
Q. Hi i've been in this relationship for 10 months now and everything was going good at the start but he's changed and started to show his true colours... here is the twist he's been in care for 12 years and has been abused by everyone in his ...
A. 26 July 2011: It's time to talk to him. Tell him to get rid of her or you're getting rid of him. If he doesn't, then it's time to end it. Everyone feels pain in their life, and if you do break it off, he'll get over it sooner or later. So don't feel bad if that's ... (read in full...)
Is getting a nose job a good idea?
Q. I know this is a relationship website, but i really really need some advice as to what to do and how to deal with what people will think. I know i shouldn't care about others opinions but i really can't help it!! Basically, since i was about 11 i...
A. 26 July 2011: If it's something you want to do, then do it. If it's going to make you feel better about yourself, then do it. If your friends see you as fake after you get this done, then they're not real friends to begin with because the only thing that should ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make the situation with my friends better?
Q. at school i have about 6 friends, i get along fine with all of them, but recently they're starting to get kind of annoying. its like im starting so see the bad side of them and its coming more and more obvious as time goes by. there are way to m...
A. 26 July 2011: Since they're your friends, you have to be honest with them. Tell them you're tired of the fighting and keeping everything together and that they need to learn to control their emotions. And tell them you don't want to be the one planning things and ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and told her. What do I do now?
Q. Ok so Saturday evening we had a party and everyone got wasted. There were like 7 guys including me and 2 girls, one of which was a girlfriend of one of the guys. The other one is still single. So everyone of the guys tried to get her attentio...
A. 26 July 2011: The only thing you can do now is wait for your girlfriend's decision. Give her space and let her come to you. If you can't promise to not do it again in the future while with her, then why are you still with her? She deserves someone who isn't ... (read in full...)
Loyalty in relationship constantly being questioned
Q. Hello again! My relationship has been rocky lately, and it's been due to my accepting a part-time job at a bank. He used to work at a credit union last yr but lost the job. He blames me for losing it because he'd start arguments with me and try to ...
A. 26 July 2011: Don't feel guilty. You are not in the wrong. This isn't a slap in the face. It may be to him, but that's his fault that he couldn't show up to work on time. The jobs you get don't have anything to do with loyalty. You're trying to make some money, ... (read in full...)
Will he ever respect me or should I just move on?
Q. Hi guys now i have been seeing my boyfriend for 17 months yesterday we got into an arguement and i called him immature and a wannabe because he made his female friend fall off a rope while she was walking on it and also turned her kayak and made her ...
A. 26 July 2011: You can show him this if you want, but it porbly will have no effect on him. If he's always been this way, then he won't change. Move on and be happy.... (read in full...)
Will he ever respect me or should I just move on?
Q. Hi guys now i have been seeing my boyfriend for 17 months yesterday we got into an arguement and i called him immature and a wannabe because he made his female friend fall off a rope while she was walking on it and also turned her kayak and made her ...
A. 26 July 2011: This guy isn't entitled to another chance and doesn't deserve one, so find someone who can act their age.... (read in full...)
Problems with my ex...how do I handle this?
Q. I told my separated husband I'm pregnant. He still wanted to make it work. I asked him if he was sure. He said yes. We continue together for a month, within that time I took him to interviews he needed help with his car I help him get it fix. After ...
A. 26 July 2011: Forgot to ask, have you decided to keep the baby?... (read in full...)
How to face my girlfriend after 7 months break up?
Q. I am a very arrogant and proud guy being from very rich family here. I get everything in my life without dropping a single drop of sweat . 30 months back, I fell in love with a amazingly beautiful girl here and I kept my family status in hide from ...
A. 26 July 2011: If you're going to apologize, then get your balls up and show your face. She deserves to see your face and how sad you look. Just hearing it isn't going to do it for her and it shouldn't. So tell her you're sorry that you did what you did and don't ... (read in full...)
My adult son has shunned me, because I moved away from the family! What can I do?
Q. New to DC! Hello everyone. I'm a 56 year old female. Mom to three adult children.(2 kids are in their 30's and youngest is 20) I am divorced since 2000; currently in a long term relationship for 8 years. My current partner and I have always ...
A. 26 July 2011: Don't let your son stop you from living your life. You raised him and gave him everything he needed and you deserve to be happy. He can't be mad because you've decided that you'd be happy elsewhere. He's being childish. Since he won't speak to you, ... (read in full...)
We had split up because he was not serious about our future as I was. Should I take him back?
Q. I was talking to this guy for a year and a half. We weren't in a relationship and I was gone for school most of the time. We "liked" each other, flirted etc Eventually I told him to go away since this wasn't going anywhere. After that he says he ...
A. 26 July 2011: You need to call it quits with this guy for good. But if you do decide to give him another chance, make sure his words are lining up with his actions before you get too involved again.... (read in full...)
Problems with my ex...how do I handle this?
Q. I told my separated husband I'm pregnant. He still wanted to make it work. I asked him if he was sure. He said yes. We continue together for a month, within that time I took him to interviews he needed help with his car I help him get it fix. After ...
A. 26 July 2011: File the divorce, order child support, and figure out custody arrangements(maybe he should get supervised visits, if any at all). Move on, supoort and love your daughter, and find someone better than him.... (read in full...)
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