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My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 10 August 2011: Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with this. If he doesn't want people making a big deal out of his bday, then they shouldn't. It's his day, he can do what he likes and handle it how he wants. He isn't being selfish or mean. This may be unusual ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned mean but I gave up my friends so he is all I've got
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend of a year and a half is just really mean lately, but here's the story. Everything was so good the first year we started seeing each other, He's the only person I've trusted 100%, and now I'm just hearing that he supposedly ...
A. 9 August 2011: Leave this guy. He's the one controlling you and he likes the feeling of isolating you. He doesn't care about your happiness and isn't concerned about yours. He's being selfish, immature, unreasonable, and he's not the type of person you should be ... (read in full...)
Should I dump him and see if he tries to make up again?
Q. Ok, so i'm with this guy for 2 months, and there already started to be problems.First , he isn't showing me that much affection, which disturbs me and he is not that serious in the relationship.It takes him 3 hours to reply to my texts and then ...
A. 9 August 2011: Dumping him will get you nowhere but single without him coming after you. So if you ever dump him, let there be a real reason why you want to do so.... (read in full...)
I can't stand with my girlfriend's anger, should I leave her?
Q. After spending 8 years with my girlfriend, last night, I decided leaving her but she was refusing to accept my decision …so it’s kind a pending thing. She is caring, most gorgeous girl in our surroundings but her anger is something I can’...
A. 9 August 2011: There's no reason to stay with her if you're not happy. She's supposed to listen to you and accept how you feel, but instead she gets mad at you because you can't accept her unreasonable anger. That's not right and she should be willing to learn to ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him because he's big?
Q. I met this guy while on holiday, he is so charming and I like being with him. He has fallen in love with me and openly says so, I dont feel like I love him, so I dont lie about it. I gave him a blowjob and played with him, I really liked him, he ...
A. 9 August 2011: You have plenty of time to sleep with him. Give it at least a few more weeks or maybe a month before you sleep with him. Just because you've done some things with him doesn't mean that you have to rush to have sex with him. If he really loves you, ... (read in full...)
He won't put pictures of us together on FB but will happily post pictures of a female colleague!
Q. Hi everyone. My hubby recently get hook with facebook, with his photos posted alone. when i handed him, some photos were taken together with me.But on facebook screen, he cut it without me inside.He remark he didn't want people to know he's ...
A. 8 August 2011: Talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel. Is there a legitimate or sensible reason why he doesn't want people to know he's married? Something doesn't sound right. So tell him how you feel and ask why he feels he must hide such an ... (read in full...)
He lied about having HIV, and I don't know if I can stay with him.
Q. Okay, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months now, and i just don't know what to do anymore. i've been friends with him since we were 11, and i thought we knew so much about eachother, but ever since we've been going out h...
A. 8 August 2011: Leave this guy. He took advantage of you and lied to get what he wanted. And he doesn't let you have any friends. Unfortunately, HIV can be given through sexual contact and even making out. So it's most likely that you could have it. Break up with ... (read in full...)
On again off again, now he's seeing someone else.
Q. What does he keep hurting me like this? was I wrong for telling him how I feel? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought he loved me too, but he broke up with me saying he doesn't want a relationship. We've broken up 4months now. But he al...
A. 8 August 2011: What's your question exactly? Whatever it is, you need to leave this guy alone. He's stringing you along and you're letting him. If he cared about you, he would really be serious about seeing you and wouldn't be seeing anyone else. You can find ... (read in full...)
My ex won't respond to my calls or meet up with me. I need to tell him... I'm pregnant
Q. I have a crazy situation. If you read my back questions. I met a guy and we were crazy for each other. Spent all I time together and everything. I am still in love with him. One day he decided he needed some alone time. So he asked me said he wasn't ...
A. 8 August 2011: If he won't contact you or anything, get his address and mail him a letter telling him the news. It may not be the best way, but it will certainly get his attention and a very good reason to come in contact with you again.... (read in full...)
Why does someone cheat when they have what they want at home?
Q. Before I continue with my question, I just want to clarify that I do know all about the saying "Wanting your cake and eat it too" BUT for the life of me I can't fully understanad why either a man/woman would decide to live with either their BF/GF ...
A. 8 August 2011: They might get tired of what they have, or what they have simply isn't enough for them anymore.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who says he doesn't think he'll ever get over his ex
Q. im 17, ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months. ive liked him for 3 years before he finally asked me out. things are going good and all. but theres a bit of a problem. in our freshmen year of high school he dated a girl for 3 months. he was ...
A. 8 August 2011: If he's not over his ex, then it's best not to be with him. Don't waste your time on someone who will be thinking of another girl when he should only be thinking of you. You have your whole life for relationships, but if you're going to be with ... (read in full...)
We've been trying for 2 years and she can't get pregnant!
Q. my and my partner have been trying for a baby for 2 years now and nothing has happened is it me i have never got a girl pregnant as i didnt have sex until i was 18 i met her when i was 20 we used a condom for the 1st year and for the past 2 we ...
A. 8 August 2011: You both need to go to the doctor. Make sure there's nothing internally wrong with either one of you that could be causing infertility. Follow the doctor's orders, whatever they happen to be. But if you can't conceive after 2 yrs, then you may want ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my older boyfriend help with the bills?
Q. I am 26, and am/was dating a 43 year old. I normally tend to date guys younger than me or my same age, but figured I'd try something different this time. Anyways, he has basically been living with me the past 2 months and has never offered anything ...
A. 8 August 2011: Your boyfriend is taking advantage of you. You haven't said anything to him, but he doesn't hear that tiny voice in his head telling him it would be nice to help you out once in a while. It's good that you kicked him out and it was the best thing to ... (read in full...)
Should I make out with my first cousin once removed?
Q. hi me and my first cousin once removed (girl) get a long great but she has never made out before. she has been asking me about the topic. should I make out with her and show her how...
A. 7 August 2011: If both of you are comfortable with doing so, then do it. But always remember the possible consequences that could happen if you ever go further than that.... (read in full...)
Is a Divorce the only way to fix this?
Q. I cant help but feel that a divorce is the only way to fix our relationship. My wife and i have been married for almost 4 years now and things are starting to get all messed up. we have always had little fights that seemed big but we always w...
A. 7 August 2011: You may feel sorry for her and sympathize with her issues, but you have to do what's best for yourself. She may love you, but she doesn't love you enough to be faithful to you. You deserve better and you know it. She knows that you're one of the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends bring out the worse in him. I hate them!
Q. my boyfriend loves me alot..but i hav a major problem when it comes to his friends...they drink n smoke lyk nythng...wid very hard efforts i hav chnaged my guy..he had almost quit drinking..n m sure abt it coz almost all the tym he used to spend his ...
A. 6 August 2011: You've tried to change him and it didn't work. If this is the life that he wants to live, then you are going to have to let him live this way. He's not a child and knows exactly the danger he's setting himself up for. Your boyfriend is right that he ... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 6 August 2011: There's really no need to vent about this. Either you're okay with it or you're not. You know that most men like porn, so deal with it. You happen to be with one that likes porn and you knew it from the beginning. So deal with it and don't expect ... (read in full...)
I have a period and then get one 9 days later?
Q. I got my period at the end of last month and then 9 days later, it shows up again. This is the first time this has happened. I usually always get it at the end of the month. Now I don't know what to expect. I concerned. What do this mean? Can it be ...
A. 6 August 2011: I don't have a definite answer. But even if this has only happened once, go to your doctor so you can find out if it's normal or not, and give yourself peace of mind.... (read in full...)
Am I experiencing side effects of long term birth control useage?
Q. I have been on birth control for over 2.5 years. I am very prone to low moods, depression and low libido. I don't remember any of this happening in the preceding months of taking the pill. Can these symptoms be a side-effect of pro-longed birth...
A. 6 August 2011: If it's something you want to do, then you should do it and it's good that your partner is open to whatever you decide. I think you could be experiencing some side effects from it. I use to take it, but for a medical reason. I took it for 3 yrs, and ... (read in full...)
Does storing porn dvds at home lead to any kind of badluck to me ?
Q. my dad stores lot of porn DVDs in his room but does not watch it frequently .I have a bad feeling that storing porn at home itself will give a bad effect to me and my family. i feel that am facing lot of bad-luck because of this.i many times wont ...
A. 6 August 2011: I don't think the porn has anything to do with your bad luck. It makes you uncomfortable, so you associate it as something bad in your life. There are so many people who have at least one porno movie in their home, if not more, so it's normal to ... (read in full...)
Is he playing me or does he want to get to know me?
Q. what does it mean when a guy ask you for a hug and we just met. I just met him already he is asking me for hugs. The first hug friendly and second one when he gave me a goodbye hug he held me closer put his hands around my waist. he likes joking ...
A. 6 August 2011: It sounds like he's interested. Ask him if he's interested in you. And if he is, then decide where you want to go from there.... (read in full...)
My ex says "when you change we can be friends again"
Q. Hi, i'm gay and has just recently broken up with my bisexual boyfriend. I can tell he's bisexual because he left me for another girl who had been trying to get between us and seduce him while we were together. We've broken up for more than 3 week...
A. 5 August 2011: Why would you still want to be friends with him? He cheated on you and didn't give you the respect you deserve, so what would make him a good friend? I think you're wasting your time trying to reconcile with him. Don't stoop to the girl's level. She ... (read in full...)
He says he will be with me in the future, but I am scared he might meet someone else before then!
Q. I Have This Guy That I Really Like But We Live And Different States We Both Really Love Each other But We Dont Wanna Be In A Long Distance Relationship. Were Both In High School. He wants to see other people instead of trying to make it work but i ...
A. 5 August 2011: If he says he wants to see other people, then there's really nothing you can do but move on. And if he wants you, then he'll come to you, but it's best to move on if he doesn't want to make it work.... (read in full...)
I want a life, what do I have to do
Q. Hello everyone, I need an advice for my current situation. I am pretty much stuck in it. I want to start a new life but I don't really know how. I have been imagining a picture of me having free-will. I am soon to be 24 years old soon, an only...
A. 5 August 2011: Your mother can't judge you for your job or anything else since she guilt-tripped you into giving up the life you planned to have. Tell your mother again that you deserve to have a life of your own and that your time should not be revolved around ... (read in full...)
Gay marrying a woman
Q. Hi, i am 29 yr gay, but i look like other normal guys, my family is pressurising me to get married, bt i dont like gls ,i like ther boobs bt nt vagina, i want to kno can i b able to fk my wife nd satisfy her? I am very tense,i have to marry,pls give ...
A. 5 August 2011: Don't get married. It's not something you want to do, so don't do it. Don't listen to your family. They'll get over it. It's your life so live it the way you want and marry someone you're physically attracted to and in love with. You'll be happy you ... (read in full...)
I really want my sex buddy to be my boyfriend
Q. hi everyone i really want my fuck buddy to be my boyfriend we always talk about going out places together but it never happens i really like him but he comes round we have sex and he goes home which leaves me feeling miserable we get on really well ...
A. 5 August 2011: It seems like he doesn't see you as more than a sex partner. You'll talk about going places but it never happens, there are hardly times when he can be with you without having sex, and he goes home right after you two get together. He's only ... (read in full...)
My ex believes all love should be unconditional, does this sound ridiculous?
Q. For those of you who haven't read any of my older questions I'll inform all of you by saying that me and my gf were together for 5 years until last may when she had feelings for another guy so she replaced me with him. She had actually been seeing ...
A. 5 August 2011: I don't think love is unconditional in a relationship. For a child and parent, yes, but for lovers, no. I feel that a person loves their partner because they're treated right, they have the right qualities, and they're truly happy. Love shouldn't be ... (read in full...)
I'm broke and my flatmate owes me money but won't pay me back!
Q. Hello everyone on Dear Cupid I have a dilemma about my friendship with my flatmate. I'll begin at the beginning. When my flatmate (my best friend from university) and I moved into our place a year ago, my mother helped us out with bills and the...
A. 5 August 2011: Did you make a contract on paper with both of you signing that she'll pay you back within a certain time? You should have and if she makes a fit about it, then let her cause it's your money and she has no right to mooch off of you. If she can't pay ... (read in full...)
Trust issue & lying about the past
Q. HI, I've been in a long distance relationship with this girl for about 5 months now and I really like and care for this girl. Right from the start of the relationship I mentioned to her that I have trust issues and cant stand being lied to and ...
A. 5 August 2011: You have to determine whether you like this girl enough to move past the lies. There was no need to lie about something like that. If she decided to tell you something like that without being asked, then she should've been totally honest. She ... (read in full...)
My dad found out I had sex with my boyfriend and now I"m grounded forever!
Q. Okay well theres this guys ive been dating since eight grade and im now goinginto tenth grade. my dad hates him and ive always hide this relationship from him. weve never gone on a date through the summer we never see each other but yet we are still ...
A. 5 August 2011: You two will both mature but growing apart depends on the two of you and your feelings for each other and the things you want in life. You won't be grounded forever, maybe a few months but don't worry. It's a typical reaction for parents when they ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of hearing about my co-worker's relationships problems!
Q. This girl that I work with so annoying. She is constantly complaining about her boyfriend, his cheating ways and how he always wants her to pay his cellphone bill for him since he refuses to get a job. I try to be nice and empathetic to her rega...
A. 5 August 2011: Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you're annoyed and that you have your own problems to deal with before you listen to anyone else's, but put it nicely. She may be mad or offended, but she'll get over it. She knows what she's gotten herself into ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he didn't meet my expectations. Was I settling?
Q. Dear Cupid, So I met this boy in my freshman year of college... I met him through a Christian group on my campus. We became good friends. What I liked about him was that he shared my faith in the love of God. It definitely showed in his life; he...
A. 5 August 2011: Don't feel bad for breaking up with him. He didn't meet all of your expectations or have the characteristics you were looking for. Don't settle for less than what you want. And if you're considering giving him another chance, then don't do it until ... (read in full...)
Why don't guys want to be more than friends with me?
Q. I'm a freshman in high school and boys have never wanted to be more than friends with me. I'm sometimes girly, sometimes scene (at least that's what people tell me), sometimes a tomboy, sometimes a nerd, and sometimes artsy. Girly-Sometimes I will b...
A. 5 August 2011: Don't feel bad for not having a boyfriend right now. You're a fun, outgoing person and someone will realize that soon. Have patience and you'll be with someone when you least expect it.... (read in full...)
My wife dresses like a teen and wants me to fantasize about teens!
Q. my wife dresses as a teen girl during sex and wants me to fantasize about teen girls is this normal as it doesnt feel right ?? ...
A. 5 August 2011: Then tell her it doesn't feel right to you. It shouldn't feel right anyways, so tell her that. Don't fantasize about something you're not comfortable fantasizing about. Fantasize about something that suits you.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should demand he comes to see me or just say "okay"
Q. Me and my bf have had a row during our time off togther. He has gone home and has said he does not want to see me tomorrow but we can hook up on Saturday? Is this okay, i am not happy, we are on our annual leave togther,although maybe we have been ...
A. 5 August 2011: This really shouldn't be a big deal. Even though you would like him to come on an earlier day, just allow him to come when he wants. He could've chose to come later than expected for whatever reason, but it shouldn't be this big of a deal. Demanding ... (read in full...)
The most important words a man can say to you
Q. In past I have discussed the "L" words, meaning "love" and "like" and their meaning in the relationships you've had or currently have. Today I would like to discuss a sentence that will, well, leave you spellbound if it ever comes out of the mouth ...
A. 4 August 2011: I love this article :). I can't wait for someone to say it to me one day.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems more interested in his ex than me
Q. I love my boyfriend very much but he has been doing a lot of hurtful things lately. This girl that he had a thing with before we dated (they spend a lot of time together now because she is in the process of breaking up with her bf) he has calle...
A. 4 August 2011: It does sound like he has more of an interest in her than he should have. If he kept ditching me repeatedly for someone that he once cared for, I would leave. And that's what you should do. ... (read in full...)
I feel so used. How do I get over this?
Q. I will try to make my post as short as possible. I was on training abroad for one month. There I had a brief affair with a staff of the University. On our first date, he took me to a hotel. I was a bit reluctant but I finally agreed as I knew that ...
A. 4 August 2011: You just have to take this as a lesson and move on. It'll do no good to tell him because he propably won't care since he didn't care about your needs before. The only benefit you'll get is that he'll know that he was selfish. But it propably won't ... (read in full...)
I've got a girlfriend but I miss my ex SO MUCH
Q. I have a girlfriend at the moment, but that isnt the problem. The problem seems to be that I have been very depressed lately over my ex, I have been dating my girlfriend that I have now for 5 months or so.. and my ex... I miss her dearly. we ...
A. 4 August 2011: Even though you're no longer involved with this girl, I think you should be single until you are able to get over this girl. It's not fair for you to be with your girlfriend when she's not the only one you're interested in. So stay single awhile ... (read in full...)
Should I face that he was using me or text him?
Q. Hi, iv been sleeping with this boy but feel he's going off me. We met last night and had sex but nothing much was said before or after, I admit I feel o have put weight on not much but as peole are still saying how much iv lost but I feel I hav...
A. 4 August 2011: Leave this guy alone. All he wanted you for sex and if you ever come in contact again, that will be the only thing on his mind. So don't have anything to do with him again.... (read in full...)
My girlfriends feelings for another guy
Q. my high school girlfriend and i have a very open relationship, we tell each other pretty much everything...but a few days ago i was going to her phone messages to send myself something and i saw messages from her ex boyfriend who broke her heart and ...
A. 4 August 2011: Well when you snoop you always find something you never wanted to. Since you found the msgs, it's just better to go ahead and tell her. Be honest, tell her how you found them, how you feel about them, and ask her how she feels about this guy. Then ... (read in full...)
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