New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap
*SAddict agony aunt

*SAddict

United States  (Female   XML/RSS

Like what she writes?
... Add *SAddict to your favourite agony aunts

Want to get in touch?
... Send *SAddict a private message

*SAddict's Ratings
Excellent72%
Average7%
Poor21%
*SAddict's profile:

I'm 18, live in SC. I have depression and that holds me back sometimes. I love this site and love to give advice though I rarely follow my own. I hope my advice helps someone and if it does, I'm happy. If not, at least I can say I tried. If you ever want to talk send me a message. I'm always here :).

< Prev12345678910111213Next > [13 pages, 493 answers]

Have I made the right decision by not contacting my lover?

Q.   I'm a married mother of 2 and recently ended an affair with the love of my life. I know most people think this when they're having an affair but he truly was the love of my life. He was my first. We met in high school and 18 yrs later, met again ...

A.   20 July 2011: Leave both of them. You are not in love with your husband and it's not fair for you to string him along just because of the kids. They'll know that this had nothing to do with them, so let him be happy with someone else. Leave the other guy too. He ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very insecure and thinks I'm going to leave him for someone else!

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles, I have a very sweet and caring bf of 2 months. We've both had bad past relationships and after going through so much, we decided to be together. Everything's been great until recently. He's constantly insecure because many guys ...

A.   19 July 2011: He needs to learn to trust you or he's just going to push you away. Just because guys are finding you attractive shouldn't mean anything to him. He's the one with you, not them. Talk to him about it again and if he doesn't start to change, you might ... (read in full...)

I did not make these things happen. But they do affect me. How do people deal with these family pressures?

Q.   What would you think,if your whole life got attacked by really bad fate? My life history is so tragic, nobody would eve believe it. My brother killed himself years ago, than my sister got into heroin and overdosed. Than my boyfriend died i...

A.   19 July 2011: I'm sorry for your losses. People deal with tragedies in different ways. I think what's best for you is to see a counselor. You've been through too much to go on in life without talking to someone who could possibly help you. Don't feel cursed. We ... (read in full...)

I'm 7 months pregnant. Can our marriage survive his continuing infidelity? Why an I not enough for him?

Q.   Can this marriage survive his continuing infidelity? i recently got married two months ago, me and my husband decided to after we found out i was pregnant im 7 months along now. we originally live in one arab country and had to get married in a ...

A.   19 July 2011: Just because you're pregnant is not a reason to get married. You should've waited for when you knew you couldn't be without him and he felt the same about you. He doesn't feel that way so you should divorce him. He doesn't take this as a big deal or ... (read in full...)

Choices. Can't decide between two perfect men. What do I base my decision to choose?

Q.   I've noticed that other women on this forum have gone through or are going through a similar situation to mine. However, mine is a slight variation and the advice to the others didn't really apply. Here's my situation: I just recently broke o...

A.   19 July 2011: Give the new guy a chance. It's not a good enough reason to go back to an ex because they will always love you. What made you break up in the firse place? Give the new guy a chance and if that doesn't work, then you can decide what you want with ... (read in full...)

Is this best option? Am I wrong in now not wanting to attend my son's wedding after all the humiliation he has put me through?

Q.   I recently split up with my partner of 7 years. I've kept myself busy with preparations of my sons wedding in 2 weeks.It has stopped me from mourning my loss, and helped me fight the tears and pain that are tearing me up inside. I loved my partner ...

A.   19 July 2011: I don't think you should miss out on your son's wedding just because of one misunderstanding. Kids and parents don't always see eye to eye and that's one of those times. So go to the wedding. As for the guests, I'm not sure what I should tell you. ... (read in full...)

Should I just stay patient, until they break up? She's with my friend. I had my chance but left it too late to try

Q.   hi guys i recently asked for help on getting closer to this girl who i like. But i found out yesterday from my friend who i respect and i think hes a nice guy that he goes out with her and he even told me he loves her a lot! How am i supposed to f...

A.   19 July 2011: Instead of hoping that they break up, be happy that they're happy. And if they happen to break up, maybe you'll have another opportunity. But don't try to do anything for a while after that.... (read in full...)

He says he still loves me. Can I trust my ex after he cheated with hookers?

Q.   I recently broke up with my ex two months ago because I found out he was sleeping with hookers when he was working away. He's now back at home and wants to start over again. I love him dearly but he broke my heart. He says he is still in love with ...

A.   19 July 2011: Leave the ex and go for the new guy. But give yourself time to get over your ex so this guy won't be the rebound. Let the loser see what he's lost and move on. He won't change for you or anyone unless he's willing to change himself, but he won't. ... (read in full...)

There's no spark. Can we save this relationship? Everything we try seems to not work

Q.   I could really do with some advice... My fiancee and I have been together for a year and 3 months and engaged nearly 7 and it feels as if the 'spark' has gone from our relationship. I suffer from Clinical Depression which has caused strain on...

A.   19 July 2011: I think you two should break off the engagement, and relationship. If he's not willing to put any effort into the relationship, it will stay be like this, boring and irrational. If he's stopped putting effort in, then why are you still with him? ... (read in full...)

Is there something wrong with my mother?

Q.   Hey everyone, I have a issue with my mother......I'm 18 and I recently moved out. My mom is seriously crazy as in mentally ill and I'm trying to figure out what is wrong with her! hopefully you guys can help out and tell me what she has and if she ...

A.   19 July 2011: She definitely needs mental help. Get her to go to a counselor or get someone she likes to get her to go. What she's doing is definitely not normal. It's abuse and it's sad that your stepfather went along with it because he had to have known. She ... (read in full...)

He asked about my sexual history and now he's become extremely jealous.

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for coming up on 5 months. We love each other very much and have been discussing moving in together. However,last night we had the conversation of 'past' relationships/flings etc. Before I was with this guy, I was married ...

A.   19 July 2011: Your boyfriend's not that mature if he's going to judge you on past relationships. What happened, happened, and he can't change it. He shouldn't get mad because it was your decision to live your life how you did, not his. You didn't know he existed ... (read in full...)

Dating for three weeks and he says he loves me and means it!

Q.   I`ve had a boyfriend for three weeks. He never leaves my side and he always tries to be with me 24/7. Hes happy around me but not when hes with other girls. My boyfriend is now telling me he loves me and he really means it. Im starting to feel the ...

A.   18 July 2011: You're young and he's young and most teenagers don't know what love is. We use the term so loosely now that everyone takes it seriously. I wouldn't believe him. Just tell him you're flattered but you don't think he knows what it's like to be in love ... (read in full...)

My GF is a massive cheater and now she wants to keep me out of my daughters life! What kind of person is she??

Q.   I met my girlfriend in May 5th, 2006 the day her husband went to vacation in the carribean. We had sex the same day, she has told me they were heading to splitville. When her husband came back from Haiti, I was at the airport and I saw them kis...

A.   18 July 2011: She can't get mad at you just because she's the one acting slutty. She didn't expect for you to find out so now she's punishing you. Her mistakes had nothing to do with your child, so she shouldn't have tried to keep you from her. Get an attorney, ... (read in full...)

Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?

Q.   I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...

A.   18 July 2011: Your guy is very selfish and you shouldn't be with him. They're your family and you don't know how long they're going to be around, so you have to stay with your tradition. Just because he didn't grow up like you did doesn't mean that he shouldn't ... (read in full...)

She dumped me...but why does she keep coming back into my life?

Q.   Hi everyone; Well hope someone can help me truely. I was in a relationship with my ex for 5 years and 2,5 years of it we were living together. I met her when she was 17 and i was 21 now she is 22 and im 26. In the 5 years she has dumped me 7-...

A.   18 July 2011: She's wasting your time. Don't let her keep doing this to you. She's playing you like a game. She knows you're going to always be there when she needs help even though her interest in you isn't all that much. Leave her alone and tell her not to ... (read in full...)

I like 2 different girls who might like me too, but they are both in relationships!

Q.   So... I'm interested in two different women at the same time, and I think they think I'm funny and might consider a relationship with me, except that they're both in one two, though both of theirs is bad... Any ideas? And I'd like to remain friends ...

A.   18 July 2011: Don't be with either of them until they're single. If they're interested in you and they have a boyfriend, think about what might happen when they get with you or if they'll do the same thing with someone else while with you.... (read in full...)

I feel like my ex only wants me for sex!

Q.   What does it mean when your ex boyfriend say this to you , does he want to keep you in his life or just use you for sex? You know I took the virginity so there's a lot of girls that don't last with the guys that took the virginity so keep me around. ...

A.   18 July 2011: I think it does mean he wants you for sex. If he didn't, he would make an effort to be with you and make it work, and maybe then talk about sex. But don't let anything happen until he's willing to work on things, if that's what you want to happen.... (read in full...)

I asked her to give me more oral, and then found out her ex's used to force her to give them oral and now I feel terrible....

Q.   I have a problem and I want your imput on how to deal with it. Im afraid I may have been sexually assaulting my girlfriend, but its a complicated situation So me and her were dating for 11 months and I knew she had some problems in the past wi...

A.   18 July 2011: Don't feel guilty. You only asked, you didn't force. And you knew nothing about her situation with her exes before you asked, so don't feel guilty. Just don't ask again. Let the relationship progress and let her get more comfortable with you and ... (read in full...)

I let go of a wonderful man for my cheating ex...how can I forgive him?

Q.   My story is very similar to many people but I will make a long story short... Last year, I sensed my boyfriend of 4 years was cheating on me with my former best friend so I ended the relationship and moved on quite quickly. My ex-boyfriend tried to...

A.   18 July 2011: Leave the ex. You've tried a relationship with him too many times and it's never worked. Your ex is pretty hypocritical for expecting you to take him back when he cheated but leaving you when you kissed someone else. Things are not going to get any ... (read in full...)

Please help...I'm in love with my best friend and he won't talk about it!

Q.   Hi :) Here's the thing, I have fallen in love with me best friend (who's a guy), and i don't know if he feels the same. He told me that he likes me, and said that we should think about being together. We started spending more time together, still as ...

A.   18 July 2011: Try talking to him again. If he's your best friend, then he'll be able to listen and open up to you. If he doesn't want to talk about it the first time, then try another. If he doesn't talk about it then, then I think you should move on and stay ... (read in full...)

Do I just like playing the game of love but when I win get bored?

Q.   hello everyone, i would just like to know if i am normal and just an opinion maybe an advice if you can, so here is my story. I'm 18 years old, and I've always been dreaming about real love, watching love movies and all that girlie stuff. I never we...

A.   17 July 2011: You're not ready to commit. When you get too close, you guard yourself and find a way to distance yourself. I think you should take a break and just have fun. And when it's time to be with someone, you'll know it. Don't get into this guy because you ... (read in full...)

On relationships: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Q.   The following was forwarded to me by a member of my church. It is adapated from a book: "Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work" I believe its worth passing on: "Dr. John gottman can predict with 96% accuracy within the first three minu...

A.   17 July 2011: I really like this article.I'll refer to it if I ever get a boyfriend lol.... (read in full...)

I just need to get away from my abusive husband once and for all and I don't know how to do it!

Q.   I've been married for 4 yrs now, separated for almost a yr. First let me start w/a not so brief story. My husband and I dated for less than a yr but from the 1st day we crossed paths in an elevator at work he pursued me and found a way to g...

A.   17 July 2011: Get away from this guy fast. You should've dated at least another year before you made that mistake. He's nothing but scum and put up that front to trick everyone. Don't put up with this. Your daughter does not hate you. She just doesn't like that ... (read in full...)

I.m in love with a gangster,but have to leave him?

Q.   hi all. Plz help. I.ve got deeply involved with a criminal who also has loads of baggage. 4 kids,dodgy dealings etc.it started out as a bit of fun,and to give him credit,he did mention what he did,and is saying he,s putting the money into a legal ...

A.   17 July 2011: Your mom is right. Just imagine how long it's going to be before he starts trying to involve you or tries to get you to pay his bail the next time he's in jail. Do you really want to be with a criminal? He's not going to stop being a criminal when ... (read in full...)

Sick of my husband's obsession with fashion and the fact that he is constantly trying to get me to lose weight

Q.   Dear All, This is a really complicated situation, but i have been with my husband for three years and we are still in love although there are a few things i really hate about him and a strange thing he did yesterday. Some background, 1. Fashion ...

A.   17 July 2011: I think your husband has TOO much pride. He needs a reality check. I hope you don't give in to his demands to dress up every time. You don't need to dress up to go to the store. There's no need for him to make you jealous. You two are in this ... (read in full...)

He told his friend he wanted a break but didn't tell me!

Q.   I have a boyfriend...we been together a year...just the other day i confronted him about one of him and his females friends n how he be talking to her...he called her "sweetums" and he never called meh that...at least i cant recall. i felt kinda bad ...

A.   17 July 2011: Its time to break it off. Why not do it to him before he does it to you? It's going to happen sometime, and if it doesn't, then he's still flirting with someone who's not you. You don't want that do you? So break it off and start moving on. He ... (read in full...)

Worried about my boyfriends drug use?

Q.   I recently discovered that my boyfriend has been experimenting with drugs a bit, and is interested in trying more. We had a conversation about it, which I initiated, and he seemed very uncomfortable telling me about it. He could sense I disliked...

A.   17 July 2011: Are you willing to be with someone who knowingly commits a crime everyday just for a few minutes of being mentally high? If you really love him, then I think you should tell him everything about what you're feeling. You deserve to be happy and you ... (read in full...)

Am I slutty for making out with a co-worker?

Q.   My coworker and i made out last year..the kisses seemed soft and sensual, we cuddled..he kissed my forehead a few times..i didn't sleep with him though..i knew i would feel used afterwards and i am not a one night stand type of girl..the kissing and ...

A.   17 July 2011: You are not a slut. Almost everyone does something like this with someone during their life. I've been through the same with an FWB and I felt that way at first, but it was a fun mistake. You made the mistake of not walking away even though he told ... (read in full...)

Does being bisexual exist in some people?

Q.   Where can I start. Growing up I kinda found guys more attractive and going through puberty I liked looking at gay porn. I never looked a sexually things with women involved. There were times when i liked girls also. But I never been just fully ...

A.   17 July 2011: Since you like both genders to some degree, you are bisexual. Stop trying to fight it and accept it. Go out and meet some people and date them. That way you can determine what you like better. Meeting actual people is a better way to figure out ... (read in full...)

Is it my fault she reacted this way? Or is she over-reacting?

Q.   Hello (first of all , sorry for my poor english) So, this will be a little bit of talk about ... the so called "internet" love. (shes from Germany, im from Spain) Im a 18 year old dude and at this time i broke with my current GF for 5 days ...

A.   17 July 2011: Move on. She's overreacting too much. You had a right to know what was going on and she wasn't/isn't mature enough to tell the truth, so move on.... (read in full...)

What did this married man mean when he described his relationship to me?

Q.   "Being Married but not to each other" When a married man say this about his marriage, what does it exactly mean?...

A.   17 July 2011: I would say it means that he's married, but there's no spark and the relationship isn't as good as it could be.... (read in full...)

She is becoming a whore and I care about her too much to let her do this to herself!

Q.   Big problem. I have a friend that has been known to get around. I just became really good friends with her about 6 months ago and things between us got closer. I started to want to just have sex with her, but then she told me that she had feelings ...

A.   16 July 2011: First of all, don't do anything because you can't. You haven't been in her life that long, and you're a small part of it. You would never have as much influence on her as an adult family member of hers would. Secondly, don't call her a whore. She's ... (read in full...)

My FWB has fallen in love with me and now says his happiness depends on me!

Q.   I'm 20, turning 21 in september. When i was in my first year of college in 2007 i fell in love with a boy who was in 2nd year. We started going out but my sister,who was my guardian and acted like my mother since i dont have parents, didnt approve ...

A.   16 July 2011: Tell him you can't be with him. Trust me, he won't kill himself. He'll probly find another person to have sex with. And you have too much pride to date him. Why is that? It doesn't matter about how much people make. And you say he was a womanizer ... (read in full...)

I'm leaving and we never went out, what can I say in my emai?

Q.   I'm a research assistant in a lab. In the dept. that I work there is a principal investigator who I really like. Anyways, in the past I have emailed him with friendly messages. He always replied but in a very polite manner. Even the day I asked hi...

A.   16 July 2011: Ask him if he would like to actually go out and have coffee. Incase you cross the line, apologize and then tell him your're leaving.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is always afraid of pregnancy even though we use protection...how do I calm her down?

Q.   My girlfriend and I are worried about a potential pregnancy. She's a little later than usual for her period. She's almost always ~3 days late, but we're getting into a day or two past that point. To the best of our knowledge, she *shouldn't* be p...

A.   16 July 2011: Well she has a right to be worried as condoms aren't 100% effective. Why isn't she on the pill? She should be and there'd be no need to worry. Give her about two weeks and if her period doesn't come by then, then you have reason to worry. No girl ... (read in full...)

Relationship ended badly, is it possible to salvage a friendship?

Q.   So I lost my girlfriend about a month ago. It didnt end too well. She told me that we didnt have room in each others lives and that she has issues that she should have dealt with before getting me involved. It wasnt seeming very clear and I asked ...

A.   16 July 2011: I don't think you should be friends with her. Why be friends with someone who doesn't want to be your friend, no matter how much you care for them? It's best to leave her alone because she doesn't want to talk to you, so let it be and let her deal ... (read in full...)

Is a sexless marriage common or should I do something about it?

Q.   I have been reading a lots of different opinions on sexless marriages.Some says it is very common after long term marriage, that the marriage becomes sexless, for different reasons. And couples just keep living together sometimes a whole decade ...

A.   16 July 2011: That does happen sometimes but only because the couple is too scared or doesn't really care about the problem or doesn't consider it a problem. Plan a romantic dinner, communicate about interesting things and then make love. If he's not in the mood ... (read in full...)

Is he hoping to cheat with this girl or just entertain her crush on him?

Q.   I found an email exchange between my boyfriend and girl that has been extremely flirtatious with him on facebook. She told him she'd be in town for a few days in the fall and not to tell anyone but that she'd like to hang out with him. She signed...

A.   15 July 2011: If you've been with him a year, then you should have enough trust to believe he'll walk away. And if he does cheat, then the relationship will be over and he'll have lost someone important as a punishment. But if you find out he doesn't, then how ... (read in full...)

Does true love exist?

Q.   Do you think true love exists? I used to believe in true love. But love always hurted me. I hate love. I trusted my boy-friend so much. He broke it. I'm 16 years old. My ex was 27. It was online relationship. I was dating him for 2 years. I broke up ...

A.   15 July 2011: I used to think the same way, but yet I've known that true love exists. Don't give up hope just because your relationships didn't work out. The person for you will come when the time is right. So move on and get your focus off the negativity.... (read in full...)

Why can't my man give me his all?

Q.   what do i do if i feel my man of nearly 2 years is not giving me his all, its LDR we see each other best we can and we commited and loyal to each other, text when we say we are going to text, talk on the net everynight, but i am getting like a cold ...

A.   15 July 2011: I think you're overreacting and you just need to relax. You say he's committed to you and he's trying to keep you happy, so why push it? Just because there are pauses in ur convos on the internet doesn't mean anything bad. It's most likely that he ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be this crazy compaining person all the time but they really get to me.

Q.   I am a middle child with two sisters, one older (divorcee no children, has a boyfriend), one younger (married with children). We are all in our thirties. We are a close family but I have a problem when they make arrangements and plan family dinners ...

A.   15 July 2011: Your parents are really shallow and have no consideration. Your mom is going to have to calm herself because she needs to know how you feel and take you seriously and the rest of your family does too. They're very immature and make you feel bad ... (read in full...)

*SAddict's friends

These are mutual friends, so *SAddict has added them and they have added *SAddict!

Abella agony auntAbella
angelDlite agony auntangelDlite
Aunty Babbit agony auntAunty Babbit
cheers agony auntcheers
Cutless agony auntCutless
Daisy_Daisy agony auntDaisy_Daisy
firehouse agony auntfirehouse
Godchild agony auntGodchild
helpOut.GuY agony aunthelpOut.GuY
Itsuckstobeme agony auntItsuckstobeme
kairi3811 agony auntkairi3811
lillylightly agony auntlillylightly
PoohBear101 agony auntPoohBear101
secret name agony auntsecret name
TheHelper96 agony auntTheHelper96
Y_v agony auntY_v
Yos agony auntYos

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.109380599998985!