I'm scared to tell my boyfriend that we are HIV coz he been suspecting my ex has it...
Q. boyfriend and I met after a long time chasing me...we had our 1st sex unprotected;we were drunk but I still remember I had told him I want a condom that night...months later when I became pregnant he kept asking me and telling me about my exes that ...
A. 12 December 2015: Yes, I totally agree with female anon reader.. Do let us know how you and the baby are doing.. Wishing you all the very best.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell my boyfriend that we are HIV coz he been suspecting my ex has it...
Q. boyfriend and I met after a long time chasing me...we had our 1st sex unprotected;we were drunk but I still remember I had told him I want a condom that night...months later when I became pregnant he kept asking me and telling me about my exes that ...
A. 11 December 2015: OH wait, just a second, sorry. He suspects that he got infected when he had unprotected sex with you?
OK, sorry sorry, I misunderstood earlier.
First of all, you can't know whether you infected him or were infected by him, or whether the two ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell my boyfriend that we are HIV coz he been suspecting my ex has it...
Q. boyfriend and I met after a long time chasing me...we had our 1st sex unprotected;we were drunk but I still remember I had told him I want a condom that night...months later when I became pregnant he kept asking me and telling me about my exes that ...
A. 11 December 2015: OK, one second.
He was already HIV-positive, before he met you? Why would you be worried about him walking away from you if you are HIV-positive, when that is already his status?
If he was HIV-positive and knew it, and he *still* indulged... (read in full...)
What can I say to my Bf considering that he is addicted to Facebook??
Q. Hi, My boyfriend is constantly on Facebook and when I say constantly I mean all the time. It's almost like his life revolves around it, as soon as he wakes up, throughout the day and in the middle of the night. He's 30 and has very few friends...
A. 11 December 2015: Rather than telling him that there's something wrong with him, which he denies, why don't you go another route?
Plan an outing together. Just spend an entire day outside, go watch a movie, or go for a picnic, or some nice activity together... (read in full...)
How do I approach his relationship with the nanny?
Q. After our second year of marriage, I went back to work after the birth of our child. With the both of us at work, we decided to hire a nanny. The nanny who was fresh out of college at the time, is an attractive girl but I never cared because ...
A. 10 December 2015: I'm sorry, but proof of what? You both are divorced and he didn't pay any attention to her while you two were married - and as you both are divorced now, and both of them are adults, even if there might be something in between them, I don't think ... (read in full...)
Help me beat my birthday blues
Q. Today is my birthday. But my mom didn't even wish me. She was in bad mood from last 2 days when we had a argument. But she carried it away till this day. I always wanted my birthday to be special. I am not a teenager but still I think that this day ...
A. 7 December 2015: Aww...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUUUUUU!!!!
Have a wonderful day, the rest of it, and have a great year!! Don't be too troubled by this, you just have a good time.. Is there any movie that you can go watch? Just kick up your heels and relax.. :)
... (read in full...)
Am I a whore for cheating?
Q. I never thought I would be writing this story. I was a woman with integrity, morals and despite being treated like crap over the years by my selfish alcoholic husband, would never cheat on him..and then about a year ago when things were at the ...
A. 4 December 2015: Hi there,
No, please do not label yourself like that.
But as you yourself know, what you're indulging in is unhealthy. Clearly you are not happy in your own relationship and that is why you are looking for comfort and solace elsewhere. As yo... (read in full...)
I want a child but my boyfriend doesn't. Should I tell him I'm going off contraception?
Q. So I've been with my partner for 3 years . I have had the implant in my arm for nearly 6 years . It's only meant to last 3 years ? Is there a specific time limit for this contraception? Me and my partner don't use any other form of protecti...
A. 3 December 2015: Hello, I'm not sure, but certainly the doctor who was in charge of the procedure would be able to tell you how long it will last. I saw online that it usually lasts for three years. Yes you definitely should tell him that you are going to h... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my boyfriend's psychologist telling him what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has just started pyschologist therapy for stress and other stuff. Last week he came out of his session all chatty and telling me how it was. This week he just said I don't want to have to tell you how all my sessions go if I don't feel ...
A. 3 December 2015: Oh that sounds terrible. I wonder why the counsellor would tell him something like that. They usually leave the door open for the patient to take decisions, I would think. But you should remember that despite what she told him, he stayed with you.... (read in full...)
Did my old flame let me down easy or leave the door open?
Q. I am in my early 40's and recently asked an old flame who I have become friends with on fb again as I already know his sister. I mentioned to him that when I am next in town in a few weeks would he like to meet up for a drink briefly before I go ...
A. 3 December 2015: Hi there,
I really can't say for sure - it could be either of the two options. I think it is best that you not contact him for now, and wait till he contacts you. Anyway you've already invited him once, so the ball is now in his court. Let him ... (read in full...)
I like him but he's not very nice to me
Q. The guy I play or knows I like him, but he always says he "hates" me. But although he's like that on the outside, with other people, when we text and stuff, he says he only says that because it's "funny". He acts like a complete a-hole but I still ...
A. 3 December 2015: Hi there, You know, some boys at that age can be very immature and a little mean too. He might be behaving the way he is to look 'cool' in front of his friends. Do you really like someone who doesn't treat you well in front of others? You oug... (read in full...)
I made a mistake, hurt my friend and now I don't know how to make things right!
Q. Hey what's up guys, Kind of messed things up with a friend of mine. She asked me a question last night saying do guys know when girls are wearing too much makeup? And I said I think so, and she proceeded to show me a picture and said do you thin...
A. 8 November 2015: I think a genuine heartfelt apology would do wonders. You can say that you shouldn't have said those mean comments, and that you are really really sorry.
About the makeup, she probably knows that she looks different, that's why she asked you how ... (read in full...)
Do you believe once a cheat always a cheat ?
Q. I met my husband three years ago when we both were in different relationships. He was newly married and I was in a long term relationship. He is very good looking and girls would always flirt with him but he would say "sorry ladies I'm off t...
A. 8 November 2015: No I actually don't believe that's true. Most people that are serial philanders might be examples of this proverb, but that doesn't mean that every person is necessarily like that.
I would suggest that if you see his love for you, and have no ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be her second best friend!
Q. Hello, I have a problem and I really need some help. Basically I have this friend and she she's my best friend and were so close, like we see eachother whenever we can. We cuddle and kiss eachothers cheeks and stuff were so close. But the problem in ...
A. 1 November 2015: From your question it seems like you are a very sweet girl. Well you know what, I really appreciate your honesty in telling us exactly how you feel. I have to say it is something that I have felt as well. Not everyone we like will like us the same... (read in full...)
The question is, should I tell the lady how I feel after we've had 5 months apart?
Q. The question is, should I tell the lady how I feel after we've had 5 months apart? All night having a good time with everyone, celebrating my ex's PhD which she achieved today. (ABC) ABC says things that stay with me "I missed my chance" - "This was ...
A. 1 November 2015: Well, you should first ask yourself how serious you are about getting back with her. Will you give your 100% to this relationship this time? Are the reasons that led to your break up the last time, not there any more? If the answer is yes to... (read in full...)
Should I confess to cheating? I don't want to lose him, for he's my rock and I love him dearly
Q. I have been with my boyfriend over 2 years and we are completely in love. He means everything to me and he's the kindest, most caring and loyal man I have ever been with. We argue like most couples and one argument we had while I was visiting my ...
A. 1 November 2015: Maybe other posters would disagree, but I think that you ought to. I would want to know, if I were in that situation, simply because then I would be in a position to make an informed decision on whether or not I wanted to continue. If you tell hi... (read in full...)
Feeling nervous and unable to talk to him properly. What to do?
Q. One guy is staying opposite to my home. I am seeing him there for almost one year. The very first time he used to stare at me but i just ignored. Sometimes he will be doing something to impress me but i just ignored. I started neglecting him a...
A. 1 November 2015: If you are not interested in having a relationship with him, then I think that you should start ignoring him, or at the very most, be polite but brusque with answers to any of his questions. If you talk a little more, or you have certain body lan... (read in full...)
How can I tighten up my vaginal muscles?
Q. I did sex before two months . Now I am in a another relationship. And we will get married in 6 months . But I don't want to feel embarrassed when we're having sex. So I want to tighten my vagina when I sex with him . P...
A. 1 November 2015: There really is no way to regain your hymen, unless you opt for surgery, which, in any case is totally unnecessary. As has been pointed out by many people on this site, you can break your hymen through very routine activity - like strenuous exerci... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for marriage but my parents are forcing me
Q. Dear cupids, I am 25 yr old girl. I am a struggling engineer. I have great plans about my career. But my parents want me to get married. But getting married is not my priority. Right now nothing is important for me BUT my career. I tried telling ...
A. 20 October 2015: Hi,
I'm sorry that your parents are trying to force you to get married. The thing is, they are also worried about your future in their own way. As parents, they would be thinking, oh, I want her to have a good support, and a stable relation... (read in full...)
How do I protect my children from the unwholesome things online?
Q. Hi I am a 31 yr old mother. I have 5 yr old daughter and 3 yr old son. Now a days the children are tech savvy. Even the films, their promos show some porn like scenes, objectinable language, offensive actions like raising middle finger and sometimes ...
A. 20 October 2015: Hi,
I think that limiting use of the TV and computer will go a long way in sheltering your children from the sometimes harmful images that they could see on the screen.
As a parent in this day and age, welfare of your child also includes, a... (read in full...)
My piano teacher and I are close, but is it too close?
Q. My teacher and I are very close. He always tells me I'm his favorite student and we always joke and have interesting sometimes inappropriate conversations. He told me I'm beautiful, he always gets upset when other people hit on me. And he has hugged ...
A. 20 October 2015: Hey,
I'm sorry, but it is not at *all* appropriate for him to say the things or behave the way he is with you as you are a minor.
Please keep the relationship as a teacher-student one, and do not blur the lines, or allow him to either. If the c... (read in full...)
I miss the way our friendship was. What do I say?
Q. I recently started a position in a new office far from my home. Strangely enough, my boss' wife suggested that I meet one of the other coworkers. He had just gotten out of a relationship and after I told her I was single, she thought we would be a ...
A. 9 October 2015: I don't understand - why did your boss' wife set you up with this man if she knew he was not actually single?
However, I agree with the other poster - it is best that you end things with this person. Just keep his distance from him, because ... (read in full...)
Why do I obsess over particular guys so easily?
Q. Hello there!! Well basically I'm a 22 year old girl who only had like 2 very short and non serious relationships in her past, and therefore as one would assume my confidence level and self esteem is way way low. Soo..in order to try and help mys...
A. 9 October 2015: Wow, I literally have no answers for you, because I was the same as you for a very very long time! The only thing that seemed to make a difference to me was getting into a steady relationship. I guess this might be the case with you for a while,... (read in full...)
What can I do to ensure he doesn't give up on me, when he's facing family pressure?
Q. please help.I am 20 and my fiance is 19.he still lives with his mother and she doesnt kno were still engaged.she hates me for no real reason and has been trying to force him to leave me for about 9 months now. she recently found out that I came to ...
A. 9 October 2015: Hey there, Both of you are really young - 19 and 20. He is still living with his parents. Are you two going to college? As he is living with his family, he will still have to respect the laws in his house. It is better that both of you keep mar... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or illegal to pursue a relationship with a teacher at my child's school?
Q. Please can some one help me. I have fallen in love with a teacher who works at the school my children attend,and i was wondering is there a law that States a teacher cannot have a relationship with a parent? He has feelings for me too but he is sc...
A. 9 October 2015: Hi, Is he the teacher of your child's class? Or of another class? If he teaches a class that is different from the one that your child attends, then I don't see how your relationship could possibly be a problem. If he is/could poten... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is bi, should he have told me?
Q. Somebody told me that they think that my boyfriend is bi and i found from a face book profile saying that he was in to woman and men and now my sister said that he should have told me is she right....
A. 4 October 2015: Hi, I think that the answer to this depends on how long the two of you have been together. If you have been together only for a short time, then I think he must have thought that this information was very personal, and he would have shar... (read in full...)
I'm not happy and his dog also causes me problems. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone Hope someone could give me some good advice me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 4 years we have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and he Has a dog a rottweiler that he had when we met we moved in together. He is at work all day ...
A. 4 October 2015: Hello! I just wanted to add something to the other answers too. You are really really lucky to have a dog in your family. He seems to be very friendly, and the only problem (which can seem like a big one) is that he is very naughty and not ... (read in full...)
How do we handle gossipers? This is my first relationship since my marriage broken down.
Q. I've recently started my first relationship since my marriage broke up and it's with a guy who I began working with last year. At the time I met him, my marriage was strong and then we started to fight more and more until I couldn't stand being in...
A. 4 October 2015: Hey there, I guess the most important thing to learn from this is that you should just let go of others' gossip. You really can't control what any other person thinks, and it shouldn't get in the way of your happiness. People will say what they wa... (read in full...)
How doI stop myself from kissing my ex?
Q. I find myself kissing my ex whenever we are alone together. I'm not happy with this and really wish to stop it. though I often hesitate to kiss him, but after sometime I feel like kissing him too. We broke up about 4months ago. Pease what can I do...
A. 2 October 2015: Hi there, I feel that that is really up to you. As janniepeg mentioned, what is it that you want from this relationship? Are you truly over him, and just want to have a platonic friendship? Or is there an undercurrent of other feelings here? ... (read in full...)
Our families forbid us to get married, but I can't see myself with anyone else
Q. I was in a serious relationship for 9 yrs wid a guy frm my college. But now when v decided to get married, v gt to know dat both our families do not support dis marriage as there is some very old relation wid both our families. By that, they say me ...
A. 2 October 2015: Really sorry to hear that.. 9 years is a really long time. But is there any way that you could convince the families? From the problem that you have mentioned, I feel that you are from the North - you could tell them that in the South, there is ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? She talked badly about my bf to my ex. I don't want to be friends anymore!
Q. So, I used to work in hospitality and actually met my ex there. He's a great guy but we just weren't compatible so we broke up months ago but we stayed friends from a distance, rarely talking and never seeing each other. Now, I also met "Tee" there ...
A. 2 October 2015: Hello there, That's really strange. It seems to me like this friend, Tee, likes to gossip. That's not the trait of a good friend. Especially if they're gossipping about you or someone important to you, to someone else. First, I have to ask - ho... (read in full...)
How doI stop myself from kissing my ex?
Q. I find myself kissing my ex whenever we are alone together. I'm not happy with this and really wish to stop it. though I often hesitate to kiss him, but after sometime I feel like kissing him too. We broke up about 4months ago. Pease what can I do...
A. 2 October 2015: Hello,
I can add one thing. If you are alone with him, just remind yourself why the two of you broke up in the first place.
Anyway you felt that the relationship was not working out, so why are you wasting your time on him? This might even ... (read in full...)
Will it work if I get back with my soulmate?
Q. Hi everyone, I met with my ex for a few drinks on Sunday for the first time in 7 years since we split up. We were together for 6 years prior to splitting and it was my decision to end things as I just felt that we were at different points in o...
A. 2 October 2015: Hey there,
I'm not sure whether any person can definitively tell you whether or not this relationship will work.
It is up to the two of you to give this relationship 100%, and to nurture this into something really wonderful. Since you were t... (read in full...)
I'm questioning our moral compatability
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm torn, confused, and seeking your comments. I have been dating Mike for 10 months. I moved in with him a month ago and recently found out (two weeks ago) that he is into threesomes. He was invited (8 months ago) to participate with...
A. 2 October 2015: Wow, I understand your concerns. You should tell him that you are not into this lifestyle, and if he wants to be with you, then it has to be a monogamous relationship. Try not to judge him for simply liking threesomes. There are people that pref... (read in full...)
I am miserable in my marriage and in love with a married man
Q. Hi everyone! I’m confronted with a situation I cant’ handle any longer, so please give me your advice. I’m married for 15 years, childless. We used to have a good relationship until the daily problems, mainly the financial ones, haven driven my ...
A. 2 October 2015: Hi, (So sorry for the late reply) I hope both of you seek marriage counselling for repairing the marriage, and for the alcohol-related issues. The counsellor will definitely have avenues/contacts for your husband to get rid of his alcohol-dependen... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my six-year-old's sibling jealousy
Q. Hi not sure whether can post this here but here goes I have a 6 year old son who is extremely jealous of his 10 mmonth old Sister I have tried everything I can think of keeping him involved spending time just me and him and him and his dad just ...
A. 2 October 2015: Hi, I would actually suggest having all three of you - your son, daughter and you, spend time together, rather than spending one on one time with your son alone. Let him be a part of the process of feeding, bathing and playing with her, under ... (read in full...)
I am miserable in my marriage and in love with a married man
Q. Hi everyone! I’m confronted with a situation I cant’ handle any longer, so please give me your advice. I’m married for 15 years, childless. We used to have a good relationship until the daily problems, mainly the financial ones, haven driven my ...
A. 16 September 2015: Namaskar, It is very perceptive of you to realise that you are feeling this attraction to this man because of the unhappiness in your marital relationship. Your husband drinks a lot - is it an addiction, or is it not that bad, but he can't ho... (read in full...)
Are these little red flags popping up? Do I need to worry?
Q. Hi All. It’s been a while since I posted on here, but I’m really hoping you might be able to offer some advice. So I am in a (same sex) relationship for almost 10 months now, and for the most it has been incredible! I love this girl with all my...
A. 16 September 2015: Namaskar, I personally don't feel like these are issues that are so serious as to warrant a breakup, but they are bothering you, and they would bother me too if I were in the same situation. So what you ought to do is to just tell her. She seem... (read in full...)
We're both married but I want her in my life! How do I get her back?
Q. Hi Friends Really sad for me..... Both of us are married, she is 30 and I am 42. I met her few month back in her office. She is beautiful and nice. We start talking on phone and chat. But when she came to know my feelings through mail. She asked ...
A. 16 September 2015: Namaskar, It clearly seems like you are crossing the line when she has already told you to your face that she is not interested in having a relationship with you. Please refrain from contacting or troubling her again as she is well within her ... (read in full...)
I consider myself a straight male, but I have this urge to be sexual with a man, what do I do?
Q. I consider myself a straight male, had a few girlfriends and only find women attractive and view as partners. But I have this urge to be sexual with a man, to be as I know it as a bottom, there's just something that really excites me, I don't want ...
A. 16 September 2015: Is it specifically being with a man that you fancy? Or having a woman peg you would be satisfying as well? You are definitely at least bi-curious. I feel like you should pluck up courage to have one sexual encounter with a man, and after that I ... (read in full...)
How to deal with boyfriend's best female friend?
Q. We have been together a bit more than a year. Half a year ago we had hard time in our relationship (broke up for a few weeks). No serious reason: we are two stubborn people. My boyfriend has a female friend (for 3-4 years by now) with who they sha...
A. 16 September 2015: Namaskar,
I agree with the other posters. You have to let your boyfriend know that this is unacceptable behaviour on his part. It seems like their relationship is platonic with undercurrents of something else? Maybe she has made it her business... (read in full...)
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