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writes:Hi,My boyfriend is constantly on Facebook and when I say constantly I mean all the time. It's almost like his life revolves around it, as soon as he wakes up, throughout the day and in the middle of the night. He's 30 and has very few friends that he actually sees, goes out with or spends time with. I think it's quite sad and tried to talk to him about it, but he cannot see anything wrong. What can I say so he can see that it is excessive and there is a whole real world out there?
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (12 December 2015):
 He might not be as interested in out of house socializing and, if so, fair enough.As for you are being neglected, I would send him a Facebook message. You can either invite him out somewhere (have something specific in mind - date, time etc) or inform him that you feel alone and if this is going to continue you might as well be single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2015): Personally, I have much more admiration for people who live in the real world.
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (11 December 2015):
Rather than telling him that there's something wrong with him, which he denies, why don't you go another route?
Plan an outing together. Just spend an entire day outside, go watch a movie, or go for a picnic, or some nice activity together - which will ensure that both of you will use your phone minimally and actually spend quality time together.
These days social media is also becoming a major addiction to many. It's just that its side-effects are not as harmful/deadly as alcohol or drugs and so it really isn't taken that seriously. But the thing is that it takes away a LOT of time and energy from us, and sometimes the negativity that we might come across online will fester and permeate our 'real' lives as well.
I'm afraid that there is really no way to tell someone that they're addicted to something when they are unwilling to admit it to themselves. Just actively use your time and energy on fun-filled activities together. This might lead him to naturally let go of the Facebook obsession like getting rid of moulting skin. :) (wish I could have come up with a better analogy!)
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2015): i don't know about your boyfriend, but i am CONSTANTLY on Facebook. it just gives me something to do, and something to entertain me. maybe that is what he is looking for. have you been trying to do something with him that isn't sitting on the couch watching tv or something? because that is a super easy way to switch to Facebook because he's bored. try going out and doing something where he can't be on his phone. go laser tagging or something where his hands are occupied. But if this is something that you just can't get over then you might have to accept that it's time to move on. You can't force someone to change. and if he thinks its fine then he will see no reason to change. if he does change it will be for you and not for him and when people do that they begin to resent you for making them be who they are not. If you want to stay with him but not deal with him being on Facebook, tell him that you will only spend time with him if he keeps his phone out of his hand. if he starts ignoring you for social media, then leave. but you can't say that its sad or that there is a problem with it. just because you think that doesn't mean that its true for him. if you don't like him for who he is and you want to change him then its better for you to find someone else you don't think is sad.
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