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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I dated and lived with a girl, the only person I have slept with, about four years ago, but it ended when she wanted to get married and i realized she wasn't the person for me. Since then I have not had sex, or a girlfriend, and am getting desperate and lonely.Ironically, it seems plenty of girls are interested in me. I consider myself attractive, and always catch the eye of girls when on the street, or on the train. Often I am unsure if this is a sign they like me or not. I usually end up ignoring them, or on the rare occasions I start a conversation, I either say something really stupid or talk for a bit and then walk off.I don't know how I can fix this situation. I have always had lots of friends, but I have only ever had one girlfriend. If I do start chatting with a girl I like I have no idea what move to make. I am worried she will be offended if I try something direct as kissing her. I am too shy to even ask someone out on a date.What should I try to do?
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (19 November 2007):
 You're reading exactly the right signs. Eye contact and smiles are big giveaways, and asking people out on a date is not a big deal. I too was incredibly shy until the first time I did it (the answer was "no") and after that I never looked back. Using the word "date" isn't good though, when you're talking, simply ask "would you like to go for a drink sometime" it's simple, not overly "soppy" and even when the answer is no, you confidence and determination, will grow each time.
It seems this will be your only hurdle, you've already done what most people find the difficult part, so pluck up your courage, and go get 'em!
Best of luck mate =)
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