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writes:i cant do this anymorei met a guy online and im so into him its crazy we texted and talked on the fone for like 3 weeks so into each other and its kind of fading off, he doesnt seem interested anymore and when i mentioned going to see him this weekend he was properly vague about it.i am so into him i cant breathe.i dont think i can be rejected by him, theres nothing else in my life right now worth living for.this sounds stupid but its true. i cant do this anymore. i cant i cant Advise, please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): I know exactly how you feel because I am experiencing this myself...similar situation, met on line etc. he has asked me to meet him soon, but I am so into him I'm scared he's going to back out at the last minute. To be honest with you I don't think it is love we are feeling but just an enormous crush...my solution is to try and busy myself as much as I can and try and talk to other people on line too. hope my advice helps, if you text, try to pester him it will only put him off. so try and be cool, even though it's driving you mad...best of luck.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Maybe he is just nervous about meeting for the first time, after getting to know someone without meeting them, this is a big step, especially if there is the worry that you won't click in real life, like you have online / text / phone.
I'm in exactly the same situation personally but on the other side of things, and for me the issues are money, nerves, how to get to where I need to go etc. and of course the general nervousness of meeting someone new
I think you are over-thinking things and shouldn't be too worried =)
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Honestly, I think you really need to chill out a little. To be into somebody so much after a mere 3 weeks is a little worrying. Maybe you're the type who falls in love fast, and while that's nice, it can also be very damaging.
I understand if you don't want to explain, but why are things so bad for you right now that you feel like you had nothing else before he came along?
It's only been 3 weeks. Maybe he just doesn't feel that way about you after talking to you a little more often. It's not to say that you've done anything wrong, it merely suggests that perhapps he just changed his mind. While that may seem unfair, it's something that happens with people. Some of us have that ability to just decide that something/someone is, or is not what they want.
Don't talk like this is the end of the world. I'll repeat again, it's only been 3 weeks. There are people out there who marry, believe that they will never meet anybody better, are together for years, and it still sometimes doesn't work out. Some people are able to do just that, meet somebody better after being married before. My Dad is an example, actually. He was 22 at the time and was married for 7 years before being cheated on. He then met my Mum, and they've been together for 20 years now.
Don't let this cause such a strain on you. It isn't worth it.
If you want to message me, do so. Good luck.
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