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writes:hi, i just turned 18 not too long ago and im in a long distance relationship with someone, but i lied about my looks a little, i sent a real picture, only one and it was with really good lighting, im not ugly or anything its just i lied about my weight a little, im 5 10 almost 5 11 and weight about 250 lbs, i dont look too bad cuz im so tall but im afraid he wouldnt like me if he seen me like this, im trying to lose weight because we are planing to meet in about 3 - 7 months from now and i really dont want him to see that i lied, i have known him for about 7 months and been dating him for about 3 months ,i really love him and never felt this way about anyone before and im sure he would still love me the same. i just dont want to be a liar, not about somthing like that, and i just feel hes too good for me somtimes, it makes me sad and stressed because i love him but im prolonging the meet because of my problem, and im affraid if i dont do somthing im going to pass up what could have been the best thing in my life, what should i do?
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reader, desprete +, writes (8 January 2008):
desprete is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys are right, he did fall in love with me because of my personality, im still going to try my hardest to lose a little of weight just not feel so stressed about it, im still going to be really nervous when i first see him. I think ill tell him the truth before i do see him so i get no suprises, it would hurt worse that way if he does actually care about weight, i kind of let off hints that im not skinny skinny and i joke around asking if hed still love me if im fat and his answer is yes, but i still cant help but be nervous. Thanks everyone for your advise and support it means a lot to me =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Well don't stress about it cause that is only going to cause you premature aging. So relax. Its not the end of the world.
Now about your weight, you should lose weight for your health. At your height you should be weighing at around 150 at the most. Being overweight will cause you many health problems in the long run. Losing weight will not only do wonders for your self image but will prevent many diseases.
It can be very hard to lose weight and educate yourself about health without proper support. So I advise you to join a weight loss group such as weight watchers or perhaps jenny craig. They will provide you with the proper tools, support and guidance for your weightloss challenge.
If money is an issue, and you can't afford to get support like that then you should pick up a weight loss book such as 'the zone.' If you follow a weightloss plan and stick to it you WILL lose weight. In fact the weight will come right off week by week. In 3 months you could lose as much as 40 lbs or more. So nutrition and calorie restriction is the most important thing you can do right now.
You also need to exercise. You can exercise in your own home or join a gym. The best way to exercise to lose weight is to set a goal for your self. For instance, say you want to be able to run 3 miles in 45 minutes. So train yourself to do this in the next 3 months. Start out by walking on a treadmill or outside for 40 minutes every 3 days. Eventually increase the intensity. Eventually instead of walking start jogging at your own pace and so on.
Don't forget to work out your muscles too. You need to do situps, pushups, lunges, and all that stuff. If you can't afford a trainer just pick up a book on exercise and that will be just as efficient. Probably the best overall workout is boxing. Maybe you could join a boxing gym. If you do that combined with proper nutrition, you will look like a supermodel by the time you meet this guy.
Good luck.
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 OK, heres the deal, You told a white lie, So tell another, You gained some weight lately, no biggie.
Mean while, set that date for three months time, go t the gym regular, or take hour long walks daily, plus eat only healthy foods, if you gotta snack, have an apple or a banana. Meals should be ballanced, with cereal in the morning, fruit for a snack mid morning, A small luch and a healthy dinner, or a healthy lunch and small dinner. You should only have one large meal a day, the other meals sustain you. A lot of people like to have the main meal at lunchtime and a smaller meal in the evening, as then you havethe day to burn off any unwanted calories, where as if you have the main meal in the evening, your going to sleep on it and those calories and fats are going to be absorbed by the body.
In short, change your eating habits just a little, take more regular exersize and aim for around 25 to 50 pound loss.
Becaus eyour tall, 200lb should be easy for you to carry, the ideal weight would be 150lb but Please dont try to loose 100lb in three months or you will end up hospitalised.
Healthy eating, and lots of exersize and you will see all that weight your so scared of, fall off you.
Though I would reccomend telling him the truth if you told him your only 100lb, cos he will be expecting a skeleton lol.
make sure you set that date, it will give you a goal to aim for, dont put it off if you havent lost what you wanted, he likes you because of yor personality, not your looks xxxxx
Take care hun, good luck xxxxxxxxx
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Hey. I had a girlfriend who used to lie about her weight as well. She ended up in hospital after a horrible bungee diving accident!!
Richard
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reader, muffy +, writes (26 November 2007):
 hey sweetie,i know how you feel.i tried to make all my pictures look better then i did when i sent them to my long distance relationship.i always thought that i looked bad so i tried to make the picture better.If he really loves you, it wont matter how you look to him,but just that your around and he finally gets to meet you.so dont be worried if you lied a little about your looks because a lot of people do including me.ok.
i hope i helped
love and kisses
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (26 November 2007):
 A similar thing has been done to me, she lied about her weight and put off meeting over and over again. Eventually she told me she had lied because of how she feels about her body and thought I wouldn't like her because she was big. We still met and got on well, but things just didn't work out. For me, her size meant nothing, it was the person I was interested in. Tell him the truth, if he truly cares for you, everything will be fine =) xx
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reader, chaztaylor1991 +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Hello There My Friend
DONT WORRY!! You hhave nothing to worry about, You say you have been dating for 3 months without ever seeing you apart from the picture you sent, He obviously fell in love with you for personality reasons.
Believe In Yourself
Much Love...X
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