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writes:Hi guys, I was wondering if I could have some advice. I am due to backpack round Europe for four and half months and I leave in just under a week. I am 32 years old and I have a great job and a great apartment that I love. I am going to be giving this all up to go. I knew at the time that I would, as I said to myself, I will get another job when I get back and I will find another place to live. The only thing is reality is setting in; half of me wants to go because I don't want to end up regretting it, but the other part says I am too old now and I would be risking a lot. On top of that I have a great guy who I have been with a few years and I am worried about leaving him for so long as well. I am sacred that it is too long to be apart from your partner, especially if you are use to spending everyday with them. I would really love some advice from guys and girls you have gone away from their partners for a while and did it work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): SadieBea has given you some very good feedback!
Look, if you have been with your bf for a few years now, and things are going well, surely he understands that this backpacking trip is important to you? He'll miss you, but I would hope he does not begrudge you something that means a lot to you!
Get an international phone card so you can call him frequently; send postcards and let him know you are thinking of him. Then, enjoy!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (18 September 2007):
Why didn't you ask him to go. Maybe you hope to find a new Mr. Right on your trip. Put the bf out of your mind and cocentrate on the trip.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): Hi, firstly, you are not too old to go backpacking. I travelled to Australia and Europe a few years back and made great friends with many men and women alot older than me. I think you'll be surprised at how many people in their thirties and a lot older go travelling. I met many women who were travelling after a marriage breakup or after their children had left home, so don't be worried about that (also, you're only 32 - so can hardly be classed as old!). You will also be surprised at how quickly four months goes past - therefore your relationship should not suffer at all. Having said that, many people find that once they have been away on their own for a while, they get a different perspective on life and decide to make changes. However, if you are happy and secure in your relationship, then four months will make no difference and as they say 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'. My relationship didn't work out, but I was away for one year and had been with my boyfriend for only 6 months when I went away, so our situations can't be compared. You will have a great time and experience lots of great things, I'm sure, so relax and be positive. You are doing the right thing here, you only live once, so you must take every chance to live your life to the full. Best of luck XX
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