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My borfriend is training me to be his ex.
Q. my bf and i have a huge fight at least 1 time a week because i feel as though he is trying to train me to be his ex how do i get over it ...
A. 6 October 2007: Hey, he is himself and does what he knows. It's up to you to show that you are different and unique. You need to do a little training yourself.... (read in full...)
She always flirts and I'm worried she will cheat, what should I do?
Q. I am with my first girlfriend ever and also the first girl I have ever slept with. We have been together for 6 months and she says I make her happier than anyone else ever has. Well we were close friends for nearly 3 years before we started going ...
A. 6 October 2007: Really fellow, is she the kind of girl you want to be with. I think your hopes for a LTR is slim to nil.... (read in full...)
What to do? I need answers.
Q. What do you do when you realize you are in love with someone who doesn't love you back? How long do you wait before you can say it will never happen? How do you move on to someone else who CAN love you if you are in love with another? ...
A. 6 October 2007: You need to look logically at the situation and consider the realistic possibilities. Like, is he in love with someone else? Is he capable of loving anybody? What interest in you has he shown? Can you live with his flaws? You can love more than one... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 6 October 2007: Realize she is a different person than your prior gf. Flying off the handle is a good way to start her thinking of someone better. Treat her like you would want to be treated. Each time you feel jealous, think what is the cause. Then if it is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I showed another guy my nipple ring?
Q. Dear Cupid I have been going out with my adoreable boyfriend for nearly a year now and things are brilliant however, I tend to get a bit too drunk when i am out with my girlfriends and last weekend I showed some random guy my nipple ring. ...
A. 5 October 2007: Don't tell and don't do it again.... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid or jealous?
Q. Do I have cause for concern here or am I just jealous? I started seeing a chick, and she has a ton of friends who're guys, and I always see myspace pictures of her drinking with these guys, and them having their arms around her and whatnot. ...
A. 5 October 2007: It's OK to date a girl like her but don't expect much unless she makes big changes in her style, which you should not push for.... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to confess?
Q. my girlfriend had sex with my cousin on our sons first b day.we were all drunk. she says she is really sorry.we separated for about a month.now we are back together.it dosn't feel right though.we don't have sex very often and when we do she just ...
A. 5 October 2007: Tell her if she can't love you wholeheartedly you want to break up with her. You both are leading a miserable life.... (read in full...)
Why did my ex-girlfriend lie?
Q. hello there, 3 months ago my ex broke up with me just as we rented out a place together, she never really given me a satisfying answer she just kept on saying it's her and not me. I thought maybe my temper brought it on. Also, she just joined a...
A. 5 October 2007: Take her back if she promises to be faithful. She had a moment of weakness.... (read in full...)
How do you know if your'e bestfriend likes you for more than a bestfriend??
Q. Help!! I know his is gonna seem dumb but I do need help. Okay I like this guy. Everyone says he likes me.He even acts like he likes me. HE has a gf but is gonna break up with her when she gets back from a trip she went on. Should I tell him how I ...
A. 5 October 2007: Tell him you like him, but don't date him until you're sure he has broken up with his gf.... (read in full...)
My friend and I like the same guy, but I pretended not to - what should I do?
Q. Me and my friend both like the same guy. I liked him first and my friend told me to go out with him but i couldn't since he was already going out with another girl. When he became single my friend all of sudden starts liking him . just to make my ...
A. 5 October 2007: Stick with your decision. Don't go after him at all, never.... (read in full...)
How can I get my partner to love me as much as I love her?
Q. It took about three years of hardwork to win the heart of the love of my life.Almost one year into the relationship,my love tells me that she is finding it difficult to bring herself to love me as much as i do her.She had always told me she was ...
A. 5 October 2007: Different people love in different ways. If she is attracted to others after this much time I say it's time to move on.... (read in full...)
Son-in-law is controlling father-in-law's dating life
Q. what do you think about a son-in-law controlling his father-in-laws date life? the father-in-law fears that the son-in-law will take it out on his daughter when he finds out that the father-in-law is back with his girlfriend after being broken u...
A. 5 October 2007: Either your bf is a wimp or he is using the inlaws as an excuse to keep you from getting too close.... (read in full...)
Does my best mate like me?
Q. hi my best mate and her bf broke up last week.ive liked him 4 ages.i dno if he likes me tho.hes always around me and bitin my arm.but thats the way he is help ...
A. 5 October 2007: Don't date your mate's ex. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister-in-law wants to date him.
Q. i have been dating this guy for almost 3 yrs. even though we broke for a short time. we are back together and dating exclusively. he has a sister-in-law that is trying to get him as a bf. her son and my boyfriend's daughter are pushing this too. ...
A. 5 October 2007: This is a problem for your bf to handle. Just keep an eye open to see what happens and you'll find out how good a bf he really is.... (read in full...)
My borfriend is training me to be his ex.
Q. my bf and i have a huge fight at least 1 time a week because i feel as though he is trying to train me to be his ex how do i get over it ...
A. 5 October 2007: That depends on how good of a trainer he is. Maybe he likes to control you and you like it. Don't find problems where there are none. Then again maybe you are untrainable.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't motivated.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. We met when I was 16 and he was 17. At first things were great, and somethings still are. However, he isn;t motivated to do anything with his life. It's been like this for almost a ...
A. 5 October 2007: Your advice is easy. Dump the loser and find a guy with your brains and ambitions.... (read in full...)
Holding out until marriage, but the plans haven't begun.
Q. I have been with my fiance for 6 years and engaged for 2 and a half of them. We have never had sex. She says she wants to wait until marriage and I agreed to that. So I proposed with the intention of getting married soon after. Now its 2-1/2 ye...
A. 5 October 2007: She is using you. Also she may have a low sex drive which would disappoint many men. You need to do some deciding.... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend so why do I have a crush?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few years now and everything in great, we're stronger than ever and Im sure he's "the one", my problem is this: A couple of months ago a new guy joined my firm and Ive developed a stupid crush on him...we...
A. 5 October 2007: You need to develope the ability to be around people your attracted to without fear that you'll act on those feeling. There are a lot of people that have chrisma but that does mean they or other need act on their feeling. Unfortunately some people ... (read in full...)
Really need advice on which girl to choose!
Q. Hi there guys, just need some advice for a slightly sticky situation i've gotten myself into. Last weekend, I met a woman that I really liked at a 21st and although she left early, she added me on facebook. This being the only form of communic...
A. 5 October 2007: You are not old fashioned you are naieve. A date is doing something together not necessarily an appointment for sex. Do you expect predestionation to control your fate?... (read in full...)
I have a bf but this new guy carries on flirting with me. What should I do?
Q. I have had a boyfriend for four years but we have to be apart because of the nature of my work. i met a new guy and he always flirts on me. He made me fall for him. The problem is when he felt that i'm falling for him he just didn't mind and did not ...
A. 5 October 2007: Don't be so fickle. Learn to control yourself.... (read in full...)
Why is he convinced I am cheating?
Q. hi im wandering why my man is convinced ive been cheating, there is no real evidence against me only a phone number that is my cousins. There isn't a name, an address, a place of residence nothing yet he continues to say I have a (friends with ...
A. 5 October 2007: He can't believe a girl like you is totally into him. He need constant reassurance. I think he will get over it.... (read in full...)
Is he still interested in his ex?
Q. My bf of 3 years still talks to his ex. He talks to her almost everyday. This bothers me and I have told him so in several occasions. It really does bother me specially b/c he is doing it behind my back. We live in different states and his ex ...
A. 5 October 2007: He talks to her almost everyday? Of course, he's still interested in her. You would be a fool to keep on with him like you are. Don't move in with him unless he marries you and backs off the ex.... (read in full...)
His mum died and he's becoming drunk every night. What can I do to help?
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and things are at the point where we are discussing maybe sharing a flat together next year. Recently (about 2 weeks ago) his mum died of cancer and I've really tried to be there for him as ...
A. 5 October 2007: All you can do is warn him and keep your distance. You may be lucky to see this flaw in his character before you invested too much in him emotionally.... (read in full...)
New boyfrined, but am far too shy to talk to him much. How do I overcome my shyness?
Q. I have a new boyfriend and I'm kind of shy around him. I do love him but I'm a shy person by nature and I sometimes I'm too shy to talk with him. How do I overcome my shyness?...
A. 5 October 2007: You have to push yourself a little. Confidence comes from practice.... (read in full...)
Really need advice on which girl to choose!
Q. Hi there guys, just need some advice for a slightly sticky situation i've gotten myself into. Last weekend, I met a woman that I really liked at a 21st and although she left early, she added me on facebook. This being the only form of communic...
A. 5 October 2007: You are not an item up for sale that goes to the first bidder. You are free to date both girls until you want to become serious with one of them.... (read in full...)
My ex seems to be trying to make me miserable
Q. I've recently just broken up with my ex-boyfriend. We both agreed to move on. I've been dating a guy i really like. My ex started to kick up a fuss, and has been constantly arguing with me. Now i find out he's dating one of my friends! I don't ...
A. 4 October 2007: He's acting macho. Ignore him. Avoid him. Don't respond to him.... (read in full...)
I've done the no contacting thing, but now she seems to have turned the tables on me! What do you think?
Q. Hello I have done the no contact for a few weeks. My ex was calling me and I would call her back a day or two later . I would let her leave me a message. Well she emailed me a few days ago , and I emailed her back. Except now she has not emailed me ...
A. 4 October 2007: She playing a game. Stop responding.... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with her, but now she's dating her crush! Do I tell her how I feel?
Q. Hey people, yesterday, the girl with whom i am madly in love (we'll call her Jane) got asked out by her crush, and she said yes. Naturally, this saddens me, but I just dont know what to do... I have been told my numerous friends that I should tell ...
A. 4 October 2007: We can't get everything we want. But, we get nothing if we don't try. Ask her out next week and see what happens. Keep on trying until you are sure she won't consider you as boyfriend material.... (read in full...)
No friends, family, and I really miss my mother who died a couple of years back. I'm not living, just existing. How can I change this?
Q. i'm 29 years old and have no friends or family,my mother died a couple of years ago and i miss her so much she was my best friend and i could talk to her about anything now i feel so alone i never see anyone as i live out in the country and only ...
A. 4 October 2007: Talking on the internet is a good start. There are plenty of people out ther who would love to talk to you. Most everybody has to lose there mom and it is not easy, but you have only today for sure. Live each day as it comes.... (read in full...)
I have fantasies about my husband... with other women. Why is this a turn on?
Q. Ever since i met my husband i have fantasies about him being with other women. I know im his wife and not at all afraid of him leaving me for his other partners. I just want him to get all his fantasies answered. It really turns me on. I am shy ...
A. 4 October 2007: There are magazines and websites for swingers. That would be the place to start. It would be best to let him find the girl.... (read in full...)
Married 11 years (tomorrow), but I think I'm in love with my best friends brother!
Q. I have been married for 11 years tomorrow and i think I am in love with my best friends brother! I love my husband but I am not inlove with him. I would never want to hurt him but have been seeing this guy on the side. Please help me...
A. 4 October 2007: Your conduct is totally unacceptable. Stop your cheating.... (read in full...)
Confused! My bf isn't talking to me now, over my dad's reactions!
Q. Why would my boyfriend need acceptance from my father with regard to his daughter from a previous marriage. He is not talking to me since yesterday because of how my father responded when he was told about my boyfriends's daughter. The response was ...
A. 4 October 2007: What was your father's comment?... (read in full...)
Am I just unlucky or is it something I am doing wrong?
Q. Since starting college, I haven't been able to meet anyone around my age interested in a relationship. I attend a community college, so many of the women that attend are around 25 years of age. I apparently appear to many to be far older than I ...
A. 4 October 2007: It's all in the numbers. Make a goal of asking out every lady you fancy with the expectation only one in a hundred will be Miss Right. Sitting and thinking won't get you anywhere.... (read in full...)
How can I show him I love him?
Q. I love a guy but he don't feel that I love him. What can I do to make him feel that? And I have a very big problem... I feel too shy when I talk with him, so I can't even do anything to make him feel that. What can I do?...
A. 4 October 2007: If you treat him well and attentively and tell him you love him, that is all you need to do. Give him awhile and then tell him you may have to give up on him. Losing you may help him see the light.... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend says she loves me, but isnt IN love with me
Q. My fiancee and I broke up two months ago so she could figure out what as wrong and why she wasn't feeling the same way she had when we started dating. We were together for four years and also long distance relationship, but we visit each other ...
A. 4 October 2007: She is trying to let you down gently.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores my feelings, but when I try to break up he tells me he loves me
Q. hi..i just want to ask, why is my bf always ignoring my emotional feelings especially when he dont answers my call and messages..when i would try to break up with him he would just say he love me and my heart always listen to him....
A. 4 October 2007: You have low self esteem to hook up with a guy who treats you like crap. You should beieve that you deserve better and not allow such disrespect.... (read in full...)
The guy I like just told me he is joining the army
Q. Theres this guy i like we have kinda been dating and are planning on getting together. However things have already been quite complicated and now he just sprung on me that he is joining the army. i always told myself i'd never go out with a guy in ...
A. 4 October 2007: You are right to avoid starting a relationship with a guy about to enter the service. Wait on making any commitments.... (read in full...)
He wanted a baby with his ex-wife... Why doesn't he want one with me???
Q. Im 19, I moved out of my parents and I now live with my boyfriend who is 37. I know there’s an age difference but it works for us. Iv dated my boyfriend for a year and a half but iv known him for over 2 years. I feel that the time is right for us ...
A. 4 October 2007: He seems to have commitment anxiety. By now he should know if he's willing to a commitment. Tell him he needs to decide if he will marry you and start a family or you should consider moving on. Maybe he is affraid he can't make children.... (read in full...)
It's been a couple of days since she said she'd call and no sign of her! Is she playing the "not wanting to seem too eager" game ?
Q. Hi, I met this awesome girl who works at at restaurant about 3 months ago. At that time I had a girlfriend who she met when we cam in to eat. I have now been single for a couple of months and decided to roust up the courage to ask for her number. ...
A. 4 October 2007: Hang in there are make that date, she may turn out to be wonderful. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than I am (and he's married)
Q. I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than i am and he's married. I can't tear myself away from this guy and it's killing me inside that i feel this way about someone who has a wife and a family and is way passed my age. Yeah I know I ...
A. 4 October 2007: Sit pat for awhile until you reach the conclusion that you are wasting your time.... (read in full...)
How big an age gap is too big?
Q. Just a quick question. With age gaps how big a age gap do you think is to big? My friend is dating a man who is 55, she is 28. He smokes like a chimney, drinks too much (his eyes are yellow shot) and flirts with other women, he has a live in partner ...
A. 4 October 2007: Don't try to tell her what to do. Just point out the negative things he does and tell her you think she could do bettet.... (read in full...)
I am obsessed and confused with my younger love.
Q. My bf and I have been together for one year now. I'm much older than he is, he's in his twenties, and I'm 41. A month ago I found out that he has cheated on me twice, I found out after the second affair. He says that he loves me but that the age ...
A. 4 October 2007: Ditch the boy and get the man you deserve.... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 16 September 2007: You spend too much time dwelling. I think you need to make a point of occupying your mind with different thoughts. I find reading and watching comidies works for me.... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 14 September 2007: I think the both of you are in termoil. You should stop making long term plans in your head until 6 months following her divorce becoming final.... (read in full...)
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