Guys -- looks or personality?
Q. Hello all I have a question for the guys out there. Would you rather have a super hot woman with a pretty face and nice bod but dumb and needy. OR Would you rather have a sweetheart with a kind and generous heart but average looks and weight. ...
A. 4 October 2011: Personality every time. Looks do fade and attractive with bad personality is ugly. However, average looks with bad personality is also ugly in that sense. So, I'd look for the chemistry, the easy going type. But people are all types so attractive ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself taller?
Q. m 22 yrs old n my height is 5.4 inch only.. Is there another way to increase my height .. Plz suggest me How to increase my height?...
A. 3 October 2011: I believe at 22 you have reached your full adult height. Obviously, there are things such as shoes, inner soles, lifts etc. Your worries may be down to yourself though and not anyone else. You have a lot of advantages that you should be happy about. ... (read in full...)
How to get over prostitute guilt, and should I confess in future relationships?
Q. I started going to strip clubs a year ago with friends who were into it, and towards the end of the year, got into drinking and then going to prostitutes. I went three times, before I couldn't bear the guilt anymore. Since then I have been for ...
A. 3 October 2011: Firstly, don't mention the prostitutes to anyone. It's past and it will only hurt someone.
You say you know you wont go again and that that is all finished. Therefore, you have freed yourself from any future worry or temptation.
As for guilt, a... (read in full...)
She's the girl of my dreams but she wants space.
Q. Hello, I have been in a fairly good relationship for almost 5 years now, I love my girlfriend so much but she doesn't seem to appreciate it, lately things have started to go downhill, its been over 5 weeks since we have been intimate, we have had no ...
A. 3 October 2011: In this situation, I'm sorry to say that you can only do one thing. That is to give her the space she has asked for. You have tried talking, working things out, reaching out to her but this has all been ignored. Therefore, she doesn't want this at ... (read in full...)
Why would this guy still be on the dating site? I feel so used and disillusioned!
Q. I met a guy last week from a dating site for the first time. We had an amazing time and had sex which was fantastic! Of course this all sounds quick, but I believe it was the right thing to do at the time even though we only knew each other couple ...
A. 2 October 2011: I believe he probably goes round the sites and finds women to have sex with then moves on. He got what he wanted with you and now has moved on. The lack of messages from him and that he wont give his new number all mean he is finished with you now. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 weeks pregnant but still have signs of blood when I use the bathrrom
Q. im 13 weeks pregnent and when i go to toilet ( number 2) i always have blood when i wipe myself or in the toilet sumtimes its lots other times its not but never strong enought to go onto my underwear Whats wrong with me ??????...
A. 29 September 2011: Hi, GO TO GP tomorrow on Friday as soon as you can. You need this checked from a professional opinion. Make sure you do this just in case. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
Can I delete him off facebook? I don't want to know what he's up to!
Q. My ex dumped me a week and a half ago. We had a 1 year relationship. Its been very hard for me, but he is completely fine. He feels nothing about the break up and has moved on. I have to see my ex every day as we go to uni together and are in the ...
A. 28 September 2011: I would delete him. Also, you can block him as well. The block then stops him trying to find your profile. Also, it should send a message that things are over for you. ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a sin?
Q. I am a Christian (Catholic) girl and I have recently started masturbating myself, and I read lots of articles that says that masturbation is a sin. Is it true? Did God really prohibits it? P.S I am not using any toys or such....
A. 28 September 2011: If you really wanted to go into what is sin then there could be grounds that if someone kept idolising someone and constantly masturbating about them and looking at them and trying to get a picture of them then that would be stalking and a sin. But ... (read in full...)
How to get a girl to like me? Did I screw up?
Q. Hi. I'm a freshman at college. There's a really cute girl in my Chemistry course and I see her around often. Today though, I saw her at the library and talked to her for the first time - she came to the library to do her homework. I asked her if s...
A. 26 September 2011: Hi,
Thanks for your follow up. I think that's all you can do really. You did everything right. You said hello, and explained you were on the same course but she just didnt seem to want to further things. Maybe she was shy or nervous. Also, when... (read in full...)
I'm just really hurt and I didn't see it coming. Do I just let her go? I really do like her.
Q. First of all thank you for reading this! So i've been in love with my best friend now for close to two years. We met at a friend's house and we liked each other and went on a few dates. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years so she...
A. 26 September 2011: hELLO,
You are really wasting your time. This girl wrecked your other relationship with her games and undying feelings then simply throws you out when you responded to her. This girl doesn't want you and she never will. She is not a friend or anyt... (read in full...)
How to get a girl to like me? Did I screw up?
Q. Hi. I'm a freshman at college. There's a really cute girl in my Chemistry course and I see her around often. Today though, I saw her at the library and talked to her for the first time - she came to the library to do her homework. I asked her if s...
A. 26 September 2011: You explained you were on her course, offered help etc. She didn't seem to want to further this. She left without acknowledgement. I wouldn't bother if I were you. You did nothing wrong. Don't bother, the least she could have done was say thanks. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this irritating man child whom I had been dating?
Q. I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call ...
A. 23 September 2011: Hello,
He was going through the loss of a relationship. He had sex with you a few times then simply moved on. You contact him after 3 weeks and he simply can't believe you would still think things were on. So lol means, "do us a favour, this has ... (read in full...)
Best friend keeps stealing my girl!
Q. So Im in college and my best friend is a year older than me. In a way, he's always been my "wingman" but recently it seems he ends up taking the girl I'm aiming for. The first time it happened, I met this super hot chick at a party me and my friend ...
A. 23 September 2011: He is not a friend. Get rid of him. Friends don't do that to friends. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Broke up 6 months ago. I don't want to just be his friend. I love him too much
Q. What should I do? i don't think he wants me anymore:( can't stop crying:(? My ex bf invited me to his house last week, he cooked, we laid in bed (no sex) we kissed and talked lots. He held my hand when we were walking. He said he broke up with me...
A. 23 September 2011: If you truly believe you were arguing and nagging too much then you can always speak to him and tell him you were wrong and will definitely change this behaviour. However, some people use excuses about why they don't want to be with someone and they ... (read in full...)
Does he actually like me?
Q. ok, so i have been seeing this guy for two months. the first week i met him, we saw each other three or four times and spent many hours together. our first date was planned at 8pm, and included dinner, and then we stayed out all night for drinks. ...
A. 22 September 2011: Hello,
It seems he does the minimum effort with you and gets sex when you meet. It doesn't seem he wants to put too much into furthering the relationship beyond sex I'm afraid. ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he fight for me??
Q. Pleassee help meee I've dated this guy for about a month, i broke up with him because i had a gut feeling he wasnt over his ex so i ended it, the other day i was at a local club he was there with a couple of his friends, and she was there as well,...
A. 22 September 2011: I think you will find he is still with or back with his Ex. ... (read in full...)
I texted lover to end end affair! Why doesn't he try to get me back!
Q. A few days I ago I posted about how I'd ended my affair. I'm thankful for the responses that I got but I text him to end it (so I couldn't get drawn in again) But he hasn't replied. Why isn't he fighting for me? I really thought he cared about m...
A. 21 September 2011: He's not going to respond because he knows if he keeps quiet you will be in touch again. So it is like a waiting game. Just let it go now and move on. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him exactly what I think? Or just completely ignore him! Hes hurt me so much! Please help!
Q. Im after some good honest opinions as im going out of my mind with frustration. I was seeing this guy for 9 months but he treats me like crap. No matter what he does though i still wanna be with him. Im in love with him. He always blows hot and cold ...
A. 21 September 2011: NO TEXT. You need to delete everything that moves from him. All emails, phone numbers, facebook friends etc. Just walk away with no comment or any contact whatsoever. Just vanish from him. No need to acknowledge him at all. This is the best way. ... (read in full...)
He says he's only staying until their child goes off to university
Q. The man I love has married his cousin. He says he is only staying with her until their child leaves home for university. Once she has left home he says we can then start to make plans for our future and tell our respective partners, with the ...
A. 19 September 2011: The problem is that if he really loved and wanted you, he would not have married another girl. Therefore, cut all ties with him as there is no future here for you. ... (read in full...)
If I tell her I like her, would that make her like me back?
Q. Hi, I'm needing some help, there is a girl I like but I can't seem to be able to tell her as she doesn't like me back, but if I tell her could that make her start to like me? And obviously should I tell her?...
A. 19 September 2011: Hello, Do not start telling her. It depends where you see her....college, work, leisure time? If you come out and say "I like you" this may shock her and embarrass things for you. Try to get to know her by taking interest in what she does and try ... (read in full...)
She 'needs some space to regroup'?!?
Q. A little background, we're both 27, have been officially together for the past 6 months. Everything was going very well, having serious talks about moving in with each other and eventually letting each other know that we found exactly who we were ...
A. 19 September 2011: Hi,
Rebound.
This came to mind to me as soon as I read the "overwhelmed" part. Sadly, there is not a lot you can do. Rebounds go fast and furious and beautiful and loving and suddenly STOP.
Her way of slowing it all is to go distant and withdraw... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for leaping into this new relationship?
Q. Hey there... I am so confused. I'd been in a relationship for 6 years and I just fell in love with somebody else. I feel terrible because I of course had to leave my bf to be with this new guy (a friend I'd known for yearsm actually... not that new) ...
A. 19 September 2011: Hi,
Firstly deal with the good guy first. He is a good guy, you weren't happy regardless of the new guy, job you hate, quiet place. Boring. Therefore, you needed to leave.
The other guy may work out along with anyone elses chances. It could la... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?
Q. I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she susp...
A. 18 September 2011: No. Don't tell her. You will create a sadness in her and it will hurt her. Let this go and don't assuage guilt for yourself to hurt her. It will hurt her and its not fair. Let it go now. ... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with this married man?
Q. I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a ...
A. 18 September 2011: No.
He isn't offering you anything. Just using you for ego by having a secret baby. If you really want a baby you can use a sperm bank. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if its shyness or if she's lost interest in me
Q. I recently met a girl through one of my friends. It was kind of awkward because he forced me to go up and talk to her which I did. She seem like a very quiet type of girl and she didn't say much. She sort of gave me this little giggle because I was ...
A. 11 September 2011: Let this one go. Don't waste any more time. Your gutt feeling is good. You have done everything right and been polite and friendly. She needed to agree to a meet up or reply more but she didn't. Don't bother to message anynmore or suggest anything. ... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell them where I'm going after I resign from this job?
Q. I have decided I need to leave my job for many different reasons. I know it sounds crazy to do but I am just not happy..it's been almost 5 yrs and feel I am not qualified to do anything else. I feel I am better off getting a part time job and ...
A. 11 September 2011: No, you do not need any reason at all. I have known some people to simply leave work on Friday evening and then start a new job the following Monday and not tell anyone. However, be polite, be friendly. Thank them for their employment and simply say ... (read in full...)
I want to give my virginity to my ex, help!
Q. My ex-boyfriend/ sort of bestfriend, cheated on me when I was in hospital. He then broke up with the other girl after 2 days. For roughly 5 weeks me and him were basically unofficially going out. But at prom he tells me he is with her again, and now ...
A. 11 September 2011: Walk away. Do not let anyone tell you to wait for them in case something else doesn't work out. You are being used as his back up plan. You cannot be sure what he is really doing. He may be telling the same girl what he tells you. He may take this ... (read in full...)
My Gf and I have reunited. But she is acting strange. Why would she do this?
Q. Almost three weeks ago I got back together with my ex, spent the day with her, had a fairly good time. She's called me once since then to tell me she's going over to a friends' house, then hangs up like I'm just someone else. She swears up and ...
A. 11 September 2011: Hello,
Well if she is with another guy now then that explains why she is distant and avoiding you. So, you must now pull away. One way of doing this would be to cut all contact and see if she gets in touch. Don't suffer someone ignoring you or havi... (read in full...)
Am I too short for him?
Q. Hi, well, I'm 20 and my bf is 28. I'm 5.1 feet and he is 6.1 feet. I wasn't seeing that as a problem until a couple of times at the street some people kinda stare at us. my bf laughed at it but it's really bother me. Do you think I'm too short fo...
A. 10 September 2011: Hello,
No you are not too short. Never. I am just under 6,3 and have dated girls of 5 feet and 5,3. We never had a problem. Maybe you "think" people stare? I think you should carry on with him and you will get used to things. If things are good... (read in full...)
He will not face me. Why can't some men face you when they break up with you?
Q. I need some help. I was dating my BF for 6 months. He just broke up with me via email. Never had one single conversation about anything not working. Tells me I'm wonderful, amazing and he thinks we're just supposed to be friends... but won't talk to ...
A. 10 September 2011: Only from personal experience, I wanted to break up with a girl for a while and felt guilty and sad because I felt she would be upest. I just wanted to do the deed and hide away. Also, I had never broke up myself before with a girl so didn't really ... (read in full...)
My Gf and I have reunited. But she is acting strange. Why would she do this?
Q. Almost three weeks ago I got back together with my ex, spent the day with her, had a fairly good time. She's called me once since then to tell me she's going over to a friends' house, then hangs up like I'm just someone else. She swears up and ...
A. 10 September 2011: It's difficult to say. Who wanted to get back together? If she did, then it is strange she is distant. You will have to meet and talk to her and find out if she really does want to give it another go. It doesn't seem like it at the moment though. ... (read in full...)
Should I give it a try? And talk to my ex-friend who I was in love with?
Q. I lost a great friend four years ago. He wanted to be in a relationship with me and I am sure he knew how much I loved him despite the fact that I tried my hardest to hide my feelings. Then came the time when I had to move out of my home state for ...
A. 10 September 2011: Hello, From a guy's point of view, 4 years ago he was interested in you as a girlfriend and you said "no or not now." So, when you moved on to college, he came to terms that you wanted friends rather than boyfirend/girlfriend so he ceased contac... (read in full...)
Did I do wrong? He had broken up with her. Then we had sex. He went back to her. Now she is angry with me.
Q. So basically. I was seeing this guy, and we ended up sleeping together.. the problem is, he was an ex of an acquaintance, she wasn't a close friend or anything, but I did know her and we would be nice if we ever bumped into each other.. . I felt ...
A. 10 September 2011: Hello, Firstly you did nothing wrong. Both of you were single. From the girls point of view though, (only a guess) but when she has broken up with him she probably had hoped she could get back together. So she was viewing their split as a break an... (read in full...)
Is it better to distance yourself or to keep on trying after being rejected by a friend?
Q. SO i have this friend. I asked her out/told her I liked her and she said that she was not rejecting me but literally had no time to make it work, so it would be unfair to the both of us. She said that maybe in the future something may happen but not ...
A. 10 September 2011: Well, if you are looking for a relationship now, then she is not available. That is the base line. You could hang around and hope but if you do, do not let other opportunities pass by with other girls. I would go down the road of to continue... (read in full...)
Is being a slut the way to mend a broken heart???
Q. Hi again Aunt/ uncle agonies. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read. I am going through an awful breakup, and all i wanna do is move on. I've been getting advice from all my friend on how to achieve this, but for some odd reason every sug...
A. 9 September 2011: No it isn't. I'm afraid you will just make yourself "feel" wanted while various males have pleasure. The brief sensation of being fancied will only last a short while and then you will come crashing down to dealing with your sadness. ... (read in full...)
His age information isn't matching up with the background check!
Q. I really really need help and advice because I'm so confused at this point. I met a guy online and at the time, his profile said he was 30 and now a year later, he's 31. I believed him. But today I was talking to a friend about stalkerish thing...
A. 9 September 2011: Hello,
Looks like a red flag to me. Maybe intelius is wrong but maybe he is wrong. Why not do a couple of intelius checks on your friends and I gurantee Intelius gets their age right. He is lying and I would walk away if I were you. ... (read in full...)
I love her but she said there is nothing on her side, what should I do now? Is she just being shy and she actually does like me?
Q. hi friends and i am a student of 12th class well the problem is that i like a girl in my class since 6-7 months and most probably now started loving her so firstly she used to talk to me very frankly but from last 3-4 months she doesnt talk t...
A. 8 September 2011: No, she is not interested. Do not continue talking to her or trying for anything. She is short with you and avoiding you because she is not interested in any relationship. Leave things now. ... (read in full...)
He masturbated with my photos now he's avoiding me, why?
Q. I have a friend who has been first my coworker and then my friend for some time. He has been a big flirt, but had a girlfriend who dumped him 6 months ago. He has started to waste time with girls as a gigolo he says. He started flirting on me. ...
A. 8 September 2011: Hello,
Some things don't seem to add up with him. A gigolo type would be very interested in a virgin. He is still recovering from his previous relationship so that could be a major factor. He may be looking for something short term but sees a virg... (read in full...)
Facebook relationship status. Distant boyfriend. Post break-up issues.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He used to be the sweetest guy and as soon as we god together he changed his relationship status on Facebook to In a Relationship, he would always come to see me, he would write sweet messages ...
A. 8 September 2011: Hello,
If you forget about the Facebook things, just look at what happened. He was happy to have sex with you but not interested in a relationship. He didn't really want to be in a relationship, he just said it to make you hear what you wanted to h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had masturbated and then couldn't cum when we had sex. Is it ok that I am upset by this?
Q. My boyfriend recently masturbated in the toilet when I was round his house to porn. Usually porn doesn't bother me but I feel like he chose this over me and suddenly like i'm not hot enough. We went on to have sex later and he didn't cum and just ...
A. 6 September 2011: I find it weird he did this while you were there. Masturbation is great to do on his own and thinking of his partner. That's great. But the porn thing is not good and also to do it while you were there. Also, to masturbate before being with a girl ... (read in full...)
We were having great dates and then.... utter silence for 2 weeks!
Q. Hi there, Ok I know this has happened to some women before but it has not happened to me. I was seeing what seemed like a great guy, we were going out on dates, meeting each others friends. I even met his brother. I am 30 he is 28. We ...
A. 1 September 2011: Hello, Yes, this is so frustrating. Seemed all was going well and then...AWOL. It is confusing because he had sex but instead of then just leaving, he waited to buy you dinner and a bottle of champagne. It makes it all the more confusing. A few po... (read in full...)
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