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*arah-jane neale
writes:So basically. I was seeing this guy, and we ended up sleeping together.. the problem is, he was an ex of an acquaintance, she wasn't a close friend or anything, but I did know her and we would be nice if we ever bumped into each other.. . I felt really guilty, but I really liked him and I thought he felt the same. But I got an email from him saying that he was going to give it another go with his ex... i felt quite horrible, but i accepted it and I backed off and wished him the best.. But then today I got an angry email from her, so he obviously told her about it.. and now I feel absolutely terrible, and I don't now what to do? I hate the idea of coming across to people as a horrible person
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reader, sarah-jane neale +, writes (10 September 2011):
sarah-jane neale is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to all who replied, you made me feel a bit better and think of the situation differently.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Hi,I just want you to know that you have not done anything wrong. 1) he asked you out2) you both decided to have sex, so it's not your fault3) most importantly they were broken up, again you didn't do anything wrong. The truth is that this girl is very rude to even send you an email. She has no right to contact you, ask you anything, or be angry at you. She has no right to judge you at all. Pls, don't feel guilty or bad about it. I wish you could send her a email, believe me, I would help you write the email :) but won't suggest because that would cause more problems for you, because clearly this girl is not mature enough to understand. Just forget about them, be happy, confident, make new friends, enjoy your life and don't think of them anymore. It's past and done. In case, in the future she approaches you again, tell her :"you were broken up" sorry you are angry and hurt, but this is not your problem and that she should talk to her boyfriend instead. Good luck!
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Hello, Firstly you did nothing wrong. Both of you were single. From the girls point of view though, (only a guess) but when she has broken up with him she probably had hoped she could get back together. So she was viewing their split as a break and hoping to get back with him. Now that she is back with him, it would hurt her to put a face and a body to someone that had had her boyfriend. It has obviously upset her and she feels sad he had sex now they are back on track. But it's only a guess. I think you would be best to let things go now and distance yourself from both people. Her email is a rage to let off steam about her frustration and sadness towards her boyfriend for doing this. Only a guess though!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 September 2011):
 You may qualify as an "easy" person... but certainly not as "horrible"....
Let this incident go.... get on with your life.... and let this guy suffer with this once/ then ex-/now current, again, girlfriend of his.....
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (10 September 2011):
 I don't think you did anything wrong. He was single and you were also, so I don't see the problem. Acquaintances don't really know each other or don't take the time to get to know each other, so it's not like you were best friends. She really has no reason to be mad at you. He was available at the time and you were too and you just took the opportunity. But don't feel bad. Just because she's an acquaintance of yours doesn't mean he was off limits to you or any other acquaintance of hers.
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