We were having great dates and then.... utter silence for 2 weeks!
Q. Hi there, Ok I know this has happened to some women before but it has not happened to me. I was seeing what seemed like a great guy, we were going out on dates, meeting each others friends. I even met his brother. I am 30 he is 28. We ...
A. 1 September 2011: Hello, Yes, this is so frustrating. Seemed all was going well and then...AWOL. It is confusing because he had sex but instead of then just leaving, he waited to buy you dinner and a bottle of champagne. It makes it all the more confusing. A few po... (read in full...)
My wife fell pregnant by another man, should I forgive her?
Q. Hai people, my wife had a child by another man, i kicked her out but she returned begging to be forgiven she was always sad so i feared she would have a miscarriage so i took her back in despite the pain i was going through. The father of the child ...
A. 30 August 2011: No I wouldn't bother. You have done over and beyond what a lot of people would do. She has the baby and job so now its time to leave. Don't bother with her as you will always view the baby as a reminder that she slept with another man. This will be ... (read in full...)
She will go out with me, but only as friends. Any suggestions?
Q. I have a friend who I have known for years, and she has split up from her long term Boyfriend. we have messed around when she was tipsy, kissing etc. I have just asked here out for a date but got the reply she would love to but just as friends....
A. 30 August 2011: Hi, Oh don't feel bad about things! If you feel bad that you asked her, just remember your not the only one that has done it. I have too on several occasions. Ugh! But I suppose it stops all the wondering and getting your hopes up when you "think" ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 30 August 2011: Hello,
Yes, stick to your morals. She is not the girl for you. She lied regarding something very important to you. It is best for you to leave her. ... (read in full...)
How do I break it off with my online guy? I simply don't have time anymore!
Q. Hi all!! so basically i met this guy online. and we've been chatting lots for about 4 weeks now. i really like him and we get on well. and of course at some point we were hoping to meet up. but the thing is recently my circumstances at uni...
A. 30 August 2011: Just explain that now that Uni has started you time is being taken up by work and study. Therefore you wont be around as much as normal. Then let things slow down naturally. ... (read in full...)
She will go out with me, but only as friends. Any suggestions?
Q. I have a friend who I have known for years, and she has split up from her long term Boyfriend. we have messed around when she was tipsy, kissing etc. I have just asked here out for a date but got the reply she would love to but just as friends....
A. 30 August 2011: No, you have a non-starter here. This is never going to be a relationship for you. I would advise that you don't hang in there for a hope of a relationship because in my experience this won't happen for you. I would not persue any friends thing with ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 29 August 2011: If you want a virgin bride then this is not the girl for you. Forget about if she lied or whatever. The main thing for you is that you place high value on virginity so anything that you do with this girl will go against your beliefs. You have your ... (read in full...)
Fiance talks more to her ex than she does to me
Q. Hello i have been with my fiance for 4 years now and we have 3 kids together but the oldest daughter is from a previous relationship and so not biologically mine but i am adopting her. Everything was going great until recently she started talkin to ...
A. 29 August 2011: Hello,
Let me see, you have 2 children with her. He ex wants rights.
Firstly, yes, he can get rights as this is his daughter biologically.
However, for you, you now know she is cheating with him and she has virtually pushed you to one side. At... (read in full...)
Made my boyfriend cum by lying on top of him?
Q. I made my boyfriend cum, and he said it was because i was on top of him, (we were just kissing) and i didnt think a boy could cum from just being on top of him. Or is there something else to it? ...
A. 29 August 2011: Yes a man can cum. If you are laying on top of him then the penis can be erect and the pressure and warmth can excite it. This excitement and pressure "agitates" it and can cause it to leak with pleasure. I'd say this is all normal as far as I'm ... (read in full...)
Can a person really be too busy for the one that they love?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month, we have a long distance relationship on opposite sides of the country and its really difficult. He told me that he loved me very quickly and said that he will wait for me and try to visit me again asap. ...
A. 29 August 2011: As it is just a month that you have been toether, it seems he is trying to adjust to the LDR. Normally, LDR tend to go very fast at the beginning and calls and texts and emails are sent at all hours. For your bf, it seems he has started off very ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this guy?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over 2 and half years and when I say seeing thats a big joke. He basically comes around just for sex. I have told him and told him that this is not what I want and I want to be respected and spend time with him socially...
A. 27 August 2011: What feelings could you honestly have for him? You don't have a relationship, he is simply using you for relief. It's a nightmare. Start putting him off! Don't answer the phone, dont let him in. If he gets nasty then call the Police. This man is ... (read in full...)
I'm broke and in debt, and have been offered money for sex
Q. I've been talking to a friend of a friend. He is 19 (I am 18) and we've never physically met. Recently he offered me £1000 to give him anal sex for two months. I REALLY need the money. I am broke and have a lot of debt to pay off. I've tried g...
A. 27 August 2011: Obviously it is your decision. He wants no strings anal sex and is prepared to pay for it. The money is what you need so it is well worth considering. Could you negotiate the price? Ask for more as 2 months is a long time for a £1000. Also, Remember ... (read in full...)
Why did he start taking photos during sex ? Is it a trophy thing?
Q. Very long story short, me and a guy i had a thing with ended up bumping into each other a few days ago. One thing led to another and we slept together. It was a huge, huge mistake. Since then I found out he has a girlfriend and so I removed ...
A. 26 August 2011: The photos are quite creepy. But yes, from a guy's perspective, he could be using them simply as masturbation material. ... (read in full...)
This long distance is killing me. What shall I do?? My friends say stay with him.
Q. hi... ive been in two serious relationships in this past year with two different guys... i was with a guy who i had a crush on for 4 yrs for 6 months and it was long distance because i moved to here three yrs ago. well me and him had a lot of trus...
A. 26 August 2011: I'd wait and see what he does when he visits. If he really has moved 300 miles I wouldn't keep things going. It is just too far at your young age. You need someone close by that you can meet and touch and walk out with. ... (read in full...)
He says he needs a break but regrets it?
Q. WTF he asks for a break in our relationship and says he regrets needing one or having to do it but still does it. Then can't explain it to me. WTF what does that mean??? Can any male here explain this to me please. A little light here would be very ...
A. 26 August 2011: Difficult to know really. He obviously wants some alone time at the moment. Thats all you can do is to give it to him. Make a date to check back in in about a month and see whats happening. Breaks can sometimes be the start of the end though. ... (read in full...)
Is my ex making a mistake by getting married to someone else?
Q. me and my ex were friends before we started dating.he broke up with his girlfriend cuz they didnt get along.we dated soon after and i got prego.too much stress happened and i left him.he decided i could stay gone and got back with her.we r finally ...
A. 26 August 2011: He has his own life and decisions. You are forever linked with your child with him. He has his own mind so knows what he is doing. You should let things go. If he wanted things to work with you, he would because he has his child with you. But he ... (read in full...)
Why is she acting awkward? I only told my best friend about my crush on this girl.
Q. i had this best friend for many months now, and she never fail to cheer me up whenever im down. we could tell each other everything. however just recently, i started to develop feelings for her. everyday it got stronger and stronger and i guess it ...
A. 26 August 2011: You were friends and she was happy with that. When you asked her she didn't feel the same way. That's why she became distant, angry, offish etc. Let time go by now and see if the friends thing can work again. You obviously dont want just that tho... (read in full...)
Does she like me or is she just 'tolerating' me?
Q. At work, there is a woman whom I am very attracted to, although I dont know whether she likes me or is just 'tolerating' me. I'm starting to think that she doesnt, based on the following: -When we didnt see each other very often, working i...
A. 26 August 2011: I'd say she is talking to you work related and not interested in anything more. She brushes you off at drinks or when you try to talk non-work related. I would leave things be. She likes you at work but may appear to be offish with you because she ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin girl?
Q. dear cupid, is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin woman with great personality,respect,trust and love? It seems when i mention this to women they think am crazy or i have insecurities....
A. 26 August 2011: There is nothing wrong or right about this. But you will then look at only specific girls and may miss out on a real love. Also, girls in their 20's would have probably lost their virginity so you would have to look at younger girls that may not ... (read in full...)
We only see each other once a week, but she calls me clingy. I buy her everything, but she says I never take care of her. Is she using me?
Q. so me and my girlfriend have been fighting for the past two weeks. She keeps telling me im clingy, and she needs space, and i only see her once a week, so i dont understand how im being clingy. another thing iv noticed is i pay for everything. i pay ...
A. 25 August 2011: Yes, you are being used and disrespected. Don't listen to the excuses about brother in the appartment etc. All are reasons to stop you coming round, The sister wants to go shopping because she wants things for free and they are using you. You now ... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't want to leave me, but isn't 'in love' anymore. She's happier with her FWB.
Q. I'm a married man, and my wife has just said that she still loves me but is not in love with me. She says I'm a great father and husband and she doesn't want to hurt me. Then, she explained, she has a friend which has gotten into the "with benefi...
A. 24 August 2011: Well, she has got the best of both worlds. She gets everything provided for her and then has her lover on the side. That's what is happening make no mistake.
So, you can let things carry on like this and suffer inside or you can stop this cozy arra... (read in full...)
Why did this guy just stop texting me?
Q. Why did he just stop texting me? everything was going great until he stood me up tonight and he never got back in touch with me. He won't even answer his phone he always hangs up why is he acting like this?...
A. 19 August 2011: Is there any background information to this? Did you last talk on good terms? Did he sound keen? ... (read in full...)
What do guys think of girls with tattoos?
Q. Question for guys please..what do you think of girls with tattoos?!? I'm 33, attractive and single and I have 2 tattoos, one tribal design on my lower back and some writing down my wrist. Both are small and plain black. However I'm worried it puts ...
A. 19 August 2011: Hello,
I love tattoos on a girl. For me, I love upper arm or below the knee on the side of the leg tattoos the best. They have a sort of sexual quality for me. Like a kind of daring so I say yes, I love them. Don't worry too much about them if you ... (read in full...)
What would be the best way to ask her out?
Q. i am in love with this girl. i am 38 years old and she is 24 years old. she does not know how i really feel about her. we have a few things in common. how would be the best way for me to ask her out? ...
A. 19 August 2011: You will have to gradually build up trust with her and begin talking about general interests. Don't start telling her how you feel as this is a big turn off for a lot of people. As you are with her, see if she responds towards you and flirts. If she ... (read in full...)
I don't get hit on! Is it because I'm a redhead?
Q. Hi guy, just a question thats been troubling me for sometime now. I hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. I was wondering if its to do with the fact that im a redhead and have a lot of small freckles on my face and body?. After seeing comments...
A. 18 August 2011: Definitely not your hair. OK absolutely not. I think red heads are fantasstic by the way. As well as the other advice, why not dye your hair as a bit of fun and see what happens. This will then convince you it is not your hair. By the way, I'm quite ... (read in full...)
What is going on with her? I need to understand her actions!
Q. I met this girl a month ago. We had sex on the first meeting. She told me afterwards that she just came out of a one year relationship that tore her up emotionally. The following two days we led a warm, caring relationship, she always stood by my ...
A. 18 August 2011: Yes you are a great guy. i can tell by the way you went about this. For her, she is simply on what they call the rebound. She has lost the man she was in love with and now seeks that love among others. You gave her that "love" and it filled a hole ... (read in full...)
She has a new boyfriend but I still have feelings for her, do I still have a chance or is she gone?
Q. Alright this is kind of long question, so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year and for most of the ...
A. 18 August 2011: Thanks for the follow up. OK, but don't hang around being a friend hoping she might be interested. When you get back to Uni, look out for opportunities with other girls. This will happen and get to know them. In my experience, friends with girls you ... (read in full...)
What are signs that he likes you?
Q. How do you know he likes you? What are some things to look out for to know if a guy likes you?...
A. 17 August 2011: He will be very helpful to you. He may offer to do little things for you. Carry your books, post a letter for you, that sort of context. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I've closed down sexually because of past experiences
Q. I have just come out of a 6 year incredibly traumatic relationship. the only thing that was fantastic was the sex and our beautiful boy . I have since started seeing a guy and got very close very quickly on all levels . he is incredibly tactile in ...
A. 17 August 2011: I thought of the word rebound when I read your post. I take it you have recently broken up with your ex partner? This new man is a great relief possibly because he is very attentive to you and is giving you the love you possibly didn't receive in ... (read in full...)
She has a new boyfriend but I still have feelings for her, do I still have a chance or is she gone?
Q. Alright this is kind of long question, so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year and for most of the ...
A. 17 August 2011: Hello,
I believe you posted on here earlier a couple of weeks ago about this. At the time you didn't know if she had a boyfriend and you were going to keep the contact going during the summer. Well, due to the change that she now has a boyf... (read in full...)
It is a crime to upload sexy picture and could they be found on the internet later?
Q. i want to upload some racy pictures on net of my girlfriend..dey arent nude but are sexy showing a little bit of cleavage here and there.. my questions are 1)i am from india and so is it a crime to upload pictures of my gf on net 2)is it safe and ...
A. 8 August 2011: You ask permission from her and then you can upload.She would be mad if she never knew!
Safe or misused? People would look at them, some might save the pics, some may masturbate, use them as their profiles.
Delete? It depends how long they wer... (read in full...)
Intense training session has made me afraid of my instructor!
Q. hey, the other day i was with my fitness instructor doing (you guessed it) exercise. then about halfway through my instructor tells me we're going to do a conditioning session. i didn't know it at the time but a conditioning session is basic...
A. 8 August 2011: Go to have your injuries assessed medically and have a report made. This is not normal. Tell your parents. This is not normal and needs to be reported. You can always speak to the Police. ... (read in full...)
Head over heels in love with married man and I know he won't leave his wife for me!
Q. Okay, I'm writing this because I'm miserable and at my whit's end of things. You've may have heard this a thousands times before, but Im simply head over heels in love with a married man and I have being for the passed year. And the worrying thing ...
A. 8 August 2011: This is not good because it makes you feel miserable. You can lose this feeling of miserable by leaving this situation. Be strong and part ways. You will feel better. ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I am attracted to her, think she is to me, what do I do now, we work together??
Q. Hi, I'm after some female advice. I really like a girl who works on same floor but in different department. I've told her that I liked her. I kind of decided last year not to pursue anything as I thought it would interfere with work. Not s...
A. 7 August 2011: Just some advice from a male. You are in a work situation so it is always difficult to work out what these actions mean. If You look at a few things, you told her you liked her, she look embarrassed by the talk and also the dropping of heads as you ... (read in full...)
Should I just get over him, and how do I do that??
Q. So....my problem is men related! Nothing new there then! Haha! I'll keep it (try to) as brief as possible. But basically I think I'm being blown out and lost guy I think was right for me. I met him 4 months ago, he told me from first date didn't do ...
A. 7 August 2011: He was a player and just interested in sex. It's a hard thing to accept but he could not be any future to you. Your friends are right. He wont be in touch unless he wants sex again. That's when you must be strong and walk away. ... (read in full...)
She blows me off and tells me we were never even dating, just friends!
Q. Let's go straight to the topic... I've been seeing this girl for a few months and still have a serious crush on her. I tried to go for a kiss twice, but I'm rather shy and I couldn't get more that an awkward hug. We texted each other every day,...
A. 7 August 2011: She just downgraded your relationship to friendship as a way of leaving. What you do now is delete everything and never text her or answer any texts. Do not waste any more time here. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my distance from this guy? I don't want to make him a rebound
Q. It has been hard for me last few weeks since the break up...But this week I met a guy that I can really get along with and always show signs of interest in me. Being with him for the past few days made me forget about my problems. He told me tha...
A. 5 August 2011: I was going to say give him a chance but be totally clear with him you have just broken up and he could be your rebound. Honesty so he knows.
However, I just read at the end that perhaps you haven't truly broken up from your original partner. You ... (read in full...)
Did she lose interest in me?
Q. I've been dating a girl for about 7 months now. When we first started dating we seemed to get along so well. We always saw each other at least once a week and we text on a regular basis. A few months ago, I don't know why but we seemed to have d...
A. 5 August 2011: I think it is the end of the road here for the relationship. She doesn't contact you anymore so has lost interest. She gives reasons about indecisive, shy and not listening. None of this tells me that she is interested anymore. The lack of contact ... (read in full...)
Does my supervisor like me? he has a wife
Q. Dear cupid, I am in love with my supervisor. He is 38 nd I am 31. It was all professional until I realised how sweet and how he never ever said no to my demands..I felt he trusted me. Then one time wen I looked at him..?stared maybe subconsciuosly, ...
A. 4 August 2011: It sounds as if an affair could be starting between you. But I can only say do not do it. Think of his poor wife and the mess that can happen. He is married so do not get involved. ... (read in full...)
He has a new leading lady, so how do I get over him ?
Q. Please help me get over this man. I met him 4 months ago and liked him straight away. Our first date he told me doesn't want a relationship and I said I didn't (but I do) anyway...upshot.been 4 months and we see each other for whole weekend every ...
A. 4 August 2011: Sadly, you will just have to stop contacting him and delete all his numbers and details. That's the first step. Unfortunately, he wasn't interested in a future with you or anyone else it seems. Don't contact him again and things will gradually begin ... (read in full...)
Been in a LDR for a year and sick of waiting to meet in person! What should I do?
Q. Okay well i have been in a LDR for a year and i feel like I have a strong connection to this guy we me online 18 mnths ago;and hit it off chatted video chatted talk about any and everything! Finally we arranged to meet for my birthday that September ...
A. 4 August 2011: Thank you for your follow up. i truly hope things work for you. Please keep us informed how things go and we can always help again. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
Been in a LDR for a year and sick of waiting to meet in person! What should I do?
Q. Okay well i have been in a LDR for a year and i feel like I have a strong connection to this guy we me online 18 mnths ago;and hit it off chatted video chatted talk about any and everything! Finally we arranged to meet for my birthday that September ...
A. 3 August 2011: No, don't waste your time here. He doesn't want to pull away from the on line aspect. He has cancelled or pulled out every time. Also, there is too much going on here with the legal business that you don't truly know about. Also, the anger aspect ... (read in full...)
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