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writes:I lost a great friend four years ago. He wanted to be in a relationship with me and I am sure he knew how much I loved him despite the fact that I tried my hardest to hide my feelings. Then came the time when I had to move out of my home state for college. We did some seriously awkward things the night before I moved away. I told him we should stay as friends no matter what, no matter how far apart we are. Then he really hurt my feelings...for some stupid reason he stopped talking to me and started ignoring all my phone calls and texts. That was back in 2007.For all those years, I always thought about him and missed him. Ya I met other guys too but that didn't help me forget him.I graduated this summer and now I am back in my hometown. I want to get in touch with him because I still miss him.. but I don't want my gal friends involved in this issue and I want to try talking to him my self but I just don't know how... And I'm not even sure if I should give it a try or not. What do you folks think?
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Hi,I think you should just call him and get over with. It's has been so many years and you still think of him. You need to do this for yourself. Just be aware that it has been many years ago, so if you do contact him be prepare, because people change, he could be in a relationship, who knows??? Whatever happens, I guess you need to do this, otherwise you will always wonder and have him in the back of your mind, wondering what if? Find a way go to contact him, but like I said be prepare and don't expect anything. Good luck!
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Hello, From a guy's point of view, 4 years ago he was interested in you as a girlfriend and you said "no or not now."So, when you moved on to college, he came to terms that you wanted friends rather than boyfirend/girlfriend so he ceased contact. That's what I would have done. I would have taken it as rejection. (I'm not judging anyone though.) There was no point in him keeping in touch as he wanted you as his girl, not a friend. Graduating and coming back to hometown will definitely make these feelings stronger for you as you have changed your scenery, situation and you have achieved what you needed to do at college. Obviously, we don't know what he is doing at the moment or his situation, he may have moved on or married or whatever. I would say, send a little hello on email and just explain you have graduated and if he wants to keep in touch then feel free. If you get no response, then leave it at that. You will have to accept the "wrong time, wrong place" theory.
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