Been in a LDR for a year and sick of waiting to meet in person! What should I do?
Q. Okay well i have been in a LDR for a year and i feel like I have a strong connection to this guy we me online 18 mnths ago;and hit it off chatted video chatted talk about any and everything! Finally we arranged to meet for my birthday that September ...
A. 4 August 2011: Thank you for your follow up. i truly hope things work for you. Please keep us informed how things go and we can always help again. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean for a relationship to 'move forward'?
Q. Yo so I got a question. My girl broke up with me last week because she says our relationship wasnt movin forward. I asked what that meant, I asked if it meant she wanted me to propose marriage. She said no, she didnt mean that, it was just that the ...
A. 4 August 2011: I think it is just excuses to end a relationship. Similar to "my partner wasn't going anywhere." or "I'm confused." She can't define it probably because there isn't anything to define. Sadly this is over now because she doesn't want marriage or ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship, but still wants to see me and have sex. Am I wasting my time with his guy?
Q. Any advice would be much appreciate. I am a single mum of one. I've been seeing a guy nearly a year now, in the begining everything was fine between us, had an amazing time and connected very well - physically and mentally. He lives a 1 hour f...
A. 4 August 2011: Cut ties I'm afraid, he just wants relief when things suit him. He didn't introduce you to his family or friends because he wasn't "into" the relationship fully. He obviously doesn't respect you or your son/daughter. I do not think that his actions ... (read in full...)
What's the point of meeting people online?
Q. I found myself frightful about the online datings and similar sites. Why can't men approach women face to face? This online dating sites acts as a barrier that keep them out of touch with reality. women get all dress up and wait, wait for them to ...
A. 4 August 2011: Dating sites are other options. Men and women use them and find great friends, wives, husbands. It is another option available as well as meeting in a bar or a park or a museum. ... (read in full...)
A life without sex?
Q. I'm 35 years old and I have been married for 8 years. My wife says she only wants to be friends and nothing more. We haven't had sex in a year. I love my wife and I dont want to leave her but its very hard to live without sex. I workout 3 days a ...
A. 4 August 2011: Sadly she is no longer interested. One option is a divorce, or another option is to cut your losses and accept the situation but talk to your wife and see what she wants and how she thinks life will work together. If it is purely a platonic ... (read in full...)
Should I message him back?
Q. My boyfriend with whom I was in a long distance relationship with broke up with me last night. He doesn't know what he wants to do right now. He was torn because he wanted to stay friends but I didn't want that because it would probably be too hard ...
A. 4 August 2011: It's hard and a shock. Well, he has obviously left the door open to come back. At this time, I would leave out communication. Give him the time and space he needs. I do believe he will be in contact because of the way things have ended. Let him deal ... (read in full...)
Should I face that he was using me or text him?
Q. Hi, iv been sleeping with this boy but feel he's going off me. We met last night and had sex but nothing much was said before or after, I admit I feel o have put weight on not much but as peole are still saying how much iv lost but I feel I hav...
A. 4 August 2011: He seems only interested in sex. He has no conversation with you. I would just let things go now. ... (read in full...)
He has slowly stopped making any effort with me and told me he is just 'busy'. How do I ask him what is going on?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for about a month. At first he was all into me telling me how beautiful I was and how he couldn't wait to spend more time with me. We had sex (yes I know it was stupid) bit he reassured me nothing would change in the way ...
A. 4 August 2011: From what I have read here, it seems he had sex and then moved on. He seemed fine until then but then started to withdraw. Unfortunately, I am afraid you are going to just have to accept that this guy is not for you. Just let things go now. ... (read in full...)
I wish I had never done this and now he is gone!
Q. I dont know what to do,or who to turn to.Ive done a really stupid and selfish thing,made a huge mess. My ex bf and I dated for 3 years,we broke up over a month ago.Im the one who screwed it up,forever.I have a 3 and a half year old daughter.My ...
A. 3 August 2011: Well, your boyfriend knew you were in contact with the father so when you broke up with him it was quite obvious what had been happening. Your boyfriend wont come back now because he was treated too badly. You need to move on now I'm afraid. You ... (read in full...)
Been in a LDR for a year and sick of waiting to meet in person! What should I do?
Q. Okay well i have been in a LDR for a year and i feel like I have a strong connection to this guy we me online 18 mnths ago;and hit it off chatted video chatted talk about any and everything! Finally we arranged to meet for my birthday that September ...
A. 3 August 2011: No, don't waste your time here. He doesn't want to pull away from the on line aspect. He has cancelled or pulled out every time. Also, there is too much going on here with the legal business that you don't truly know about. Also, the anger aspect ... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for my friend's 16 year old son, how can I make this go away?
Q. Well here goes : i'm just 40 (look about 30-32-so i'm told)n seem to be having a mid-life crisis!! I've lost over 6 stone and feel great. Background: I'm married with 2 young children and a lovely caring husband who is the same age. Problem: ...
A. 3 August 2011: This not a good thing. At 16 I could understand he would think about you and fantasize about you in his thoughts. That is normal for a young boy/man growing up. Been there myself. But they are all part of growing up and starting to be attracted to ... (read in full...)
She is still with her thuggish boyfriend. Should I pursue her again or not?
Q. So this time last year everything was perfect, I had the girl, the money and the friends. In september she left me for her ex who had started to threaten me over her. Everything went downhill from here, stuff at work went wrong and ended up in me ...
A. 2 August 2011: No don't bother. She flits between guys. She was with the Ex, then with you, then back to the Ex, now she starts at you again. This is a pattern. Don't go back. ... (read in full...)
Should I consider us over?
Q. The guy I've been seeing for the past 3 months has been kind of distant. I moved to a new city for work. Now I'm about an hour away and we haven't really had the break up talk. He doesn't pick up calls and he doesn't answer texts reliably. I ...
A. 2 August 2011: Yes, this is over. He has pulled away. Don't bother to get in touch because he isn't interested. The reason is that he doesn't pick up calls, doesn't want to text back and has changed pics and is active on the site. Don't let him know you have ended ... (read in full...)
I sent a text saying I was breaking up with him but he didn't respond. What does that mean?
Q. Hi,im going out with this guy at first it was so great we would go out every weekend until some months ago he stoped going out with me and when i ask were he was, he says i was with the guys.im fed up with it told him wanted to talk but his been ...
A. 1 August 2011: You broke up with him so he probably thought there was nothing more to be said. Previously, it sounds as if he was on his way out anyway. He was avoiding you and being busy so I think you will find he was pulling away anyway. Your text did the trick ... (read in full...)
I feel like at 31 I've totally made a mess of my life and there's no going back...
Q. Dear aunts and uncles... How can I get my life back on track as I feel like just giving up. I am soon to be 31 and have nothing in my life and I look at my friends and I'm consumed with jealously as they have good jobs, places to live and or ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hello,
I can relate and understand and really hear what you say. I have tried over 200 job vacancies in the past year and have still been unable to find a job. The economy, the time, the system whatever.
Dedicate yourself to finding a job as y... (read in full...)
I cant bring myself to tell her how I feel because she is such a close friend! Help!
Q. I have a female friend, I like her so much but i cant bring myself to tell her that i like her because she is too close to me as a friend. you guys should help me out....
A. 1 August 2011: I don't recommend telling her at all. There have been a number of posts on here about this kind of situation and telling people how you feel can really end in disaster and loss of friend. Trust me....DO NOT tell her.
You need to carry on doing what... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you be with a virgin? Or is it really 'too much drama'?
Q. Most guys I know say that they don't want to sleep (or even date because that will eventually lead to sleeping) with a virgin, because it's 'too much drama'. I feel like I'm way behind and I won't find anyone to ever be with me just because of that....
A. 1 August 2011: Yes! A virgin lady is a fantastic turn on. It is not drama at all. Each to his own but from experience it is a very special moment. ... (read in full...)
Would guys be turned off by a 24 year old virgin?
Q. This may seem like a weird question, but I've got to ask. My sister is 24 and still a virgin. Would you guys be turned off by that? First some background info: My sister and I are very close and currently share an apartment. It's a handy ...
A. 31 July 2011: It will be a great turn on for a lot of guys. There really is no problem here for her. It is very special to date guys or girls that are virgins. So, it is not a turn off. ... (read in full...)
We've been online dating for 2 years but have never met in person once....
Q. How long is too long for a no-contact LDR? When I say no contact, I mean no physical contact. At all. We've been 'dating' online for over 2 years and through that whole time we've never met in person once. I've tried, I've made trips to see him...
A. 31 July 2011: Oh dear! This is not real at all. No picture after two years. You are wasting all your life here. You need to leave all this as soon as you can. Ask yourself why there is no picture or no meet ups or why he keeps giving excuses? I don't know but ... (read in full...)
Why has she gone so quiet? What is wrong with her? What shall I do?
Q. This is about the girl whom i love.. She is now abroad for study and for now she is having her exams.. The way of us being in contact is internet chatting or calls.. Regular calls is not possible. So just facebook mails and chat is the way. But now ...
A. 29 July 2011: You are going to have to give her space and not contact her until she contacts you. She doesn't seem interested at the moment. A week no contact is definitely a change in things. ... (read in full...)
Have I missed my chance to ask her out and does she see us as just friends?
Q. Alright this is kind of a 2 part question, so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year. So here is my probl...
A. 28 July 2011: A hard one to call here. She has not done anything to suggest just friends but on the other hand she hasn't flirted either. (From what you say.) I believe you need to continue the contact for the moment and just keep getting to know her. Please ... (read in full...)
Any last minute tips for me?
Q. I think I've made up my mind. I have posted some questions asking for help or advice because I'm very shy in matters of dating. I think the girl I have been dating just lost interest in me. I'm sure its because I haven't dared to kiss her. So t...
A. 25 July 2011: This lost of interest, please let us know why you think this? Thank you. ... (read in full...)
Cold texts but warm body language, what does this mean ladies ?
Q. Ladies help me out with this one, girls are sooooooo difficult to figure out. I used to work with this girl, every weekend. I think she likes me because she is so shy around me, makes effort to speak to me but recently has been going so red in ...
A. 25 July 2011: You are going to need to call her. Don't text anymore. Call her. ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to shrug me off? Should I keep trying to contact her?
Q. There was a girl who I thought we got along very very well for 7-8 months, then she became very very withdrawn and quiet. We haven't spoken for 3 weeks now, I was the last one to text her. We met 3 years ago in a few days time, had we still bee...
A. 25 July 2011: You are a good man. Truth is she has finished with things. Don't send the message and just don't bother. She clearly ignored you for amounts of time and hasn't been respecting you. Don't hold onto this anymore. She is not wanting to continue ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex with me, but not have to look at me or kiss me, what is his deal?
Q. Dear all, he wants to have sex with me but he does not want to kiss me! I fell ?in love with a guy I met for a month in a hall i was staying for a short visit. He is 29 and I am 30 years old. He initiated the friendship; he used to come and watch TV ...
A. 24 July 2011: I think he is very cautious because of his failed marriage. He is looking for just sex here with no emotional ties. So he can just get relief and doesn't have to form a bond. ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend cheated on me and I now I'm not sure if I can forgive her.
Q. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost two years. Recently, she suggested that we break up because due to reasons that I would prefer not to disclose. However, I still believed that she was the only person in the whole world for me, ...
A. 24 July 2011: You had broken up. She immediately found a new partner but that was her business I'm afraid. I could understand that you would be sad about that but there is nothing you can do about it. I would definitely move on now and try not to keep in touch ... (read in full...)
Having sex with my new partner but he cant cum, why is this?
Q. i have just started a sexual relationship with my new partner. we were discussing other realtionships in the past etc, he mentioned it had been a few years that hes been with someone after it took a while for him to ejaculate, in fact he didnt and ...
A. 22 July 2011: It's not you. He hasn't done this for a while so there is that psychological thought in his mind. The thought of releasing and relief. Don't worry and don't over think this one. Keep doing what you are doing and this will happen. Why not consider it ... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with an ex who was unfaithful and disrespectful towards you?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 months ago because I felt she was not loyal to me. She wanted to spend a lot of time with her three times ex boyfriend whom she claimed they are just friends. She was also spending a lot of time with another ...
A. 22 July 2011: No sir! Absolutely not. You are being badly respected here. You need to immediately cut all contact here and never ever acknowledge. Think about it, she saw this guy and that guy and showed you no respect. So, in answer to your question, I would ... (read in full...)
My ex refuses to tell me where I stand! What should I do now?
Q. I'm having a physical realtionship with my ex and when I ask him were do I stand with him he either avoid the question or just refuses to answer i have feelings for him but he refuses to tell me how he feels my question is what do I do now...
A. 22 July 2011: Well he is using you for sex. He has no interest in anything more with you because he is your ex and now he just gets the sex without any committment or relationship hassle. I cannot see any future for you here with him apart from the physical ... (read in full...)
Am I not big enough to satisfy her?
Q. my gf of 2 1/2 years does not seem sexually satisfied, she goes through the motions but i honestly dont think she enjoys the sex but she enjoys the closeness and intimacy that sex brings between a couple. when my gf was drunk recently her and her ...
A. 22 July 2011: Firstly, 7 is above average. No problem there.
With regards to what you heard, if it were true then maybe consider your relationship with this girl. You obviously will have this in your mind forever now and will always doubt yourself. ... (read in full...)
Not sure about my LD relationship anymore! there is another guy!
Q. Well, this is kind of complicated.. and I could use some advice please.. I haven't told anyone about how I'm feeling and I think I just need to tell someone and get some help. Basically, I met a guy on the internet in February we started going ou...
A. 22 July 2011: Just a thought, I believe your LDR has come to an end regardless of the new boy on the scene. I think the new boy has just opened your mind to the limits of your LDR. It's a shame but you are 3 hours away and need a closer boyfriend. So, first thing ... (read in full...)
He disappeared after our second date...and I miss him so much I cry myself to sleep!
Q. I dated someone twice. Then, he disappeared - he didn't make contact with me after the second date. I haven't seen / heard from him for 2 weeks now. I'm disappointed and confused. I'm too embarrassed to call him because the last time we met (2nd...
A. 21 July 2011: Yes, I'm sorry to say that he had sex with you and then has disappeared. That sadly could be the end of him. However, you could send him a message and ask what's up? or how's things? Two weeks is a long time though especially in light of what ... (read in full...)
Why does she ignore me and distance herself if she loves me so much?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for around 2 years. We are both in our mid to late 20´s. The relationship started after we met on our way to work for a long long time. She was seeing someone else at the time which i didnt know about but i thought sh...
A. 21 July 2011: She is using you as a back up in case the Ex doesn't want her. She hopes things work with the EX and doesn't want to ruin this by introducing you to everyone. I would let her go as soon as possible because she is not treating you with respect. I ... (read in full...)
Does she want to have an affair with me?
Q. Hi Cupids. I am a married man and I am friendly with a married woman whose daughter is in gymnastics with my two daughters. Recently she has been confiding in me about how her husband and her don't do things together and that she is unhappy...
A. 20 July 2011: She may well be hinting at an affair. But remember, they all say the marriage is unhappy and they want to leave. But, why do you want an affair? Is your marriage unhappy? Do you not want your wife? ... (read in full...)
A girl I liked said her ex was back but wanted to stay friends.
Q. Dear all, I want your opinion on this: I met this girl and we went out on 3 dates. Some dates I initiated and some she initiated. We had such a good time, we talked, laughed and flirted for hours and we had so many things in common, but I didn't m...
A. 20 July 2011: I think you played it really well. She obviously was starting with you but still thinking of the Ex. This was why she slightly pulled back on you. She may have you as a back up if the Ex doesn't work out again. But don't worry, you acted very well. ... (read in full...)
She invited me to stay with her in the past, how do I remind her of that?
Q. What is going on with my friend ?. I live in England, and she lives in Norway ( Although, she isn't from there originally ). We have been intouch online for a few years now, but we have only met in person once. We know each other because we like the ...
A. 20 July 2011: Well, as already said she has not mentioned the invite. So, you can't force her or suggest it. She has a guest already. I'm afraid you will have to make your own plans for accommodation etc. If this is beyond you financially and you are not ... (read in full...)
My is ex is threatening to come to my house and take my son! What should I do?
Q. so i just found out that my sons father is back! apparently his new girl just had his baby. he keeps saying he's gonna come see my son. he didnt want my baby he walked out when my son was 1mth old. he threatened me that he was going to take my son ...
A. 19 July 2011: Tell your fiance and go to the Police. You can walk into a Police office and get their advice first. ... (read in full...)
I've met one neighbour. How do I go about meeting the rest?
Q. A couple of months ago I posted a question regarding me wanting to make friends with my Japanese neighbors from across the street here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-like-to-be-friends-with-the.html Update A coup...
A. 18 July 2011: If I were you, I would just wait until you meet up agian in the street and carry on with your polite conversation. Just keep things ticking over and gradually build up a friendly rapport. If you see his other family, then you simply say "Hi, I was ... (read in full...)
I'd like to date him, but my mother says he'd a bad influence!
Q. Dear Cupid, Teenage girl confused here. I started working with this guy who goes to my school. He's going to be a senior in high school and we've been mayjorly flirting. Even our boss tells us to stop flirting. Everyone at work thinks we're dating. ...
A. 18 July 2011: If he does drugs then this is not good for you. Your mom is looking after you and would want the best for you so she may be concerned here. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex only wants me for sex!
Q. What does it mean when your ex boyfriend say this to you , does he want to keep you in his life or just use you for sex? You know I took the virginity so there's a lot of girls that don't last with the guys that took the virginity so keep me around. ...
A. 18 July 2011: Well, he is trying to persuade you to keep him around with some statistic he has invented. He wants you for sex and is trying to make out that if you stay with him he is doing you a great service. How does he know about couples staying with each ... (read in full...)
I like 2 different girls who might like me too, but they are both in relationships!
Q. So... I'm interested in two different women at the same time, and I think they think I'm funny and might consider a relationship with me, except that they're both in one two, though both of theirs is bad... Any ideas? And I'd like to remain friends ...
A. 18 July 2011: Don't do anything. They are both in relationships. ... (read in full...)
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