How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012: hi,
There is no real definite time but I would think under 5 minutes. Lay him down on his back and Use lots of baby oil or lube and when he is finished use paper tissues to clean up. It's hard to say how much there will be but simply use the tiss... (read in full...)
I'm ready to lose my virginity to her, but a few things are getting in the way!
Q. I am 26 and in a relationship. I have never had sex before, but feel that I've finally found the woman that I would like to give myself to. We have a great connection, and this week we started to get hot n' heavy and she asked if I wanted to. I said ...
A. 15 March 2012: Hello,
I really think you are over thinking this. She knows it is your first time so she will respect this and look after you. Please, forget about size and erections. Simply get intimate and let her guide you. Your phimosis can be mentioned to h... (read in full...)
Why did he delete me as a friend on Facebook when I got engaged? I want my friend back!
Q. Hi. I have been great friends (with a guy) for 13 year. We almost got together once when I was eighteen, but I decided against it because I didnt want to lose a friend if anything went wrong. He's in the navy but whenever he's back we would get ...
A. 13 March 2012: He had feelings for you all these years. He had hoped and hoped that maybe one day if he kept hanging around you might one day let him be your boyfriend. Then suddenly you got engaged and he finally realised that his hope had gone. That's why he ... (read in full...)
Do I make a move yet, or just wait and invite her over as a friend?
Q. I have liked this girl for a long time. We're great friends and I would love to be with her. However, she has always had boyfriends, and when I did ask her out, she sent me a nice email saying that we would never be more than friends (that was ...
A. 12 March 2012: Hello,
I will be honest here. You have NO chance.
This is not a good thing to keep hoping for something with her. You are wasting time here and 4 years have passed already. You may hope that her present troubles will lead her into your arms but... (read in full...)
After 1.5 year of planning trip now g/f says she wants us to go separately and she's going with a male friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been planning on hiking the appalachian trail together for the past year and a half. The departure time is getting close, so 2 weeks ago she tells me that she wants to hike the trail separately now. That consists of me going ...
A. 6 March 2012: I would pull away from this situation. She must have planned things with the other guy surely. I would just pull away from her and let her go. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says he wants to want me instead of having me?
Q. Ok...I have come out of a 6 year relationship about 5 months ago and have recently met an amazing guy, been seeing him for about 2 months now. I really think i am falling for him. But he said to me were take things slow? He said instead of rushing ...
A. 6 March 2012: Hello,
He is unsure. He may be worried about getting into things quickly and may also fear he may be your rebound. Also, he may be wondering about if he wants to take on two children and fears getting in to deep. One thing though, he may have good... (read in full...)
Scared of having sex, any advice for my first time?
Q. my husband and i have been married for 8 months and he wants 2 have sex, he tells me hes not forcing me, but i feel like it,i really want to. im a virgin and i wanna have sex so bad,im scared, i've told him this, he asks me why. i tell him we're ...
A. 6 March 2012: Hello,
If you are both married then continue to sleep together, enjoy bed time and without any timetables you could eventually relax and start sex. No rushing, yjust enjoy eachother's company in an intimate setting. Familiarity and love will help... (read in full...)
Can anybody read this man's mind?
Q. I was going out with my partner for a year and a half. He always travelled with work and we always managed to make things work. But after xmas he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. When I challeneged him and said ...
A. 6 March 2012: Hello,
Yes, I believe he misses you in one sense. However, he has no plans at all long term with you. So, when he gets lonely or feels like a chat he gets in touch. But the long term thing is worrying for you as he has already stated he does... (read in full...)
Does a guy's penis have a mind of its own?
Q. Okay I know this is a stupid question, but I've always wondered this. I almost asked a guy friend, but didn't because I didn't want him getting the wrong idea so here goes: Does a guys penis have a mind of it's own? Do you move it like you move a ...
A. 5 March 2012: With an erection the penis will simply become hard and throb a little. This can be moved a little by the person but only a sort of throbbing motion. An erection can be sort of be induced by thinking about someone or a situation however....the older ... (read in full...)
Voluntary work that doesn't need references?
Q. Can anyone recommend any voluntary work i could do that doesn't require references from employers?. I've been unemployed for a long time, and haven't had many jobs. I don't have enough work experience to get references from anyone, so i am looking ...
A. 5 March 2012: Hello,
My first thought was something like Church groups or Scouting or Guide groups. Say, go along to the Salvation Army or The Church of England and speak to the "person in charge" (Rector or Officer) and explain you are interested and more than... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to date but wants to "hang out" should I?
Q. I was seeing this guy for almost two months. Everything was going great but he told me he wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment and wants to see other people but he still wants us to hang out. Should i continue to be friends with him or just ...
A. 2 March 2012: Hello,
If you really like him, DO NOT do the friendship thing. It is a codeword for I am not into you for a relationship. You will waste months and years hanging around in false hope and real despair. However, if you don't mind the platonic thin... (read in full...)
He stopped contacting me after things got sexual, now we are talking again but is he ever going to ask me out again?
Q. Why would a man pull back when you get physical with him? I have been dating this guy and I know that we are not exclusive ..but I did some sexual things with him. I noticed that he texted me less after that. He used to text and say good morning ...
A. 27 February 2012: It seems he had sex and then was simply going to move on and cut contact. You kept the contact going so he is just keeping things polite for the short term. That's how it sounds. But I'm only guessing. I bet if you stopped texting him, then you ... (read in full...)
What would you do if a guy texts you but never calls?
Q. What would you do if a guy texts you and never calls. He doesn't ask you out consistantly. For example this weekend he has not asked me out for a date. He doesn't ever call. I really like him though and when we go out we have a really good ...
A. 25 February 2012: On what you have written, my first thoughts were he is married. However, I could be wrong. His dates are not consistent or regular and he doesn't do the phone. This means red flag to me. ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 24 February 2012: Hello,
I just think that the role itself is a sexual role. It dominates another and relies on an intimate session with a man or woman. Also, men would tend to want to relieve themselves over the actions. Although it is not sexual in it's phys... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a guy to get turned on by women's breasts?
Q. I am getting a bit confused here but its I can't just help it. Is it wrong for a guy to be attracted and get turned on by woman's breasts?...
A. 7 February 2012: No, not at all. Some like legs, feet, hair, bottom etc. Not a problem. ... (read in full...)
I gave him a deposit but never bought the car, now he wants to keep 20% of the money! Is this legal or should I take him to court?
Q. Hi,i hope someone has a good advice for me in this case.I wanted to buy a car from owner but i did not have enough money.i saw the car and i talk to the owner about it;he ask me to give him what i have and i can bring him the rest and take the car ...
A. 3 February 2012: You will have to get legal advice really. I could suggest a few outcomes but it is better to get a valid opinion. ... (read in full...)
Have you ever got in a relationship with someone, knowing beforehand it probably wasn't going to workout, just so you could have sex with that person?
Q. Have you ever started a relationship with someone, knowing all-well that it probably wouldn't workout anyways, just so you could have sex with that person? I'm curious because from what I've observed among friends and acquaintances - ...
A. 28 January 2012: Sadly I did this once. I met a girl on line, fancied her but had no intention of being part of her family life longterm. But, I just simply had to have her. So, I wined and dined, bought dinner a couple of times, had a couple of days out. Did the ... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: Oh dear. This is not good at all. What if he hooks up with someone? Yes, be worried. Ask him what is going on.... (read in full...)
When asked if he wanted us to be in contact, he replied" I do and I don't." Meaning?
Q. Hi everyone I could really do with your help on this situation as it is really getting me down I met a man nearly a year ago now it turned out to be just sex for him I have asked him if we will be together in the future he responded with we will ...
A. 27 January 2012: It seems he is just interested in sex with you. That's all, nothing more. If you are not happy with this, then I suggest you end all contact with him. ... (read in full...)
If a guy wants you for sex but not a girlfriend does it mean you're ugly?
Q. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I've told him to leave me alone. I feel ugly :(...
A. 27 January 2012: He just wants sex and no strings. He obviously fancies you but only for sex. Sounds like he wants to use you. ... (read in full...)
Adam or Eve, am I being played?
Q. am i jealous, stupid, controlling, or just kidding myself loving this person? what would you do? I have dated this 30 year old Micronesian for 3 months before we decided to be official. It was nice, I planned a whole day for the to of us and the...
A. 25 January 2012: Far too much going on here for you. It's time to walk away. She does not appear to be single or dating you exclusively. ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with different prostitutes! Is this sexual behavior normal?
Q. I wanted two know if my sexual behavior is normal i started two have sex with prostitutes since i was 19 then it was not a big deal because i was only going to a prostitute every 30 days or more. But since I get every time more frustrated of not f...
A. 24 January 2012: Hello,
I think unprotected is not a good thing. It is dangerous for you both.
I can understand that these prostitutes are very skilled and sex is probably fantastic. But, you need to look at the disease side of things and also your reliance... (read in full...)
Is she interested or..is she just treating me as a brotherly figure/adorable platonic friend?
Q. I have a crush on my colleague and I have no idea how she feels. We are both 18 and part-timers at a restaurant, both moving onto uni in 8 months. We have gotten close on a night out before, as in kissing in a corner, although we were tiddly. It ...
A. 24 January 2012: I would say there is a chance here. In fact, I'd say a very good chance. The hair touching is a big sign. I'd say she is interested. Go for it. ... (read in full...)
Rejected by a friend I fell for...should I keep trying or just give up?
Q. I was recently rejected by a good friend that I fell in love with. When I did admit it to her, it was the most awkward moment in my life and I didn't know what to say. I want to forget everything and just be friends with her, but my feelings won't ...
A. 24 January 2012: Hello, I have suffered this myself, I've felt how you describe. You are in good company because we share this. You are not the first to suffer this and you are not the last. I will be honest with you. You have no chance with this girl. DO NOT try ... (read in full...)
Matters down under!
Q. I was wondering how most women have their pubic hair, i guess? Just because idk if a guy will be freaked out if I have hair down there, or if it's normal too. If you don't have hair down there, how do you remove it? What do guys prefer? Is having ...
A. 23 January 2012: Hi,
Just an idea from a guy's preference, trim and neat, very short shaven or none at all. The only thing that is not for me is very hairy and out of control. But please, only my preferences! Each to his own.... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that I love her and risk losing her friendship?
Q. i am in love with my classmate-cum-friend, she thinks me as her brother, but i love her the most, we are not in blood relation, i am very afraid to say my feelings to her that she would leave me and i don't want that. i want to make her realize that ...
A. 21 January 2012: Hello,
What I would say is that if you do ask and she says, "No, friends only." Don't hang around for ages and hope she will change her mind. Accept whatever decision she makes as final. Ok, see how you get on and let's hope this works for you.... (read in full...)
We didn't actually have full blown sex, but could I be pregnant?
Q. Ok, this may sound weird, I've never had sex before, but I am planning on with my boyfriend in a few months. Anyway yesterday me and my boyfriend tried putting his member in down there just to see if it would work/fit, he took it out after 5 seconds ...
A. 19 January 2012: There is only a very small chance but remember that his member was aroused so there is always the chance of pre-cum etc. Also, make sure he wears a condom when you do things fully. ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: You have around 23 NO's here. That must tell you something.... (read in full...)
What's this girl's problem?!
Q. I know her on facebook, we share our phones and starts talking and becomes talking like lovers, but I didn't tell her that I love her, nor she does. And then we meet each other. She is a little bit bigger than me... on the next day when I ask h...
A. 17 January 2012: Hello,
I think you started on Facebook, chatted, talked, and then met up. She met and doesn't feel a spark. Therefore, delete her, don't contact her and move onto another potential girlfriend. She is not the one for you. Don't worry, I been ther... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: No from me as well. Very dishonest thing to do and a very risky thing to do. He doesn't need to fully finish as he would have sperm on his penis due to arousal. Not good from him. ... (read in full...)
Is it University or is it me? Can anybody help me make sense of what is going on here? ....Depression perhaps?
Q. i don't know what has happened? Before I left university for christmas everything was great and I was sad to go home and excited to get back here.. But now i'm back I find that I don't want to spend as much time with my flatmates as before, ...
A. 16 January 2012: Hello,
I think I might understand what is happening with you. University is like a 3 or 4 year time span. And You had started and then built up to the xmas holidays and all the fun and excitement that goes with it. You sort of build up to a grea... (read in full...)
We argue, don't talk, no sex, no date nights, no vacations. I'm fed up, what do I do?
Q. I'm 31 and my boyfreind is 46, we argue, don't talk for a wek at a time, no sex, he don't take me out movie, dinner, shopping nothing, no vactions together, I'm getting really fed up this being going on for years what should I do?...
A. 13 January 2012: I would just break up. From what you say, you don't have any relationship in any way. Break up and find someone new and don't waste anymore time here. ... (read in full...)
Am I just his "booty call"?
Q. I met this young guy (25y) I am 33y female....We had chemistry..started whith just kisses..with the time we ended up in sex.... I like him a lot. Is very mature and has a brillant career, is very smart and corteous. Very succesful for his age. La...
A. 13 January 2012: At the moment, it seems like he is having you just for sex then leaving. Obviously, you enjoy this part. But, if you are looking for more, it doesn't seem that he is at this time. ... (read in full...)
Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?
Q. My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hello,
The simple answer is that some men will, some men won't. Some will make their choices regardless of whether you have children. They may be attracted to you for "you" or not at all. Obviously, there are guys in this world that prefer "vir... (read in full...)
My daughter is 4 years old and has never met her father. He is single now and I am hoping that he will assume his responsibilities... is this wrong of me?
Q. I have a daughter who is 4 years old, ever since she has been born she has not seen her father. I met her father at a bar and within a few weeks of dating I becasme pregnant. We broke up after being together a month. Then I found out i was pregnant ...
A. 12 January 2012: Hello,
He's not interested in children. He has made you and the other girl pregnant and probably looking for his next person. I wouldn't bother with any more updates at all. He has no interest at all in your child. Move on without him. ... (read in full...)
Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....
Q. I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...
A. 9 January 2012: With regards to length, you are pushing 6 inches with a 5 inch girth and that doesnt sound small in any sense. Seems odd this is an issue now. ... (read in full...)
Was I right to send him this text? He still hasn't responded and I'm devastated....
Q. So I've been dating someone for a while who treated me so well he was incredible. It felt like we were falling in love I noticed very positive changes in him. But then IMMEDIATELY after, he switched up. He started treating me so different I've been ...
A. 9 January 2012: Hello,
Yes, i get the feeling he was doing the old pulling away routine and trying to get you to dump him. I appreciate that I don't actually "know" what was going on myself, but sometimes there is no other person involved. People sometimes use ... (read in full...)
He wants pictures of my private bits, what should I do?
Q. I talked to this guy once on the phone, i'm not sure how old he is, he is divorced and has a daughter that lives with his ex and he sees his daughter on the weekends. we chatted a little bit and he wants me to send pictures of my breasts and my ...
A. 9 January 2012: Oh dear. I think he wants to use your pictures to masturbate over. This is not good. I would try to stop these phone calls now and look for someone new. Thanks. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue this relationship? he's very aggressive, easily angered!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 weeks and we've been through so much trouble already! A few days after we got together he was going on at me because I had cheated in my last relationship, well, it was a drunken snog that I s...
A. 8 January 2012: No, break up and delete all contact details. He is not a good bet for the future. ... (read in full...)
He treated me like his doormat! Should I meet up with him again?
Q. I am in a huge emotional turmoil these days. I was in a serious relationship with this guy for almost a year and a half but soon things turned sour for the worse. We did LOVE each other A LOT. There was nothing left but fights and tears and most of ...
A. 8 January 2012: NO no no no no. He is no good at all. Try someone else. ... (read in full...)
To guys: why do you take so long to reply to a text a girl sends to you?
Q. me and this guy have been talking, and he mostly starts the conversation and it seems that he is interested in me and I am interested in him too. But why does it take him so long to reply when I text him? Guys why do you take long to reply back? ...
A. 7 January 2012: Hi,
yes, how long is long? 5 mins can seem ages if you are texting. Ty. ... (read in full...)
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