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writes:A few days I ago I posted about how I'd ended my affair. I'm thankful for the responses that I got but I text him to end it (so I couldn't get drawn in again)But he hasn't replied. Why isn't he fighting for me? I really thought he cared about me but I suppose not or maybe he doesn't take my text seriously.I just want him to get in touch with me so that I can ignore him.Does that sound stupid? I just want him to miss me like I miss him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice guys I do agree and I think the last response was right I want his attention.
I was so close to breaking NC yesterday but I've found myself thinking of the bad times with him rather than just focusing on a few good times
I don't want to let myself down by giving into him and I'm trying my best not to but its not that easy
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): "I just want him to get in touch with me so that I can ignore him."
No, you don't, you actually want contact still...not so you can ignore, but so you can feel better.
It is best that no contact of any sort take place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): He's not getting in touch with you because YOU BROKE IT OFF WITH HIM.He wants sex from you...not drama...he has enough drama in his life from his wife if he decided to have an affair.You are not in a relationship with him. He doesn't love you. You were a convenient sexual companion. He isn't going to 'fight' for you. If he's smart, he's assessing what caused him to stray from his wife and working on that aspect of his marriage.If you are smart, you won't pursue him or any other man who is already married or involved in a long-term relationship.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (21 September 2011):
 He's not going to respond because he knows if he keeps quiet you will be in touch again. So it is like a waiting game. Just let it go now and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): he may be relieved coz he wanted to bail out.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 "I just want him to get in touch with me so that I can ignore him"
yeah read that and tell me if is sounds stupid...
you texted him so you couldn't get drawn in again and yet here you are waiting on baited breath for him to respond.....
it's over... it does not matter if he misses you. FOCUS ON YOURSELF...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): He's either not bothered OR convinced you will be back in the old routine in a week or so and are just having a 'moment'.
Please don't worry about him, try as hard as you can to keep busy...don't give him the satisfaction of you getting in touch.
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