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writes:Hi there,Ok I know this has happened to some women before but it has not happened to me.I was seeing what seemed like a great guy, we were going out on dates, meeting each others friends. I even met his brother. I am 30 he is 28. We slept together but this was after we had been seeing each other for just over a month. That was all good too. Later that week he took me out for dinner and bought me a bottle of champagne as I had passed an exam and all was fine then too. I then went away for the wkd and when I returned I got in touch to ask him if he wanted to do something for his birthday, but I got no reply to this and have heard nothing in two weeks. I know he is ok as I can see his fbook profile. I just don;t get it and it hurts to think he he would just ignore me when I thought we got on so well. I have not been in contact for two weeks either but is there any point me asking him what happened or should I just count myself as having a lucky escape??Thanks for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): It is possible he was only after one thing (sex) and once he got it he lost interest. I would ignore him. He sounds both cold and bad mannered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): I am the one who posted this- I already told him I was going away to visit friends abroad. I actually spoke to him in the Monday I was back. It's only when I asked if he wanted to do something for his bday that I never heard anything! I also wished him happy bday and still nothing! Very odd, perhaps he met someone else!
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reader, applebite8821  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 I agree with Tom. Two weeks is too long to not hear anything from him. I do not think it was the weekend that caused him to go disappearing like this. If it was, he is a shallow guy and just forget about him.He seems to me like a player for exiting like this. Just because he was okay after you slept with him will not rule out the fact that maybe he waited til you slept with him and then bail out. A lot of players exit slowly. First week after sex, they are still crazy about you, next week, the calls become lesser until such time they start disappearing.Sorry to say but I would suggest that 2 weeks is long enough for you that you must realize it is best to just move on. It's his loss anyway. No problem, there are plenty of fish in the sea so to speak. Best of luck to you.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (1 September 2011):
 Just reading on from the theme of the weekend, did he know you were going away and what were his thoughts? I do find it a little strange he would check out due to your weekend away. I think you could get in touch and ask why he hasn't been in touch. In any case, his behaviour is not polite or respectful.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 September 2011):
 Did he know you were going away for the week end? I would call him (not text.Facebook, IM, email) CALL. If he doesn't want to talk, he isn't one for you.
I do think it's a little odd that he gets silent because you went away for a week-end, specially since you both haven't been dating long.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 September 2011):
 Try to call him. It could be as simple as him not receiving the message. For the future though, don't sleep with a man until you've been in an official relationship with him for a period of time (mine is two weeks into an official relationship).
Get in touch with him to find out why he hasn't contacted you or answered the message you sent him. Then see what he says and make your decision based on that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): Quietly and gracefully move on. Contacting him for anything, especially to ask what happened, makes you look weak and needy.
It was good while it lasted so enjoy the memories.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): I would leave it. Two weeks is a long time when you had been seeing each regularly and had been intimate. Don't contact him unless you just can't resist the temptation. If your weekend trip is the reason for this then he's not worth having. Put it down to him being unreliable and you are best off moving on. If he does contact you I would be cool and wary.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (1 September 2011):
 Hello, Yes, this is so frustrating. Seemed all was going well and then...AWOL. It is confusing because he had sex but instead of then just leaving, he waited to buy you dinner and a bottle of champagne. It makes it all the more confusing. A few possibilities.. It appears he had his own agenda here and it could be that he had planned to stick around for a short while and then the dinner was a sort of goodbye? He changed his mind? He was two-timing you all along? Perhaps he was a spineless type who was unable to tell you he wanted to finish? I doubt you will get any answers to why he just left. You may have to just chalk this one up to experience. At least things didnt get very serious and he then went. I would say leave it now. You could of course send him a message and state you are disappointed with his actions. I doubt he will reply, but at least you are letting him know that you are disappointed with his whole attitude. Sadly, you will have to move on and just accept this.
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