Should I send him a 'goodbye' letter after he broke up with me?
Q. He broke up with me more than a week ago. We were together for one and half years, spending the first six months together and another one year long distance. He's european, I'm asian. He's 22. I'm 29. Not the easiest situation huh. He tol...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
You are going to have to move on I'm afraid and not contact at all. Letters reek of neediness. However hard, no contact. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else really like feet?
Q. It may sound like a random question, but does anybody have an attraction to feet? I have liked them since childhood. I'm not into sucking toes or anything (not knocking it, it's just not my thing). I like touching female feet, massaging them, and ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
Yes it's a fetish. It's always been girl's shoes for me. Not anyone's mind you. ... (read in full...)
I thought she was interested but now I haven't heard from her in days. What now?
Q. So I met this girl and got her number. I called her up a few days later and left her a voicemail about getting together. Almost two days passed and I didn't hear from her and then she texted me. We set up a date for the next week. It went extremely ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
You now need to leave it to her to contact you. You have done all you can. Give it about a week and then look at other girls. Maybe she changed her mind, maybe this, maybe that. Let her call you. DO NOT contact her anymore. This will lead to a... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but also wants to be with his ex. He says its to help her move on. What?
Q. ok, so… I'm starting a relationship with this guy we've been friends for almost 2 and a half years. He has this huge amount of trust with me which makes me feel kind of guilty because I'm not that kind of people who talk about themselves a lot. A...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
What I would do is just stay friends with him. He has not given this girl up because he is in touch with her and is not 100% committed to you. So, for the moment, no sex, no reliefs. Stay friends until "he has helped her".
Then when he has f... (read in full...)
Ex said baby wasn't mine, but it resembles me and I feel guilty
Q. My ex n i broke up when she was 2 mnths pgnt.She later said that its cz pregnancy wsnt mine. We lost contact, she gave birth, baby is 5mnths. Have only seen baby's pics, we resemble. I feel guilty all the time, i cant move on, I dont know what ...
A. 10 September 2012: Hi,
You need to find out if the baby is yours. DNA is your first step forward. Once you have a result, you can then plan accordingly. ... (read in full...)
I love him but he just wants to be friends.
Q. I have recently met a guy and we get on really well. We have spent a few weeks together on holiday and I love him. He tells me he loves me too but "not in that way" even though we have kissed and cuddled. He says I will always be his best friend ...
A. 15 August 2012: Hi,
For you, the problem with the friends thing is you want more. He doesn't because if he did, he would.
Therefore, it is best to cut contact and tell him you cannot settle for anything else other than a relationship. Then leave. If he wants yo... (read in full...)
Supposed to be met at airport by my LDR but he has stopped communicating!
Q. Dear Cupid i with LDR with my bf for the past few months. We were planning to meet and as per our decision i have booked my flight tickets and i am leaving today afternoon. He is avoiding for past 2 days, not picking up my calls, even if he ...
A. 3 August 2012: Hi,
For something so important, he should have answered properly and calmed you and arranged things. DO NOT go now. This situation is not good. While you are at home you are in control. Do not fly out to the unknown with uncertainty. Cancel the ... (read in full...)
I booked to see him 5 months in advance, and now he tells me he will be working most of the time!
Q. what would you do if after planning to meet up/ visit your boyfriend hoping that he will make the time to be with you for the two weeks off that u took from work, he tells you he will be working and that he has got the long weekend to be with ...
A. 3 August 2012: Hi,
Well an honest response from me is to cancel the trip. Long distance relationships grab and long for opportunities to be with each other. I'm afraid that here, he is putting you off. So, let him suggest a time when he is free from work comm... (read in full...)
She usually responds right away but hasn't this time. Is she testing me?
Q. I have been texting this girl for few weeks. Conversations were going really good. Recently they have been like 'what we would do specific times of the day'. E.g. Wants cuddles at night, or me to take her out during the day etc. As if she is pictu...
A. 25 July 2012: Hi,
Thanks for follow ups. So no response yet and that makes nearly 48 hours? Maybe a short text to say hello to see if she responds. If not then leave it. All this waiting does your head in as I've been in these situations before. Dont wait and ... (read in full...)
She usually responds right away but hasn't this time. Is she testing me?
Q. I have been texting this girl for few weeks. Conversations were going really good. Recently they have been like 'what we would do specific times of the day'. E.g. Wants cuddles at night, or me to take her out during the day etc. As if she is pictu...
A. 24 July 2012: Hi,
A break in routine is always noticed in these situations. There are a lot of maybe this, or maybe that's here. You have sent your text so there is not a lot you can do really unless she responds. If you don't hear anything today, send one more... (read in full...)
If I haven't had sex in years, would I be a virgin again?
Q. i have sex when im only in grade school.. but after that i never commit sex again, now im 22 years old.. did my virginity win back after so many years?...
A. 4 July 2012: No, I'm sorry to say you are not a virgin. ... (read in full...)
We had sex then he deleted me from Facebook
Q. This guy I met last weekend, he's 25, 26 next month and I'm 18. We were getting on well. The next night I went to his but the thing is I was really shy and just blamed it on being tired. Anyways, we had sex. I know I shouldn't of but it just ...
A. 3 July 2012: I'd say based on his actions he has used you and has now gone. I wouldn't try contacting him. The fact that he deleted you and has not contacted you says he has finished. Chalk this up to experience I'm afraid. ... (read in full...)
Why a 180 from what she said she wanted a week ago? Did I do something wrong?
Q. Ive been with my girl friend for a few months. She asked me to move in with her and her children. This happened about a week ago. Everything was falling into place. i treat her like a queen and her children are treated the same way. I do everythi...
A. 29 June 2012: Hi
Thanks for follow up. So it seems you are no further forward than when you first posted. April thru June about 2 months in total. So annoying, so very frustrating. Well, you can hang in there for a little bit more or you could take a big risk... (read in full...)
I called her and told her I was done with this 'crush' on her. Opinions?
Q. Ok recently I realised that I'm in love with a friend I've been crazy about for months... The problem though, is that we're not together and that kills me... She claims to be crazy about me too... I mean before our first date she told me she wan...
A. 7 June 2012: Hi,
From what I read, I believe you did the right thing. No more games and waiting on someone to change their mind or want to be with you. You may hurt now but you have got rid of a headache. A big headache. The problem is if she liked you the same... (read in full...)
If a girl dry humps a male virgin, does it mean she has taken his virginity?
Q. Hello. I'm nervous on asking about this, on here. But, I guess my question is appropriate, to ask on here. When a girl dry humps a guy, does it mean he can no longer say he's a virgin? Like, for example, does it mean he's had sex, and, as a result...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi, For a guy, he loses his virginity when he enters/penetrates a lady. (not wishing to be too graphic) His male organ inside hers. Thanks. ... (read in full...)
We had a great time, he said he wanted to see more of me but its been a week and I haven't heard from him yet. Does this mean he's emotionally unavailable?
Q. I am divorced and been lonely for a long time. I am 50 and take great care of myself, therefore guys flirt with me a lot. I went online and have met nice guys, but no spark. I met a guy three weeks ago , he is 44 . We have gone out twice. We had a ...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi, Yes, send him a Hi text in about 5 or 6 days. See what happens if he replies, responds etc. Two good meet ups sounds good so you are gonna have to just wait this one out until you send the text. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to make a 6 hour drive to see her graduate?
Q. Scenario: After meeting her through a friend at a salsa event, we connected through Facebook. I live about 6 hours way. I picked her up from her flight after New Years so she could take her week long course. I hosted her when she was back for a n...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi,
She has already said no to dating and long distance. So, ask yourself, if the reason you are driving 6 hours to see her is the "hope" you might date her. I believe you would need to be invited to go up there and not gate crash it. Has she invi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is ready to lose his virginity to me, but I'm not ready! What am I supposed to do?
Q. I'm a virgin and a teenager. My boyfriend is also a virgin but he's ready to lose his virginity to me. But Im not ready. And he gets sexually frustrated. What Am I suppose to do?...
A. 9 May 2012: You are not ready say no. If he says he may leave then so be it. ... (read in full...)
Why a 180 from what she said she wanted a week ago? Did I do something wrong?
Q. Ive been with my girl friend for a few months. She asked me to move in with her and her children. This happened about a week ago. Everything was falling into place. i treat her like a queen and her children are treated the same way. I do everythi...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi,
Well, she has asked you to be patient and wait so that's what you should do. However, if things are dragging and you find that you are being ignored or you sense someone else on the scene, then that's when you move on. But ok, give her the spac... (read in full...)
After we had sex is when he told me he wasn't looking for anything serious.
Q. I started to date this guy, he's 26 and I'm 18. I was really excited because my friends is going out with his brother and it also happened that we had a lot in common. So tonight we were on a date and things got kind of heated and we ended up ...
A. 8 May 2012: Hi,
Well it is a casual sex thing because he doesn't want anything heavy. It's your choice, if you do not want this then you must end things. ... (read in full...)
Slept with someone too soon, can't trust him. What to do?
Q. I really messed up. After being single a year I've been seeing someone I met online. From the start he said he wanted a relationship. Actions speak louder than words though. He said we would go out and do fun things. Yet he just seems to want me to ...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi,
I'm afraid you are gonna have to just mark this one up to experience. He is probably doing this a lot and probably texts and messages multiple girls. If you feel rushed then in future take this as you telling yourself to wait. Accept this as a... (read in full...)
Was I the first guy? Did I take my girlfriend's virginity?
Q. OK me and my GF are very close and she swears she gave me her virginity now I know I was her 1st bf in history and 1st kiss.etc anyways I'm worried (cus I get that way cus I'm insecure) that maybe she's lying and the reason why is this the day she ...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi,
From what you have said, I believe that she would not have said you were her first unless it was true. Yes, you were her first. She would have no reason to lie. In my experience, my previous girlfriends had had sex before and they told me so. ... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl again? Or is she just being nice?
Q. Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exa...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi,
Thanks for the follow up. It really is helpful to get what happened. So, just remember it was simply because she didn't know you. Forget this one, delete and block and all that. Move on to new people. Keep doing what you are doing because you ... (read in full...)
Why a 180 from what she said she wanted a week ago? Did I do something wrong?
Q. Ive been with my girl friend for a few months. She asked me to move in with her and her children. This happened about a week ago. Everything was falling into place. i treat her like a queen and her children are treated the same way. I do everythi...
A. 6 May 2012: Hi,
Any further developments to your situation or do you need any more help at all? Hope all is better for you. ... (read in full...)
Do other people masturbate weekly? Use lubricant?
Q. im only thirteen but i masturbate up to 14 times a week usualy to the point of an orgasam and i often use lubricant to help prevent friction. I would like to know how much other people masturbate weekly, dose it end in an orgasam every time, do you ...
A. 6 May 2012: Hi, I think at young ages and discovering things you are free to go with how you feel. It's a private thing you do and you are free to enjoy. Some use lube or baby oils due to circumcision as there is no foreskin. However, it's whatever feels co... (read in full...)
Why does this girl think I'm ugly?
Q. So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my ...
A. 6 May 2012: Hi,
I think it's her reaction to your message. She felt sort of threatened or creeped out. Perhaps her message is a "go away, leave me alone" reply. I would delete her now and don't get in touch or reply. ... (read in full...)
Why a 180 from what she said she wanted a week ago? Did I do something wrong?
Q. Ive been with my girl friend for a few months. She asked me to move in with her and her children. This happened about a week ago. Everything was falling into place. i treat her like a queen and her children are treated the same way. I do everythi...
A. 29 April 2012: Hi,
A few months is not a long time. My wild guess is you may be her rebound but I could be wrong. Does she have a recent break up within 2 years? Was she married or in a relationship with her children's father? The sudden reaction of her in this... (read in full...)
She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: Same sort of story as normal. I doubt she will leave. You will be kept hanging. Take control and get out of this. ... (read in full...)
Do I believe what this married man is telling me?
Q. i met this married man at a night club 3 weeks ago he called me first thing the next morning and has texd and phoned every day until last week when we met up ,i texd him yesterday and asked him if we re finished he said no im just busy at work ,?? ...
A. 18 April 2012: Hi,
It's an old line like "my wife doesn't understand me." or "the marriage is finished." Don't go down this road.You will get drawn in like a drug and be left a mess. Forget the man, the texts, the phone. Move on now. ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!
Q. Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...
A. 18 April 2012: Hi,
Although I agree with you that it is not pleasant and it does smell, you are in their house. Their house, their rules I'm afraid. I do hear you though and it is a shame he can't be a little more understanding. ... (read in full...)
Asked out neighbor she never responded and I can't move on
Q. I was trying to date my neighbour and things didnt go well. I had asked her out and she replied she will get back to me. But she never did. I Because i lost hope, 3 months ago, I tried to move on. I dont have her number, but we are still friend...
A. 16 April 2012: From what you say, I'd take it that she means No. If interested she would have said yes straight away. What's the need to get back to you? Carry on looking for the new house if you are set on moving. 3 months without communication tells you all you ... (read in full...)
I now regret taking him back after his fourth cheating episode!
Q. my partner of two years has technically cheated on me and i have taken him back for the fourth time and now i am regretting it what should i do?...
A. 31 March 2012: Then get rid of him again once and for all. ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in a faux relationship! She broke up with me but still expects me to fund her!
Q. Hello people I wonder if you can help me I am in a big big dilemna in my life at the moment, 8 months ago while I was travelling around in north america, I hooked up with my 'girlfriend' who i stayed with for 3 1/2 months to cut a long story ...
A. 30 March 2012: Hello,
You are being "taken" here.
My advice to you is simply walk away. You will then free yourself from further abuse and also financial problems.
Open your eyes and step back. Have a look at what is going on. Her ex has moved back in and you a... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with someone who is 9000 miles away....
Q. it all started when I saw her blog link on a website, and you can call it a love at first click. 'you just fall for her look, you will get over it soon.'; 'tumblr is not a social network for you to find a date!' etc... I'm tired of hearing these...
A. 24 March 2012: Hi,
As an idea, how about, turn off the computer for 4 days and see how things feel after that. You may feel differently. best wishes, T.... (read in full...)
My wife is matron of honor, and the best man is her ex!
Q. My wife and I have a question about weddings and what to do. My wife has this very good friend. After me, I guess you could say she was her 2nd best friend. She's getting married this summer. She asked my wife to be her matron of honor. My wi...
A. 24 March 2012: Hi,
Regardless of whether is it right or wrong to cancel or attend, just remember that if you have an issue in your mind with the ex attending then that is how you are. You have a problem so the day will not be a good day for you. Even if it is d... (read in full...)
My wife is matron of honor, and the best man is her ex!
Q. My wife and I have a question about weddings and what to do. My wife has this very good friend. After me, I guess you could say she was her 2nd best friend. She's getting married this summer. She asked my wife to be her matron of honor. My wi...
A. 23 March 2012: The problem here is everything is "in your face." Unless you can try a different arrangement then I would just decline the invitation and not go. You may try to think about getting around it and being calm and not jealous. However, you cannot deny ... (read in full...)
He still seems interested, but he has backed off when it comes to meeting up. What is going on?
Q. I met a guy on a chat site about a month ago, he is 22 I'm 40. Straight away we realized we worked for the same company in the same building. So we started emailing each other on and off every day. We became friends on Facebook and exchanged mobile ...
A. 22 March 2012: Hi,
From what I can see, he obviously fancies you, and enjoys sleeping together etc. He would not want to let things deepen too much so just keeps things from going further. Possibly because at 22 he may not be ready to settle into something more... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with someone who is 9000 miles away....
Q. it all started when I saw her blog link on a website, and you can call it a love at first click. 'you just fall for her look, you will get over it soon.'; 'tumblr is not a social network for you to find a date!' etc... I'm tired of hearing these...
A. 22 March 2012: Hi,
I would move on and not waste anymore time. A 9,000 miles LDR is mainly played out in your own head and you may "imagine" what they are doing and fall in love with your own thoughts about who and what they are. This is not good for you. Move... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant from being fingered with sperm on the fingers?
Q. so my girlfriend and i were having sex... i pulled out and came on her stomach... i got some on my hand which we wiped off with a towel and wiped off her stomach then about 2 minutes later i started to finger her again and fingered her for a while.. ...
A. 20 March 2012: With unprotected sex, anything is possible. The pull out method doesn't work because the penis will have sperm on it all the time before and after sex. Also, the fingering "could" because it is about temperature and although this may be very rare, ... (read in full...)
My four year old's 73 nyear old Daddy ignores her existance.
Q. I have a four year old child by a 73 year old man!we live in the home with him! He refuses to claim her as his child when his family ask him. I have asked him on several occasions to prepare her for the future in case he dies ber=fore e pass away so ...
A. 19 March 2012: Hi,
Yes file for child support and just for back up get a DNA done as well. Obviously you know he is the father but it makes it clear to the child support as well. ... (read in full...)
How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012: hi,
There is no real definite time but I would think under 5 minutes. Lay him down on his back and Use lots of baby oil or lube and when he is finished use paper tissues to clean up. It's hard to say how much there will be but simply use the tiss... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl again? Or is she just being nice?
Q. Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exa...
A. 5 January 2012: Hello,
No, it seems a massive long shot to me and no contact has been kept up over the past months. Also, she hasn't initiated anything. However, for what it's worth, try the long shot and see if she would catch up. Nothing to lose at all. If you ... (read in full...)
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