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After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 27 August 2008: oh man, they've all lost me and hopefully i stay strong and keep it that way! i thought he was the one but he messed up and i'm not interested in a relationship any time soon. just like you're taking a break and improving yourself, i'm taking a ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 26 August 2008: to tell you the truth, my own life is such a mess right now i feel like a hypocrite giving advice! i was talking to my super far back ex and he decided to go back to HIS ex so we aren't exactly on good terms... and a guy i dated last year who ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 25 August 2008: well honesty is always best. either he misses you too and showing him you hurt will make him realize there is still hope, or maybe not. and maybe he will realize he cant be such a dbag next time around.
hiding feelings does nothing in my opinion.... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 15 August 2008: he might honestly just want his stuff back.
be strong, but don't be afraid to let him know you're hurting. if he wants to come back he will, if not... it happens to the best of us. again, gl! be nice haha!... (read in full...)
I am 14, he is 18. Should I date him?
Q. dear cupid well im seein this guy ive known for a long time now and he is understanding and he would never pressure me to have sex he told me he wud wait for me when im ready but thats the thing im 14 and he iz 18 and he iz realy nice but i dont ...
A. 12 August 2008: if you want to, go for it. i wouldn't let my little sister do it, though, unless this guy went through some major interrogations first.
sex isn't the only problem here, although it is great he is going to wait for you to come around. while yo... (read in full...)
What should I do or say about her brother moving in with us?
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for almost a year, we are both 23. Ive never had a girlfriend like her, she is perfect. We have even talked about moving in together so early on in our relationship. Sadly, her brother died in May. She has 2 other ...
A. 12 August 2008: just be honest. be understanding towards her feelings, but be honest. fact is she should have talked to you about it first. if she is mature and cares about you the way i feel she must, she will listen to you and see where you are coming from. maybe ... (read in full...)
This younger girl has a bad reputation. Should I keep seeing her?
Q. I am using my sisters account on here, she said its fine. I am a 34 year old man. I always go for older women and have been seeing older women for a few months and just having fun, but one got a bit serious and started being a bunny boiler. I have j...
A. 12 August 2008: there comes a time when you just need to take the opinions and advice of other people into account but make your own decision based on gut instinct. i think this is one of those occasions. people change, that might have been who she was but she's ... (read in full...)
Twice we arranged to meet and twice he never showed up. Is he playing with me?
Q. Right i am a bit confused right now and would really apprechiate some advice, i don't wanna go on but i need to put it in detail for you to understand. I met this guy online about 4 weeks ago, i really liked the sound of him, so messaged him and he m...
A. 12 August 2008: he isn't a "real" guy to you yet in the fact that you two haven't even met each other in person! stop putting your life on hold for this dude! he doesn't seem to be putting aside so much time to see you, so keep your pride and date around. see him ... (read in full...)
Was his decision not to pursue a relationship because our circumstances? Or does he simply just not like me?
Q. I broke up with my ex after 11 years. We had lived together for that time and owned a house together, it was a very serious relationship. Four months later I bumped into an “old flame”. We’d never really “got it together” but over the course o...
A. 12 August 2008: yes it is possible he picked up on the fact that he was your rebound and you were his. it seems like he liked you just fine. your buddy probably just thought the two of you were better than that. concentrate on being just friends for now and see if ... (read in full...)
Will the plan b work? I'm nervous, but I wouldn't mind having a baby.
Q. So I had unprotected sex on my most fertile day, and again the next two days, and then I took the morning after pill. I want to know what are the chances of me being pregnant? Will the plan b work? I'm nervous, but I wouldn't mind having a baby....
A. 12 August 2008: you should have taken the morning after pill as soon after sex as you could have! why did you wait 3 days later? i've used it once and what i understood from the doctor is it can work up to 72 hours later, but the effectiveness goes down as the time ... (read in full...)
Am I right to put my foot down about him texting these girls?
Q. Hi, needing a few opinions on my situation. I've been with my boyfriend for not far off 4 years and its been great. Yet there has always been one thing that has worried me and makes me slightly paranoid and that is his constant texting with his girl...
A. 12 August 2008: yes he is lying to you. you have basically said so yourself. and yes you are right in putting your foot down, even though it doesn't seem to be doing much good. it's a shame you have made up your mind to stay with him, because i would have done my ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 12 August 2008: honestly, try not to think about it. it's in the past now. take a couple minutes to give yourself some constructive criticism and then actively forget about the rest. it won't help in any way, only make you linger, only make you sad. and don't blame ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a guy really loves me?
Q. How can I tell if a guy really loves me and when Imeet the right person. It Ssounds silly, but I figure if it was that simple we'd all be in beautiful, loving relationships right or at least with the right one. Any suggetions?...
A. 12 August 2008: when a guy loves you he does everything within his means to make you happy. you can read i love you in his eyes. he actually does listen to you during your motormouth moments and not only listens but commits it to memory so 2 weeks later he can ... (read in full...)
He is very secretive, does not talk about his past and says he does not love me, but is fond of me. What to do?
Q. ive been seeing a man for nearly 2 years at the start he said he didnt want anything serious but things had got better over time we have never argued i enjoy being with him we dont live together i see him everyday we walk our dogs together and meet ...
A. 12 August 2008: i agree with smiles. take it in stride and don't try to break down his secretive side. accept him for who he is and what he said in response to your i love you and keep him as a good friend while you find someone new!... (read in full...)
I think handwritten notes are a lost art, I'd love to get one in the mail, instead of a text msg or email, but don't know if this is the right thing to do. How else can I break the ice?
Q. How do I break the ice? To make the summary short: b/f had a rough patch three months ago, I over-reacted to my needs instead of thinking about his, he was very hurt and broke up with me but in the end he was more hurtful to me than I to him. I a...
A. 12 August 2008: go for it. why not? and i love getting letters in the mail, too. words mean so much more when the person's hand actually wrote them out somehow. you might want to specify that you are seeing someone else so he doesn't mistake your interest. good ... (read in full...)
The first time he penetrated me I never bled, so now I'm scared he's going to think I was faking my virginity.
Q. Hi there! I've been with this guy for about a year and everything seems right. I was with him a couple of weeks back and we were discovering each other. He didnt go inside me, but by the time we finished, i was on my way home i was bleeding...
A. 12 August 2008: the hymen is the thin membrane that gets broken during a woman's first time. this is what causes the bleeding. many times it breaks over time due to just your everyday life. horseback riding, gymnastics, and in my case martial arts can cause the ... (read in full...)
We're practically boyfriend and girlfriend except that... he already has a girlfriend!
Q. So there's this boy that I like and really care about and he likes and really cares about me too. we have know each other for three years,we are all ways together almost like everyday. he takes me out to the movies and to eat and sometimes I retu...
A. 12 August 2008: he needs to choose. no more sex, dates, and only very few phonecalls until he does!!! because right now you are being "that girl" who ruins relationships and you don't want to be her! it isn't fair that he has put you in this situation and has kept ... (read in full...)
I got back with him thinking he'd changed, but he hasn't at all! What should I do now?
Q. I have a boyfriend that i got back together with. i didnt know why i did, cause he really hurt me, but i still had feelings for him, but during the time we were not together i started liking my best guy friend. He is always there for me anyway, so i...
A. 12 August 2008: alright so dump the current/ex boyfriend because he is no good and work on rebuilding a friendship with your best guy friend!... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him even though he still wants to be with me?
Q. I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend who I was with for 6 1/2 years and we just broke up 2 months ago. I told me current boyfriend this and he still wants to be with me?!?!But I don't feel right staying with him when I have feelings for som...
A. 12 August 2008: it's normal to have feelings for someone you were with for so long. those feelings might always be there to some extent or another.
if there is no chance of you and your ex getting back together again and you have been completely honest with you... (read in full...)
He caters to his immature adult children to the detriment of our relationship. How should I handle this?
Q. i need to get your opinion on how to sucessfully date an older man that is dysfunctional and his two children (married) are very dysfunctional. i have been dating him for almost four years and he still will not take up for me with his kids. ...
A. 12 August 2008: your boyfriend is definitely not treating you fairly! it doesn't seem like he is putting you on the same importance level as his kids, and if you two are going to get married, he needs to! you can't do much about the kids, either they like you or ... (read in full...)
We both like each other, but she is stressed and busy. What shall I do?
Q. I'm currently extremely confused at this situation: Me and this girl i really like went on a date to the movies and it went extremely well. We were totally comfortable around eachother and she kept messing with her hair and mine, kept touching my...
A. 12 August 2008: don't push her for another date if she is super busy, just be there as a good friend to support her through all the stress she is having to deal with lately. don't back off, keep in touch for sure. maybe ask when she has breaks at work to bring her ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and my friends's are saying it's uncool to be a virgin, so I'm hoping someone will help me please.
Q. I really like this boy, his names jack, and people keep telling me to ask him out. But im really nervious and i dont know what to do. My friends keep telling me to have sex with him and go on from there, but the thing is im only 14. and im stil...
A. 12 August 2008: good god, you're as old as my little sister. as far as i know she hasn't even kissed a guy and i want to keep it that way!
i had my first kiss at 16, and i lost my virginity at 18. and i am definitely cool. it is definitely cool to stay a virgin p... (read in full...)
Why couldn't my ex look me in the eye??
Q. Hey real quick was just wondering why my ex couldnt look me in the eye..this is the summary; we dated, spent so much time together, so started arguing, we broke up about a year ago. 6 months after we broke up he was still telling people he hated me ...
A. 12 August 2008: well he said he hated you and then you run into him at a party. i hate to say it but maybe he just didn't want to look at you because he can't stand the sight of you. either that, or he is very ashamed for talking behind your back.
i think th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbated on webcam to my friend, not knowing I was with her at the time!
Q. well ive been with my boyfriend now for over a year! i love him and we have a fantastic sex life. but i slept at my friends house on saturday night, and my boyfriend added her on msn. he asked her if she was horny, he doesnt know her but she knew of ...
A. 12 August 2008: this would DEFINITELY bother me if i was in your shoes. whether you want to confront him about it and stay with him or what is your choice. but your gut is telling you it isn't right and i agree! if i was you i'd have broken up with him on the spot!... (read in full...)
I am 14 years old and I really want to have a baby, I think I would make a great mom, I take care of my brother and sister all the time, please tell me what you honestly think??
Q. iam 14.and i'll be 15 in about 6 months.i want a baby so bad.my om never around so i take care of my brother and sister all the time.grew up rough no dad you know...i would be a amazing momma.people are costanly telling me im already mommy and i ...
A. 12 August 2008: please, please don't have a baby yet, hun. you are way too young. i've been in the exact same boat as you for years. it would always freak my parents out when i would be in grade school saying i wanted kids of my own, even planning out what they ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to stay with my boyfriend out of loyalty rather than love!
Q. My boyfriend's younger brother told me that he is in love with me and i feel the same, but i dont want to betray my boyfriend by dumping him for his brother. Im 16, his brother is 16, and my boyfriend is 18.. Help! I feel i need to stay with my ...
A. 12 August 2008: yikes, dating within families can be sticky situations. so let's take it a step at a time, yeah? your immediate problem is that you are with your current boyfriend out of loyalty, not love. that is a big no-no, and the obvious correction to that ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that some of us, are not destined to have loving relationships, or to be happy with someone and not be ultimately rejected?
Q. I came here because of an article that I saw and found it intereasting, I dont look for romance and all because I dont believe it is in the cards for me, Do you think a person can be destroyed for life, or that some of us are just not meant to have ...
A. 12 August 2008: i believe everyone was meant for love, but some people do just fine without it. some just need and search for it more than others, and that's fine. to each their own.
my ex boyfriend and i broke up because he said he just has this gut feeling ... (read in full...)
We will never be together, but I truly love him, but want to get over him, what can I do to accomplish this hard task?
Q. dear cupid im wondering which is the best way 2 get over some1 you have loved for years? i just cant seem 2 get him out of my head and theres no way we can be 2gether thankyou!...
A. 12 August 2008: get busy, keep your head out of the clouds [because that's probably where he is], and find someone new! even if it doesn't feel like you love him, give a new guy a chance. you might be surprised. those are my best 3 pieces of advice, i have used ... (read in full...)
My sister probably seduced my fiancee, which may have caused him to have a breakdown, he is being treated, he also has an aclohol problem, I love him, I think he loves me, he wants to work this out, should I try to mend the relationship or what?
Q. My fiance just told me he cheated on me with my older sister. I have been betryed by 2 people I loved and trusted. She wont admit it but he told me the truth. He had a brakdown after that and is in couseling at a hospital right now. He also has...
A. 12 August 2008: it seems like it is in your heart to forgive him, so i say go for it. i believe he does love you and you love him and love does overcome all obstacles. it will take time to rebuild the relationship but with hope, faith in each other, trust and ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 12 August 2008: i am very proud of you for letting him go and for not trying to talk with him more than is necessary. those are two things most people have great difficulty with after a rough break up, and you seem to be doing well so far without any help!
you l... (read in full...)
Am I right about my husband or not? Do I stay or go?
Q. Hi, I have a few questions, so hopefully I can put them all in one message. First off, we have only been married for less than a year and we have been fighting ever since we got married. My husband acts like a child, I have to tell him when to do EV...
A. 11 August 2008: i think it would be worse for your child and you to stay with this man, so i suggest you leave. it doesn't sound like you both are very happy at all in this relationship.
if you don't want to divorce, suggest a separation. maybe when he is alone... (read in full...)
How do you approach your girlfriend with concerns that she's interested in someone else?
Q. If you think that your gf is possibly interested in someone else how can she be approached without getting her angry? I tried talking to her nicely about it but she just gets angry and tells me that she doesnt wanna talk to me right now and she'll c...
A. 11 August 2008: it sounds either like you are being too insecure and it is upsetting her OR she is trying to hide something and is being defensive.
you haven't really given enough background for me to help you further than that.
if you can't bring it up amic... (read in full...)
He shows up everywhere--is he a stalker or is it fated?
Q. Hello guys, just a quick question. For about three months i have been bumping into this man. They don't appear to be usual meetings either. First he nearly knocked me down, which obviously set me off noticing him. It was my fault of course, cos i ...
A. 11 August 2008: i believe in fate. when i was in france i met a guy once and ran into him maybe 4 times during the next week completely by chance.
if you and this man have similar jobs, friends, tastes, chances are you frequent the same places. that could ha... (read in full...)
I'm meeting an online contact for a first date--any ideas?
Q. Okay so I asked this girl out and we've never actually spoken words to eachother. I asked her out and she said yes. On Friday we're going into town...I was thinking coffee and a movie but I need some advice! ...
A. 11 August 2008: you might want to call her and talk to her over the phone so it isn't as awkward meeting in person for the first time. the more personal you can get now, the better it is for when you meet. are you sure this girl is legitimate and not some online ... (read in full...)
He said it was no strings sex--how do I know?
Q. hi im 30 in relationship with 2 children.ive known this guy 4 years as friends and we had sex together the other day he is also married with 2 kids he said it was just sex how do i know if its anything more need advice.he keeps saying dnt tell know ...
A. 11 August 2008: you had sex with a married man. he is married!!! he doesn't want anyone to know!!!
asides from the fact that he is already committed to someone else and is trying to keep it a secret, he has flat out said that it was just sex.
i hate to say... (read in full...)
My Red Flag has gone up... Should I be suspicious?
Q. My boyfriend is 12 yrs younger than me, and we have been living together for 2 yrs now. I have never trusted him due to an ongoing issue of him gawking at younger women. I am not beautiful, but I am not too bad. My self esteeme level is diminished ...
A. 11 August 2008: yes! you should be suspicious!
there is definitely something going on there and i think you need to confront him about it.
good luck!... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend - what should I think about this...
Q. so, i met a great guy, or so I think, he tells me he loves me althought hasn't been that long, calls me constantly, emails, texts, talks about a future, the whole 9 yards. The problem is, last week I was with him and he got 2 messages from 2 other ...
A. 11 August 2008: i think you should confront him about it. tell him you got curious and went onto the site and saw that he was still active, and ask what is going on.
make it clear to him that he either needs to commit or he is losing you.
because i'm n... (read in full...)
Now we have all this history he's scared of trying again?
Q. I messed things up in my last relationship. It's a long story, but my life wasn't where I wanted it, and I got into a rut of smthg bordering on depression, and I just stopped being myself. I was needy and insecure and controlling and ... he did ...
A. 11 August 2008: my ex boyfriend and i are talking about getting back together after years. i'd known him since middle school, he was my best friend, we dated for 2 years, but then he cheated on me.
i've forgiven him, and he has grown, but i still feel insecure... (read in full...)
What would you think of this?
Q. If you found a message to your husband saying "Last time you came over in the middle of sex you said..." and "if you can make the 4th that would be great. Better not come back to mine, we shouldn't have sex again. The pain wasn't worth the...
A. 11 August 2008: yikes. that would look real to me, too.... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex boyfriend
Q. I cant stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. We broke up in May, I haven't seen him or spoken to him since early June. I dealt with the break up, the emotions and I got over it. I even stopped thinking about him. He broke up with me because it wa...
A. 11 August 2008: i know where you are coming from. my boyfriend of 6 months and i broke up in may as well, and it was not easy. i'm talking to a couple great guys, but every once in a while he pops into my head.
we all know nothing good will come of talking ... (read in full...)
Is it legal for us to marry...?
Q. My fiance and I want to marry, but I'm 17 and he's 25. Can we legally marry in the state of North Dakota? My parents have already given us permission so it's okay by them....
A. 11 August 2008: i live in california, so i wouldn't know. but it sounds like you two can. usually if you are underage but with parental consent everything is fine.
but are you sure you want to get married at 17??? think of all the things you are going to be missi... (read in full...)
What shall I say if I see this lad again soon?
Q. i have been on about this lad before. Anyway before i was saying 'what shall i say to him if i see him again?' I havn't seen him yet, but i might in th middle of september. Do you think i should keep on crushing on him incase he does like me bac...
A. 11 August 2008: don't like someone because you feel you have to!
just act cool around him. it sounds like you haven't seen him in a while and feelings change. go towards it with a just friends attitude and an open mind for it to develop further. don't jump the... (read in full...)
We don't have much to talk about, and I don't feel a real connection with him Should I end it?
Q. help me out guys... 4 weeks ago I started seeing this guy from our group of friends, he had liked me for over a year, but we had never got together as i had been in relationships. Anyhow we started flirting together a bit, nothing happened and then ...
A. 11 August 2008: it seems like you pretty much have your mind made up and just need someone to tell you that it is okay for you to break up with him.
so here goes. it is okay for you to break up with someone, no matter the circumstances, if you aren't feeling ... (read in full...)
Why do I hurt during sex?
Q. I'm 16 and I lost my virginity about a month ago. ( didnt bleed but it was the 1st time ive ever had sex) Every time Ive had sex since then I hurt really bad when my bf goes deep and I cant figure out why. I'm worried I could have some kind of ...
A. 11 August 2008: it still hurts when i have sex every once in a while. your body may just need to adjust to having him in you since you only lost your virginity a little while ago. if you are really concerned, though, see a doctor! you may have an infection or ... (read in full...)
Is my friend spiking my drinks and manipulating me?
Q. Hey, I Had this friend that I could really relate to, even though I was in denial about that. We went outto China White and other beautiful clubs... We fell out at as I felt she was always jealous of me and allowed her friends that fancied...
A. 11 August 2008: are you sure her friends spiked your drinks? maybe you are just a light weight who cannot handle alcohol, if they were alcoholic beverages... you didn't specify.
the way you describe her, you aren't a fan. so just allow the friendship to dwindle.... (read in full...)
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