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writes:iam 14.and i'll be 15 in about 6 months.i want a baby so bad.my om never around so i take care of my brother and sister all the time.grew up rough no dad you know...i would be a amazing momma.people are costanly telling me im already mommy and i love it.give me ur honest opion.tell me everything,i ned to to know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): i had my first baby at fifteen it wasnt planed and i didnt want kids so yung unlike u. but i will tell u what its like. im 20 now i have two kids both boys whom i love more then anything in the world but i was in my sophmore year of high school so my average day i would wake up every two hous because he would need fed and sometimes changted and burped then he would get up for good at about 5 30 and i would have to leav for school at 7 so ther for i had to get ready and get him ready for the day at the same time running on no sleep. luckily my step dad wasnt working at the time and they were very suportive unlike some parents. so he watched him while i was at school. the second i got home i feed him n one arm and be doing my homework with my free hand. then i would eat dinner give him a bath give my self one and get him ready for bed. that is just the begining it gets harder as they get old not to mention what ull have to go through w/ your peers at school everyone is going to start talking about u and most teen moms dont get their high school degree because it is so dificult to do w/ a baby. i was lucky i had such a suportive family because my mother went through this two she had my brother at 16 and droped out 2 months before she woulda graduated so she understood but knew it was my responsibility and when i wasnt at school they no longer helped out it was my baby not theirs. and if u have friends now and u like to go out with them kiss that goodby because u cant take a baby to a footbal game or to the movies or out to dinner and dateing nope forget it u have no time for anything ealse its great u want to be a mom but ur only 14 u have the rest of your life to be a mom right now is time for u to perpare for being a mom if thats what u realy want u need an education and a job and to be on ur own feet paying ur bills finding someone u love that also wants kids ur not ready no matter how much u think u r.
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reader, jazzythetank +, writes (22 March 2009):
 one of god's rules states that you must not bring a baby into this world without taking care of yourself first..this means when you come of age to have a baby( not now) will you have an income for two a house to live in(you can't live with your mom forever) food to eat, a school nearby, warmth? a dad for the baby ..i am 14 years old too.. and i say no that is a bad idea.. im not forcing god's rules apon you either.. it's just that you need to live for the future and not out of the present because sex is a in the moment sort of thing...just think about that...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): You say your life so far hasn't been easy. Just think of how hard it would be if you had a baby too. Baby's need lots of things and so you need money to take care of your baby, you need a job, daycare, medical insurance, etc. I know you are unhappy with your life right now, but things will not always be like this. It will get better, you just have to pay extra attention to the decisions you make. Finish school and make friends with nice people. Having a baby at 14 would be a terrible decision and will make your life very hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): i had to keeps my two brothers all the time and i wanted a baby to so i had one when i just turned 16. it was hard i love my kid but kid and school will be hard. wait till you meet that someone and finish school first so you can support your baby that will be smarter.
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reader, Jia  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 What everyone else says here is true. You're too young to be even considering having a kid, never mind having one! Kids are a huge responsibility and even though you think you're ready for it, you're not. Do you honestly want to continue the cycle with your kid not having a father? I too have a friend like superrrshawna's, she's 18 right now and even though she loves her kid it's still tough, she didn't finish high school and now it's that much tougher to get her daughter a better life. If you don't think about yourself, ultimately think about your child. It's hard to get by nowadays WITH college/university education, never mind without one. If you want to provide a better life for your child then you should at least wait until you're older and have an education or at least a steady job that pays well. I plan on becoming a Mom one day, but after I'm finished with university, settled in my career and have a husband. You deserve better, wait 'til you're older, I promise you it'll be worth it in the end.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 August 2008):
Someone in your age group seriously just asked this like a week ago. So I'll just go back over what I said before, who is going to support the baby and how are you going to finish school? Do you want your child to grow up without a father like you did? There's a big difference between playing mommmy and being a mommy. You say you take care of your brother and sister...but are you really the one who gets up every time they cry during the night to stay up with them until they go back to sleep after feeding them or changing them? Or do you just play with them, change their diapers, and feed them when you're done doing your homework? You have it SO EASY right now. DO NOT have a child this young. Your life will be totally dedicated to this one person. Then once you're finally an adult and with no high school education and no college degree what are you going to do? It's hard enough being an adult with no children! Do you really want to burden your mother with another child for her to support? There's a lot more that goes into having a child than just taking care of it.
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reader, troysyaussie  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 i was pregnant at your age and because my body was still not mature enough i lost the child. they told me to wait years before trying again and i didnt. not intentionally but got pregnant and lost it again. because of this happening it screwed up my body in a lot of ways and made me infertile. i am now 30 years old and can never have kids and i wish i never got pregnant so young. please please please let your body mature first. and please wait till you find someone that wants to love and marry you before you make a baby. denying a baby of a father is a horrible thing to do and denying your childhood is even worse. enjoy life now and wait to bring a child in the world. you will thank us for this advice in a few years. trust me.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (12 August 2008):
 As much as you want a baby, it's best for you to wait.
You are still young - underage, in fact, so it would be illegal for you to be having sex ANYWAY - and a baby is a massive, life-long responsibility. Do you really think you'll be able to handle not seeing your friends whenever you want to, having to juggle school and a kid, getting no sleep? Not to mention childbirth - ouch! And they don't stay babies forever, either.
And what about the father of your child? Most 14 year old relationships don't last, and really, do you expect a 14, 15 or 16 year old lad to stick around for a baby? Let's face it, a lot of them just ain't that reliable. Kids your age aren't meant for the kind of responsibility a baby brings - mentally, emotionally or physically.
If you really really really do want a baby - where is the harm in waiting? Something like that has got to be worth waiting for, right? Be content with caring for your siblings for now - you have years and years and years and years to have one of your own.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (12 August 2008):
 please, please don't have a baby yet, hun. you are way too young. i've been in the exact same boat as you for years. it would always freak my parents out when i would be in grade school saying i wanted kids of my own, even planning out what they would wear, what activities i'd enroll them in...
but the fact is 14 is too young to have a child! you're still legally a kid yourself!
think of all the wonderful times you still want to have when you are single and childless first! i have a friend who is 20 with a 3 year old, she had him when she was 17, 3 years older than you! and she regrets not being able to live like every other young adult out there.
look forward to high school, with the dances, football games, graduation, prom. then look forward to college, parties, classes, traveling, moving out...
none of those will come easily with a kid in tow!!
i still want babies of my own, but i am going to wait until i have graduated and have a secure, financially stable job and a hubbie who is going to change the diapers with me! because i want my kids to have the absolute best, and in order for me to provide that to them, i need to do the best i can right now. please do the same!
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