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writes:I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend who I was with for 6 1/2 years and we just broke up 2 months ago.I told me current boyfriend this and he still wants to be with me?!?!But I don't feel right staying with him when I have feelings for someone else also!Should I break up with him even though he still wants to be with me?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 You have been honest, which is a good thing. If he chooses to stay with you, it is his choice.
I do not think you need to break up with him, however, I do think that you should not accept any commitment long term from him UNTIL you can return it fully. This also means not to move in with him until you feel fully for him.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Um why did you get with him in the first place? 6 yr relationship ending, surely its obvious a person needs time to recover from that, especially if you know you still have feelings for the ex. I never understand how people get into new relationships when they are getting over someone else. I just dont have the ability to do it myself.
Your new guy must be quite despeate if he wants to stick with you after you have told him that.
Ideal thing would be to have a bit of you time and if the new guy is still single in the future when you have sorted your head out, then go for it. Can see it getting pretty messy otherwise.
C xxxxx
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (12 August 2008):
 it's normal to have feelings for someone you were with for so long. those feelings might always be there to some extent or another.
if there is no chance of you and your ex getting back together again and you have been completely honest with your current boyfriend and he understands where you are coming from... i don't really see a problem.
if you care about your bf and he cares about you, too, why not stay together? the feelings for your ex will go away very slowly but surely and in the meantime you will be building a new relationship with someone who cares about you.
then again, it might be too soon since it seems like you don't feel comfortable staying with your bf...
just follow your heart! good luck!
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