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-longest relationship = 2 years, second place = 6 months (over a year if you count the new unofficial developments)
-has had a one night stand
-outgoing to the point of extremism
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What should I do to forget about him and move on?
Q. I left his friend for him. Now his family pressurised him to breakup with me, we were perfect together. I love and miss him badly, he cries that he miss me too, but I don't want him to choose me over his family. I know we love each other but we ...
A. 29 August 2008: why did the family pressure you two to break up?
if you two want to be together, i don't think that it is fair the family is keeping you apart.
do whatever you feel most comfortable with.
i personally think a successful relationship ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to prioritise his career, now all of a sudden he misses me, should I move on?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for about 2 years. It been 4 months that we been on a break. He was the one who wanted a break because he wanted to clear up his life and his music career. All of a sudden he tells me he misses me and he takes me to ...
A. 29 August 2008: why are you waiting for him? it sounds like he wants you back from the dinner date. and since his career figured itself out, shouldn't it be time to make a decision whether the relationship should get out of a break or break up?
as for outgoing... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should wait for him or move on when he goes to the air force...
Q. Ok so here is the dilema: I have been recently talkin 2 a guy and we haven't made anything official but i know were headed there. Earlier on he had mentioned goin 2 the air force and we discussed that if things got serious with us then we will fin...
A. 29 August 2008: how serious were you expecting things to get? if he loves you, yes you should be enough motivation for him to come back. but with all of these changes happening in his life, he might be letting his excitement overwhelm his feelings for you. it ... (read in full...)
It's been a little over two months. When will I heal?
Q. Dear Cupid, A little over two months ago, my two best friends moved away. They are now living in a town that is about an hour's drive away from mine. I know that may not seem like a big deal, but to me, it's a HUGE deal. Even though it's only ...
A. 29 August 2008: sweetie, my best friends are all across the country! college does that...
i go to school in davis which is about an hour north of san francisco. one best friend goes to school in long beach which is 6 hours away! another goes to school in san dieg... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt anyone. I don't love my husband, and I want a guy who has a girlfriend. I don't know what to do!
Q. My husband says he loves me, I believed him. I thought I felt the same. When I got pregnant with our child thats when he proposed to me. I said yes. I was going to wait till after the baby was born to get married but everybody kept asking me why ...
A. 29 August 2008: have you given your husband an honest chance at winning your heart? are you spending enough time with him, getting to know him?
your relationship got serious too fast, but that doesn't mean you can't still build a solid foundation with him. esp... (read in full...)
Is it so wrong for me to want him to see the truth?
Q. Hi I have a psychological question. I think. First is it a mistake to try and make someone see things about them selves? If they aren't ready? They deny it totally? I am trying to prove to a very imature friend that he is a mommas boy. And he has ...
A. 29 August 2008: it sounds like you are doing all you can to try and help him see things the way they are. it's not really your place to push him further. you cannot change people!! as a friend you are giving him your point of view. now it is up to him to listen. if ... (read in full...)
I don't know if should stay or just leave him. I don't trust him anymore!
Q. Ive known my husband for 15 yrs and married for 6. He went to Ohio 2 weeks ago for work. I knew something was different when I talked to him. He came home told me he didnt love me, wanted to be alone, etc. I was in shock it came out of no where. I...
A. 29 August 2008: see how counseling goes. it's harder to leave since you have a child and you have been married for so long and your lives are thoroughly entwined.
he says he didn't sleep with the girl. give him 15 years worth of trust and believe him. make it ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty confused! Any advice as to what I should say or do?
Q. so theres this boy...he is absolutely amazing and he's my best friend. He moved away because he got in some trouble almost two years ago now. well when he does get to come home to visit he acts like were together. which really doesn't bother me ...
A. 29 August 2008: wow he is one confused kid! he loves you and you two had sex and he cried about how he was going to miss you... but he doesn't know what he wants?
i think he is just overwhelmed. moving around is hard, so respect his wishes. let him get his life... (read in full...)
It just seems like I have a magnet and always find the married woman.
Q. Why does this always seem to happen to me. I'm a nice single 26 year old guy, I don't date much and when I do go out to meet people I end up talking to the married woman who's girlfriends dragged along to have some fun. I have several good married ...
A. 29 August 2008: you are a magnet for married women, i'm a magnet for emotionally immature men.
that's life, i tell you.
i think we just need to start looking at people we wouldn't normally notice, really LOOKING. and giving them a chance.
because obvious... (read in full...)
Recently broke up with my bf, but he still flirts with me!! What should I do?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend we had been seeing each other for a year or so.Although it has been 3 weeks since we broke up and it was him that broke up with me i really miss him and matters arent being helped by the fact that he still talks ...
A. 29 August 2008: lol yikes i read the headline for this and my first thought was "GET OUTTA THERE FAST, HONEY!"
and after reading the scenario, i still have that impression i'm afraid to say.
he is being completely selfish by flirting with you while you have f... (read in full...)
She only sees me as a friend, how do I deal with that now?
Q. There was this girl I really liked for about 2 years or so. I could never get up the courage to tell her I liked her, so instead got her friend to call her and tell her. I waited for 2 days, then got a text message from her friend saying that she ...
A. 29 August 2008: keep busy and find a new girl to distract you in all the best ways =]... (read in full...)
I'm completely in love with HER!!
Q. ok ..... I have this friend and I'm totally completely in love with her ...and yes I meant her. I have never been bi before .....so it's kinda stragne.....she has a gf and she's moving to Texas this summer .....what do I do....let her go ....or tr...
A. 29 August 2008: if she is moving... first off ask yourself if you can handle a long distance relationship.
but honestly i don't see how telling her about your feelings can hurt either way.
either she feels the same way and she leaves with you both knowing how... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel as though my feelings for him aren't real, what do you think?
Q. Well, I like this guy and he likes me back. I'm 15 and he is 16. We told each other that we like each other 1 month back. We are not going out just yet, we're on the verge of going out. We are getting to know each other more in that way. I m...
A. 29 August 2008: here's a little quiz for the poster of this question:
do you find yourself thinking about him randomly during the day?
do you miss talking to him?
if you saw him with another girl, and it looks like he's really into her, would it upset you?
... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he still wants to be with me?
Q. hi please can someone help me to understand. I have broken up with my ex about 6 weeks ago. The reason he gave me was that his feeling for me have changed. I was a little confused as he told me that he was happy being with me. I gave back all the ...
A. 29 August 2008: what presents did you give back? maybe he spent too much money and thinks it is a waste to get rid of them. maybe he can't return them.
frankly i don't think it means anything. if he wanted you, he would have asked for you back, don't you think?... (read in full...)
Our lack of intimacy is putting a strain in our relationship
Q. Hi, It's really hard for me to admit it, but i really don't know what i should be doing in my relationship. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 6months and it's my first ever serious relationship. I'm 22 and she's 19. We are both virgins an...
A. 29 August 2008: 6 months, first ever serious relationship, 22 and 19, both virgins... lol sorry i'm taking notes as i scroll down.
so you don't want to have sex but you want more intimacy? first off, has she asked her grandmother for a later curfew? i'm 19 and m... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends?
Q. hey everybody. I had this friend whom I REALLY liked. He had a great personality and we had a lot in common. Almost everything in common. We would talk on a fairly consistent basis about mostly everything. He was so nice to me. I have been to his ...
A. 29 August 2008: honestly it could be the new girlfriend. it's rough being a girlfriend of a guy who has a very close ladyfriend. keep trying to keep in touch and if not, just do your best to be a good friend and accept that he is happy with the choice he made. you ... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 29 August 2008: i answered this question and my post isnt showing up! is it just me?!... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends?
Q. hey everybody. I had this friend whom I REALLY liked. He had a great personality and we had a lot in common. Almost everything in common. We would talk on a fairly consistent basis about mostly everything. He was so nice to me. I have been to his ...
A. 28 August 2008: sure, why not talk to him?... (read in full...)
My gf's sexual past is causing problems....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now, and she's the first girl i've ever had sex with. I can't say the same for her by any means. She told me about all the things in her past before we were dating, because we were friends ...
A. 28 August 2008: you know that quote? i'm altering it a little bit but it's something along the lines of: don't worry about who had sex with her first, be glad you're going to be her last. you're in the college age, you must know how a lot of teenagers and pe... (read in full...)
Scared her by displaying exaggerated attention, what now?
Q. and theres this other girl that i tried to land, things were going good until i went overboard, i was in love with her soo much that i put her in my AIM profile as my sister and my bff and 1st on my FACEBOOK, and myspace profiles, and that kinda ...
A. 28 August 2008: haha. a little over eager for sure. girls don't like that! play it cool, make sure she's into you and THEN make a move again.... (read in full...)
He talks to me on MSN, but not in public. Did he love me?
Q. I was dating a guy I really loved and who loved me back I'm sure but we or rather he ended the relationship unexpectedly one night by sms, saying that he didn't feel the same way he used to and that he would rather be (and I quote) "friends as we ...
A. 28 August 2008: is he shy? some people just talk better through 3rd "people" like texts or aim.
however the way i see it, if someone loves you they CANNOT keep themselves away. when i love someone, i WANT to talk to them, be near them, keep in constant touch...... (read in full...)
Is my sex drive normal?
Q. This isn't exactly a problem, I just wanna know if it's normal or not. Right, I'm 15, almost 16 and I've been having sex for about a year. I was reading some of the questions on this website about how people are loosing their sex drive and ...
A. 28 August 2008: haha i'm jealous that's all it takes for you! that's all i can say. i wasn't having sex at your age so i couldn't really say.... (read in full...)
I am not sure whether I want to be with this girl for the rest of my life, I am also very worried I won't find someone else!
Q. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my girlfriend for a 1 year and 8 months now. When we first started going out she told me about her past some parts of it I wasnt to happy hearing about and from that time on wards it has been a...
A. 27 August 2008: okay you need to answer one very simple question: do you want to be with her? not for her sake, completely for your own. do you as a selfish individual want to keep her to yourself or do you want to let her go and have someone else? don't worry ab... (read in full...)
I am afraid of losing my position in school due to lack of concentration...
Q. i am in a real trouble of studying.i afraid not to loss my possition.actually i am among the top scorer of the school.but even if this is so but i have concentration problem while i study.now i am grade 12.if i continue like this i afraid not to ...
A. 27 August 2008: it doesn't sound like you need to be worrying just yet, are you sure you aren't shooting for perfection?
also, the moderator is right, we need to know what is making you lose your concentration. is it just the way you are? it could be add or adhd.... (read in full...)
What is this going to look like to people when he comes back to me again?
Q. A few years back I had a relationship with an ex teacher of mine, which eventually we called off. we still talk to each other at least twice a week, and sometimes meet up. Anyway, today he visited me, and one thing led to another, and we had sex. ...
A. 27 August 2008: if i was your friend, i would understand that you want to be with him and that you made a mistake having sex with him. i would understand that the feelings between the two of you run deep. i would also understand that he a scumbag for cheating and ... (read in full...)
My best friend is hating me but I don't know why...
Q. I'm 1.5m, well endowed, reasonably good looking, conservative sense of fashion, reasonable sense of humour, anime/manga fan and really good in art and computers. My voice is considered quite good for singing and so on, so forth... I've had a crush ...
A. 27 August 2008: thank you for the compliment =] good luck.... (read in full...)
We weren't official and now he has a girlfriend! Could he still like me though?
Q. Okay.. Im 16, i've always been single. I dated this guy for nearly 3months - May, June and a bit of July. He went to my school, so I knew him for a year before that, but I developed feelings for him and he did the say for me. We weren't official, we ...
A. 27 August 2008: you have a thing for guys with girlfriends, and that is no good! guy number 1 is history. you guys dated a little, he got a girlfriend... and then it was time to rebound to this new guy number 2 who also has a girlfriend. i think that is all it is, ... (read in full...)
I just can't get my mind off him... we're talking three years now!
Q. Dear Cupid Ok lets start from the beginning, a couple of months ago i made the biggest mistake ive ever made. I am known for doing and saying stupid things because i often speak or do something before thinking it through. But this one is a biggy, i...
A. 27 August 2008: all you can do is suck it up, stay busy, and move on. eventually you will find someone who you will like 10x more. i hope. i hate to say it but it sounds like he has absolutely no interest in you and you have to respect that as much as it hurts. ... (read in full...)
Is he hinting that he likes me and waiting to see my reaction?
Q. hi there is this guy at my college and we have been studying together for a year but only just recently got talking. he texts me regularly and also calls me and we talk alot. he talks alot to me about marriage and relationships etc my friend...
A. 27 August 2008: if a guy told me to set him up with another girl, i wouldn't think he likes me. i would think he just sees me as a friend. however, maybe your guy is just a bit abnormal when it comes to flirting and is trying to make you jealous of movie stars..... (read in full...)
My best friend is hating me but I don't know why...
Q. I'm 1.5m, well endowed, reasonably good looking, conservative sense of fashion, reasonable sense of humour, anime/manga fan and really good in art and computers. My voice is considered quite good for singing and so on, so forth... I've had a crush ...
A. 27 August 2008: it is very simple. both you and your best friend are attracted to the same guy, and she is starting drama over it. she is starting to see you as your competition and is doing everything she can to make your life miserable. it sucks. do your best t... (read in full...)
How do I get over a break up?
Q. Help! Have any good ideas on how to get over someone I broke up with? I broke it off with him. I now need to get over him...but I still love him. So, got any good tips? I'm trying to date others......
A. 27 August 2008: the anon person is definitely right. the first thing i find myself doing after a break up is writing an extensive list of every reason why we were NOT meant to be together. big and small. the last guy i broke up with had a list about a page and a ... (read in full...)
My friend is in trouble. I'm lost and don't know what to do... Please help!
Q. I'm really worried about my friend. Only a few hours ago she told me she tried weed over the summer. She told me that it was no big deal, it was only once, and that she didn't even like it. But it is a big deal! At least to me. Drugs aren't a ...
A. 27 August 2008: trying something once usually isn't a big deal, it's the second time that you have to worry. i've tried smoking and i found out i really did not like it and i have absolutely no plans to do it again. and hey, i turned out okay! that being sai... (read in full...)
I've just started high school and I'm worried about potential boy drama. Any advice?
Q. okay i just started high school as a freshmen and well i have not been the most confident person and also around guys i feel they do not like me more then a friend but since now iam in high school i really am more confident but i would get more with ...
A. 27 August 2008: find the right boy first sweetie! and generally the players and the boyfriends are not the right ones. find a nice guy who will come to you with no baggage, and THEN worry if things start to get a little complicated. 'til then, live up your hig... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 27 August 2008: oh man, they've all lost me and hopefully i stay strong and keep it that way! i thought he was the one but he messed up and i'm not interested in a relationship any time soon. just like you're taking a break and improving yourself, i'm taking a ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 26 August 2008: to tell you the truth, my own life is such a mess right now i feel like a hypocrite giving advice! i was talking to my super far back ex and he decided to go back to HIS ex so we aren't exactly on good terms... and a guy i dated last year who ... (read in full...)
How do I convince myself that my current fiancee is not my ex-wife so I can rid myself of the anxiety when she goes out?
Q. I am having a trust issue currently. My fiance, who I know would never cheat on me, likes to go out on girl's nights out to a local bar. I have seen the clientele in the bar, and at the risk of sounding narcissistic, I feel that I am better ...
A. 25 August 2008: separate them in your mind! you are grouping all of your relationships with women in one category... forget about your ex, she is the past. treat your fiance as if she is the first and last woman you will ever be with. dont let past experiences ... (read in full...)
We "almost" kissed but as I know he is not over his ex, what do I tell him next time I see him?
Q. i like this guy but he just got out of a relationship and he loved her. we almost kissed a few nights ago but he must have freaked out and texted me saying he didnt wnat to get into anything just yet and that he should be fine later and just the...
A. 25 August 2008: just pretend like nothing happened. be his friend, but let him know you are interested.
but behave like nothing happened. be extra friendly if anything. he needs time to get over his last relationship before he can start a new one. good luck!... (read in full...)
I feel like my new boyfriend still likes this other girl, and I'm afraid I can't compete.
Q. I have a problem... I have just started dating a guy I went to school with. He is really close friends with this other girl we went to school with and who I am still friends with. The problem is, they are so close and I am really jealous. Not only...
A. 25 August 2008: yikes. so i've been on both sides of that story.
my best guy friend and i were like that. we hooked up one night and never brought it up again because it was just awkward but once he got a girlfriend, although i tried being super nice to her and ... (read in full...)
My best friend and I had sex, now he is awkward around me, I think he loves me, I am not sure I feel the same. how do we move on, back to being best friends or to a more intimate relationship?
Q. I'm eighteen and my best friend and I had sex a year ago. Ever since then things have been extremely awkward between us. He is in love with me and I'm not sure about how I feel about him. Some people even think that he might be gay, but he says ...
A. 25 August 2008: he is your best friend, just talk to him! best friends know each other better than they know themselves... he probably knows all of this is going through your head but doesn't know how to bring it out into the open either. so just take a deep breath ... (read in full...)
She isn't ready to move in with me...
Q. ok my situation is this i am with a girl i love dearly and she loves me. I am 24 and she is 19, she is about to move from where we have lived with my dad for 8 months to university. I am willing to move with her and get a place with her but she...
A. 25 August 2008: quite simply she thinks you two are moving too fast. she wants to slow things down by distancing herself a little bit.... (read in full...)
I still have feeling for him, but he dumped me. I want to get back with him but don't want to sound desperate.
Q. My x boyfriend and I both still like each other and I want to get back together, but don't know the best way to let him know. I am scared to just tell him straight up because he is the one who broke up with me and I don't want to look desperate. ...
A. 25 August 2008: honestly, my best friend is in a similar situation. she loves him and wants to get back together but because he broke up with her i am very firmly keeping her in line.
he broke up with you, HE needs to make the first move. he hurt you first, h... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 25 August 2008: well honesty is always best. either he misses you too and showing him you hurt will make him realize there is still hope, or maybe not. and maybe he will realize he cant be such a dbag next time around.
hiding feelings does nothing in my opinion.... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 15 August 2008: he might honestly just want his stuff back.
be strong, but don't be afraid to let him know you're hurting. if he wants to come back he will, if not... it happens to the best of us. again, gl! be nice haha!... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 12 August 2008: honestly, try not to think about it. it's in the past now. take a couple minutes to give yourself some constructive criticism and then actively forget about the rest. it won't help in any way, only make you linger, only make you sad. and don't blame ... (read in full...)
After an almost two year relatiuonship, my boyfriend and I broke up, he had commitment problems, and his job required a lot, I am devastated, how do I move on with my life?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me out of blue 4 weeks ago after a 1 year 9 months relationship. He moved away half a year ago (4 hours drive away) but come to see me every week (his job allows him to fly in or drive over). everything was going great ...
A. 12 August 2008: i am very proud of you for letting him go and for not trying to talk with him more than is necessary. those are two things most people have great difficulty with after a rough break up, and you seem to be doing well so far without any help!
you l... (read in full...)
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