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-longest relationship = 2 years, second place = 6 months (over a year if you count the new unofficial developments)
-has had a one night stand
-outgoing to the point of extremism
-well known party girl
-quite popular (humbly stated)
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I want to write a letter to his family so they will accept our relationship. Any tips?
Q. Well, I'm from the West indies, but my boyfriend is an Indian Jatt Sikh. We are very much in love and have been for almost two years. The trouble is, his family are strict and don't know of our love just yet, but we plan to tell them next year, by ...
A. 11 September 2008: has he introduced you to them as just a friend yet? instead of writing them a letter out of the blue claiming to be his long-term girlfriend and soul mate, i think it might be smarter to take things step by step! have him invite you over for dinner ... (read in full...)
Will quitting smoking give you symptoms that mimic pregnancy?
Q. my husband had a vesectomy nine years ago,im 38 and missed two periods,i feel tired all the time,moody ,and irate all the time,i have put on weight quite a bit,but i am also stopping smokig[week 5]is it possible im pregnant or am i confusing it with ...
A. 11 September 2008: i don't think quitting smoking would do that to you...
from what i know menopause around 40 is normal, and some of the symptoms could fit that, too.
weight gain, feeling tired, moody, irregular periods...
http://www.project-aw... (read in full...)
I took on an 'instant family' but suspect she's now cheating! Is she?
Q. hiya i have a problem im 23 and i have taken on a girl ov 26 with to boys that mean so much to me weve been together for 1 and a half yrs and jus recentley she has slowd down on txting me and seeing me i havent seen the kids for a week now and the ...
A. 11 September 2008: ask why she hasn't been so inclined to see you, but don't accuse her of cheating.
it sounds like you know for a fact she isn't into the father, but she might just be trying to get along with him for the sake of the boys, you know?... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for clearer skin?
Q. Okay i was just wondering if anyone had any tips on getting clearer skin, iv got quite a lot of very small spots all over my face and ave been desperatly tryin to get rid of them. if anyone has any tips or knows any products that really work please ...
A. 11 September 2008: oh gosh, i had TERRIBLE skin all through high school, and it is just starting to really clear up! clean & clear worked decently, but if it is really bothering you, hit up the dermatologist! right now i am using a topical antibacterial called evoclin ... (read in full...)
I like him but it seems he is trying too hard to impress me. How can I tell him to relax?
Q. I recently started dating this guy. Hes great and sweet but the problem is he seems to be trying too hard impress me. I really like him but I wish just he relex a bit. It gots on my nerves any guy trying too hard. How can I tell him to relex?...
A. 11 September 2008: tell him straight up!!
or, better yet, let him know that you find mystery sexy and that you LIKE the chase.
he is probably trying hard to impress you because he really likes you. let him know that it is okay to make mistakes and act normally... (read in full...)
I'm involved a crazy love triangle!
Q. Alright this one is a tough one, so I'll try to really explain this one. I'm involved in a crazy love triangle. I have a child with a guy who has another child with another girl. She has two children ages 2 and 5. Now a couple months ago I got ...
A. 10 September 2008: it's really completely up to you. what do you think is best for you? what is best for the kids?... (read in full...)
She has a family history of cheating women! How can I stop thinking she will cheat on me too?
Q. Im a 29 year old male, and I have been currently dating a woman for over a year. We hit it off when we met so we ended up moving in together. Life hasn't been better!!! But I find myself thinking about the following quite a bit, How can I get it out ...
A. 9 September 2008: i would be a little bit afraid, too!
just do your best to only focus on her relationship to you, with maybe a little eye to HER past. has she given you any reason to doubt her commitment?
don't judge her too much by her family members. she isn... (read in full...)
I love him so much and he tells me the same but him always leaving me for his ex keeps me frustrated!
Q. i think i have found my soulmate. he has all the signs of a soulmate, but he says he is in love with someone else, but he keeps running back to me....i feel his thoughts..i have confront him by telling him i know he thinks of me every morning and ...
A. 9 September 2008: why aren't things working out with the other woman? i'm just worried that he only comes back to you to feel loved if the other woman breaks him down and rejects his attempts. noone deserves to be the backup!!... (read in full...)
Should I consider his odd behavior as cheating?
Q. Is this considered cheating? Or am i overreacting? This guy I like/liked and have a past with still talks to me a lot even though he used me and lied to me while seeing other girls. Now he has a new girlfriend but she moved to another province...
A. 9 September 2008: i highly doubt his relationship with the current girl will last since his behavior has not changed at all. and yes, i find it pretty unacceptable. i hope you don't want him back!!... (read in full...)
How do I conquer my fears before they conquer my relationship?
Q. This is so similar to the way i feel. Im extremley jealous of my boyfriends ex, not to mention im the jealous type period. They were together on and off since 5th grade (currently 21). They accomplished soo much together. They went to their prom...
A. 9 September 2008: it sounds like their relationship is really close and pretty mixed up, and you have a right to be cautious.
that being said, in my opinion it really sounds like ever since he asked for another chance he has done his job well. not only is he not a... (read in full...)
I'm involved a crazy love triangle!
Q. Alright this one is a tough one, so I'll try to really explain this one. I'm involved in a crazy love triangle. I have a child with a guy who has another child with another girl. She has two children ages 2 and 5. Now a couple months ago I got ...
A. 9 September 2008: that really is ridiculous. if you do fall in love with him... you're going to be a stepmom to your exboyfriends kids. it could be a little bit weird. but do what you think will be right in the long run. and think about the kids, too! was there ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this boy with a "lady's man" reputation likes me or not?
Q. Ok...so there's this kid. One day and me and a group of friends were playing truth and dare. He got dared to kiss one of my friends but said no and kissed me instead. Now I really like him but don't know whether he likes me or not because he's ...
A. 9 September 2008: just let things happen as they come! if he really likes you, things will develop slowly and naturally and he WILL come after you as long as you give little signs that you are attracted to him. smiles, going up and saying hi...
just be careful ... (read in full...)
What did she mean when she said this! I'm so confused!
Q. Ok im confused as to what she was saying by this. Basically i liked this lad for ages n he had this friend whos a girl that suddenly started talking to me after something very suspicious happened(as if she found out soemthing about us) and then we ...
A. 6 September 2008: honestly i have no idea, but i wouldn't care anyway. if she is just a friend, you don't know if what she is saying is true or not. if you find out the answer, take it into consideration maybe... but honestly just base your judgment of how much he ... (read in full...)
Are there any ways to comfirm that he likes me a lot?
Q. I am a girl of the age of 16, wanting to go out with a boy of 25. We have flirted a bit, but i know if he likes me enough, will ask me out. The thing is, before we get too close to each other ( getting into a relationship), i want to know if it ...
A. 6 September 2008: i definitely do not recommend it. when i was a senior in high school i went out with a guy who was 25 or so... he was in law school! and there are just too many differences, especially since you are 2 years younger than i was at that time. i'm sure ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips on asking girls for their numbers?
Q. I'm trying to get better at dating in general and talking to beautiful women. People say that I'm really good looking now, but being as I was overweight in high school I just don't feel comfortable chatting up strange women I meet and asking them ...
A. 5 September 2008: i'm interested in a guy if he shows he is confident in himself and carries himself well. i hear i am intimidating to walk up to or get to know, but honestly all it takes is a great personality and someone who looks put together!
i don't want a g... (read in full...)
Am I a normal teenager?
Q. I am a 19 year old boy. I am starting my 2nd year of university, and I know what this means to a lot of people "parties, sex, alcohol etc." But this doesn't concern me. When people are out going crazy Im at home studying. I recently asked a girl ...
A. 5 September 2008: you're talking to the poster partygirl of my year haha at least in my large circle of friends. and parties are so much fun! it isn't about the alcohol, or the one night stands. it is about going out and having a crazy wonderful time!
i don't wa... (read in full...)
The obvious thing would be to let this go but how do I act in the next few months?
Q. He and I have known each other since we were 13. When we were freshmen in high school, we would go through periods of being together and being apart--it wasn't anything serious. Last year, I contacted him for the first time in over a year. We hit it ...
A. 5 September 2008: yikes. yeah, lying is never good.
trust takes forever to build up, but it IS possible! so stay optimistic. if you are sure you love him, don't be afraid to put the effort in. after all, it was your mistake and you need to pay the conseque... (read in full...)
How do I get him to choose me over his ex?
Q. I've been dating this guy for just over 2 months now. He is from Paris but is in London for work and said that he had just broken up with girlfriend of 4 years before coming as he wasn't sure how long he's be gone. I'm also falling for him and he ...
A. 5 September 2008: how long ago did he break up with his long-term girlfriend? 4 years is a really long time to be with someone, and from experience i've learned that it takes about half as long as you were in the relationship to fully get over the ex. i'm worried you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my mom to understand I'm having protected sex with a guy I love?
Q. ten days ago, i got in from a night out to find that my mum had found my pills. i am 15 and 11 months and have a boyfriend who is 17 and 2 months. we have been together a year now, but about three months ago, the question of sex had come up, he ...
A. 5 September 2008: why did you hide what was going on? honestly i think you're young to be having sex, especially with someone who is 2 years older than you. i don't really count months, i see it as it is... it is great that you are in a committed relationship and it ... (read in full...)
Please help me choose my wedding dress!
Q. I've posted problems here before and tonight I'm going to keep it lighthearted and happy! I'm having a real hard time picking out a wedding dress. Me and my fiance havent set a date yet but me being typical female means i'm already looking ...
A. 4 September 2008: i think the first is the cutest, but it might be too much like lingerie? also, i think that a fitted skirt would look a lot more fashion forward versus the classic skirt you linked. a corset, a fitted skirt [maybe short if you feel daring], and some ... (read in full...)
Am I doing right for ending the relationship now?
Q. I'm a senior in college and I met a girl toward the end of last year. She's really great and an amazing person, but I just can't help but feel like I'm too young to be getting so serious. I feel that I haven't quite experienced everything. It's this ...
A. 3 September 2008: you are doing the right thing.
i mean, forget everything else. why would you stay with someone who isn't "the one" for you?
facts are, you aren't digging it anymore. so be kind, but stay true to how you feel.
good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm 10 days late but the tests came negative. Am I pregnant?
Q. im 10 days late, i was supposed to start on the 20th but didn't. i had sex on the 15th. i took two pregnancy test(cheap kind $1)they both showed negative. could i be pregnant?...
A. 30 August 2008: take another test just in case, maybe call up your gyno and set up an appointment if you are still freaking out...
but i highly doubt you are.
ive had a pregnancy scare. i think i went through 4? 5? of those over the counter tests and i stil... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my friend?
Q. Hi people quick question if you could answer it that'd be so good! Well im 17 and havent really had a bf / sex yet but it doesnt really bother me that much. Me and my male friend whose 18 are soo close and just sit chatting and such in our unde...
A. 29 August 2008: well... on one hand you guys aren't dating and i would say save it for someone you are actually in a committed relationship with.
on the other, you have feelings for him and trust him and are very close.
it sounds like you want to, so be safe a... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend was not a virgin when I had sex with her and I don't know what to do!
Q. my girlfriend was having two boy friends at her past . i think she must have sex wih them because when i had sex with her there was no bleeding and my penis got easily entered her vagina and i hav heared that for the first time sex its just ...
A. 29 August 2008: ask her. and trust what she says.
not all girls bleed their first time, i didn't.... (read in full...)
My friend had sex with my crush! How should I react now?
Q. You seriously won't believe this : In the past few weeks i was getting quite close to this guy, lets call him "Bob". I say quite close because the 'closest' we ever got was a kiss -but for me that is really intimate, because i'm a little bit gawk...
A. 29 August 2008: mary is NOT a good friend, and you should now forget about bob because he is a scumbag for kissing you and then having sex with your friend!
but smile, because now you know you have the opportunity to make a better friend and meet a better g... (read in full...)
Am I being spiteful by wanting more of his attention, or am I right by saying I'm coming second best?
Q. Lately, i've noticed that my boyfriend is more interested in ebay. He's always been interested in selling and has a good eye for a bargain and has his own business in selling things! But recently, whenever i go round his house or he comes round mi...
A. 29 August 2008: the guy needs to learn balance! and it is good that you are accepting him for who he is but remember to ask yourself if he is keeping you happy? obviously since you are posting this on dearcupid you know something is amiss.
so.
let him know ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to treat him after the break up, how often I should contact him, etc.
Q. If my boyfriend broke up with me about 4 years or so LDR, and yes it was your fault, you would love to reconcile with him but your working on yourself so you can be who you are, and maybe one day hell take notice. What do you do when your both onli...
A. 29 August 2008: if the break up is fresh, i strongly recommend a clean break from him for a couple weeks.
after that, do the whole "he contacts me first, next time it's my turn whenever i have time" bit.... (read in full...)
The problem is that he has told me numerous times that he loves me but wishes he didn't!...
Q. I have been dating a guy for the past 6 months. For the most part, things are great. He treats me well and we really get along. The problem is that he has told me numerous time that he loves me but that he hates that he loves me and wishes he ...
A. 29 August 2008: you need to ask him that! maybe he simply thinks he is undeserving of you.... (read in full...)
I'm married and beginning to like a co-worker. Do I accept his invitation to lunch?
Q. i'm married and just started a new job few months ago. i'm beginning to like my colleague and it seems mutual as he initiated to ask me if we can have lunch together so he can get to know me. i don't like this as i know it is very wrong. should i ...
A. 29 August 2008: don't go to lunch!!! and don't talk to him about progressing your relationship further!
the title says it all.
you are married. therefore, unless you want to put your marriage in a very difficult situation, you should NOT go to lunch with this ... (read in full...)
If a girl says she will always regard you as a good friend, is there any hope for a change?
Q. Hi all, My question here is...if a girl tells you that she will always regard you as a good friend, does it mean that it is doomsday for the guy? Totally no hope of becoming something more? So what are the steps a guy should take to avoid the '...
A. 29 August 2008: so you know how for multiple choice questions on tests like the SATs they say to never choose the answers with the extremes? "never", "always"... they are pretty unreliable words!
so. no it is not doomsday for the guy. there is hope.
as for ... (read in full...)
Is this a coincidence or is he using me just to one up his ex?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me and I was shocked but kind of happy about it, then a week later I found out that his ex girlfriend had been engaged a few weeks before him and i, and he was still talking to her, but not in an acceptable way. A month a...
A. 29 August 2008: i can't really say since i don't know how your relationship is really going... BUT when a guy friend of mine's ex girlfriend got married he started talking about marriage, too. and he started chasing after every girl in sight - including me. and it ... (read in full...)
All my friends have dates and I am the odd man out
Q. This i pathetic really and i know it shouldn't bother me but it does, suddenly all my friends seem to have boyfriends [and girlfriends] and i'm the only one who hasn't got one, all off them are delieriously happy and i'm really pleased for them...
A. 29 August 2008: saltwater did a great job.
ALSO, remember. one day you might meet a guy who will appreciate that "one less guy" you kissed. so don't get too eager to jump on the bandwagon! =]... (read in full...)
I think I'm becoming too attached to her, and I barely know her!
Q. Hi, I've been chatting with this girl I'm going to meet Fresher's Week and started a little flirting. Then I wrote a piece of music for her (you must have seen the question). In my last email to her I asked how old she was (we both like the same...
A. 29 August 2008: slow downnn! meeting someone you are really attracted to doesn't happen too often, so sometimes it is easy to get carried away.
it took one of my guys 2 months to write me a song on his guitar!
remember, you don't know a lot about this girl ... (read in full...)
He can't seem to decide if I should move in and I'm tired of waiting!
Q. Need your opinion. My bf and I had been on a long distance relationship for about 4 years. We have talked about moving in together, but it does not seem to happens for several reasons. On May we were going to buy a place, but the deal did not go t...
A. 29 August 2008: i would be tired of waiting, too. 4 years is a long time! on one hand, yes, he is giving up his bachelorhood and that can be intimidating but... you're giving him years of your life!! it's about time to figure out if this will become something ... (read in full...)
Am I being too hard on my boyfriend?
Q. Hello I need some help here. I have been with this guy for around 6 months, we get along really well, and he does everything to please me, he is a wonderfull guy. We are exclusive, and we have strong feelings for each other. When we started dating I...
A. 29 August 2008: i don't think he is doing anything wrong, he is giving up friend time to be with you now that you live closer!
if you feel like breaking up with him, do it because of the time issue, not for any other reason.... (read in full...)
A nasty girl told the boy I like that I was ugly and I think that put him off me?
Q. hello i am 15 and had a crush on this boy for a while he is attractive and has other girls after him. we have spoke on msn a few times but that was a while ago.he is freinds with most of my freinds and when i was about to add him on myspace his d...
A. 29 August 2008: it sucks when you see a guy you like taking cutesy pictures with other girls. but remember, sometimes people put up pictures like that to make others jealous! i know i do that every once in a while.
if the guy is smart, he will come to his own ... (read in full...)
He is 30 and I am only 17, his ex has tried to split us up and once she succeded, any advice?
Q. Im a bit wooried about my boyfreind he seems to be very getting very freindly with his ex they have a daughter together but she has stopped him seeing her before and has not been nice to him at all since they split up surely he should hate her? but ...
A. 29 August 2008: you're a 17 year old dating a 30 year old with a daughter? how far do you want the relationship to go? can you see yourself becoming the mother of his child at such a young age? can you bring him to prom? do your friends and his friends get along? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going to college so I feel very lonely and sad...
Q. Ok here's the deal. My girlfriend is going 2 college and seriously I don't know what to do I am depressed, I don't sleep at night,I cry a lot,and all I do is just think of her she's the best thing that has ever happend to me.. When I was young I we...
A. 29 August 2008: getting angry might be a self-defense instinct of hers. she is just as scared about your relationship when she goes away as you are so she might be pushing you away subconsciously. it would protect her from getting AS hurt if the two of you should ... (read in full...)
Can this medicine used for the relief of nausea affect the effectiveness of the contraceptive pill?
Q. I just have a simple question: I started taking birth control pills recently accompanied by moderate nausea in the mornings. If I take some pepto-bismol, will it help? Can it affect the effectiveness of the pill? ...
A. 29 August 2008: it shouldn't affect the pill, but you might want to get in touch with your doctor and switch pills. have you tried yaz? that was what i used when i was on the pill and i had no side affects at all... except for the fun grow-a-bra-cup-size part.... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my (ex's) friend but my life is under a microscope. How do I break out of this rut?
Q. I just broke up with my long-time boyfriend. I was always checking out other guys and I realized that we were just incompatible or I wouldn't be doing that. I'm actually painfully shy and not the type to objectify men. Anyway, we both knew it wasn't ...
A. 29 August 2008: i think you need more male insight on this than anything.
your ex is only being human... as for the best friend, i think it is kind of an excuse because girlfriends don't cost money. but maybe in his head they do?
do whatever makes you happy.... (read in full...)
What should I do to forget about him and move on?
Q. I left his friend for him. Now his family pressurised him to breakup with me, we were perfect together. I love and miss him badly, he cries that he miss me too, but I don't want him to choose me over his family. I know we love each other but we ...
A. 29 August 2008: why did the family pressure you two to break up?
if you two want to be together, i don't think that it is fair the family is keeping you apart.
do whatever you feel most comfortable with.
i personally think a successful relationship ... (read in full...)
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