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My boyfriend cheated on me, I dumped him, but he seems to have really changed. Is forgiveness possible?
Q. Okay, I need some advice... I don't normally come on these asking random people for advice but I'm in a really difficult spot and thought I could hear some people's opinions. My boyfriend of a year and a half just recently cheated on me. It broke me ...
A. 25 August 2008: wow i am so sorry. what a jerk.... (read in full...)
My parents beat me, my fiance is the only one keeping me going. I made her parents angry and I might not see her again. What do I do?
Q. Im lost... Me and my fiance are 18 and 17, she honestly keeps me alive, im beat daily by my parents, and i cant keep going with out her. Ive made her parents rly mad at me cause i snuck over after a huge fight with my parents. I may not see her ...
A. 16 August 2008: glad to hear things worked out... (read in full...)
I warned him that if he doesn't start wising up it will be over... what now?
Q. My boyfriend (whos a few years older then me) is wants go all the way with me but I'm not ready. He been putting a lot of stesse on me. Like the other day were in his car after a date and he was all over me. I didn't like it. Push him off then got ...
A. 15 August 2008: no, i'm proud of you!... (read in full...)
I met this cute, smart guy, had an encounter, a lot of fun and went on my way without a number or any way to contact him, he is constanly on my mind, what do I do to remove these thoughts?
Q. I met this great guy by total chance, and we hit it off right away. He was cute, built, and smart. We talked for hours and ended up doing more than just talking, if you catch my drift. I took off without catching his number or giving him mine, like ...
A. 14 August 2008: sometimes there are those strangers you just meet who touch your life. i've been there, too.... (read in full...)
How long do I wait to start dating again?
Q. I recently moved and broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years who I lived with, and thought about marrying. I've been seeing this guy, but I think it's too soon in my life. How long should I wait to date again? and also I'm 20 should I date someone who ...
A. 14 August 2008: 14 years is a pretty big gap, but it's happened before and it will happen again. if you like the man, don't judge the relationship by age. if you were younger i would advise against it, but you are old enough to know who you are and what you can ... (read in full...)
I met this cute, smart guy, had an encounter, a lot of fun and went on my way without a number or any way to contact him, he is constanly on my mind, what do I do to remove these thoughts?
Q. I met this great guy by total chance, and we hit it off right away. He was cute, built, and smart. We talked for hours and ended up doing more than just talking, if you catch my drift. I took off without catching his number or giving him mine, like ...
A. 14 August 2008: where did you meet? if it was at a hotel or activity place, they might have records of him that you might be able to bribe out of some romantic. if not, they might be able to play middleman matchmaker.
if not, sorry hun. ads in the newspape... (read in full...)
I think my ex will use my dating someone as a means to gain full custody of our child! What should I do?
Q. I have been divorced for one month. My ex and I have a child (2.5 y/o) of whom we have 50/50 custody. The other night, when I had a date over, he called and asked how the date was. The only way for him to know I had someone over was for him to drive ...
A. 14 August 2008: i think you should continue on as you are, avoiding your ex, seeing this new man, keeping the child as happy as possible.
if he files for sole custody, fight it. until then, unless he really starts to worry you, try to ignore him.
it sounds lik... (read in full...)
I'm taking a blood test soon, but I'm terribly afraid of needles. Help me!
Q. Ok, I know this isn't a romantic question, but I really need some help about this. First, I'm terribly afraid of needles. I can stand the sight of one but once I see one I start thinking on how it will go into my arm and then many horror images wo...
A. 14 August 2008: i was terrified of needles until i was 12 or so. then i perfected some techniques!
if you are super nervous, tell the person ahead of time. pop some headphones on and blast music so you don't hear the doctor preparing anything or talking to you a... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how long it will take me to get over her, and why I did it in the first place.
Q. I was having an affair (I have two children with my partner) for about 14 months which has just recently ended. The affair ended when she meet somebody else, since I had not at the time said I would leave. I then decided to leave to create some spa...
A. 14 August 2008: honestly, i cannot answer those two questions only you can. what i hope is your heart mends quickly and that you take into consideration the hearts around you next time! because if you hadn't started that affair, not only would you not have gotten ... (read in full...)
I have these thoughts that my boyfriend is having gay sex with our roommate, I confronted them, after I followed them, my boyfriend started crying and denied any of it, am I wrong to have these thoughts?
Q. I think that I am just highly insecure and crazy. Okay, my boyfriend has a best guy friend and he moved in with my bf and i after he came out of jail cuz he had nowhere to go. His girlfriend of three years also broke up with him cuz he was abusive ...
A. 14 August 2008: oh god, i can totally relate!!! my ex boyfriend and his friends would ALWAYS talk to gaytalk to each other. i knew they were all straight. he had me, his friend had a girlfriend... but it always made me uncomfortable since i wasn't used to it!
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How do I get my boyfriend to pick up after himself? It is seriously driving me crazy.
Q. My boyfriend and I have a 1yr old that I clean up after all day. Well my boyfriend has gotten a lot better with helping me with our son but other then that, the only other thing I don t have to ask him to do is cook because thats onething he loves. ...
A. 14 August 2008: he sounds like a chauvinist who grew up in a household where the woman did all the housework. you need to make it VERY clear to him that things are different these days, especially with you as the woman of the house!
i'm tickled pink by the idea... (read in full...)
He has lied to me, and I worry that he does not love me, we have sex less often than in the past, the relationship has me on edge, what should I do?
Q. so i feel like i am so in love with my man after almost 3 years of dating. it feels like we are this old married couple. i do not have a ring yet and it worries me. i worry about our relationship everyday. sex has become less then it use to be, ...
A. 14 August 2008: i think about 3 years of dating is a good time to say you honestly love someone, and yes i can understand how after being with someone for that long you have maybe become stuck in a rut. maybe try going to new places, eating new things, doing things ... (read in full...)
My parents beat me, my fiance is the only one keeping me going. I made her parents angry and I might not see her again. What do I do?
Q. Im lost... Me and my fiance are 18 and 17, she honestly keeps me alive, im beat daily by my parents, and i cant keep going with out her. Ive made her parents rly mad at me cause i snuck over after a huge fight with my parents. I may not see her ...
A. 14 August 2008: why did you need to sneak over? i think you need to apologize to the parents and promise that you will be honest from now on. maybe explain that you are going through a tough time [if you don't want to mention exactly what].
in the meantime... (read in full...)
Does he like me, care about me or is he just being polite?
Q. Me and this Air force guy have being in email contact since we met in a radio delivery a year ago. He was stationed in Japan (Misawa AFB) so he left shortly after. I decided to contacted him and he remembered me also. So I started emailing him and ...
A. 14 August 2008: it sounds like it is just a friendship to me. i had a similar relationship with a guy in the coast guard who somehow got sent to alaska of all places.
if he ever hints at more, or begins to flirt, then you will know!
good luck!... (read in full...)
I've been having sexual thoughts about my best friend... do I tell her?
Q. Hi... this is odd for me to say but recently I've been having sexual thoguhts about my best friend...and it's a girl. I don't like her as anything more then I friend but I want to kiss her and have sex with her but I don't want a realtion...
A. 14 August 2008: do you know what your sexual orientation is? you didn't say... it might just be that you are becoming bi-curious like most teenagers do at one point or another. since she is your closest friend and i bet you both care a lot about each other, maybe ... (read in full...)
I like this guy at school, but I don't know if he's gay or not. What do I say?
Q. im gay and i like this guy at school.Last year we became really good friends and we tell each other everything. i wanna be with him but i dont know if hes gay what should i say without ruining our friendship.Please help me im really crushing on him...
A. 14 August 2008: can you ask maybe who he's been dated in the past? who his dream person is? some sort of open ended question where his answer would be a person with a definite sexual orientation?
if you tell him everything and really trust him as a friend, ... (read in full...)
I've become attracted to a guy at my new school, who is similar to my BF in personality, I'm so confused. Do I try to make my LDR work?
Q. Hey there, I'm a 16year old girl and i've been going out with my boyfriend fo rjust over a year. This summer i finished my GCSE's and left to go abroad to boarding school. Me and my boyfriend were together everyday until I left, and just before ...
A. 14 August 2008: you need to separate your boyfriend from this new guy! obviously you know that they are different people, but you need to maybe make lists as to what you like and dislike about each person. based on the lists, it might make things clearer to you as ... (read in full...)
I warned him that if he doesn't start wising up it will be over... what now?
Q. My boyfriend (whos a few years older then me) is wants go all the way with me but I'm not ready. He been putting a lot of stesse on me. Like the other day were in his car after a date and he was all over me. I didn't like it. Push him off then got ...
A. 14 August 2008: it sounds like you have talked to him before but he is getting antsy. give him another shot. if he doesn't keep his paws off, i say break things off with him. he needs to learn how to respect your wishes now, or later on there will be some big ... (read in full...)
Any tips on my first kiss?
Q. Ok. well as you know by my name im a youngiin to be accurate im 14. And yea i do have a bf of 2 months now (( today being 8/13/08 )) but i still havent had my first kiss, cuz i wanna have that with someone i truly care about and i really do care abo...
A. 14 August 2008: lean in, close your eyes, lips slightly parted, no chapped lips! and if he is more experienced, let him do the leading. you'll understand what i mean when it happens.
honestly i wouldn't go for a french kiss right away. get used to pecks, open mou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me, I dumped him, but he seems to have really changed. Is forgiveness possible?
Q. Okay, I need some advice... I don't normally come on these asking random people for advice but I'm in a really difficult spot and thought I could hear some people's opinions. My boyfriend of a year and a half just recently cheated on me. It broke me ...
A. 14 August 2008: you are in almost the exact situation i was in with my 2 year relationship. YES people change. from my personal experience: he cheated on me, i was heartbroken. it took me months to stop crying, and years to forgive him. we dated 2 years, it has ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is 8 years younger than me and her mother found out. She told me to stay away. Should I?
Q. Ok well i've been seeing this girl for almost 6 months now, and well her mom found out bout us yesterday and told me to stay away from her and that i couldn't see or talk to her anymore. The good thing is, is me and her work together but then again ...
A. 13 August 2008: did the mom give any reason besides your age as to why you need to stay away?
if you are so crazy about the girl, i say either sneak around with her which isn't the preferred option, or try to make nice with the family.
bring the mom flowers ... (read in full...)
How do I get back into a real relationship again?
Q. well to start off with i am 20yrs old and ever since my last girlfriend broke up with me(1 and a half years ago) ive kinda been on idle in the dating world. ive tried to get out and find someone else, but it feels like ive lost the touch of winning ...
A. 13 August 2008: instead of trying to figure out how to find a relationship again, how about finding the right girl who will give you that little sparkle in your eye, who will make you WANT to win her over? things might happen a little more naturally if you find ... (read in full...)
I'm in a great relationship, but I get a feeling I should still be "playing the field". How can I tell her?
Q. I've been dating this girl for almost a year. I love her. We live together. I think she could be the one. But I don't feel like I've finished playing the field. I'm not looking for another relationship, just some physical fun. My girlfriend is ...
A. 13 August 2008: honestly, i can understand where you are coming from. what you need to tell her is the truth which is you think she is the one but you feel like in order to overcome your commitmentphobia you think you need to date around and get your jitters out ... (read in full...)
The man I met on holiday said he doesn't want to take it any further. Why? It was good.
Q. I had a few dances with this guy I met on holiday but didnt have sex. When we got back we e mailed a few times but he got funny when I told him I liked him which is fair enough as it wasnt long-then he emailed and said I msutnt take it as a sli...
A. 13 August 2008: what happens in vegas stays in vegas... that is probably this man's mentality towards vacations. he goes out, has a little fun, and then ends the relationship when the vacation ends.
he might have had intentions to keep in touch with you, but when... (read in full...)
I thought my financé loved me although it was to be an arranged marriage. Then he cheated with a prostitute. He doesn't see it as important. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have in my late teens and as according to my culture- in a semi-arranged type of marriage- have agreed to get married- to a guy that I absolutely adore- and whom I thought also loved me. As I was so young, and also due to the fact that he sti...
A. 13 August 2008: maybe he wanted to have a little practice before he actually had to worry about pleasing someone else. maybe it was just physical needs. whatever reasons why he did it don't matter as much as whether or not you will find it in your heart to forgive ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend tried to sabotage my new relationship. Is she just being difficult, or does she want me back?
Q. my ex-girlfriend called this girl im talking to saying that shes still sleeping with me even tho im not. and she called her friend. saying that shes with another guy. does she still like me or is she just trying to ruin my relationship....
A. 13 August 2008: sweet lord i hate girls who behave the way your ex is. it is very immature.
honestly her number 1 priority is to ruin whatever relationships you may be pursuing. yes she is being difficult, and not very nice.
the underlying priorities i wou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just ended it, and he is going abroad. Should I just let him go totally?
Q. My boyfriend has just ended it as he is working away in new zealand as a snowboarder and i have been far too paranoid accusing him of things. he says nothing has gone on but cannot say whether something would if it arose. he thinks im getting too ...
A. 13 August 2008: sweetie, i say let him go for now. leave him alone, and if he doesn't make the effort to keep in touch, move on. i don't like that he is ignoring your texts. you deserve someone much better, who will insist you come along for the ride! good luck.... (read in full...)
While he was in jail, I found out that he lied about his age! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. we fell in love during the first month of our relationship. I have loved him ever since and believed he loved me too, but lately things have been a little rocky. There has been a lot of ...
A. 13 August 2008: i personally do not like liars or lies of any shape or size. so i wouldn't ignore it or go back to being blissfully happy with him. he needs to justify it, or at least tell you his age himself. i don't know if you want to wait for him to come out ... (read in full...)
Do I go out with my exboyfriend to get over my feelings for my best female friend?
Q. Hey, About 3 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend after we had sex for the first time. We were (and still are) 15, and I felt it was too much too young. I also had another worry, as I was completely in love with my best female friend. She know...
A. 13 August 2008: i wouldn't go. you don't have feelings for your ex, so don't lead him on and use him to get over someone else.
i would find another way to keep myself busy and my mind off of her.
good luck in whatever you choose to do!... (read in full...)
She was recently diagnosed with a disease and we've been on a break for 2 weeks. I love her and I don't know what to do.
Q. I have been with my partner for over three years now, latley she has been very quiet and not her self, for example one day shes fine, the next shes really quiet. about 3 weeks ago we had a silly argument cuz she wudent tell me whats wrong, and she ...
A. 13 August 2008: that is such a hard hard place to be in and i am very sorry for everyone involved. all i can say is keep doing what you are doing. it is very sweet of you to leave her little love notes.
make it very clear to her that whether she wants to be in a ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. ok, were do i start. i did the most stupid thing ever. I was on the pill but came off in june becasue i ran out and was too busy, to go and get some more. i had a random period which start early on the 14th of july, which was not normal for me and i ...
A. 13 August 2008: get another pregnancy test and see a doctor! noone here will be able to help you just off of personal experience because your symptoms are pretty mixed up. you will want to make sure!... (read in full...)
She just broke up with a long term boyfriend but still talks to him on the phone and stuff. Should I make my move?
Q. So, I'm 15 and have never had a girlfriend or been kissed or even held a girls hand. I dont think im that bad looking, and i have plenty of good friends who are girls. Theres this one girl that i really like and we get on fine, but she just broke up ...
A. 13 August 2008: wait a little longer for things to play out. if they are still talking they could still have feelings for each other.
also, you don't want to throw your friendship away to be a rebound guy! only to be a boyfriend, which is an upgrade!
good lu... (read in full...)
He said he loves me - but denied it later, while sober. What am I to understand?
Q. my friend was drunk and said he loves me even though he shouldnt. when he was sober he said he didnt mean it. he is not the type to show his feelings he is 23 and i am 34. does he love me? ...
A. 13 August 2008: although alcohol does make people more amorous in general, i have found it also is like that harry potter loose lips tonic.
when people are drunk, sure they hook up more than general. but they also say things they don't mean to say, spill secrets,... (read in full...)
How do I handle a friend who has a crush on me and is being incredibly needy?
Q. I have a friend (Pal) who has become increasingly needy over the past few weeks. He calls me everyday, and always expects a long conversation. He asks my advice on everything, from whether it is ethical to become involved with someone if you don’t ...
A. 13 August 2008: wow you sound a lot more patient than i. i would have smacked him over the head. several times.
my best bet is to let the guy off easy. don't completely ignore him without giving him any reason why. he has feelings for you, take that into account.... (read in full...)
I know he cares but why does he want to play the field?
Q. I'll try and keep this as concise as I can. I was with my ex boyfriends for 9 months, we were very happy together, fell in love quickly and it just felt 'right'. We split up because he became distant, I thought it was him falling out of love but it ...
A. 13 August 2008: he needs space. i know it is hard because you love him and want to force him to be with you, but you can't do that! he is under enough pressure from what sounds like every other aspect of his life. he doesn't need more from you. it will just be a ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused with his quick change of heart. -Your comments?
Q. So, i've been in love with this guy for 5 years. We have dated for 2 years broke up, dated another year and broke up. He broke up with me both times. We've been broken up for almost 10 months and earlier this summer things started again with us but ...
A. 13 August 2008: i'm sorry hun, but i agree w/ phil. i think the guy is half hearted about wanting to be with you - thus he is with you have the TIME as well. part of him wants you to be that person, the other might see you aren't and can't be. who knows.
any c... (read in full...)
Should I not give up on my plans just to make things easier for us?
Q. So i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and once we go to college next year it will be 3. I love him and he loves and cares about me so much. The thing is ive heard how hard it is to keep a relationship with your highschool boyfrien...
A. 13 August 2008: all i can say is good luck! it is going to be very difficult, but i hope you make it. i can't even tell you how many high school relationships i saw fall apart. one was a couple who had been together and inseparable all through high school! people ... (read in full...)
Is this really the behaviour of a best friend?
Q. My best girlfriend, who I have known for about 15 years, has just moved in with her latest man (after 3 failed marriages). She is an attractive woman who men seem drawn to, but over the years I have had some issues with her over her need to be the ...
A. 13 August 2008: i think she is a friend, she may have just had an off night. switching chairs isn't such a big deal, maybe the other one was more comfortable. what she said, though, was unacceptable. you want a friend to be a wing girl, not a cock block, so to ... (read in full...)
We have a very troubled past, are we meant to be together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. We moved in within a week and i lived at his parents house with him up untill a week ago. Things were fine we had slight problems such as i wasnt really allowed out drinking with my friends too ...
A. 13 August 2008: honestly, i'm sorry but it doesn't sound like things are going to work out from what i'm hearing. he sounds overbearing and not sure he wants to be with you. you want to be in a relationship where the guy is dying to be with you and treats you ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend so it won't hurt her so much the next time we have sex?
Q. My girlfriend and i had sex together for the first time. We did it twice and she bled both times. The first time she bled more than the second (the 2nd was only a little bit) She was in some pain and it was hard for me to go inside her because she's ...
A. 13 August 2008: it's all about preparing her body. get her relaxed, excited - lube might help, and go slow! her body is still getting used to yours so don't rush things. good luck!... (read in full...)
Will I lose her forever if I tell her I love her?
Q. Hey i need a little help because recently i have fallen in love with my best friend and i wish i havent because she has been hurt too much recently by guys and i really dont want to say something and join they guys and loose her forever and tonight ...
A. 13 August 2008: i'm putting myself in her shoes. and what i'm sensing is that she feels like all guys hurt girls, but you as a friend were put in a special category. you were her hopeful exception to her generalization.
now that you have told her you love her... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I heard a gunshot?
Q. ok ok heres my problem last night like august 11 2008 i heard a gunshot im pretty sure it was a gunshot im real scared like should i tell my mom what i heard or keep it to myself my bro told me not to worry but i cant help it what should i do?...
A. 13 August 2008: if you are worried, tell someone!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is touching my penis in the cinema! How can I slow things down?
Q. hey Agony Aunt's Need your help sadly i am 15 and so is my girlfriend and we have been going out for about a year now and she is really only in to hugging and kissing but when we were in the cinema one day i got an erection while i was kissing ...
A. 13 August 2008: you two need to have a talk about what you are and are not ready to do! tell her flat out you aren't ready! she might have done it because she wants it, or she might have done it because she thought you wanted it.
and keep it out of public a... (read in full...)
How easy is it to kiss a friend who is drunk?
Q. never really got drunk, so wonderin at a club how easy is it to kiss a friend who is drunk? Nothing more just a nice kiss? :) coz i'm goin out soon. Thank you...
A. 13 August 2008: are you asking because you want to take advantage of someone else? no good!!!
anyway, it depends on the person. me, for example, i am a drunk kissing whore. get a pretty decent amount into me and i'm kissing strangers on cheeks and hot people o... (read in full...)
I am 14, he is 18. Should I date him?
Q. dear cupid well im seein this guy ive known for a long time now and he is understanding and he would never pressure me to have sex he told me he wud wait for me when im ready but thats the thing im 14 and he iz 18 and he iz realy nice but i dont ...
A. 12 August 2008: if you want to, go for it. i wouldn't let my little sister do it, though, unless this guy went through some major interrogations first.
sex isn't the only problem here, although it is great he is going to wait for you to come around. while yo... (read in full...)
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