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writes:A girl I met online and have been talking to for the past couple of months has inexplicably blocked me. I say inexplicably because we had been getting along just fine (so I thought anyway) and had established a while ago that we'd like to meet up some time. Why? She messaged me as recently as Monday and yet two days later I'm suddenly blocked.Don't get me wrong, I'm not beaten up over this, there's no point, but it just seems a little rash and I can't help but feel rejected because of it. I'd have much rather her have been honest and up front with me if she'd changed her mind, instead I'm put in a position where I can't find out why and what has put her off me. Should I give up on Online dating? I can't be bothered to continue with it if people are just going to waste my time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): I'm afraid there's quite a mixture of people on dating sites with a mixture of reasons for being on there. I stopped using them because I was always disappointed, but a lot of people find them a good way to meet people. You just need to be realistic though. Some people like to talk a long time first and I met someone very nice who did just that, so you can't generalise. It didn't work out, but that was because we wanted different things.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (1 June 2011):
Chatting to someone for months online is a waste of time. It could well be that she wasn't whom she said she was- different age, weight, circumstances, appearance- even a different sex if you hadn't spoken by webcam. Internet dating is only one way to meet people. As a guy you will be rejected a lot; that's the way of the world, but you might as well be rejected by someone you know is real rather than by mere words on a screen which you have invested with qualities that might not be there. You havn't yet ossified- you're still young enough to force yourself to overcome shyness and to make that new quality part of your own personality. Learn how to talk to women IRL, and meeting real live ones will not be a problem.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (1 June 2011):
 Her loss. Don't worry about it. She probably changed her mind a while ago and didn't wanna come out right and talk to you about it. Instead she took the coward exit. Or perhaps she had a lot going on in her life that she didn't tell you. You'll probably never know the reason why she did it so don't fret. Online dating can sometimes be good and other times it could go tits up. Don't let this one time ruin ur chances of finding happiness =)
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 The thing i've learned about these sites, especially from talking to girls who i know IRL who are on them, is that they get about a million more messages a day then any guy ever will. One girl i know.. She hadn't logged into her account in months. She logged in one time just for about 15 minutes to look around. The next day she logged in again and she had 300 hundred messages. If you combine every message i ever GOT from any of those websites over the course of 5 years, i STILL wouldn't come out to 300!
They have their pick of the litter. If you say anything remotely close to something that offends them, or upsets them, or they just don't plain like or agree with, you get the axe.
Don't take it personal. It would be nice if they would be a bit more polite and give you the reason why they are suddenly cutting you off, but i think it comes down to a time thing. They can't possibly send an email response to everyone on their list.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 yes, dating people you have never met before is beyond my area of ability to understand...as I understand it you read over a person's bio then send them a message? Sounds like a way to get rejected to me.
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