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writes: I have got myself into a bit of trouble,or could do if i can't break my habit.I have been playing on my webcam with a lady for the past month and she thinks i am single and want to meet her,she is married as well but says she doesn't love her husband.This started off as purly fun but she seems to have got really attached to me and i don't know what to do.I am married and am 47 years old and know i need to end it,how do i do it without hurting her?
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (28 November 2005):
 There's really no way to not hurt her. Just let her know that this communicating has got to stop. Let her know the truth about you and that you didn't want all this to go to the extreme that it has. Let her know that you are sorry as well, but must stop. She may be hurt, but what you two are doing are a lot worse than letting her down. Just think, would you guys rather your married partners find out, or hurt eachother by not talking anymore? I'm hoping you two care more about your partners than eachother. She may not, but I'm guessing that you do. Just let the words get out and leave it be. There's not much more you can do about this situation.Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): Oh what a tangled web we weave. Sadly, you just learned a hard lesson about playing with other people's emotions. You've boxed yourself into a nasty situation and there is no easy way out. You cannot dump this woman, without hurting her and I think you know this. Best way to do it, is come clean and just tell her the truth. You and this woman both have fidelity and committment problems-it's missing from both your marriages. I don't want to be jugdemental in this situation, but you should be concerned, or even deeply concerned. When any two people spend time together, emotional intimacy can escalate and at times, so can physical intimacy, eventually. These intimacies should be only reserved only for the marriage partner and when a third wheel gets involved; the perimeter of your marriage needs to be re-emphasized and you need to work on yourself to find out 'why' you need to do this...right underneath the nose of your wife and family. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): it doesnt matter, if u break her heart den fine, she is cheating on her husband, i bet he would be upset n broken hearted if he found out bout her cheating...so give her some of the medicine
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (28 November 2005):
 You probably will hurt her as you haven't really got much choice in the matter.
It is a bit late now to tell you what you have done has been deceitful as I'm sure you are aware of this. Not only are you going to hurt this lady but also, what about your wife? You haven't mentioned her in the sense of how hurt she would feel if she knew.
The woman you have been online with is also being unfair to her husband who she may not love but still doesn't deserve this kind of online 'unfaithfulness'. Remember this when you end it with her.
You could just be upfront and tell her that you are married, realised that you have made a mistake and wish for things to stop before they get more out of hand. Yes, this would upset her if she cares about you. You could lie to her (as you have already done anyway) and tell her that you don't wish to get involved and that you are sorry, but you aren't ready to meet anyone. Then reduce contact to only a friendly level.
Work on revitalising your relationship with your wife and next time you are online, be honest as to who you are otherwise this problem will come up again. If only everyone was honest about who they really were when they were online as this would save many broken hearts.
Good luck.
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